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I use this site every day before any other on the net.
Delete Facebook also, makes life so much better, just try it for a week 3 months for me and feel so much better for not needed to check each day the weather before I go out or if some sad sack has a self inflicted hangover.
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Emotional affairs...
Q. via text, emails, pictures and dating sites, women, is it really that bad when a man does it? even after a year my ex still goes on about it when i ask her to start again and see how we get on. silly cow isnt interested and just uses these as an ...
A. 14 October 2011: id like to thank everybody who has contributed to this thread and given me food for thought. ive been lucky this week that work has been quiet and ive managed to reflect on myself more than ever and my situation. ive msgd laura afew times and think ... (read in full...)
Emotional affairs...
Q. via text, emails, pictures and dating sites, women, is it really that bad when a man does it? even after a year my ex still goes on about it when i ask her to start again and see how we get on. silly cow isnt interested and just uses these as an ...
A. 14 October 2011: she found out last time cos she read text on my phone which went off after we went out for a night and was being intimate at home. (couldnt make it up) so from niceness she turned into dr evil, attacked me, bruised and cut me with her nails that ... (read in full...)
Emotional affairs...
Q. via text, emails, pictures and dating sites, women, is it really that bad when a man does it? even after a year my ex still goes on about it when i ask her to start again and see how we get on. silly cow isnt interested and just uses these as an ...
A. 14 October 2011: i understand what both of you are saying. ive told her just that. i wont ever give up hope. truly cant get over how stupid ive been and why?? ive asked her to watch me from afar and notice the changes in me and that all i ask of is that chance. i ... (read in full...)
Emotional affairs...
Q. via text, emails, pictures and dating sites, women, is it really that bad when a man does it? even after a year my ex still goes on about it when i ask her to start again and see how we get on. silly cow isnt interested and just uses these as an ...
A. 14 October 2011: dont deny i was a fool also. but i never cheated as i said to her last night, if id stuck my dick in another woman or similar then fair enough got no comeback on that but i didnt. what i saw was harmless actions, obviously not on reflection, but to ... (read in full...)
Emotional affairs...
Q. via text, emails, pictures and dating sites, women, is it really that bad when a man does it? even after a year my ex still goes on about it when i ask her to start again and see how we get on. silly cow isnt interested and just uses these as an ...
A. 14 October 2011: yeah youve probably summed that up pretty well, but i did explain in my words on the link below. i earned what i got and had. took me months to get laura, wasnt easy with friends and family issues on both sides. weve had other issues to contend with ... (read in full...)
Emotional affairs...
Q. via text, emails, pictures and dating sites, women, is it really that bad when a man does it? even after a year my ex still goes on about it when i ask her to start again and see how we get on. silly cow isnt interested and just uses these as an ...
A. 13 October 2011: your trying to blow holes thru all my hard work and the future. of course i want her to be happy, and id prefer it like we was, we was very happy, we went everywhere and did everything, we was best friends. theres been added pressures with the kids ... (read in full...)
Emotional affairs...
Q. via text, emails, pictures and dating sites, women, is it really that bad when a man does it? even after a year my ex still goes on about it when i ask her to start again and see how we get on. silly cow isnt interested and just uses these as an ...
A. 13 October 2011: i take it youve not read the reply i put on the other thread with the link below about why does that womans husband chat up other women??? i know im at fault. ive worked on my issues, im over my issues, ive got myself sorted out just and only for my ... (read in full...)
Emotional affairs...
Q. via text, emails, pictures and dating sites, women, is it really that bad when a man does it? even after a year my ex still goes on about it when i ask her to start again and see how we get on. silly cow isnt interested and just uses these as an ...
A. 13 October 2011: worldywise. how is leaving my woman and kids the best for everybodys sake? im now in a poxy flat on my own whilst she is in a nice 5 bed house, to add i dont wanna have to be apart from her a minute longer and being on my own for the next 30-40 ... (read in full...)
Emotional affairs...
Q. via text, emails, pictures and dating sites, women, is it really that bad when a man does it? even after a year my ex still goes on about it when i ask her to start again and see how we get on. silly cow isnt interested and just uses these as an ...
