He can't provide a stable environment for us!
Q. me and my boyfriend have been together for 5 years and have a son together. i love him with all of my heart but he is very lazy and demanding. i want to be with him but he cant provide a stable enviornment for me and my son. i been talking to an old ...
A. 26 August 2009: What the hell do you mean what should you do, Kick that bum to the curb if he won't get off his layzi ass to provide for his own blood then really what do you need him for. Honey you are waiting for him to change while he is waiting for you to pay ... (read in full...)
Am I being "hoeish?
Q. 0k.. I just started high school and i want an boyfriend but its too many Boys trying to talk to me at once. I am currently talking to 3 boys and i wanted to know if i am being "HOEISH" because i dont know who i want?...
A. 26 August 2009: I don't think you are doing anything wrong as long as you are not having physical contact with these boys and you are thinking of dating one of them I don't see how you would think that was hoeish now if your fooling around or having sex with three ... (read in full...)
Married but in touch with the ex
Q. Alright so,I am married... and i've been chatting, texting and talking on the phone with my ex boyfriend. i haven't seen him in 10 years. When we talk he makes me feel so special, he said he never forgot about me and that he has feeling towards me ...
A. 26 August 2009: You are having a emotional affair with your ex of course he is telling you what you want to hear everything you guy's do is fun and fresh, add the drama of a divorce and see how fast that sucker run's you need to stop cheating on your spouse. If he ... (read in full...)
I think she loves her boyfriend and me too and I can't make sense of this!
Q. This is really complicated and hard to do as missing important details might get me the wrong advice but here goes. . . . Well I started seeing a girl that I was working with we were both involved with other people at first we were just great ...
A. 26 August 2009: Look babe no one needs the drama in there life you deserve to be happy and if she can't make it clear what she wants to do move on you can go nut's by yourself you don't need her adding to the drama. When you have to ask what to do, then you pretty ... (read in full...)
I caught my husband cheating by text. Will I scare him away by being too needy?
Q. I recently discovered my husband has been cheating by texting and a bit more (but no sex as far as I know). He finished it when I found out and acted full of remorse. This has made me very insecure and I keep feeling I need to gain his approval...
A. 26 August 2009: Yes you have a problem when you can't be yourself, and free to relax then there is something wrong. He should except you the way you are and honey if he really wants to leave he will, No one can make a person stay with them if they are determine to ... (read in full...)
He proposed the 'no contact' rule but he violates it
Q. My ex when we broke up asked me to stop texting him so we would both recover fast. I agreed to this and tried my best. The thing is, we still remained in contact because there were things we needed to return to each other. I told him, if indeed h...
A. 26 August 2009: I'am glad you don't chase him, You do what you want, and move on. He is playing games and gets off on the attention you give him when he calls. Being that you still have feelings for him I know you feel happy to hear from him, but you can't move on ... (read in full...)
Did my girlfriend plan this baby? Can I trust her?
Q. Hello everyone. Im really not sure how to put this really but my gf and i are expecting a baby in early feb, but the thing is im becoming more worried about this as when we both found out i didn't want a child as really we havent been out that lon...
A. 22 August 2009: Why are you trying to blame her for being pregnant it takes two and if you really didn't want a child you should have worn protection. You have every right to want a DNA test and you should let her know that a.s.a.p. She has probably said you didn't ... (read in full...)
He proposed the 'no contact' rule but he violates it
Q. My ex when we broke up asked me to stop texting him so we would both recover fast. I agreed to this and tried my best. The thing is, we still remained in contact because there were things we needed to return to each other. I told him, if indeed h...
A. 22 August 2009: I agree with Libra 1963, you keep playing into this game he has created, he has you jumping through hoops to deal with him. Honey there isn't that much business that should take phone call after phone call. You need to play hard to get and we bet he ... (read in full...)
I get so frustrated with the way his daughter treats me! And all I'm trying to do is help take care of her!
Q. Ok well I have been with my boyfriend for a year and a half...he has a 5 yr old daughter from previous relationship and i have a 3 yr old son from a previous relationship. We all live together and his brother stays with us too. His daughter rarely ...
A. 22 August 2009: You are being a little to sensitive about this child, hell if everyone around you feel they can take better care of her then let them. You need to talk to your bf and let him know what is going on. Maybe it would be a good idea to put the brother ... (read in full...)
How can I get rid of her insecurities and strenghten our relationship?
Q. Hi there, I have been with my girlfriend now for ten months - we have all the makings of a great relationship - we have mutual trust, care about eachother, have shared interests, same morals, differences which interest each other, sexual ...
