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writes:I'm going through divorce at the moment. I've been married to my husband for 22 years. Im 45 years old. I've fallen in love with self employed builder whom came to fix my roof. He is 63 single. He soothes my painful divorce. We've been together for 9 months now. We get on well. I know him from day one he is stingy with money though he's got good income. I dont mind because I am not after his money. I just want someone who really appreciate me love me. He always says he loves me and it would be nice I can look after him when he gets older. And when I am not well or anyone not well in his life he doesnt seem really care. He put work first. Making money and keeping money is his priority. He always looks at things from a business angle and go for the best deal. I don't feel I am special. And not sure if he loves me or Im a good deal as I dont make him spend on me and I am much younger than him. Please advise.
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reader, samohir  +, writes (3 November 2007):
 Talk to him.tell him honestly what you Think and feel.What disturbs you,his unattendivness, stinginess and not making you feel special.Than see if he will change at least a bit hiow ways.Not being there in your bad moments and not willing to spend a penny to make you feel a bit special, are not good sighs. At least in my opinion. So speak and Break if needed and see what will happen.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 November 2007): I honestly think the he does not love you, as you are younger than him he must have felt flattred when a younger women showed interest in him, if he cared he would have looked after you when you felt unwell, also he sees money not people.
I think your'e on the rebound and can do better than him.
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reader, dearkelja  +, writes (3 November 2007):
 It doesn't sound like this man is very caring to people yet he expects people to care about him. There are some people out there that just are NOT capable of caring for another human being. When you add his concern for money to the equation I think it is evident where his priorities are. It also sounds like you need more than this from your man. Everyone needs a first after a long term relationship and it sounds as if you got this under your belt. Now move on and find that special someone. This man may not one day realize his money won't keep him warm at night. Sounds like you would be really lonely with him.
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reader, greatest love  +, writes (3 November 2007):
love is a very big word...sometimes people seem to use that word instead of lust...sometimes when someone is very vonerable they cling to the one person that makes them feel special...so before you think that you're in love with someone you have to look deep in your heart and ask yourself if it is love or lust that you feel for this guy...because if this guy is the way he is at this point of your relationship then there doesn't seem to be a future with this guy...but that is just my opinion on the fact...
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