A. 12 October 2011: cos our 1st relationships were over long before we met, just stayed together cos it was easier. it doesnt have any bearing on my situation now. she should know already that she is the only woman on this earth i want to be with be. i gave up ... (read in full...)
Emotional affairs...
Q. via text, emails, pictures and dating sites, women, is it really that bad when a man does it? even after a year my ex still goes on about it when i ask her to start again and see how we get on. silly cow isnt interested and just uses these as an ...
A. 12 October 2011: ok the answer is a no, im meaning we met up and discussed being with each other and how things would have to go for the future. ... (read in full...)
Emotional affairs...
Q. via text, emails, pictures and dating sites, women, is it really that bad when a man does it? even after a year my ex still goes on about it when i ask her to start again and see how we get on. silly cow isnt interested and just uses these as an ...
A. 12 October 2011: fao lovegirl, no didnt really cheat on x with laura. we waited til we was both single really.... (read in full...)
Emotional affairs...
Q. via text, emails, pictures and dating sites, women, is it really that bad when a man does it? even after a year my ex still goes on about it when i ask her to start again and see how we get on. silly cow isnt interested and just uses these as an ...
A. 12 October 2011: i messaged her on (my X) on fb the msg i sent the lady on the link above which i was asked to look at.
all ive got back basically is words are words. you f**ked up, its all my fault and i shouldve known better.
i wonder if she has a heart anym... (read in full...)
Emotional affairs...
Q. via text, emails, pictures and dating sites, women, is it really that bad when a man does it? even after a year my ex still goes on about it when i ask her to start again and see how we get on. silly cow isnt interested and just uses these as an ...
A. 11 October 2011: ive answered that question, tried to be honest as possible.
my counselling was basically 3or 4 sessions working out why i made those stupid mistakes., got to the bottom of it that i was insecure and always believed i wasnt attractive to myself a... (read in full...)
Why is he talking to women online and getting nude pictures?
Q. My fiance and I have been together for 4 yrs now and have two young children together, one just two months. I recently found him on a website and his profile shows single looking to meet. i also found pics of another girl, some nude, on his phone. ...
A. 11 October 2011: well, ill join in as ive been the arsehole doing similar. i have absolutely know idea why i risked my whole life and future messing about. i got caught and made a laugh of it, got away with it so to speak and then done it again. ive always been told ... (read in full...)
Emotional affairs...
Q. via text, emails, pictures and dating sites, women, is it really that bad when a man does it? even after a year my ex still goes on about it when i ask her to start again and see how we get on. silly cow isnt interested and just uses these as an ...
A. 11 October 2011: i asked her recentley about trying again and she replied the answer just now is a no and if that changes she will let me know.
she says she just wants to be on her on. why would you wanna be apart from the man you loved, struggling with 5 chil... (read in full...)
Emotional affairs...
Q. via text, emails, pictures and dating sites, women, is it really that bad when a man does it? even after a year my ex still goes on about it when i ask her to start again and see how we get on. silly cow isnt interested and just uses these as an ...
A. 11 October 2011: i knew the moment i met her i hadnt been in love or been happy with the woman id met wen i was 18. we had 2 daughters and if it hadnt been for them sure we wudnt have stayed together. the moment i met laura it was like bang, what on earth is this ... (read in full...)
Emotional affairs...
Q. via text, emails, pictures and dating sites, women, is it really that bad when a man does it? even after a year my ex still goes on about it when i ask her to start again and see how we get on. silly cow isnt interested and just uses these as an ...
A. 11 October 2011: no counselling on her part, she refused to go saying she could sort her on issues out and didnt need others to help. but reagrdless i went alone to show her i meant that i wanted to change this stupid behaviour. nothing ive done thou has gotten me ... (read in full...)
Emotional affairs...
Q. via text, emails, pictures and dating sites, women, is it really that bad when a man does it? even after a year my ex still goes on about it when i ask her to start again and see how we get on. silly cow isnt interested and just uses these as an ...
A. 11 October 2011: i can never move on as she was the 1 woman for me. the only woman for me, never have i connnected to somebody like it. when we met there was something special about it, we was drawn to each other and both knew it.
she has always maintained she was ... (read in full...)
