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What do you guys think about a 17 year old with a man in his 40s?
Q. What do you guys think about a 17 year old with a man in his 40s? Yes, he is married with kids. Miserably so, but so. I do realize he has other priorities, and do not expect anything from him. Although I do feel that way, the flirting and teasing ...
A. 30 August 2007: Honey EVERYONE is giving you an objective answer however, you are going after what you want to hear.
You are loving a MARRIED man. He will never belong to you and you shouldnt be thinking of him in that way. By opening up your feelings to him thin... (read in full...)
My wife and I don't get along - would it be wrong to have sex with my ex?
Q. My wife cheated on me several times. We started to divorce but then we decided to give it another try. I must admit I hold onto a lot of resentment for all the lies and deciet along with her excuse that it was my fault she cheated. Things were good ...
A. 16 August 2007: You are married. You do not have sex outside of marriage for anything. AND YES I did read about all the cheating before and that you two are in repair mode even though there are attitudes in the mix. Married is still married. By you going out and ... (read in full...)
Is it a bad trait?
Q. My boyfriend always wants me to give him head. Is that a bad trait in a man?...
A. 16 August 2007: Are you getting a wedding ring for giving him all this sexual attention? That's the only time a man should be serviced like that. What are you getting in return? Just an I love you and a peck on the cheek?? Is he taking care of your needs? Tell him ... (read in full...)
He'd rather masturbate to porn than have sex with me.
Q. I have been married about 5 years. My husband wanted to have babies when we were dating so I said I would but only if we get married. So then we got married. I got pregnant but he never wanted to have sex unless it was to make a baby. Once I was ...
A. 16 August 2007: Both of you committed adultery and adultery is grounds for divorce. You made the situation stickier by getting involved with the lover and now a new baby is on its way. I think your husband needs help. Having sex only to create children is ... (read in full...)
What do you guys think about a 17 year old with a man in his 40s?
Q. What do you guys think about a 17 year old with a man in his 40s? Yes, he is married with kids. Miserably so, but so. I do realize he has other priorities, and do not expect anything from him. Although I do feel that way, the flirting and teasing ...
A. 16 August 2007: I'll answer again and say this: IF you are going to be friends with this man AND you say you respect and honor his wife, WILL you, as the man's and his wife's friend, tell the wife about the affair? I mean really, friends are truthful with each ... (read in full...)
Should i change myself for him?
Q. I am 17 years old and fell for a friend of mine (23 years old). i just recently found out that he has feelings for me too. i have liked him for a long time and would really like for us to start a relationship together. the reason i fell for him in ...
A. 16 August 2007: 1) Wait until you are 18 if you want to get involved with a MAN.
2) NO! You don't change for anyone. You are who God created you to be. By chamging yourself and practices for someone else because THEY asked you to makes you deny who you are to p... (read in full...)
My ex is stalking me
Q. Ok i am 13 and i recently went out with someone in the same yr as me but i dumped him after 2 days. after i kissed him i knew we were'nt right, but now he won't leave me alone. he rings me and says who are you talking to? He even got jealous when i ...
A. 15 August 2007: Oh heck no. Go to school and speak to a counselor. You are being harassed and you DO NOT have to take that. He doesnt want to realize that there is no relationship. I think he is trying to scare you into liking him again. You talk to your parents ... (read in full...)
I know he loves me but he's still married, he says that he is going to get a divorce and we will get married and have a life together, but when!
Q. I am in life with a married man who in return really adores me as well. The problem is I do not know if we will be together or not. We have both liked each other for ten years, we use to go out drinking together with mutual friends and...
A. 15 August 2007: You are the mistress. Have you taken into account the hell his wife is going through because YOU the other woman is messing with her husband? So what everyone knows about their living habits, sexual relationship and etc. All that is actually private ... (read in full...)
We went back to the hotel and I asked her if she still wanted sex and she said yes - I am a woman also.
Q. Hi there. I met a woman on the internet last year and she said there was no chemistry. We went out for a drink and a meal and got on really well, we went back to the hotel and I asked her if she still wanted sex and she said yes - I am a woman also. ...
A. 15 August 2007: Sounds like she was conflicted in having sex with another woman. She liked it but in her heart she couldnt handle that she was actually doing that, hence her flip flopping and not initiating any sex. I say let her go. You dont want someone who ... (read in full...)
