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Worried that my boyfriend will go off with my best friend if he has a 3some with me and her!!

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Question - (27 December 2008) 8 Answers - (Newest, 31 December 2008)
A female United Kingdom age 36-40, anonymous writes:

I am 15 and me and my boyfriend are having sex reguly,we've been dating for 3 mounths now but the sex is getting boring and my boyfriend asked if we could have a treesome with my best friend, I am ok with having a treesome but I'm worried that he will have sex with my best friend and then leave me, because she is 17 and he is 18 and shes blonde, skinny, huge breasts and has alot more experince then me, i am a red head, chuby, i've got big breasts but he is only my 3rd boyfriend. i am sooo worried please help me! thanks xx

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A female reader, XxAnGelXxx United Kingdom +, writes (31 December 2008):

XxAnGelXxx agony auntAnd now on to the poster, lol I woulda done it all in one message but my phone only has limited typing space lol. Ok, so you're finding your and your fella's sex life boring, and you're worried about the possible consequences of a threesome, so my dear, dont go for the threesome if your worried, find some other ways to make sex exciting again, browse the net, look up new positions and exciting, adventurous new places perhaps? Just do what you're comfortable with and what you thinks best :) and to the other aunts, dont winge at my message for basically encouraging her, really, if a few of you lot say for her to refrain from sex until she's legal, I very much doubt she will, lol tis all about thinking realistically eh? :) tc & happy new year everyone :) x

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A female reader, XxAnGelXxx United Kingdom +, writes (31 December 2008):

XxAnGelXxx agony auntPvtguy.. Where the hell did you get the conclusion from that she poor girl has emotional problems and no self esteem?? And that she need's help?! I really dont see any of that, she's a girl who dont know whether to have a threesome or not. Where exactly does that suggest low self esteem and emotional problems? I've been having sex since 15, and i've done all sorts. That doesn't mean I had/have emotional problems, nor low self esteem because I am completely satisfied with who I am, and everything about me, I dont just want attention from men, I have my feet firmly on the ground and my head screwed on tight. Ok, all im saying is dont go saying stuff like that to the girl, with no real reason to. If anything hearing that would mess her head up and make her think she's problemed.

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A male reader, 14all United States +, writes (28 December 2008):

Are you bored with sex with him, or is he telling you sex with you is boring? If the later, dump him, he's a jerk. Do you even know if your best friends wants to be in a threesome?

Say this to him: "I'll think about it but I think my best friend and I need to have a talk about it first and maybe try out girl-girl sex on our own first."

If the idea having that conversation with your best friend weirds you out, or the idea of having sex with her on your own doesn't work for you, then a threesome is a bad idea.

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A male reader, Listening ear United Kingdom +, writes (28 December 2008):

I would say that if you are 15 and considering a 3 some because sex is getting boring then it might be a good idea to think where you will be in 5 or 10 years, think what you will need next after the 3somes get boring, where would it stop. I think your man is pushing you for something he is in to more than you. In fact it would seem that you are more into him than he is you, its not balanced any more than his pressure on you, aside form the fact that he is admitting that he cannot think to pleasure you himself. Also remeber you are a woman, look in the mirror at those breasts and that flame of red hair, no doubt at all you are a godess, so be careful and flower.

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A female reader, Spiceyk United States +, writes (27 December 2008):

OH MY GOSH SWEETIE.... he's possibly already doing her and just want your approval. Why the heack are you having sex anyway {PLEASE USE PROTECTION} He's a dog for saying your relationship is getting boring and want to use a third person. He's an undercover whore,freak whatever you youngsters say.. If he cared about you he would know what it takes to spice up your relationship other sex..OK I CANT BELIVE i'm answering to this situation. Leave his old butt alone and find someone your age who can enjoy your likes and dislikes and treat as the special person you are..

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A female reader, shaashiie United States +, writes (27 December 2008):

shaashiie agony auntDon't have a 3some, you're only 15 and you probably shouldn't even be having sex in the first place. Not only that, it is going to cause you problems with your self esteem, which you seem to have already anyway from reading your question. And it almost sounds like your boyfriend is using this as an excuse just so he can have sex with this girl and still keep you as a girlfriend. You should only be doing this if your relationship is completely stable and if you have absolutely NO worries in the back of your mind about it - which is not the case here. This is going to ruin your relationship. An 18 year old boy shouldn't be asking his 15 year old girlfriend to have a 3some. Something isn't right, seems like he's just using you. I've been having sex with my boyfriend for 3 years and we find plenty of other things to do when our sex is getting boring, none of which include one of us suggesting bringing another person into it. Dump him and find better. Sorry if it's harsh, but believe me hon, it's the truth.

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A female reader, Olivia(Y). United Kingdom +, writes (27 December 2008):

Olivia(Y). agony auntHey, I wouldn't worry about your boyfriend leaving you for your best friend. She may be blonde and skinny but your boyfriend might not find that as attractive as your lovely red hair and curves. If he wanted to be with your friend he would but hes with you and he loves you.

I hope this kind of helped.

Olivia.

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A female reader, sandra78 United States +, writes (27 December 2008):

You are far too young to be bored with having sex with your bf. You are too young to be having sex period. Let alone bored. A threesome is a bad idea.. Your relationship is far too new to handle anything like that. Im almost positive it won't last. I know of couples who were together for years, and didn't survive the "threesome fever" it creates a lot of un needed issues. It seems that by your post, you should maybe slow down a bit. You seem very unsure of yourself. You have to love yourself to be fully loved by others. By the way.. Im not sure about where you are from.. But here in the US, it is a felony for 18 yr. Olds to date and have sex with minors.. Maybe you should also be weary if his intentions.

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