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... Send *amohir a private message | | | *amohir's profile: Well, Im 24,Have had many Ups&Downs regarding relationships not only with intimate partners but with friends and people.
In the course of this turbulent period, have seen many people, many things, many relationships, heard many stories, nice and disgusting, but that I concluded is part of life and humanity.
Have been hurt and probably hurt also dear people.That is simply like a vivacious circle.
I would just say, that Far to many people are Trying to Find the Right Person, instead Of Being That One. Thats problem with our commuinication, relation and silly alienation. |
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Should I draw his attention to this matter or not?
Q. Hi to everyone. I have my conscience troubling me and find I'm unable to cope and even sleep! My friend(female) who I didn't liked much, but have been in a certain relations this past year, and I don't know why, simply find it hardly to dump her, I ...
A. 30 October 2007: Just want to Thank all of you for your answers.
Think I will follow the advices you have given me not to get involved at all.
Probably is temporary feeling, like You ree seeing somebody who Can get hurt and not doing anything, But i agree th... (read in full...)
Should I draw his attention to this matter or not?
Q. Hi to everyone. I have my conscience troubling me and find I'm unable to cope and even sleep! My friend(female) who I didn't liked much, but have been in a certain relations this past year, and I don't know why, simply find it hardly to dump her, I ...
A. 30 October 2007: I dont understand why Her taking advantage of Him, so much concerns you?She is after his money, if i read properly, not after urs. I can understand that you might feel badly by not paying attention to him, But if she is that kind of person why you ... (read in full...)
Love, what is it?
Q. What is the difference between saying "I love you" and "I am in love with you"? Is there a difference?...
A. 29 October 2007: seems to be no difference, but if seeing that In the second you have the preposition With which consequantly requires the aplication of the answer With who or What? it makes sense. In first case you have Love as a verb and an Object on which th... (read in full...)
Should I 'Quit it'?
Q. I am currently 18, and I'm dating this 40 year old who used to be my teacher in high school. My grandma and aunt heard about us, and told me to "quit it" because it just isn't acceptable. We've been dating for a total of 6 months now, and I must ...
A. 29 October 2007: If you love him and feel comfortable with, i dont see raeson why you should quit.I dont know about ur relationship, but i just see here a problem if you are not able to enjoy the years you have, doing things that ur mates do, simply Take advantage ... (read in full...)
Doctors haven't helped... HELP!
Q. i've had this problem for about a month now. I need to pee every 5 minutes! at firt i thought it was cystitis, so i went to the doctors an altho they cudnt see any clear signs that it was cystitis they treated me for it. However after finishing ...
A. 29 October 2007: Could be cystitis but you need to make more tests. Do you have any pains in the back? I had this problem and when tested it appeared i had one very common bacteria Esherihia Coli, so could be that. May get tested if got any albumens in ur urine or ... (read in full...)
My new gf's not ready for commitment, what should I do?
Q. My girlfriend and i have been together for just over 2 months. I really like her, but this is her 1st real relationship and i dont think she's quite sure what being with someone is all about.. I go to the same school as her, and see her for only...
A. 29 October 2007: relax a bit, take it more as fun and satisfactory than commitment thing. If this is her 1st relationship,likely is normal to be scared and no ready. So why you need to force the thingS? You can just get her apart instead getting closer!
and at t... (read in full...)
He's left me in the lurch - what do I do now?
Q. my boyfriend friends convinced him that i've been cheating on him he has been suspicious ever since and accused me of many things that I wasn't doing at all. i never cheated on my boyfriend but he doesn't belive me. i'm now 7 weeks pregnant he left ...
A. 29 October 2007: What a swine! Im really compassionate with you, so do are All others who have taken time and gave opinion on ur question. Moreover,i beliave that your parents would be also compassionate, understandfull and helpful, so i Think the best move would be ... (read in full...)
Do I have a Daddy Complex?
Q. I think i have a daddy complex and its really worrying me cos i don't know my dad, and now i feel attracted to older men when i was at school i fancied my teachers and now i'm at work i fancy my managers! so is it an authority figure thing or ...