I found out my girlfriend made out with some guy and went down on him at that party.
Q. My girlfriend and I had been dating for a few weeks when she cheated on me with another guy. She confessed about it to a friend of hers, and told me about it at a party a week after it happened. She only told me she kissed him though. A couple ...
A. 15 August 2007: Honey, don't bother with her. She used her emotional threads to try to keep you reeled in. It was a nasty and I am sure heart wrenching ploy. She is a liar and seems to go with the flow of parties doing all kinds of crap. You did extend to her the ... (read in full...)
How do I get him to realise the consequences of his actions??
Q. My girlfriends son is 13yrs old and talks to his mother like she is dirt. He always wants and wants but never shows appreciation for what she provides for him. He throws temper tantrums and slams his door to his bedroom, or pouts and won't talk to ...
A. 15 August 2007: Sounds to me that he needs a severe whipping. Was his mum the one to cause the divorce? He may be treating her like crap because she chose to leave. Maybe his dad is a harsh man and doesnt put up with that garbage. Irregardless, I think you AND his ... (read in full...)
My mom's friend's son stares at my chest, what should I say?
Q. My mom's friend has a son. He is 3 years older than me. I see him a lot. Whenever I'm around him, I feel uncomfortable. He always stares at my chest. Should I say something to him? If so, what should I say?...
A. 8 August 2007: Oh my gosh yes! Call him out on it. Don't take that behavior from anyone no matter what age they are. When you see him staring say it loud enough for everyone to hear it to further embarrass him. Scream it if you have to, "STOP STARING AT MY ... (read in full...)
I'm scared to tell my mom i'm pregnant!
Q. Me and my mom dont get along that well because she is so strict, but im pregnant and im scared to tell her,HELP!...
A. 8 August 2007: Your mom probably has been strict because she didn't want you to make the same mistakes or even get near them like she did. TELL YOUR MOM YOU ARE PREGNANT. She is the only woman in the world who knows you completely and loves you. No matter who she ... (read in full...)
He promises that he'll divorce her, but he never does!
Q. Hello, My bf and i have dated for the past 4 years. He is legally married with a kid. His "wife" is in Europe. They have been separated even before our relationship (she had to go back to Sweden and he stayed in Germany). He moved to US and thats ...
A. 8 August 2007: Wow, you do realize you are the other woman, stealing a wife's husband? You have no right, no legal standing or any responsibility to ask him to divorce his wife. You want to know why he hasn't divorced her? She is the love of his heart while you ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend constantly gives me a hard time for my past, and it makes me miserable!
Q. Dear Cupid, I am writing with tears on my eyes 'cause devastated. I will try to make my story short. I met my bf while in college and while in college I acted a little crazy and mess around with a couple of guys. My bf and I were not together...
A. 8 August 2007: Wow, that's sad. MANY men want a pure chaste wife but when it comes to them only having a few sexual experiences are okay. DAMN THE DOUBLE STANDARD!
GIVE HIM THE ULTIMATUM: This is the last time you down me for my past. You bring it up again an... (read in full...)
Should I be with him and make all my dreams come true?
Q. okay, so heres the story, this story happends to be like many others but theres a twist. there this guy that i met exactly a year ago today. he happends to be a very famous man, unfourtunantly i can not mention his name because i do not want him ...
A. 8 August 2007: You shouldn't be in this relationship and thats my most honest and blunt opinion. Why, you ask? Older men get tired of immaturity real quick. Immaturity in thinking and in bed. Do you know how to even balance your own check book? How perceptive are ... (read in full...)
We're having second thoughts about the abortion...
Q. Me and my boyfriend agreed that we didnt want an abortion but we also dont want either one of us to drop out just to take care of a baby. I'm having second thoughts about it all and im sure he is too. any advice?...
A. 8 August 2007: Please do not abort the baby. Look for help and support anywhere you can find it. An abortion can and does rip families apart and it will ALWAYS be ingrained in your mind and the what ifs and I wonder hows will never leave your thoughts.
Seek ... (read in full...)