A. 20 August 2009: Honey you can't fix her insecurities she has to do that herself your wasting your time if you think you can change her so you either have to except her the way she is or move on sad as that is to say.... (read in full...)
I'm sexualy attracted to other girls more than my girlfriend. Is this normal?
Q. Ok so I need help, I'm 16 years old, I have a girlfriend that I love very much and don't get me wrong she turns me on, I mean I sometime I jerk off thinking of her. I mean when I'm with her I watch her when she walks and even when we're in church I ...
A. 20 August 2009: I think it is your age that makes this more natural for you, but i do think most people are attracted to other people you always want what you can't have. This doesn't mean you don't love your girlfriend and really has nothing to do with her if you ... (read in full...)
Does anyone have tips on minding unruly children?
Q. Hello this isn’t a romantic question but im hoping someone out there might have the answer! I am going to be babysitting my boyfriends brothers for a week. My boyfriends lives somewhere else and will be there if I need him but not all the time. The ...
A. 20 August 2009: My advice is not to babysit if the kids are that out of control because the 13yr old doesn't understand right from wrong I guess. Maybe you should ask the parents what they do when he acts up and then do like they do because he would be use to that ... (read in full...)
Do men ever step up after leaving pregnant girlfriends?
Q. Why do men leave their girlfriends when they're pregnant? Do men ever man up? has anyone experienced this? I'm interested in hearing from males....
A. 20 August 2009: They usually do after they get over themselves, A real man will do the right thing off the bat, by that I mean supporting there child in every way. You don't have to be together to be good parents unfortunately a lot of folks don't realize that and ... (read in full...)
Stange lump something to worry about?
Q. Warning you now this is going to sound gross but I just wanted to ask on here incase its nothing because I'd rather not have to show this to a doctor or anyone. A random sort of pea sized lump has grown in my anus, most of the time I can't fee...
A. 15 August 2009: You should see a dr a.s.a.p but until then you can buy over the counter stuff to see if the swelling will go down so you can at least be comfortable. My uncle use to soak in a hot tub to ease the pain and make him a little more comfortable you might ... (read in full...)
Six months ago I was warm and affectionate but now I'm cold. How can I change back?
Q. Ok hi. So, my whole life i've never had anger in me. I would feel sadness and joy but it was almost impossible to make me angry. I have always forgiven easily and quickly, and truely forgotten. I had hope in people and saw the good in them. I ...
A. 15 August 2009: Well honey i wish you could go out and yell and all your problems would be solved. You sound depressed and life isn't easy so maybe you should see about getting on some medication to help you through the day to day just try to relax and enjoy life. ... (read in full...)
Dating 6 months how do I approach b/f to tell him I want to have a baby?
Q. Well this is my first post here so I am not sure how I should ask this and I also know peoples opinions differ but what I am wanting to ask is how would I go about asking my bf how he would feel if I said I wanted a baby.....weve only been together ...
A. 14 August 2009: You need to get into this with him before you get anymore involved than you already are. He may want a baby too but 6 months isn't really long enough to say I want to be bothered with you for the rest of my life. Ask him how would he feel about ... (read in full...)
Why would she want to have sex with me with a penis that size?
Q. Ok. I'm really embarrassed. Have been all my life. It's just i have a really small penis. Its 10cm erect, and I HATE myself because of it. I recently got my first girlfriend, and i have done 'stuff' for her, but she hasn't for me, because i keep ...
A. 14 August 2009: Honey you have to suck it up and just deal with what god has given you, yeah size might matter to some but it is how you work it and that she can get off on what you have. You can always go and buy a bigger dick for ya'll to fool around with so that ... (read in full...)
Vaginal sex just isnt what it used to be for me. What could be wrong?
Q. Hello, I have a sex question about a problem I haven't heard about before. I used to be able to do kegels and feel my gspot intensely tingle and become extremely aroused and wet within seconds, this no longer happens. In fact, where I used to feel ...
A. 14 August 2009: Go talk to your dr. If you attracted to your mate then you should be feeling stimulated so it is not a mental issue. It must be physical they can probably give you some medication to get you back on track. This is the first time I have heard of this ... (read in full...)
Six months ago I was warm and affectionate but now I'm cold. How can I change back?
Q. Ok hi. So, my whole life i've never had anger in me. I would feel sadness and joy but it was almost impossible to make me angry. I have always forgiven easily and quickly, and truely forgotten. I had hope in people and saw the good in them. I ...