A. 29 October 2007: Some people are attracted to younger, some to older, some at about same age. as long as it doesnt cross the line of perversity and probably complete inability to enjoy any company near ur age cannot be classified as gerentofily in this case.
Mayb... (read in full...)
Why does my daughter accept his behaviour?
Q. I have a 17 year old daughter who has an very controlling, jealous boyfriend. He left for college and is still controlling her. He tells her where she can work, go, who she can hang out with and even what she can/can't wear sometimes. No one in ...
A. 17 October 2007: at that age , I dont think you can do much. If you start to forbide her from seeing him, she would certainly grow angry and in a way hate you for that. So the best solution is to show her Love, tell her that You re supporting and Love her, and if ... (read in full...)
Doesn't he get it?
Q. Dear Friends,my bf has made all plans for him to go on holiday, without taking me into consideration at all, and YET he claims that he Loves me, and wants to be with me! I dont know if im exaggerating,but if i Do love and Care for Somebody, would ce...
A. 17 October 2007: MIchel You seem mature and your on the right track. You re completely in right, if he doesnt want to spend the holiday with you,than how should you take him seriously at all.
You may and surely will find someone better.
Best of luck... (read in full...)
My head says leave, my heart says stay, what do I do?
Q. Where do I go from here after hes messed around again? I've been with my daughters father for nearly four years, in that time we have split up a few times because of his imaturity and due to me finding texts to others girls in his phone. while...
A. 14 October 2007: Well, Heart has its reasons that Head cannot understand.. But for Ur sake, listen to ur Head!
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Do I have bi-polar disorder?
Q. Is it possible that if you get more than you expect in life, you get depressed about it? It seems to me that something like this has happened to me. I feel ecstatic something and gloomy and sad at other times when i think that nothing much is left ...
A. 14 October 2007: Im not sure what you mean by NOT much left in my Life.I mean C'mon Ur just 26, In the peak of the youth! Have you seen everything you wanted? Have you been everywhere u wanted? Have you already done everything you ever wanted? Nothing left! I would ... (read in full...)
Are my insecurities responsible for my jealousy?
Q. I have a question about jealousy. I have a new bf who ive only been going out with for a month buttt have known him for a while (we were good friends before). I dont ever really feel jealous when i see him talking to other girls or even when...
A. 14 October 2007: I would take both options into consideration. About ur previous bf if he was a flirt it was probably HIM in question.
When people know each other,love each other they trust also. Of course trust is not something given,it is SOmething we built up,a... (read in full...)
I show unnecessary aggression having learned from my father it was the only way to express anger/frustrations. I want to control myself, how?
Q. I have learned from my father that shouting, beating your wife, kids is the only way to express your anger and frustration. Sometimes these fears come to surface when i make some mistakes or do something wrong and even if the authority figure would ...
A. 13 October 2007: Professional counselling may help. I have also learned aggression as a method from my parents, but i try to control it.Just a couple of seconds to calm down before saying or doing anything is good managment of it.Its all in the brain!... (read in full...)
Is there any hope for us?
Q. My question is this. How can i get the love of my life to stay with me even if she says she is in love with her first love and wants to leave? Also is there any hope for us? We have been together for almost 20 years and she says she does love me and ...
A. 13 October 2007: Wow, after 20 years she simply concluded that is in love with her previous Love!!!What a tolerant woman!!
Talk to her would be my advice,see if she really has concluded that is in love with her first one, or is just excuse.. and if she makes a de... (read in full...)
Am I being selfish to want to do some things to make myself happy instead of her?
Q. I spent years in a bad relationship, caring for my kids by my first wife. I am now divorced twice, kids are grown, and I am in a relationship I think is not good. She says she loves me and the when she is with her friends she never calls never lets ...
A. 12 October 2007: In my opinion,you should gve the truck to the boy,if you promised, but paying her bills is something it falls on ur own decision, not something you Should Do!She is not over her Ex!? Thats something new.Have u ever asked her? talked about feelings, ... (read in full...)