Emotional affairs...
Q. via text, emails, pictures and dating sites, women, is it really that bad when a man does it? even after a year my ex still goes on about it when i ask her to start again and see how we get on. silly cow isnt interested and just uses these as an ...
A. 11 October 2011: he had to leave cos we met each other. 1 set of twins there not 3 pregnancies. we both left our long term partners to be with each other, cos it was the right thing to do.
its a shame that in todays society people dont want to try and sort ther... (read in full...)
Emotional affairs...
Q. via text, emails, pictures and dating sites, women, is it really that bad when a man does it? even after a year my ex still goes on about it when i ask her to start again and see how we get on. silly cow isnt interested and just uses these as an ...
A. 11 October 2011: the girls father was moved on once we met each other, we kept bumping into each other at the most odd venues and locations, fate brought us together, yet she denies this even thou we both know its true. no matter what i do or say to her about the ... (read in full...)
Why do people cheat? why be unfaithful? what's the payoff to be the "other woman"?
Q. I have a question for all the unfaithful and the homewreckers. Why did you cheat!?!? Or help someone cheat!?!? I see so many questions about cheating..and they're the cheaters!! Doesn't anyone know cheating is wrong? And the only acceptab...
A. 15 August 2011: thanks to cheating although not physically ive lost my entire life, the woman i love who was also my best ever friend the closest person ive ever been with in my life, my 2 sons, my 3 step daughters, my possessions and my home. i never ever thought ... (read in full...)
She has let me back into her life a little, how do I get her back from here?
Q. advice required. ive previously asked for help with the situation with my x the woman i loved. basically over the course of last 6/7 years ive constantly flirted, emailed, texted other women and messed around, never once have i done anything...
A. 4 July 2011: Went out clubbing wiv around 6 mates, laura n her sister who I don't like n she don't like me was in there. Laura then left her sister at 3am wen we left and she came back wiv us. I then walked her home and then I walked back, got in at 7am. Up at ... (read in full...)
Why wont he take his profile down from an online dating site?
Q. I just got back with my boyfriend and he is still on match.com. I know he is not active on there but his profile is posted and he is still a paying member. And women can contact him. You know last time we broke up he stayed posted on there too and ...
A. 1 July 2011: if you set up a fake profile you will be able to check when he last logged in to then find out if he is up to no good. it will say last logged in 24, 48 hours ago, in the last week ,in the last month, 3 months and so on.
hope this helps, bloody m... (read in full...)
She has let me back into her life a little, how do I get her back from here?
Q. advice required. ive previously asked for help with the situation with my x the woman i loved. basically over the course of last 6/7 years ive constantly flirted, emailed, texted other women and messed around, never once have i done anything...
A. 1 July 2011: id like to thankyou all for your words, given me somethings to think about and i wrote her a letter using some of the things mentioned in this thread in my own words.
im out tonight and may possibly bump into her, ive mentioned this to her and sugg... (read in full...)
She has let me back into her life a little, how do I get her back from here?
Q. advice required. ive previously asked for help with the situation with my x the woman i loved. basically over the course of last 6/7 years ive constantly flirted, emailed, texted other women and messed around, never once have i done anything...
A. 1 July 2011: i never once thought harmless emails and texts would ruin the rest of my life and the kids and hers.
i will walk away as ive said to her. her words to me on wednesday were. i will let you know if i want you back.
im not gonna ask her again about ... (read in full...)
She has let me back into her life a little, how do I get her back from here?
Q. advice required. ive previously asked for help with the situation with my x the woman i loved. basically over the course of last 6/7 years ive constantly flirted, emailed, texted other women and messed around, never once have i done anything...
A. 1 July 2011: i value your words and they seem very wise. laura doesnt believe i love her, or ever have and have only been with her til somebody better comes along. the tattoo has nothing to do with pressure. it has my kids names in it and hers. ive told her im ... (read in full...)
She has let me back into her life a little, how do I get her back from here?
Q. advice required. ive previously asked for help with the situation with my x the woman i loved. basically over the course of last 6/7 years ive constantly flirted, emailed, texted other women and messed around, never once have i done anything...
