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I was a military brat and have been to 11 countries. I speak a couple of languages and my number one thrill is international travel. I plan to go to Antarctica, Iceland, South Africa, Japan and to India in the next 5 years.
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I want to take a break since he takes me for granted
Q. My boyfriend of 4 years has been acting so strange lately. He has been very mean, constantly telling me that he doesn't want to talk to me on the phone and that he will call me later. He never calls. It is the same way with seeing him too. He ...
A. 21 July 2007: No, do not listen to the other female poster. You tell him what you are going to do and let your boyfriend deal. TELL HIM CLEARLY so there is no misunderstanding from where you are coming from or what you will be doing. I say that you not only take ... (read in full...)
I cheated because my wife cheated, but now I want my f*ckbuddy to go away
Q. Hello all, I have been thru a lot in my years of marriage. My wife has lied and cheated so many times that I gave up any hope that we would ever grow old together. After her last round of cheating, I had had enough and decided to seek out a woman ...
A. 21 July 2007: Amazing, your wife's actions has caused this domino affect to where 4 lives or more are affected.
1) You put your foot down and tell this other woman it is over and even reference a restraining order if you have to. She may have a horrible... (read in full...)
If he knocked me up, do I tell him now over the phone or wait until I see him?
Q. im late for my period and extremly worried im pregnant gonna take a test in a few days as i dont have time until monday. if i am pregnant how do i tell my long distance bf (it would definatly be his as i have not been with anyone else) we both ...
A. 21 July 2007: IF you are pregnant you tell him via phone. If you can get out to where he is then you tell him face to face. Make sure that you are certain about whether you are pregnant or not. It is better to be certain and tell him that you ARE than to have ... (read in full...)
My boyfriends objects to my parents' visits... I'm close to telling him to get lost
Q. My boyfriend of two years, we live together, is giving me a hard time, because my parents come to visit and stay for a day or two sometimes 3 with us at our house, we have a spare room, so space is not an issue. They come maybe once a month, then ...
A. 21 July 2007: Tell him that your parents coming to visit is equal to you having to go to his parents house on Sundays. When you are married family is family and there is no separation. Because you are not married he is putting up a stink with having your parents ... (read in full...)
What's wrong with him? We kissed so that MUST be serious
Q. Hi I'm 16 and really need some advice. A few weeks ago I started texting this 18 year old who I really liked. We would text ALL the time, and we would also hang out and stuff, so we really hit it off. One night he dropped me off at my house he gave ...
A. 21 July 2007: I've had that happen to me. A guy kissed me then the next day he totally ignored me and acted as if he was disgusted by me. Usually when guys get what they want out of you they toss you in the garbage box marked: USED. He has no interest in you ... (read in full...)
Ripped body = chick magnet... right?
Q. can somebody please advise me on gettin a 6pac! I work out at the gym and everyday do 200 sit ups and leg raises. I feel it alot on my stomach and i can see a bit of the muscle defined but not a proper 6pac. How do i get this. I'm skinny so it ...
A. 21 July 2007: I agree with the two male readers there. You have to watch what you eat. Eat to fuel your body not to add calories. Your muscles are there but remember that its SKIN FAT MUSCLE just in that order. If you have a thick layer of fat you aren't going to ... (read in full...)
My married lover of 18 years doesn't want me anymore but I can't let go
Q. Hi I have been seeing a married man for 18 years. I love him and he said he loves me. Then one day he said he does not want the affair anymore. I am in shock and broken hearted. I can't seem to let go. Please help me. ...
A. 21 July 2007: You will have to let go because he wasn't yours in the first place. Of course it hurts very badly but look at all the time wasted of your life being with a married man. You have nothing to show for it.
Find a good loving man who loves you for ... (read in full...)
My dad says I'm lazy and he refuses to buy me anything
Q. Help my dad won't speak to me. He is very mad at me for not helping him with his office work. Now he won't buy me anything. He says that I am very lazy. Not even new clothes to wear to school. What should I do?...
A. 21 July 2007: Time to get a job honey and not expect to receive hand out from the parents. Now is the time you start helping your parents out by offering to take on a household bill or paying for some of the groceries while you are living with them.
