She wont give up the dating sites and chat rooms, what can I do? I don't want to leave our son....
Q. I have been living with my common law for 6 years and we have a 5 year old boy. For the last 18 months we have constantly argued over her use of dating and adult related chat room type websites. Just as always, I think we are getting back on the ...
A. 17 December 2012: Make no mistake, she is taking the piss out of you. Why? Because you let her. All due respect to blond30s but she is on sites that are geared to one thing only. If this was innocent she would not be getting aggressive, defensive or agitated. She ... (read in full...)
Now I'm being punished for what goes on in her mind only!
Q. For the past two years or so, my girlfriends insecurity has got worse and worse. I am constantly told who I am looking at, who I find attractive and told I am flirting with everyone she believes I find attractive. I have put up with a lot. I now ...
A. 13 December 2012: I am sorry to tell you this but your girlfriend is a piss taker. Her insecurity is a product of her own dishonesty and her assuming that everyone is capable of doing what she does. You surely are going to dump her, right? I cannot see much changing ... (read in full...)
Does he just prefer being married or does he really not know how to behave?
Q. My boyfriend of 4 and half years has been pressuring me to marry him. I have been unsure because we have been making up and breaking up perpetually, over his use of dating sites. He seems to overlook how much it upsets me, even though he doesnt go ...
A. 11 December 2012: He (your boyfriend) is full of crap. He is pulling the wool over your eyes. He is cheating on you already via dating websites. He knows he is, and he knows he can.... (read in full...)
She accused me of cheating, but she's on a dating site?
Q. I have had to constantly re-assure my girlfriend since day one. I have put up with allegations that I am cheating or will end up cheating on her. I am often accused of finding others attractive when we are out. Despite this, I have tried to ...
A. 10 December 2012: What is going on in her head? She is an aspiring cheat. Her ambition is to make it in this world as a cheat. There has not been any offers, so she`s trying her luck on dating sites. She`s accusing you, either, to keep any suspicion away from ... (read in full...)
Is he a player if he's busy on the weekend?
Q. Hi, I just met a lovely guy, he's South American and seems like the perfect guy. He's sweet, attentive, funny, complimentary etc. We met only 3 days ago and slept together on the first night - there was so much chemistry and we were both pretty ...
A. 5 December 2012: If he ever wants sex again you will hear from him. Men have two categories for women. I wont say which category you fall into because that would be talking for him. ... (read in full...)
Why did she want me back, only to end up on the dating sites again?
Q. I had lost count on how many times I had found my girlfriend on dating sites and chat rooms that focus on flrting. She either lied to me about being on them or played it down to them just being harmless internet friends and me being jealous. I ended ...
A. 4 December 2012: Forget what it is all about. You could be thinking and trying to work that one out for a long time. Pack your things and never go back. As a quick guess, I think she may have wanted you back because she had n`t managed to get anyone else and as soon ... (read in full...)
My Ex took my daughter to meet his new "friend" and they stayed the night at hers!
Q. Hello. I desperately need to get this off my chest and see what other people thought. my ex has our 4 yr old daughter every other weekend, and yesterday was one of them. Today i found out he took her to London to meet his new "friend" and they stay...
A. 3 December 2012: Has no one ever told you that jealousy gets you nowhere?... (read in full...)
While house-sitting for my girlfriend, I discovered she is not the person she lead me to believe she is.
Q. So I have been with my girlfriend about 4 months and I thought things were going great. We got serious very quickly however and ended up spending almost every day together. Lately I've felt very uncertain about several things I've discover...
A. 2 December 2012: She`s a cheat and she`s a liar. She needs constant attention and will go to any length to get it. Forget what that female anon says, it is just honor among internet cheats.... (read in full...)
I dumped him because of the dating sites, but he's still on them meeting new people! How do I overcome my anger?
Q. I have broke up from a 2 year relationship. It was my decision. He would not stop visiting datimg sites and always lied to me about it or said he went on them because I nagged him all the time. Now, the same account he said wasnt his is still there ...
A. 30 November 2012: He aint doing anything different now then he was when he was with you. Do you like feeling angry? if not, then stop punishing yourself by checking up on him and move past it.... (read in full...)