I'm too young to have sex, but my boyfriend wants to
Q. Hello I'm 15 Years Old 16 Soon And Am Scared Too Have Sex I Really Like This Boy But We Are Not Goiny Out We Have Done Everything Apart From Sex But I Think He Is Using Me Is There Any Advice You Could Give Me x...
A. 8 August 2007: Run away from that person. He is trying to use you to satisfy his sexual urges. You do not want to have sex so have nothing to do with that guy. Do not kiss him. Do not show him any part of your body ever again. Because you have gone this far with ... (read in full...)
I want to kiss my husband's best mate - maybe it will make the urge go away!
Q. I want to kiss my hubbys best mate I have been with my husbaned 7 years. we have a 5 year old child. one of his best mates and I get on so well anyone would think we were best mates. I cant stop thinking about my hubbys best mate 1) what ...
A. 8 August 2007: Your urge won't go away and if you did kiss him
1) it wont be anywhere near what you fantasized
2) you are asking for a load of drama
3) you are already committing adultery in your heart
sweetheart, a kiss with a person who IS NOT YOUR HUSB... (read in full...)
I despise my job with a passion and I've had no luck finding another one. What can I do?
Q. i'm really getting desperate now,I could really do with some advice. I hate my job, i really cannot stand it, the company are viol - im off sick and they call me everyday questioning me (I've been there for a long time I have excellent attendance ...
A. 8 August 2007: First, nip the calls in the butt. If you have been to a doctor get a note saying you are sick and need REST. Work should not be calling you because you are off. Don't answer the phone or whatever. You earned your sick leave and that's it. If you are ... (read in full...)
My wife is accusing me of visiting a dirty website when I didn't!
Q. My wife found a dirty website on our computer and thinks it was me that looked on it but it wasn't. She is going mad at me and says its like cheating. Even if i did look at other girls in that way is it classed as cheating? Is my wife over reacting? ...
A. 8 August 2007: Interesting answers. Any attention (of the romantic kind)given to another woman that truly belongs to your wife is cheating. That is how women see it and feel it. I totally understand you when saying you didn't look at the website. People need to ... (read in full...)
I don't want my gf to drink b/c my dad used to be an alcoholic. But I don't want to tell her what she can and can't do!
Q. Well my girlfriend and I have been dating now for three months and everything is going really good. This weekend one our friends is having a little get together at her house and they are all going to drink and then spend the night over there. My dad ...
A. 8 August 2007: If you have already told her why you, drinking and alcohol don't fly then leave it at that. She gave her word that she would not. I know sometimes a person's word is not enough but take it as it is and do not worry. I totally understand where you ... (read in full...)
I want to get divorced, but I am terrrified of the wrath of G-d!
Q. I want to end my 25 year marriage because my husband and I have grown apart and there is absolutely no attraction in it for me. But I have tremendous religious guilt and worry incessively that God is going to punish me for doing this horrible ...
A. 8 August 2007: My heart really goes out to you. I cannot imagine the inner pain you feel with a man who doesn't do anything for you emotionally, physically or mentally. All those are vital in a relationship. It would be great if you got satisfaction doing what you ... (read in full...)
I want to get divorced, but I am terrrified of the wrath of G-d!
Q. I want to end my 25 year marriage because my husband and I have grown apart and there is absolutely no attraction in it for me. But I have tremendous religious guilt and worry incessively that God is going to punish me for doing this horrible ...
A. 25 July 2007: First, sweetheart, let me help you with your faith. The people of God are not to be ashamed of anything. The Holy Spirit convicts you and that is the time to change. Shame is the devils tool to keep you from seeking God and living by what The Lord ... (read in full...)
Would it be a sin or illegal to be with my first cousin?
Q. Ok, over the past few years me and my first cousin and i have gone really close and want to go further she lives kind of far and we talk time to time but i am afrain my family will not accept me. What should i do? and also is this a sin if we have ...
A. 25 July 2007: The reason it is wrong to have sexual relations with your cousin is because you have the same/similar genes running in your family and those genes can cause horrible birth defects and death for any children you would have. It better to obey the law ... (read in full...)
We are both 16, and we want a baby.
Q. Me (16 in 5 days) and my boyfriend (16) really want to have sex and have a baby, we have had safe sex and now want the real thing, but we are both are in the middle of some A levels. we have our own flat together so it is not like any of our parents ...