How do I weed out the bad guys from the good so I don't waist my time?
Q. I've recently started dating again after being in a 5yr relationship. What I've noticed though that it gets a lot harder as you get older. Also there are a lot of guys out there who just want sex. I get really angry after the effort I've made in ...
A. 4 October 2007: You re probably sexy woman,since the hint is about sex, and as far as i can conclude a wise one! You do the best, one that would like you more than just a f*ck buddy will have a patiance. I had couple of relationship(and only this year) which were ... (read in full...)
Am I being selfish to want to do some things to make myself happy instead of her?
Q. I spent years in a bad relationship, caring for my kids by my first wife. I am now divorced twice, kids are grown, and I am in a relationship I think is not good. She says she loves me and the when she is with her friends she never calls never lets ...
A. 4 October 2007: Relationship is about mutual reciprocity...healthy one at least.. I think that the very fact you have put ur feelings here,and not telling her is a proof that something is wrong.
Probably the bills are just one matter, what troubles you is your... (read in full...)
Was he just being nice to me, or is he interested in a relationship?
Q. Please help...I'm very confused. There is this guy that I am interested alot. He is what I would call the perfect man. He may have some flaws but they are tiny. We used to go to school together but never really saw each other. Resently one of ...
A. 4 October 2007: The line between just being nice and having a crush, is usually so confusing that somethimes even me cannot separate, which is which.
To put ur friend aside, i think that you need more clear signs of he being interested in you.That only time can ... (read in full...)
I feel this older woman is trying to compete with me regarding clothes, hairstyles... and it's irritating!
Q. I stated working in my dad's company beginning of this year and all was good until this woman who is 6 years older than me started trying to compete with me. I thought i was the only one who noticed but the other ladies at work told me as well. ...
A. 4 October 2007: Oh yeah, Imitation is the sincerest form of flattery, Uncle Phill i will agree!... (read in full...)
I'm fed up with people presuming I'm happy when I'm so down. They wouldn't understand me if I told them how I felt. Help.
Q. Im fed up with people presuming im happy when im so down. I know this is my fault because i put on a smiley face and pretend im fine but deep down i feel depressed. I have a great supportive family but if i say anything they would laugh it off and ...
A. 30 September 2007: Terribale feling i must admmitt! Have and still im there. Just doing things you like, seeing people and places you love can benefit a lot! professional help may be benifical also!
And if you dont like people to presume ur happy( im also like that... (read in full...)
Why does being good looking make you so miserable?
Q. this is going to sound unbelievably arrogant but i assure you this is a genuine problem i have and i am genuinely asking for advice because it is really hard and upsetting me. i think i am too good looking. i know i am attractive, and guys ask for ...
A. 30 September 2007: Be beutiful and intelligent , i must say is not easy for one!! No matter how that looks for others, People who are gifted in such way, i know have HUGE problem in society!
The problem i guess is not in you, But in the others who re in ur comp... (read in full...)
Will it hurt my boys not to have a male influence in their lives?
Q. Curiosity question here. I am currently separated from my husband and seriously considering divorce. Of course at this time in my life I feel like I don't ever want another man in for life for as long as I live. Every experience I've EVER had ...
A. 30 September 2007: Happy single mum, definitaely is much better than witnessing a terrible marriage for children! I will stick to it! Ive grown up in rather unsatisfactory family envirioment, where having two models did not benefir at all to my life.. it did it just ... (read in full...)
Love produces love? Can one love be enough for both?
Q. Is there any true in the motto that Love always produces love? Can One's love(honest and indisputable one) produce love to other side(be it male or female) even if there exist no one? What you think, is it worth or futile endevour being with someone ...
A. 30 September 2007: Thanks everybody for giving an opinion. In the course of my life, i have found out that either:
a)im more interested and in love with somebody
b) somebody is more inclined to it
NEVER BOth Parties to Feel at least somewhere to same intensity.
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SITE NEWS: Wanted, your ideas for features and improvements!