I fear I've been used by a man I met on a dating site.
Q. I have been such a fool. I joined a dating site and met what seemed like a man in a million. He was a good listener, polite and we clicked. He took me for a meal and we ended up at my home, we talked and he listened to my problems and then we slept ...
A. 28 November 2012: I think he is on dating sites with the sole purpose of using every woman he gets the chance to. It was nothing personal towards you. That is just the type of guy he is/was.... (read in full...)
Is there any hope of turning this around? I keep finding my Gf on dating sites.
Q. My life seems like a constant cycle of catching my girlfriend on dating sites, breaking up and then somehow ending up back together. When I have caught her she has lied by denying it, blamed me for neglecting her, accused me of jealousy, abuse, i...
A. 26 November 2012: She aint gonna change. It is you who should change. You should man up and face up to who she really is and make a permanent exit.... (read in full...)
I fell for him and my heart is broken
Q. Hi aunts and uncles. I am suffering extreme heartache and I would like to know how to get over it or reduce the pain. I'm waking up at 6am crying as reality hits that he doesn't want me and has left me and for someone else. It's going to sou...
A. 25 November 2012: I read this and as soon as I saw it was off a dating site it changed the whole scope. First of all, it was a dating site, so what did you expect? I think you fell in love through desperation. You want to meet someone so desperately that you thought ... (read in full...)
He cried, real tears, but guess what!
Q. Just over two months ago I left my dating site obsessed boyfriend of four years. I accepted dating sites were part of his life and always will be. He has suddenly started trying to get me back again with the same old bull shit and accused me of ...
A. 23 November 2012: He sounds like he`s got a screw loose. Drop him like hot coal.... (read in full...)
Is it common for people to be in a relationship and signed up to online dating sites?
Q. I have noticed this kind of question comes up a lot on this website. Is it very common for people to be signed up to dating websites whilst in a relationship. I have found my boyfriend to be doing it and lying about it. when he is not able to lie, ...
A. 21 November 2012: He has made a joke out of you. If you stay with him you deserve that staus.... (read in full...)
I feel I've lost so much. How can I get my life back on track after breaking up? Life's really tough for me right now.
Q. Please ladies explain this to me. I'm on my own for the first time in my life and I'm 36 now. Two long term relationships, 2 children and I'm ashamed to say with both women. The first I thought was love. The second I walked out on in the mi...
A. 17 November 2012: You need to occupy your mind with something to help you move on. I dont mean things like sex texts, chat rooms or dating sites etc. You could take up a sport or a college course. Of course you are depressed right now. You will be, because you got ... (read in full...)
We had an incredible week long affair and now 3 months later nothing! What happened?
Q. It's the usual affair story....I've been married for 19 years to a good man, hard worker, who would do anything for me. The problem is, he is extremely negative, has no friends, is suicidal at times, is a drinker and his family is rotten. I have ...
A. 14 November 2012: The best thing would be to make a clean break from your husband. You will be at liberty to do whatever you want with whoever you want. He is married to you and unaware of the real situation. It could end up by leaving him that you are actually doing ... (read in full...)
My sister and boyfriend are constantly fighting! Why don't they see they shouldn't be together?
Q. I'm wondering if anyone had any advice I could give to my sister and her boyfriend. You see for the past x amount of years (not even sure how long they've been seeing each other), all they do is yell at each other. Mainly, it's my sister. Now, ...
A. 14 November 2012: They may enjoy drama and it is what keeps them together.... (read in full...)
Drunken one nite stand is threatening to tell my girlfriend what happened!
Q. I've been seeing my girlfriend for just over a year, I love her to bits. About 4-months ago I had a one night stand, not full blown sex but heavy fondling. I'd drunk wayyy too much. Halfway through I came to my senses stopped and went home. The ...
A. 12 November 2012: You should come clean to your girlfriend and give her the choice of whether to dump you or not. The other guy is blaming you instead of dumping his easy to get girlfriend. Tell him it`s not your fault that his girlfriend is easy. If it wasnt you it ... (read in full...)
I am getting fed up with my boyfriends ex wife
Q. I am getting fed up with my boyfriends ex wife. She is too dependent on him for jobs and advice and see`s him as her best friend. Yes, granted, I think if there was any chance of getting him back she wouldnt waste a moment. I have told him my ...