A. 1 July 2011: i get what your saying, but you offer no thoughts on how i can change this situation. i am a good looking guy, can offer her security and support, have changed, would never think of making a mistake ever again and more importantly am the dad of her ... (read in full...)
She told me she had feelings for me and then became an iceberg. Why?
Q. Hi, Why is my ex girlfriend so cold? She told me she had feelings for me and then became an iceberg. She says she needs a month...does that mean she wasn't telling me the truth about loving me? I don't see how people could just switch their fee...
A. 12 April 2011: my x and me broke up some time toward end of last year cos of trust issues i caused. ive said all along she loves me still and always will, i just know this to be true, even thou she always said i was wrong, then in feb this year she started ... (read in full...)
It's over, but he calls about five times a day. Is this harassment?
Q. I recently broke up with my boyfriend of 7 years. We have a 3 year old daughter together, so obviously we keep in touch. He sees my daughter on weekends. I'm getting constant calls of him. My mum says I'm over-reacting but I don't think I am, I'm ...
A. 7 April 2011: why did you break up? im in a similar position and she thinks its acceptable to contact me when she wants but when i call or text i get fuck all back. all cos i sext text for a few years she thinks its acceptable to destroy our lives and our 2 sons. ... (read in full...)
My wife is leaving me because I cheated
Q. My Wife of 2 1/2 years is leaving me because i was unfaithful on more than one occasion. I realized I messed up and want to fix it, but she just keeps saying no. no matter how much i beg and plead that ive changed and will get better, she doesn't ...
A. 7 April 2011: im now in a similar position and cant get over it. i never physically cheated thou, only ever text, emailed, flirted, and some pics. she has forgiven me afew times, but after 7 years and 2 sons you would think she would try again, but no she has ... (read in full...)
I want to re-ignite that spark and try again, but what do you think is going through her head?
Q. My ex-girlfriend of 3 years broke up with me 2 weeks ago saying I was the perfect boyfriend, but doesn't love me the same way anymore. She tells me to move on and that she has already moved on and that she doesn't think, love, or miss me anymore....
A. 21 March 2011: hey my 2 son's mum of 7 years has done something similar to me. but because she thinks i cheated on her, which is untrue, just some texts and picture messages,she doesnt believe a word i say about how ive learnt and wont ever make the same mistakes ... (read in full...)
Ex doesn't believe me, doesn't know if she can trust me
Q. help and advice please needed, my x and i have discussed getting back together, but she says she doesnt believe me about things and that she doesnt know if we can make it. how can i prove ive never physically cheated on her just made silly mistakes...
A. 21 March 2011: my mistakes were generall flirting, afew texts and the odd picture to and from women. nothing major bad, never cheated on her.... (read in full...)
Trouble reaching orgasm
Q. I'm a healthy 16 year old guy but I'm having trouble getting to orgasm or cumming when I'm with my girlfriend. The first time she went down on me it took me 1 hour and 30 minutes to cum and it makes me feel bad to take so long, I'm wondering if ...
A. 8 February 2011: i had same issues all those years ago, i couldnt and was afraid for some reason, even now when im nuts deep in a woman and wanting to cum, i start thinking of my x and cos i love her struggle to finish off the job as i feel like im cheating, which ... (read in full...)
The ex wants to have sex with me but nothing serious! Do I do it or what???
Q. As with my previous posts, my sons mum said she will never take me back. yet. 2 weeks ago i was in the gym, fully prepared to try and move on, ive been doing much better of late, well im there and this really attractive woman sits nearby, i ...
A. 8 February 2011: i have said i want us or nomore and she says i cant resist her and will come running whenever she asks. point being true. im addicted to her, i adore her and have always loved her and always will but im wondering if she keeps seeing me she will ... (read in full...)
Can I be sorry enough to fix things?
Q. My long term relationship has finally confirmed the end last week as she finally told me she would never get back with me. I know she has checked my fb page as I have given her my passwords to prove and show her I won't flirt with any other women ...
A. 20 January 2011: Yeah but I'm not wanting to move on and the lessons I've learned will only be used if I get back with her. We have 2 sons and I've 3 step daughters with her also, so its not like its just walk away from it.... (read in full...)