Also,... (read in full...)
He hasn't updated his internet profile status from 'single' to 'in a relationship'
Q. hiya what do you think it means if a guy you are seeing calls himself "single" on a internet profile thing eg facebook/myspace. He has been on it recently but has not updated his relationship status though lots of people know he is seeing someone/...
A. 21 July 2007: You are single until you are married. Dating doesn't mean anything because it isnt built on any kind of foundation. Ask your man to change his status on his myspace page. If he doesn't OH WELL. You two are still in a relationship just make sure it ... (read in full...)
Does giving me a hickie mean he likes me too?
Q. if this boy i like gave me a hicky does that mean he likes me....
A. 21 July 2007: A hicky is just a physical action. It does not mean love. When someone says they love you with their own lips then you hold them to that because they said it and should mean it.
My advice to you, don't mess with guys who want to touch you or k... (read in full...)
I'm a Christian and believe in waiting to have sex; I've already had it, however but now I want to wait to have it again until we're married. My boyfriend isn't happy
Q. I am a Christian and believe in waiting until marriage before having sex. The problem is I have already had sex with my fiance, and previous boyfriends. I still want to wait, but my fiance argues that if I stopped doing it now after doing it for ...
A. 21 July 2007: Sweetie, I was in the same situation as you. After having sex with people who didn't deserve to have that intimate time with me I decided enough was enough and I was going to wait until marriage to have sex again only it be with my husband. I ... (read in full...)
Is it ok to spend the night at my girlfriends house?
Q. My special lady owns a house, so i sometime on weekends spend in her house, i live with my cousin, now my cousin is all over me saying am doing it wrong, me i dont find it wrong, my girl too does not find it wrong too. Am asking for advise about th...
A. 21 July 2007: You may be an adult but aren't being respectful to you or her by staying at her home. Don't act like a married couple if you are not. There is no need for you to stay there if you have your own place. Don't put yourself into situations that you ... (read in full...)
I love my guy but when we are away from each other over summer break I feel its ok to have sex with other guys.
Q. ok so been with my man for almost 3yrs and we have gone our seperate ways on holiday for the summer i am completely in love with him and would never wanna lose him but wen ppl go away im a believer in the theory that different rules apply!i met a ...
A. 13 July 2007: one time isnt okay! wake up! just because you did it you think it is probably alright and your guy will accept that? when he comes back and you tell him do you actually think he will be alright with that? you say you love him what if he loves you ... (read in full...)
I don't seem to find any girls or guys attractive! What's wrong with me??
Q. hey! ok,well iv just split up from my first girlfriend. we dated for 6months. i really liked her but we wanted different things so we split up. we're still really good friends but now i don't know if im gay or not? i thought she was gorgeous but now ...
A. 12 July 2007: You are not gay until you act on it and that is usually through initmacy and sex. You have the world and your life before you. Dont worry about being in a relationship. Get your dream job. Travel follow your talents and passions. ... (read in full...)
I want to be able to help my wife more, she's been very stressed at work and has had a lot of work to bring home and do.
Q. Hi, I want to be able to help my wife more, she's been very stressed at work and has had a lot of work to bring home and do. She's really tired and it's just getting too much for her up to the point where she's nearly crying because she's really ...
A. 12 July 2007: Because work is on the forefront of her thoughts it needs to be taken care of. Work should be work and home should be home. I understand as a teacher that there is lesson planning and tests that need to be graded. If at all possible help her with ... (read in full...)
Why does she want to get so close to me all the time? She's also female and a work colleague.
Q. I'm a 22 year old straight female and I think a colleague may have some feeings for me. She's 50 and married but very attractive and she is always looking at me. When she talks to me she stands so close, if I'm reading something she will lean right ...
A. 12 July 2007: All I can think is of 2 things
1) she is attracted to you and wants to be near you
2) culturally it is okay to her to be close to people and be in their personal space when it makes you and other very uncomfortable.
You can ask others in th... (read in full...)
His best friend says that if I was more touchy-feely then he would get on with me again...