Q. Hi I'm looking to get some input from everyone on what you'd like to see on the site. How can I make it easier to use? What new features would you like to see? Any annoyances or bugs you'd like to fix? Can I make the moderati...
A. 27 September 2007: Think more aeasily searching the older questions (either by title of tips of title ) would be good benefit. Somethimes i like to read the older ones but find it difficult to "locate" them. Otherwise everythhing is good.:)... (read in full...)
I really like him... but am I wasting my time?
Q. Ok so Ive like this guy for about two and a half months now who I have slept with prolly six or seven times now. When we first started hanging out he was really sweet and wanted to hang out all the time but then after about a month he told me he ...
A. 26 September 2007: Semms like fuck buddy relationship. There is nothing wrong with it, if sex is good, but if u want a relationship with him, and want to see if he likes too, apstinate for a while. dance with other guys, and if he asks you for going after in bed with ... (read in full...)
My parents want to interfere in my decisions. How do I explain them they affect my independency?
Q. i'v always been the type of person that likes to have independance and make an attempt to do things on my own and if im not able to do something then i will ask for help. the problem is my parents. i'm 26yrs seperated with 3 kids my parents spoil ...
A. 26 September 2007: dear hotty if you find a definite solution, please email me with it! I have the same problem, im the only child (had sister who passed away 6 years ago)and now im 24 and cannot bring myself stopping to interfere in my life.Ive explained to them, ... (read in full...)
How do you know when and what your "pupose" is, so you can teach it to your children and be blessed?
Q. I'm sorry if I offend anyone by bringing religion to the table, but I have a question for the belivers. It has been said many times that everyone has a purpose in this life and that you will be blessed in abundance if you follow that purpose. ...
A. 26 September 2007: What is a man? Under the sky a swan, in its hardships a stone, in the life guest as a spring rain..Purpose of life, guess does not mean you have to do something, becouse YOU have to, and authentic form of life is the most personal one.See what yours ... (read in full...)
Is it really possible to be in love with someone but put all your energy into something else (studying) ?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for 3 yrs. He has been in college for the past year and has 1 more year to go and it has been stressful on the relationship with his very busy schedule. I love him dearly and up until now I thought he felt the same...
A. 26 September 2007: yes it is possible and even happens! My bf has the same impression, but when study i get so difocused myself if spending much time out adn with somebody, especily if one has strict deadlines like me!
I do love him, but once-twice a week is enou... (read in full...)
I know I'm terrible at trusting men, but this time do I have a reason to be concerned?
Q. I have a terrible time trusting men. Even when I meet a man that seems good on the surface, I'm always looking for the hidden strings. My current b/f has done a few things that were "shady" in my opinion -- he was flirting with a friend of mine ...
A. 24 September 2007: Well, cheking ones mails and phones might be interesteng but it s surely strenuous, and im sure (unless have nothinh better to do) You ll get soon fed up with that!
Think the best way is to ask him openly what he is planning, and if you dont want... (read in full...)
My boyfriend always wakes me up when he is horny. Is this normal?
Q. my bf always wakes me up when he is horny is this normal ?? ...
A. 22 September 2007: Its normal but you should get some sleep somethimes too;)... (read in full...)
I'm lucky to get sex once a month and even then the deal she makes of it makes me feel dirty, and as a whole I get the impression she appreciates nothing I do...
Q. I'll give a basic outline of how i feel the relationship is going at the moment and then ask the opinion about it: I always put myself out to make sure she is happy, i go round to her place (we live seperately) pretty much all the time, whereas ...
A. 21 September 2007: Or she doesnt love you at all, but needs you at the moment (to have a place to come at night or after work, to talk and laugh with somebody)... truly manipulative manner ... Or she is unsatisfyed with something of ur relationship. Third option ... (read in full...)
Just friends with benefits?
Q. Just friends with Benefits? I am new to this kind of thing, but I needed a real third party perspective on a questionable situation. Bottom line is, I like my friend. We are both in our early 20’s and have been friends since freshman year of...