She cant confirm if we are really over, but wont let me back in her life! What can I do?
Q. my lifes just spinning out of control. 8 months ago i had everything, although it wasnt all good on the relationship front and hadnt been since sept 09 really when our 2nd son was born. basically we fell in love and left out partners nearly 7 years ...
A. 17 December 2010: Thanks for all your words of help. Ill spend the next 35 years miserable, sad, lonely and regretting some texts and emails. Top work... (read in full...)
She cant confirm if we are really over, but wont let me back in her life! What can I do?
Q. my lifes just spinning out of control. 8 months ago i had everything, although it wasnt all good on the relationship front and hadnt been since sept 09 really when our 2nd son was born. basically we fell in love and left out partners nearly 7 years ...
A. 17 December 2010: I know full well I'm at fault. Other factors haven't helped along the way thou. I've admitted to her how wrong I was as I believed once she saw me being honest and taking responsibility she would become nicer and able to deal with things. But so far ... (read in full...)
She cant confirm if we are really over, but wont let me back in her life! What can I do?
Q. my lifes just spinning out of control. 8 months ago i had everything, although it wasnt all good on the relationship front and hadnt been since sept 09 really when our 2nd son was born. basically we fell in love and left out partners nearly 7 years ...
A. 17 December 2010: eyes wide open. how am i selfish loving somebody with all my heart and would do anything for her? im asking how i can repair this damage and get her, my kids and my home back and my life. theres no need for all this hurt and anger by everybody.
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She cant confirm if we are really over, but wont let me back in her life! What can I do?
Q. my lifes just spinning out of control. 8 months ago i had everything, although it wasnt all good on the relationship front and hadnt been since sept 09 really when our 2nd son was born. basically we fell in love and left out partners nearly 7 years ...
A. 17 December 2010: have any of you any suggestions of how i can repair this and make her want me again please. im so upset i keep crying and breaking down doesnt matter where i am or anything.
she doesnt believe i love her, i say to her you wouldnt treat me like this... (read in full...)
Has anybody else been burned and decided to stay away forever from the opposite sex?
Q. Lesson learned!!! After being told tonight, i will not get back with you, so just leave me alone. If a woman can throw away 7 years and 2 sons, a nice home, her 3 step daughters just because of some email and text flirting then im at a loose end ...
A. 15 December 2010: we wasnt married, she had planned our wedding, every detail, but she got pregnant and said she didnt want to look fat on her wedding day. ive asked her to come counselling but she has refused that and says she can sort out her own problems ... (read in full...)
Has anybody else been burned and decided to stay away forever from the opposite sex?
Q. Lesson learned!!! After being told tonight, i will not get back with you, so just leave me alone. If a woman can throw away 7 years and 2 sons, a nice home, her 3 step daughters just because of some email and text flirting then im at a loose end ...
A. 15 December 2010: fao Tisha-1
i have taken responsibility for my actions, i dont see thou why she feels the need to destroy my life, her life, our 7 kids lives and our family and friends over some text messages.
so no i wont get involved in a relationship... (read in full...)
Has anybody else been burned and decided to stay away forever from the opposite sex?
Q. Lesson learned!!! After being told tonight, i will not get back with you, so just leave me alone. If a woman can throw away 7 years and 2 sons, a nice home, her 3 step daughters just because of some email and text flirting then im at a loose end ...
A. 15 December 2010: only thing ive learned thru all of this is im never gonna be loyal and faithfull to any woman again and when a woman says to me that she truly loves me and wants to be with me forever ill just laugh cos its total bollox. for the love of my life to ... (read in full...)
Once trust has gone, will it ever come back?
Q. once a womans trust is gone is that it? game over? how can trust be regained. how can you show a woman you mean what you say even though she doesnt believe a word you say. how can you show a woman youve changed if she wont even see you....
A. 14 December 2010: well thats it, the selfish cow has told me this evening that 'im not getting back with you'
so thats it, age 34, life over and finished with. never again will i let myself get hurt or close to another woman. she has thrown away close to 7 years fo... (read in full...)
She cant confirm if we are really over, but wont let me back in her life! What can I do?