Q. I am totally in love with this boy, and have liked him since september 2006. We used to get on so well, and now he will not talk to me, unless he wants fags, money or a new song for his phone. He rings me all the time, but it is just for sex, even ...
A. 12 July 2007: Wow, I am a 30 year old woman and I dont even act like that with men. You are being USED. Your friendship will never be the same because that guy sees you as a person who will give him what he wants. You are giving this guy everything he wants. What ... (read in full...)
How can I sort my life out? It's such a mess?
Q. Well my problem started at the age of 4, I am now 15. At the age of 4 Ii was sexually abused, my mam didn't have a clue as she was busy planning her wedding to my step-father who was on heroin at the time, they are now divorced. Well, at the age of ...
A. 12 July 2007: You have stifled many many years worth of pain with lies and fear. You need to seek help that will help you deal with all that in a safe environment. Since you are still young charges can be made against the man who did that to you. From today on ... (read in full...)
I'm going to a funeral - what should I wear and what flowers should I send?
Q. I am going to a funeral next week. I have not been to many of them(lucky me). I would like some tips on two things. What to wear and what type of flowers to send. There are internet sites with this info but it is nice to get more personal pointers....
A. 12 July 2007: You wear what you want. If you knew the person's favorite color, wear it. Don't worry about what people might think because you arent there for them you are there to remember the person. Also, send whatever flower you desire.
People make such a f... (read in full...)
My ex-boyfriend's current girlfriend contacted me yesterday through myspace. She asked me if her boyfriend (my ex) cheated on her with me.
Q. My ex-boyfriend's current girlfriend contacted me yesterday through myspace. She asked me if her boyfriend (my ex) cheated on her with me (which he did, but in the 1st couple months). I have NO idea who she is, nor have I met her before, but she ...
A. 12 July 2007: Just tell her the truth and let that be that. You have no connection to him now. She is probably seeing cheating tendencies in him now and wondering if her suspicions are right. Be cordial to her and tell the truth. ... (read in full...)
Recently he has found out that I cheated on him twice, and feels he can not forgive me.
Q. hi, I have been going out with my boyfriend for 6 years. Recently he has found out that I cheated on him twice, and feels he can not forgive me, he now thinks that I never loved him at all and that it was all a lie but it was not. I love this boy ...
A. 12 July 2007: You cheated. You broke his trust and he is extremely hurt. If he feels he can't forgive you and that your love was being given to other guys...thats a knife in the heart, love. One of the only ways for someone to take back a cheater back is if they ... (read in full...)
What do I do if a friend decides that she wants more than friends? I don't!!!
Q. Okay so I'm worried that maybe I'm screwed. What do I do if a friend (that's a girl and I'm a boy) decides that she wants more than friends? I don't, otherwise I wouldn't be asking. we are very close friends. I am a very sensitive and affect...
A. 12 July 2007: I have been to China and it is a great country but running away wont help you. I was in a situation like that however, I was the girl liking a guy friend of 10 years. He told me that he wasnt interested in a relationship because if it didnt go well ... (read in full...)
I am addicted to masturbation and its getting worse.
Q. I am addicted to masturbation and its getting worse. Somedays I can masturbate up to 4 times aday but now I have a girlfriend I am still looking at porn and it is getting out of control. I have been doing it since I was 13. I find it relaxing but ...
A. 12 July 2007: You are trying physical things to take care of a mental problem. Sure it gives you that high and relaxation but it does nothing for you spiritually or mentally. PLUS, you are looking at porn. Porn does nothing but feed that desire to be satisfied ... (read in full...)
What can I do to help myself relax?
Q. I have been going out with my boyfriend for 2.5 years but when he goes out without me, I worry that he will meet someone else. I know that he wouldn't do anything but I just can't relax. Recently he has made excuses to go out with other people ...
A. 12 July 2007: You are letting your trust of him break. In not trusting him when he goes out you are letting fear seep in and now you are being eaten up if he is meeting someone new.
Take an opportunity with him to evaluate your relationship. Ask where it is go... (read in full...)
My husband was raped and instead of seeing a counsellor, he's turning to drink; how do I deal with this?