A. 12 November 2012: In your situation I would not be able to help myself from telling her to back off. Why not drop her a joke about wanting what she cannot have?... (read in full...)
Caught my boyfriend on dating sites, after calling me a slut and a stalker he then claims it was a virus!
Q. I have found out my boyfriend has been going on dating sites. When I asked him about it he went mad at me and started calling me a stalker, said I dont trust him because I myself am not to be trusted, called me a slut and then turned it around to ...
A. 9 November 2012: If you stay in that relationship, then you deserve all the crap he`s gonna throw at you. Believe me when I tell you, there will be a lot more of it to come. He`s a shit bag.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend of six years has been sending messages to other girls, asking for sexual favors and pictures.
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for 6 years now and we have a three year old and one year old together. As time goes on he has become more and more controlling, and i have just found private messages to ex girlfriends, and other girls, asking for ...
A. 8 November 2012: Your boyfriend has not been playing the game. He has been and still seems to be "cheating" Cheating and open relationships are two different things. I would move on and find someone who plays by the rules of an open relationship, or better still, a ... (read in full...)
Was I rude or was I justified in saying what I did?
Q. Told a guy he was too busy to date - was I unreasonable? I met a guy online (He's 35, I'm 30) and we exchanged a few emails but he would always take a couple of days to reply, saying he was really busy. Not a problem really, but it does colour m...
A. 7 November 2012: He was just a guy off a dating site. You are a girl off a dating site. You are both 10 a penny and can both move on to the next ones.... (read in full...)
I was dating a guy who wanted to date other women so I finished it. Did I do the right thing or overreact?
Q. Hello aunties and uncles. I'm a bit confused and bewildered about a recent dating experience and I'd like some opinions or advice. I met a guy via online dating. We had several (4) really enjoyable dates over a few weeks. We chatted freely and...
A. 6 November 2012: He is a bit of a contradiction. I suspect there is someone from his past that he has not got over. People who go on-line to find dates are at the bottom end of desperation and dont knock back a chance of sex. Maybe he was making excuses because he ... (read in full...)
I'm falling for him so fast and hard I'm afraid
Q. has anyone ever been so consumed and overwhelmed by their feelings for someone to the point where they dont know what to do anymore? I've been seeing a guy for a few months now and im falling for him so quickly and so deeply its actually scaring me. ...
A. 5 November 2012: Do you fall in love often? If so then it`s because you are afraid of being alone and have self esteem issues. If not then you may have found the one you want to be with.... (read in full...)
Body image ruined due to porn
Q. My partner looks at naked pics of those typical perfect bodied women. If they're not naked they're usually close to it. Although I have a good body, I have small breasts which are now a little droopier due to having given birth. Breast feeding. ...
A. 4 November 2012: Do you not look at near perfect male bodies when you spot one? I think you are feeling low and your thoughts about him looking may be exaggerated. I bet anything he still thinks youre hot. Men do look without even knowing it.... (read in full...)
Dating 11 months and he hasn't said "I love you" yet
Q. Hi All, I have been dating my boyfriend for 11 months now in a semi long distance relationship, we generally meet up every other week, the longest apart as been a month so in total Ive probably seen him for 4 months in total but we contact one a...
A. 4 November 2012: For him, this is possibly the start of a relationship with a needy woman who uses the word "love" very very lightly. For you, I suggest looking more at the he treats you and the way he behaves. Hold it down.... (read in full...)
He said it's over but I really want him back!
Q. okay im sorry this isn't an interesting one guys but if i dont speak to someone i'm going to explode and i bet all my friends and family are sick of me. i met this guy 8 months ago off the internet and he was perfect we had been speaking on the ...
A. 4 November 2012: Why dont you go out and learn some social skills. You may be less dependent on dating sites then. While you are at it "do" get some anger management lessons too, because in life not everyone will say what you want to hear and if you cant hear that ... (read in full...)
I broke things off because he is confused about his ex. He still wants to be friends?
Q. I've been dating a guy for a month now, I already knew he had recently broke up, but he assured me he didn't want to get back with her. He introduced me to his friends, took photos off my Facebook showed everyone(he didn't tell me till after) s...