A. 25 July 2007: Wow, can you really afford a child and still go to school? Don't expect your parents to take care of the baby because once you produce one it is up to your to be responsible for his or her life FOR LIFE. Dont have sex and dont have a baby. There are ... (read in full...)
We haven't had sex. I love him but I'm not sure I feel any lust for him... How do I feel lust?
Q. This may sound weird, but my boyfriend and I are in love and I love being with him, he makes me happy, I make him happy. We cuddle, snuggle, kiss and hug. BUT we haven't had s*x yet. We have a great relationship, but how do I bring lust into it? I ...
A. 25 July 2007: LOVE DOESNT EQUAL SEX and it sex sure as hell isnt necessary in a boyfriend girlfriend relationship. Don't have sex with him. Has he promised you a life together? Do you have any plans to build anything in your future? The last thing you need is ... (read in full...)
Is there any way a physical and abusive husband can ever change ?
Q. Hi all! i would like to know if there is any possibility that a verbally wrong/abusive and psysically abusive/bully husband can become 'normal' with time? (he does not drink, no drugs). if so, how long can this 'transformation' take? how can on...
A. 25 July 2007: The only way an abusive, violent man changes is when he gives his life over to Christ and recognizes the pain and the severe problems he is causing. People can scoff all they want about religion but it a problem like this has roots in the man's ... (read in full...)
What do you guys think about a 17 year old with a man in his 40s?
Q. What do you guys think about a 17 year old with a man in his 40s? Yes, he is married with kids. Miserably so, but so. I do realize he has other priorities, and do not expect anything from him. Although I do feel that way, the flirting and teasing ...
A. 25 July 2007: Look, he is married and has kids. Leave him alone. His kids may even be around your age and THEY WONT tolerate their father being with someone that age or at your maturity.
If you are not religious then what are your morals and standards based on... (read in full...)
Had an affair with a married man, now he's calling me a stalker.
Q. About a year ago I was briefly involved with a married man. When I first started dating him I thought he was separated, i ended it when I found out the truth...that he was still with his wife. We have friends in common, he has told people that I c...
A. 25 July 2007: He's doing this because he is threw with the affair. Find a single man and leave this married man alone. ... (read in full...)
I started sleeping with a girl I really like while her boyfriend was away; he's coming back and she doesn't want to see me as often. What should I do?
Q. A few months ago, i became friendly with a local girl who moved over here. She was stunningly good looking and way out of my league, and i found out she had a boyfriend who'd gone to australia for a year. But as we became friends i found out she ...
A. 25 July 2007: 1) You have no idea how her boyfriend feels about her. Have you spoken to him? Met him?
2) You are the OTHER MAN. Stop doing another man's woman.
3) With the mind set that you wont find anyone else as good as her you WONT find anyone as good a... (read in full...)
I hate my GF's past, Im feeling I should do similarly bad things so I'm not so superior to her, will this work!?
Q. My current girlfriend and I are both college graduates and young professionals in our mid-twenties. We have been together for just over six months. Our romance was nearly perfect for the first two and a half months and I was convinced that "she was ...
A. 25 July 2007: Dude~ keep your purity!!!! No need to go off and become dirtier just to match what her PAST was in your mind!! Love her for who she is. So what she was a wild cat! She isnt the same person she was back then. Stop thinking about the past and what she ... (read in full...)
I think I have feelings for my best friend but I don't want to tell him incase he doesn't feel the same
Q. My best friend (of 2 years) and I have been talking for a long while about his past relationships and I have decided that I dont think anyone would be good enough for him. Im not sure why, I would be happy for him if he got another partner as he ...
A. 25 July 2007: I told my best friend of two years that I loved him and admired the man he was. He gave me his answer and asked how I felt about it. Of course I wanted to be his girlfriend but because he didnt have feelings for me I wasnt going to drop the ... (read in full...)
I'm with my first ever boyfriend and can't help wondering what else is out there
Q. Ok.... Im 25 and have been with my boyf nearly 5 yrs - before him I havent been out with anyone. Our relationship is good, he makes me laugh, I find him attractive. He does annoy me at times because he can be really headstrong and likes to wind ...