Q. My husband told me he had been male-raped. I offered to support him, but it seems like he's had a major personality change since the incident. He's started smoking heavily, yet he never used to smoke at all, and used to be anti-smoking - a...
A. 12 July 2007: Refuse to buy him alcohol. You dont have to do it so dont do it. He is medicating himself to deal with the inner turmoil he is dealing with. Most likely he is dealing with being humiliated, asking himself if this means he is gay and anger and other ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend says if I want to be with him I can't hang out with my friend anymore and I just really don't know what to do because I want to do both of them!
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for 2 years now and I love him with all my heart. I would like to spend the rest of my life with him. But I also have a very good friend that I like to talk to and hang out with and just have fun with him. My boyfriend ...
A. 12 July 2007: NO! Your boyfriend can not tell you to not see your friends and threaten your relationship because of them. That is wrong and it is controlling and he can not tell you to do that. Spin it around on him. Tell him he can not see his friends at all and ... (read in full...)
Isn't this fraud?????
Q. I found out off a work colleague of my husband's that he and his friends at work have been raising money for a non-existent employee who has lung cancer in order to fund a trip to Las Vegas to see showgirls and prostitutes. The "colleague" was ...
A. 12 July 2007: Tell him about what you know AND send a letter to the company's human resources telling them about this scam. Do it anonymously if you desire. Your husband may even be the one to come clean now that their criminal secret it out. ... (read in full...)
I have seen my 7 year old daughter masturbating, can she even have an orgasm at that age?
Q. I have seen my 7 year old daughter masturbating, I have not approached her about it, thinking that it is normal for her to explore herself. My question is, not trying to sound totally stupid, is she even able to orgasm at that age, and does she get ...
A. 12 July 2007: Your question isnt stupid. It is totally valid so dont feel weird about that. Yes, even at that age she can experience orgasms. If you prefer that she doesnt touch herself you tell her that that isnt good behavior. I think many kids do it to fall ... (read in full...)
She cheated on me and got pregnant; I don't want to raise another child that isn't my own
Q. Plz help, I've been in this relationship for 5 years, my girlfriend already has a son, that I'm practically raising. We don't live together. Anyway she cheated on me and got pregnant, she was gonna have a abortion, but the docs said it could be ...
A. 12 July 2007: It was a poor action on her part and now in the relationship its not just you her and the kids it is the other two men who's children are around. If you love her deeply you will see that those children are part of her too. I can understand that ... (read in full...)
I'm very attracted to my boyfriend but he doesn't believe me
Q. i love my boyfriend of one year very much and i find him very sexually attractive, but even after all this time he doesn't really believe me when I compliment him in that area. he laughs and shrugs off my compliments. like if i say i find his ...
A. 12 July 2007: You know, I have a friend like that. I find him gorgeous but when I compliment him he tells me to stop. If your guy keeps waving off your compliments then dont say them as much. Build him up in other areas. If he makes something or does an excellent ... (read in full...)
How can I make my mum and dad approve of my boyfriend and allow us to marry?
Q. Ok here goes I am 16 years old and my fiance is 20 years old we are now 9 weeks pregnant and we have been together for a while, I was 15 when we got together and I'm about to be 17 in September. I want to marry him but my parents hate him and don't ...
A. 9 July 2007: If you parents wont sign the papers there is nothing you can do. You arent of adult age and I am going to guess that you still live with your parents and they take care of all your needs. You best bet is to stay at home, have your child and when you ... (read in full...)
I've just broken up with a player, I'm not devastated and I didn't love the bloke, but I soooooo want to teach him a lesson!
Q. Ok ok, for starters I don't want do gooders here! I don't want comments or advice from people who think I'm sad and bitter and I should move on and forget and forgive ok? I've just broken up with a player, I'm not devastated and I didn't love the ...
A. 9 July 2007: It isnt your place to teach him a lesson. There are websites where you can post his name and make other women aware of his sorry behavior though.... (read in full...)
Should I break into his bank account????
Q. I broke up with my boyfriend five weeks ago. I'm just not speaking to him. After an argument I went to his place and left there the cell phone he was paying for me and other things and I have not spoken to him since. He always thinks he is right and ...