Q. my lifes just spinning out of control. 8 months ago i had everything, although it wasnt all good on the relationship front and hadnt been since sept 09 really when our 2nd son was born. basically we fell in love and left out partners nearly 7 years ...
A. 14 December 2010: So some of you are saying its ok for her to ruin my life then? So I've now got to spend the rest of my life single, miserable and lonely and that's fine then. Waste of 7 years when I shouldve obviously just stayed with my x... (read in full...)
She cant confirm if we are really over, but wont let me back in her life! What can I do?
Q. my lifes just spinning out of control. 8 months ago i had everything, although it wasnt all good on the relationship front and hadnt been since sept 09 really when our 2nd son was born. basically we fell in love and left out partners nearly 7 years ...
A. 14 December 2010: Again, I was meant to be having my daughter for the afternoon evening on her birthday. Seeing as my x is so adament we've split up I don't really want her seeing my daughters anymore, she is having them round all the time just now, and this it to ... (read in full...)
Once trust has gone, will it ever come back?
Q. once a womans trust is gone is that it? game over? how can trust be regained. how can you show a woman you mean what you say even though she doesnt believe a word you say. how can you show a woman youve changed if she wont even see you....
A. 14 December 2010: I already know its my fault but people deserve a chance. Why should I lose everything from my family to my home? I've lost 5 jobs this year cos I can't focus on anything else. I've never been single since I was 17, I don't know what to do with ... (read in full...)
She cant confirm if we are really over, but wont let me back in her life! What can I do?
Q. my lifes just spinning out of control. 8 months ago i had everything, although it wasnt all good on the relationship front and hadnt been since sept 09 really when our 2nd son was born. basically we fell in love and left out partners nearly 7 years ...
A. 14 December 2010: Fao kc 100, this wasn't her daughter it was her step daughter who doesn't live with us. ... (read in full...)
Will a woman always love her special man?
Q. slight follow up to my current main serious question posted on the 13th dec. will a woman always love that 1 special person no matter what? they might have afew bfs or loads, but is there always that special 1 that she will always have feelings fo...
A. 14 December 2010: the point is quiet echo, my life, her life, all our kids lifes and our family and friends shouldnt have to be destroyed cos of afew silly texts and emails. so if she really did love me it wouldnt matter so much, if i had physically done wrong id ... (read in full...)
Should I date him even though he's a few years younger?
Q. i've recently begun going out with my younger cousin he is 19 and i'm 23.. anyways we always go out and have such a good time, me with my friends and him with him altogether. and i started chatting to his mate, i used to know him from years ago w...
A. 14 December 2010: age is only a number, if theres a connection go for it. i know plenty of cousins that are together also, and some that have got married, much cheaper weddings as you only need to invite 1 family. go for it and enjoy yourself... (read in full...)
Once trust has gone, will it ever come back?
Q. once a womans trust is gone is that it? game over? how can trust be regained. how can you show a woman you mean what you say even though she doesnt believe a word you say. how can you show a woman youve changed if she wont even see you....
A. 14 December 2010: we have 2 sons,and 5 step daughters between us. ive messed around flirting but thats all on texts and emails. things just dont seem to be getting any better, infact worse, cos the more i go on asking wtf is happening to us she dont reply. im off ... (read in full...)
Will a woman always love her special man?
Q. slight follow up to my current main serious question posted on the 13th dec. will a woman always love that 1 special person no matter what? they might have afew bfs or loads, but is there always that special 1 that she will always have feelings fo...
A. 14 December 2010: thanks for your replys. i know she loved me with all her heart. i think i am her only love infact im sure i have been, but now she is having nothing to do with me and its killing me. all over some stupid flirting thru emails and texts and afew other ... (read in full...)
When you cheat does it mean you really don't love your partner anymore?
Q. hi i just have a very simple question, i have been with my bf for 4 years now but i have recentley cheated on him for the first time ever and i am very confused about my feelings but i just wanted to know: when you cheat, does it really mean that ...
A. 13 December 2010: no to me its not a sign that you dont love him, look at my question earlier today, i never physically cheated on her just thru texts and emails, but ive never once stopped loving her, infact i have realised that i love her more than i thought since. ... (read in full...)
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