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Why do I hesitate in making the moves on this girl I like?
Q. Hey guys i have a question that i have thought on and i just can't seem to find the answer. There is this girl that i have known for about 8 years and for some reason i just can't stop thinking of her for the last couple of weeks. I have not seen ...
A. 4 August 2011: Haha it took you a while to answer back.
Anyway I am personally against long distance relationships. If she is two hours away it is fine, but if you can only see her about twice per month or so I wouldn't recommend it.... (read in full...)
A thank you to everyone here who's helped me
Q. I've been on dearcupid for 6 years now. Over the years, I have asked many questions, and have given the best advice I could from expeirence. I'm recently engaged to the most wonderful man I could ever hope for, and find that I can talk to him about ...
A. 7 March 2011: As geegee said, its nice to hear that this site is so helpful for so many people... (read in full...)
I got pregnant from a one night stand. Can I pass this baby off as my boyfriend's?
Q. I've been in a serious relationship for the past 2 and a half years with my Algerian boyfriend except for the last 8 months I’ve been living with my mother in a different country . Of course things haven’t been going too well for us since we’ve ...
A. 7 March 2011: You cannot pass it like that as if the baby or he finds out (but specially for the baby) it would be a tough blow. Im sorry to tell you this but in the long run it is better to tell the truth in your situation. [non-English portion of answe... (read in full...)
I want to be someone worth loving, not a maid! Is this going to change? When will I just say enough is enough?
Q. I’ve been living with my boyfriend for a little over 2 years now, together over 3 and he is still dependent on everyone else. He doesn't pay any bills (if it’s mentioned he says he'll only pay for his own food), he has his mother do his wash, but ...
A. 7 March 2011: Chances are he wont change. IF you are so tired, break up!! You dont want to live like this for the rest of your life, so open your eyes and leave him alone. It might sound hard after two years, but there are some really nice and caring guys out ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend cheated on his last two girlfriends. Should I be worried?
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for a little over a year now. Pretty much since the beginning of his relationship I knew he cheated on one of his exes..."Cheryl" with another girl named "Chelsey". He ended up dating Chelsey for five years until she ...
A. 7 March 2011: If he cheated twice there is a large chance he can do it again. It sounds risky to even give it a try, someone who cheats is not trustworthy. Neptune90, I know it might sound difficult, but hasnt he hidden what you found out when you got the job? ... (read in full...)
Would it be weird to add him on facebook?
Q. Hi I need some advice about a guy. I went on holiday to Spain and stayed at a hotel. I noticed a good looking Spanish guy who worked at the restaurant as a waiter. There was alot of eye contact between us. I made it clear I liked him and he...
A. 7 March 2011: add him and good luck!!... (read in full...)
A guy fell for the 'fake' me on Facebook
Q. 6 months ago in september, i created a fake facebook profile with a fake name and fake pictures of a girl. In september i met this guy and we started a relationship. Now he is very serious and wants me to visit him, we almost make 6 months, i need ...
A. 7 March 2011: Seriously, youve got yourself some trouble. It would be a pain for this guy to know you are a fake, why did you do it?
Anyway, I suggest you tell him the truth, hope for the best, and understand if he feels bad
good luck... (read in full...)
How do people move on so quickly after experiencing a lost love?
Q. I have been healing for a long time from a severed relationship. I look at people around me who seem to just get up and start dating the next week. I look at Hollywood celebrities who after losing love just seem to move on to the next one so soon ...
A. 7 March 2011: Hollywood people don't move on fast. They never are in a serious and real relationship. Don't feel bad about yourself. Move on at your pace and your heart will be healed soon I bet! :) You are young and will meet more guys soon!... (read in full...)
Friends with benefits... With my ex?! Help!
Q. Me and my ex dated for 2 months. We had a great relationship, it was fun, cute, and made me really happy. His friends are friends with my friends, and we always hung out. It worked out great. And before we dated me and him were great friends too. He ...
A. 7 March 2011: In my opinion this doesnt sound too healthy because he is probably not taking things seriously and using you for some pleasure even if it's not something sexual. He probably will do this until a new girl comes by for him. And by then you could be ... (read in full...)
A thank you to everyone here who's helped me
Q. I've been on dearcupid for 6 years now. Over the years, I have asked many questions, and have given the best advice I could from expeirence. I'm recently engaged to the most wonderful man I could ever hope for, and find that I can talk to him about ...
A. 7 March 2011: good luck!!!!!!!!!... (read in full...)
Should I tell him I like him? He's graduating soon and I'll still be here.
Q. I have a thing for this guy, but he's also my friend. I'm not sure why i do this, but I have a habit of hugging him a lot. We see each other a lot so thats quite a bit of hugging. The other thing is that they aren't short I hug him for a really long...