A. 3 November 2012: Just forget about him. He is like a mixed up kid. Don`t be his friend.... (read in full...)
Does my wife want me back?
Q. I was married to my wife for over 20 years. She walked out on me 4 years ago.We haven't divorced and we have 2 college daughters. After she walked out we didn't talk for over 2 years.I started forcing divorce on her, she's been a liar and a cheater ...
A. 3 November 2012: Why in this world would you want her back? For someone who see`s himself as above "hanging out in dive bars with fat ugly unemployed drama queen men," well, where will that put you, if you take her back? Are you having problems finding a partner ... (read in full...)
Met a guy with a huge porn collection and no history of relationships!
Q. I have met a guy a month ago of 37 who sounded good on paper (we met online). He seems like a decent person but is very introvert and has a close relationship with his sister and his mum but has lived alone for 10 years. We have been gradually ...
A. 3 November 2012: Does it not occur to you that some people on-line are going to be life`s misfits? If you have no problem forming relationships or attracting people, then you would not have to be online. I know this will upset many but I am telling it how it really ... (read in full...)
I'm with someone I love but after a few days together I need time alone!
Q. I'm with someone I really love but after we've spent a couple of really intimate days together, I feel like I have to get away and spend time alone. He doesn't understand and wants to spend all the time with me. It ends up causing a lot of arguments ...
A. 2 November 2012: He sounds just a bit to clingy for comfort. I would think very carefully about how far you want the relationship to go. Is he your partner or your owner?... (read in full...)
Should I tell my husband's brother that I love him too and about the fantasy of a threesome with him and my husband?
Q. My brother in law has called me and texted me and told me in person he loves me and is attracted to me. I haven't replied to his remarks out of respect to my husband. I just ignored it when he said it. I know he was intoxicated/high so I didn't ...
A. 1 November 2012: Yes, tell him. Crazier things have happened, so you just might get lucky. If it does not work, your husband will be able to replace you. Unfortunately he is always stuck with having him as a brother.... (read in full...)
Is my girlfriend getting on line and chatting because she is at home and bored?
Q. While I am out at work my girlfriend does nothing all day except chat to guys and flirt on the internet. I have found out about this now for the fourth time in a year. We almost broke up for good, and now I find she is doing it yet again. It is hard ...
A. 1 November 2012: If this is how much respect she has for you now, then just think what she will be like in another 5 years.... (read in full...)
Did I ruin things before they could even begin?
Q. Dear aunts and uncles. Please help me. I have totally muucked things up with a guy who I really like and who I think was perfect for more. I feel sick at what I have done, or more importantly how stupid I have acted. I am 31 and can't beleive...
A. 30 October 2012: If he`d have told you from the start that all he wanted was sex, then would you have still met him? I get the impression from things I hear, that 95 out of 100 guys who go on dating sites are only in it for sex. They just pose as wanting a ... (read in full...)
Why does my husband keep going on dating sites looking for women? he knows I know. So why does he keep on hurting me like this?
Q. For at least the past 6 months I was coming across my boyfriend going on dating sites to chat to different women. Of course, he has always denied it and called me weird and neurotic. He knows that I know, so why won`t he tell me if there is somet...
A. 25 October 2012: Have you not thought of dumping him and getting someone who will treat and respect you better?... (read in full...)
Do I stay and hope he can contain his love of gambling? Or do I go?
Q. me and boyfriend have been together a year, we now live together and i love him very much. i have a daughter from a previous relationship who he is great with. the problem is he likes to gamble, hes currently awaiting his date to join the army, s...
A. 25 October 2012: I would give this guy a miss if I was you. If he stopped gambling, the temptation will always be there to do it again. I have seen this before and it`s never good.... (read in full...)
I am seeking people's opinions of my actions in this failed relationship. What do you think?. I did some bad things, so did she.
Q. so i started seeing a girl as friends id heard a lot about her ( she's easy,been with this person,been with that person etc etc) but i didn't care because i make up my own mind about people and me and this girl got on great so after about a month of...
A. 24 October 2012: I would forget the rights and wrongs and class it as a relationship that "didn`t" work.... (read in full...)
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