A. 9 July 2007: Do you want to go to jail? I didnt think so. Request the money up front and in person. If he refuses tell him you will take him to small claims court then proceed to do so.
Dont do any illegal acts because they WILL fall back on you. ... (read in full...)
I've been seeing a guy but I've been sleeping with his cousin.
Q. ive been seeing a guy for the past three weeks and hes great and treats me like a princess, but ive been sleeping with his cousinfor the past 2 weeks, this guy is also my best mates boyfriend, i do feel guilty but i think the fear of gettin cought ...
A. 9 July 2007: Don't do family sex!! You are hurting people you love (the boyfriend) and just being nasty in the whole situation. End it with the cousin because if you get caught you are going to go through hell with both men. Don't be stupid with your actions. ... (read in full...)
Please take the time to read this, I know it is long but it's important to my relationship.
Q. Please take the time to read this, I know it is long but it's important to my relationship Ok well where do I start... I'm sorry if bits and pieces of this don't make sense, but bear with me, I am writing this as she is leaving the house becaus...
A. 9 July 2007: It seems that FROM THE start you gave up a lot of meaningful things to you for this woman and you dont even know her a full year yet. Letting her move in, giving her a cell phone and a lot of clothes...you basically gave her everything she needed ... (read in full...)
Should I trust this member of staff at my school with my problem?
Q. I met a member of staff about 7 years ago at the school I go to. We know each other very well and are close but I've fallen in love with him. I know this is wrong and he is married. I know I dont stand a chance due to the compications involved but ...
A. 9 July 2007: Wish him the best with his work in Zambia. It never hurts to give someone support when they are leaving. After that, you get your emotions in order for two reasons
1) HE IS MARRIED. Nothing can happen between you two. The last thing you need is ... (read in full...)
How do I get my boyfriend to stop spying on me?
Q. My boyfriend of 1.5 yr won't stop spying on me. He takes my cell phone without my knowledge and reads texts, goes through my recent calls. We have an otherwise great relationship. I want him to trust me. I have done nothing to betray him, yet ...
A. 9 July 2007: If you can't immediately leave him, see if you can set your phone keypad to being locked UNLESS you enter a series of numbers. The guy might get mad but you can directly tell him "if you cant trust me what makes me think I can trust you & this lousy ... (read in full...)
I have sexual tensions about a doctor that i have never met before.
Q. I have sexual tensions about a doctor that i have never met before. Recently I just saw the doctor's picture on the internet. I thought he was good looking. I am going to be meeting this doctor in 3 days for the first time. Is this normal to be ...
A. 9 July 2007: You are lusting after him. That is NOT the mindset you want when meeting a person. Clear your mind and meet him in "platonic friend mode". If he is interested in you then you start to get to know him. Don't be expecting intimate situations from the ... (read in full...)
We want to give up condoms and try to guess when it is safe--how do we do that?
Q. Hey all. I have a question. Let me just tel. you a bit about my question. K me and my bf have been having sex 3 time and we now want to do it without a condom and we both got some information. That if you do it within a average of 14 days after your ...
A. 9 July 2007: If you dont have sex then you cant get pregnant. Simple as that. ... (read in full...)
I had unprotected sex w/ the guy I've been seeing. I want to ask about his sexual past as I'm worried about STDs, but how? It's so awkward!
Q. I feel uncomfortable asking people how many people they have slept with and if they are 'clean'. I have recently been hooking up with this guy and we do like each other but are not ready for a serious relationship quite yet. I feel that I have a ...
A. 9 July 2007: You had sex with him. You get to ask that question. If he baulks, you run to the doctor immediately and get tested and dont have sex with him or anyone else again. This is why you know a person first (thoroughly and mentally) before going all the ... (read in full...)
I'm worried about the prejudice over the fact I'm having a baby so young
Q. well im gemma,recently i posted a request for some advise on this and the people have really helped me loads!!you know who you are so thanks a million!but i have another thing i have been thinking about today,because i think i am pregnant,my ...
A. 9 July 2007: Why are you worried about what others will think? They arent living your life. They are not paying your bills and looking after your health. Their opinions mean nothing. You live for you. *I would like to say though that you should push to g... (read in full...)
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