A. 6 March 2011: Good luck! I hope u tell him soon :)... (read in full...)
I am developing feelings for a man that I know I can never be with. What should I do?
Q. Hello I hope you will respond. I have a friend, he is 4 years older than myself and we have been friends for four years. However, we are not friends in the normal sense. We have never hung out, gone for coffee, a drink etc. He is a player, he lik...
A. 6 March 2011: You like the way he is online, not in real person (thats why online couples usually get upset when they meet). Stop talking to him so much and meet new guys, there are so many at college, many are good and have values
Good luck!... (read in full...)
Real life or online boyfriend??? Who do I choose?
Q. i need help iv been texting this boy for about eight months now but we have never met as we met online. due to this i met a boy on a night out about two months ago and have been meeting up and going on dates with him. he now wants to go into a ...
A. 5 March 2011: Go out with the offline guy. I bet he is sweet. U have never met the other before and maybe never will so... (read in full...)
Am I just his plaything on the internet?
Q. I have been in a relationship with a married man for 6 yrs and never met but plan to meet this year. It is a long distance affair and we agreed to be honest with each other as honesty is what I can have from him. Yes, he doesn't give me hopes, he ...
A. 5 March 2011: Move on!!! This man is a cheater, im sorry for his wife Being supportive online is easy. Dont take it seriously... (read in full...)
Karma, our meeting...and now 7 years together!!
Q. I was 40 and I had a string of failed relationships behind me. I guess I had given up. My best friend and I would talk about men and love and we'd share our lonely tales. One day I helped her create a profile on a dating website. She decided to w...
A. 5 March 2011: The four of you are lucky! Hope things keep going so well!... (read in full...)
How important is the first love to a man when it is years over?
Q. To men,how important is the first love to a man when it is years over? Does your first love still have a special place in your heart? If you have dated her for 4-5 years,do you still think of her at some point in your life even if you have a new ...
A. 5 March 2011: I would never be able to forget about that girl.... If you are the first girl for some guy, do not worry: you will always remain in his memories and he will remember and cherish your time together even decades after :)... (read in full...)
I really want to get this girl's attention, any suggestions??
Q. There's this girl at school and I try to get her attenden but it never seems to work how could I get her to like me ?...
A. 5 March 2011: We need more information. How do you get along with her? Do you talk to her often? Add details!... (read in full...)
Should I tell him I like him? He's graduating soon and I'll still be here.
Q. I have a thing for this guy, but he's also my friend. I'm not sure why i do this, but I have a habit of hugging him a lot. We see each other a lot so thats quite a bit of hugging. The other thing is that they aren't short I hug him for a really long...
A. 5 March 2011: As i said in my first post: don't miss your chance and tell him what feelings you have for him.... (read in full...)
Is it normal to still feel bitter 7 years later?
Q. Is it wrong to still feel bitter about a relationship seven years later? This girl I really liked dumped me on prom. I went nuts on her after. THings never worked out. Fast forward to today. I'm 24. I'm angry and bitter because I haven't found ...
A. 4 March 2011: Those feelings are wrong because you should not desire something bad to happen to her just because she broke up with you
Instead of focusing on her start looking for someone else. It has been SEVEN YEARS man. You can start fresh with someone ... (read in full...)
I cheated on my boyfriend, and he is contemplating revenge cheating. How can we get past this?
Q. My boyfriend is trying to get pass the fact that I cheated on him and lied about it. The situation is that I kissed a coworker about 6 times and we ended up touching on each other. I lied about how the kiss happened and how many times we kissed. ...
A. 4 March 2011: You should have broken up before cheating. If u say you have many values that your boyfriend lacks y did you cheat? Anyway i say that the two of you move on. Ive been recently cheated on by a girl so i know he must have felt like shit. Sure he was ... (read in full...)
How to keep this relationship fresh when we are far away?
Q. I am a 24yrs boy before 1 week ago I had a girlfriend of foreign country we had a relationship about seven month I love her very much and she also loves me these days I miss her very much she says that she will wait for me I also wait for her but in ...
A. 4 March 2011: i agree with yarrup... (read in full...)
Is it strange that I'm falling for this guy over Skype?
Q. Hey Everyone, I just wanted to know if what I'm feeling is completely crazy. So a little while ago I met this guys online and we exchanged skypes and we've been video chatting on there everyday for 3 to 4 hours at a time. Is it strange that I'm...
A. 4 March 2011: I would be careful, but good luck... (read in full...)
Will a man respect me for being a virgin at 31?
Q. still a virgin at thirty one will i get the man my heart like, will he respect me for keeping virgin for all those year waiting for him to be the first to break?...
