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writes:I am best friends with this girl for about 5 years and we're both 19. She and I used to be very alike, we're both shy and not very good with guys (she has never shown any interest in one), we have a lot of things in common (we usually like the same things) and used to get along really well, but recently I've got a boyfriend and she has gotten quite annoying.If I kiss or hug him in front of her she gets really pissed off and sometimes when we're holding hands she tells us to stop. She constantly tells everyone how she never wants a boyfriend and that she's better off alone. She always says she misses the single me. And even though I give her attention, she says I'm ignoring her. But now that I have my boyfriend in my life I can't hang out with her all the time like she wants to, I have to divide my time between them, she's still not satisfied!And one thing that really bothers me is that when she spends time alone with him (they take painting lessons in the same place) she always comes running to tell me how great it was and how she loves talking to him without me around. I think she's trying to make me jealous (which is not really working), but what if she actually likes him? Since he's the closest thing to a guy friend she has. But she's never shown any interest in a guy before so I find it unlikely.I really don't know what's going on on her mind. Can you guys help me undersand her? What should I do?!
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reader, Starlights  +, writes (13 December 2011):
 Your friend is behaving very immature and childish.
Sounds to me like she has self esteem issues and playing mind games.
I think you need to tell her to stop dictating how you should be living your life.
If she respects you she will stop this kind of behavior. Talk to her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 December 2011): From what I've read, she seems jealous. She probably says that she doesn't need a boyfriend to cover up, amd also by saying that your ignoring her, she probably wants you two to break up so she can be with him. Don't give in! Personally, I would either confront her about it, or wait until she really starts being obsessive. Then you should just sit her down and ask her! Hope I helped :)
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reader, fi_the_tree +, writes (13 December 2011):
 Tell her to grow up. You're doing your best, but you can't spend all your time with her!
She seems really immature to me, maybe she needs to hang out with other friends whilst you're with you bf. As for telling you to stop holding hands or kissing...that's just rude of her!
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reader, thinkb4  +, writes (13 December 2011):
Only she knows what is going on in her mind. The biggest thing standing out is she does not want you and your boyfriend together in a relationship. Her reasons at the moment can only be built on assumptions. Why not ask her?
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