A. 25 July 2007: If you have no desire to marry him then go find someone who you do want to marry. Dating and being in a relationship in its purest form is to find someone to marry not keep someone for entertainment. If he isnt all you think about or can see the ... (read in full...)
Should I become a bit more physical with him in the hope of drawing a commitment from him?
Q. Hi im 16 and i have a male friend whose 18. We used to talk a lot and we even made out, but then he just wanted to be friends because he didnt want to hurt me and after a while he stopped texting me. I finally managed to get him to talk to me, he ...
A. 25 July 2007: Seeing how you two arent even thinking about getting married & arent looking to have sex then there is no reason to make out. Making out leads to sex if you dont stop yourselves and for all its worth that is a difficult force to stop.
Enjoy... (read in full...)
I worry I might be being played again; do all men act this way after their first sexual contact with a person?
Q. What goes on in a man's head when he's had some sort of sexual contact with his girlfriend for the first time, whether it's oral sex or full sex? I've always regretted splitting up with my first love as he is the only one who has bolted after ...
A. 25 July 2007: Not going to lump all men into one category. I do find that once you give guys who have been wanting sex with you that pleasure, they are gone. They got what they wanted and you were used. I have been in that situation 3 times and that's it. They ... (read in full...)
I'm dating a widower of 2 years 5 months... but is he ready for a new relationship?
Q. i've been dating a 40 yr old widower of 2 years for 5 months. he still has his wife's clothes in the closet , jewelry on the bathroom counter, pictures next to the bed and wears his wedding ring......do you think he's really ready to be in a ...
A. 25 July 2007: Only he can answer that. It still sound like he is in morning though and when it is that strong (things still left in place or even a dinner plate left out for the decesaed) then it is a growing problem and may need some medical/counseling ... (read in full...)
He has not mentioned me on his myspace account.
Q. Hi all I would really appreciate your opinion. I have been with my guy for nearly 6 years. About 2 months ago we split after a huge row. (we started to talk not long after)I went on holiday for 2 weeks. We love eachother very much. ...
A. 25 July 2007: You two are not together therefore he is single as are you.
MYSPACE is not the greatest indicator on ANYTHING in life. Don't let your emotions get bent out of shape over what you read OR pictures people post. Many people use that website as a way... (read in full...)
Brother's new girlfriend is expecting, should I tell my ex sister in law?
Q. Please help! My brother cheated on his wife. She found out, patched it up, but made his life unbearable. He left and went back to the other women 9 months ago. We didn't know until he announced they were having a baby due now! My brother and ex-w...
A. 25 July 2007: Cheating never produces anything good. I'd tell her. She is developing a friendship with your family that spans beyond the broken marriage bounds. Just set up the conversation telling her you have some not so good news. It would be better for her to ... (read in full...)
He abused me, he lives next door and is now tormenting me with new girlfriends.
Q. I have just come out of an 18 month relationship with a guy 10 yrs younger than me, he used and abused (verbally) me throughout but i kept going back (and still would). I cannot get him out of my system (maybe because he lives next door), but last...
A. 25 July 2007: I don't get why people like to torture others especially in the realm of love. I am so sorry to hear that this man is acting foolishly and not taking your feelings into consideration. I know the pain you speak of in a way. It will take a bit for you ... (read in full...)
An old GF wants to get together. Should I take a chance?
Q. So a girl I went out with a few times in college, about 5 years ago, (we went out on a few dates but really didnt work out and no hard feelings afterward) and was somewhat friends a little while thereafter the few dates we went on...emailed me out ...
A. 25 July 2007: 6hrs away... that can be difficult. You'd have to meet half way just to see each other or just make a weekend of it going there to see her and vice versa. Is your heart really into it? I think that is the main questions. She wants a relationship but ... (read in full...)
I want to take a break since he takes me for granted
Q. My boyfriend of 4 years has been acting so strange lately. He has been very mean, constantly telling me that he doesn't want to talk to me on the phone and that he will call me later. He never calls. It is the same way with seeing him too. He ...
A. 21 July 2007: No, do not listen to the other female poster. You tell him what you are going to do and let your boyfriend deal. TELL HIM CLEARLY so there is no misunderstanding from where you are coming from or what you will be doing. I say that you not only take ... (read in full...)
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