A. 4 March 2011: For me that would be a turn on, something more respectable than anything else. So good for you!... (read in full...)
My family are wealthy. His is not. Should I pay for everything on our first date?
Q. Please give me advice.. I have a boyfriend. He was my friend when i was in junior high school. Now he lives in another city. Two months ago he found me on facebook. We share all. Two weeks ago he said he loves me. And so do i. So we decide to have ...
A. 4 March 2011: I agree with abella. Even if he is awesome, you showing him your weath with subtle innocent manners could make him get tempted and interested in your wallet. Make it clear that money is out of the question. Dress normally, jewelry that the average ... (read in full...)
Why is my boyfriend doing this? Should I call him?
Q. My boyfriend broke up with me, and he said he's not the guy for me, he doesn't deserve me, I could find someone better, and he wants to be alone without a girlfriend. But he said he still wants me and loves me but he doesn't know if we'll make it to ...
A. 4 March 2011: What you told him is so nice...dont worry I bet he misses you as much as u miss him... Good luck and be positive!! Im sure you two will be back together soon... (read in full...)
My boyfriend tells me he would be happy with or without me! We're supposed to marry next year. What should I do?
Q. Please give me advice! My boyfriend who wants to marry me next year is telling me he is happy with me or without me. Why would he say something like that? Is it because he doesn't love me? I can't get the answer. Please you might have good answer ...
A. 4 March 2011: What he said is weird, like something he should not have said has slipped out of his mouth. Talk about it with him, and dont fall for silly excuses like "I actually meant to say xyz". Unconsiously or consiously he said that for a reason. Find out ... (read in full...)
I found out my boyfriend of 2 years was having a long distance relationship! Should I forgive him?
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for 2 years and I just found out today that he's had a long distant relationship with another woman for the last year, so I wrote him an email to end our relationship. I found out by making a fake profile on a social ...
A. 4 March 2011: He's a bastard, like you said. He has been hiding things, he lied, he used you. Move on. There are so many good men out there with enormous values. You did the right thing breaking up with him. You deserve better, give yourself time with friends and ... (read in full...)
Should I tell him I like him? He's graduating soon and I'll still be here.
Q. I have a thing for this guy, but he's also my friend. I'm not sure why i do this, but I have a habit of hugging him a lot. We see each other a lot so thats quite a bit of hugging. The other thing is that they aren't short I hug him for a really long...
A. 4 March 2011: Look, don't let the opportunity go by because you will regret it afterwards and that might hurt a lot. Tell him he is a nice person and that you enjoy his company, and that you like him. You said you might not see him again, so there is not much you ... (read in full...)
Retroactive Jealousy An Opposite View Point
Q. I have read the articles on Retroactive Jealousy with great interest. I am the one that caused RJ in my lover, I have had less sexual partners than him but I have more sexual experiences. I am not proud of the things I have done and I am trying to ...
A. 4 March 2011: I bet your article will help me in the future! Because I do not like girls who have done more than kissing. Luckily, I am becoming more tolerant. Thanks for the advice and good luck good woman!... (read in full...)
How do I determine if he does like me? He's way out of my league.
Q. i this guy, but he's way out my league. i'm not sure if he likes me back even though he smiles at me and we talk during class. no one knows i like him and i don't no what to do because i'm really shy and have low self esteem. my confidence is real...
A. 4 March 2011: Okay, look. Often people learn this after they have lost their chance: tell him you like him. Why would he laugh? There is nothing funny about it, it is not a joke, so that is out of the question. And if he tells his friends, what about it? There ... (read in full...)
Could a man use a woman to get back at another who rejected him?
Q. Is it possible that a man could be using a woman to get back at the one who rejected him, if the woman he is using is her best firend? What If he treated the first one as if she does not exist, and give all his concerns to the newer woman, whi...
A. 4 March 2011: It is possible, but very, very inmature, and dirty. Especially if it is her best friend. Definitely you are talking about a man you know. This man sounds like he has at least emotionally cheated on his gf with another woman. I dont know if ... (read in full...)
Why is my boyfriend doing this? Should I call him?
Q. My boyfriend broke up with me, and he said he's not the guy for me, he doesn't deserve me, I could find someone better, and he wants to be alone without a girlfriend. But he said he still wants me and loves me but he doesn't know if we'll make it to ...
A. 4 March 2011: Some breaks are legit, other "breaks" are actually breakups. If he did say he still wants you and that he loves you, he definitely needs a legit break so do not worry. During the weekend, text him/email him asking "how do you feel? how much t... (read in full...)
I just had a date with an old friend that I've had a crush on! Is he interested in me?
Q. I had a crush on an old friend of mine. After many years, he recently wanted to 'hang out' as he ended up working in the same city as me...so we went out for coffee yesterday. It was like the date with a guy that I'd always wanted to have...finall...