A. 17 September 2007: It sounds to me as friend with benefits, but it doesn not have to mean it.You have to discover by urself. Maybe you should talk to him, why hiding ur felleng? If he doesnt accept at least you ll know where ure standing
Thats just my way of look... (read in full...)
Is sex really a part of a relationship?
Q. sex?is that part of relationship?...
A. 17 September 2007: Oh yeah, be sure it is... (read in full...)
I was drunk and had sex with my neighbor, I am not sure if it was rape. What should I do?
Q. ok, not too long ago, i was home alone and my family was out on vacation. well one night, i got drunk by myself and then i heard the doorbell, i opened it thinkin it was one of my friends came to visit me. but it was my neighbor, my 58 year old ...
A. 13 September 2007: Could b difficult , but i will and probably if u consider legal action the jury will put it as a Bad decision not rape!
I would sugeest not to take it so disatrous, had happened to me also,drunk and having sex with a man that i do not like(not ofte... (read in full...)
My family doesn't accept the man I love because of his lack of education. What should I do?
Q. I am so in luv with a guy that i know for over 4 years,he has a good job nd he is perfect,the prob is that he is not as educated as i am,nd because of that my parents are refusing to see nd meet him,they think he has no future at all!What should i ...
A. 13 September 2007: If you are determined and know what you want, and if they see that u re happy, They will come to terms, and accept him!
They will object but if you show them a clear signals that It IS HE who you want to be with (now or after) dont know, they will... (read in full...)
I want an open relationship! Any experienced people, please let me know how you got on?
Q. Hi I have been with my guy 4 years I was with my ex 17 years Im now in my 30s with 3 children. My guy always likes the women to instagate sex ,make the first move and dress up stocking etc which I didnt mind at first but I get fed up with the havi...
A. 13 September 2007: I agre totaly with the male reader. Sex is crucial sigh of ones relationship developement. I m open in sex, and even i do have some problems finding partner that will shari the same with me, i think im quite succesfull.Just tell him what ur sexual ... (read in full...)
Does it make me a bad person to do something for myself for once?
Q. What are peoples reactions to thinking of number one. I have spent my whole life making others happy over myself, being walked all over, let down, used and a human punchbag (verbally) for peoples problems. Does it make me a bad person to do so...
A. 13 September 2007: It doesnt matter what means doing something for urself, YOU should Do it! I everydoby do his/her thing, firstly for oneself than fot others I can imagine better world than we have. I v really been where re you, actualy im now in that position too. ... (read in full...)
I'm quite well off but am I wrong to like a woman that has manners to offer to pay her way on dates?
Q. I'm on the dating scene.I'm quite well-off, but I hate women who are after a free ride. I know as the man I'm expected to pay,initially at least. But am I wrong to judge a woman because she doesn't have the manners to even offer to pay her way? It ...
A. 11 September 2007: If im asked when somebody calls me for dinner i presume he is going to pay the bill, the first time!! And why not? When i ask somebody for dinner, than i expect and im prepared o pay the bill.Cannot see the reason why u re annoyed...Its generaly ... (read in full...)
I keep getting bouts of depression. Whats wrong with me?
Q. For the past year and a half I have been through a lot of mental torture as I like to call it. But the thing is it is for no apparant reason or at least I think it isn't. In 2005 I left school and went to college, shortly after that I got a job...
A. 11 September 2007: yea, Im still looking that damn pill to ease my will!!
If You got to any helpful solution please be nice to share it!
Thats it... (read in full...)
I think I messed up on the second date. Tell me what you think?
Q. Just wondering here... If I were to really screw up our second date so she no longer talks to me (not sure what I did exactly, but I know I did something wrong) do you think there is anything I could say to get a fresh start? Our last date was 3 ...
A. 10 September 2007: Well, seems you screw up! But it isnt exclusively about calling her a wrong name, that i can presume was a season to other things! You havent detaled ur date, and i have no clua what was going actualy. But ignoring can mean 2 things:1.She is simply ... (read in full...)
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