A. 4 March 2011: He is super interested in you. I wonder why he didnt kiss you, but that could be a good sign meaning that he was not looking to hook up. He seems to want something serious so give him a chance. Good luck!... (read in full...)
Why do I miss someone who I was allowing to tear my life to bits?
Q. okay so i broke away from a girl a couple months ago who was a liar, entitled, promiscuous and bloody selfish. finally my life is getting back to normal. but then....why do i still miss her??? i mean, i know in my mind that i am conjuring up an ...
A. 3 March 2011: You dont miss her, you miss the good times you had together and that is different. You can have better moments with better girls, just try to move on, get distracted, meet new girls, and this experience will allow you to spot the bad kind of women ... (read in full...)
I miss my home, I miss my mum, I miss being in the countryside, but there are commitments that I have to fulfill in London....
Q. Hi i just dont know what to do! I'm a 21 year old girl from the countryside in a small town, i live with my mum as my dad died when i was 4 and i have no brothers or sisters so me and my mum are very close. i grew up there until i left home to go to...
A. 3 March 2011: Just visit during the holidays, and call mom often to keep the bond as tight as possible! its nice that your boyfriend will accept moving back to where you were raised, youre a lucky girl to have him. Be strong, finish with your career, and wait... (read in full...)
What's the deal with his friend who thinks I'm ugly?
Q. So my boyfriend has this friend. Let's call him Joe. So Joe keeps telling my bf that I am ugly. Now Joe has only seen me in person once. He also does not have a girlfriend, just a bunch of different girls that he calls up for sex. Joe constantly...
A. 3 March 2011: Do not worry about Joe. Your boyfriend loves you, his family loves you, everyone approves of you. Joe doesnt know the meaning of love. I bet you are beautiful too because you have this security with your looks :) so ignore Joe, and hopefully he will ... (read in full...)
Why do I hesitate in making the moves on this girl I like?
Q. Hey guys i have a question that i have thought on and i just can't seem to find the answer. There is this girl that i have known for about 8 years and for some reason i just can't stop thinking of her for the last couple of weeks. I have not seen ...
A. 3 March 2011: As starryeyes101 said, she has a boyfriend. Remain friends and keep contact. Meanwhile, learn more about her just to get closer to her, but respect the fact she has another guy. At the same time, do not focus too much in her. There are other ... (read in full...)
Is time all I need? How will I ever be sure how I feel about her? I keep doubting my own feelings
Q. It's been just about 2 months since my ex and I broke up, and I've been feeling quite better. I've been noticing, however, that I've been focusing more inward, as of late. I feel as if each day goes by, i focus more and more on myself and look furt...
A. 3 March 2011: Give yourself some time because you still need to sort things out. gettting distracted really works, so spend time with friends, work, help in the house, tidy your room, or play sports. Spending time out of the house has been the most effective ... (read in full...)
My parents are concerned but he's a great boyfriend. But I am worried I will get to resent him for being away so long. What should I do?
Q. I'm dating a Marine who is 21 and I'm 22. We've been dating "officially" for about 9 months now but we liked each other throughout high school. He deployed last October for 7 months and will go on his next deployment later this year . It'll be anoth...
A. 3 March 2011: I agree with aunt honesty too. From personal experience, LDRs are more difficult to hold. If you truly love him, and commit yourself to the LDR, then you wouldnt cheat on him. If you believe you cant wait 7 months, move on, but dont cheat.... (read in full...)
Her past makes me question whether I really want to lose it with her
Q. So basically, before we met, my girlfriend was sort of a slut. Because of this, im questioning if I want to lose my virginity to her. As a summary, by 16 she had slept with 2 guys, given oral to 5, and used sex toys, such as dildo's and vibe...
A. 3 March 2011: Mhm....it does turn me off when a girl is not a virgin, but I understand if she has done it in another relationship to a man she thought she would marry or spend the rest of her life with. Of course, your case is totally different. For m... (read in full...)
The girl whom I fell in love with online was a liar and cheated on me. Its so hard to move on now...
Q. Okay guys let me explain. Back in january I got on a teen chatting site as I used to for about 4 or 5 months and met a girl (who I will call M from now on). I didnt take M seriously, she was just fun to talk to. She stopped getting on because she ...
A. 3 March 2011: Thanks for the advice guys. Online and long distance stuff is just not right. Im moving on... (read in full...)
Seriously debating whether to break up or not?
Q. Debating whether to leave your partner or not? Here’s forty questions as food for thought. There are no right or wrong answers or score cards, they’re just things to consider if you're having trouble. Please keep in mind that nobody is perfect ...
A. 3 March 2011: excellent article, will keep it in mind... (read in full...)
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