A. 14 August 2009: Ok let me get this straight you wont talk to a professional, but you are willing to take our advice I guess its because we can't look you in the eye . I was once like you, I trusted everyone and anything they said until I started getting into major ... (read in full...)
I'm 15 and addicted to porn
Q. Hi i'm a 15 year old girl and i am addicted to porn! i dont know what to do! everytime i am alone or someone is downstairs i always turn to porn! i always masturbate while doing it. i am really afraid that i will grow up to be one of those bad nas...
A. 14 August 2009: Honey you feel guilty because we are raised to believe anything with sex in it is wrong. Everyone does it don't worry about it but if you feel you may do something to someone then you should try to find a male figure that you trust to talk
t... (read in full...)
How can I get her back she won't even talk to me
Q. it started out i was working for a golf course with a couple of friends of mine, and there was this girl i found quite attractive so i would see how it went through the year. a few weeks in, my friends were telling me "man you should really go for ...
A. 14 August 2009: There is nothing you can do but move on she isn't interested in a relationship with you and has made that known what can you do why keep getting rejected especially if things were good like you claim. Look at it this way she is being smart and ... (read in full...)
Will this regret ever fade away?
Q. I’m 28 and newly married. I love my wife and the life that I have with her except that I am riddled with regret over missed opportunities. I can’t go a minute without wishing I had sowed my oats before getting married. I never had the desire t...
A. 14 August 2009: You really need to get a hold of yourself. Look buddy you are full of crap what you are looking for is a excuse to do your thing, when you should have done that before you got married. Now you want to resent her for living her life to bring her to ... (read in full...)
I don't want him back but want him to be their for our child
Q. My exboyfriend and I separated, it was not on good terms either, but it was an on off relationsip so I wasn't concerned as I thought this was for the best. However three months later I found out I was pregnant with his child. He does not care for it ...
A. 14 August 2009: I can hear that you would like for him to accept the child. Right now he is so angry with you for dumping him he is taking his anger out on the child which is never good, He should be ashamed what you have to do is stop looking for him to man up ... (read in full...)
Is this one of the tsigns of my relationship falling apart?
Q. Hi, guys. I'm an Asian gay man, 37 year old who's been living in the states for 3 years. And my partner is American guy who's 60 year old, divorced and has 4 grown-up children. I posted some question here about my relationship before. It was a...
A. 14 August 2009: I'am no expert but it seems to me that your relationship has alot of problems that you need to address. 1st if you aren't being shown any respect and your not getting anything out of the relationship then you need let him go. 2nd If you are not ... (read in full...)
I thought I was going to be engaged by Christmas, now my whole life is turned up side down!
Q. hey there! I have been in a 4 year relationship, we have talked about getting married and being together on many different occasions. We are each others first loves, I have dated other guys prior to dating him, but he had not. Recently he broke up w...
A. 13 August 2009: He just isn't ready to marry, would you have rather he marry you then decide he didn't want to be married. You guy's are young and he did the right thing now he should have broken up with you before sleeping with the other girl. I don't the other ... (read in full...)
How do I end this affair with a married man?
Q. So, I have been seeing a married man. Didn't find out until the third time we met that he was married, because something was telling me there was something not rite. We usually meet up about once a week for a few hours then go our separate ways. ...
A. 13 August 2009: Are you serious why are you on this high and mighty trip, you said yourself you found out he was married on your third meeting which to me was still enough time to not get involved. Now your upset because he can't get away to be with you well I ... (read in full...)
Men, please help me? Is watching tranny porn normal?
Q. Almost a year ago this month we met. He was obsessed with my sex!! Wanted it all the time, everyday every night....now he is always tired when he comes home from work. Or he complains about how it sucks getting old his body is out of shape. I left ...
A. 13 August 2009: You know he has issues and you don't need us to tell you that. What bothers me is you left him and then found out he was watching this type of porn which is illegal and then you still went back to him why..... I wouldn't want him anywhere around me ... (read in full...)
Why does unbelievable sex not drive a man to pursue it again and again?
Q. I've known this guy for a few months and he called me out of the blue. I go over to his house, we hang out all night and day, and have sex 11 times, I repeat, 11 times!!! He goes on to tell me he thinks that this is the best sex he has ever had. ...
A. 13 August 2009: Maybe you gave it up to soon, either way so what pick up the phone and ask him why is acting funny and why isn't your relationship the same. He may have only been looking for sex, you also have to look at it like this, Maybe he is protecting the ... (read in full...)
He keeps trying to get in contact with me!
Q. My ex left me for his colleague last year. Until now, we are friends (which I regret). I could not say no since I know that he have helped me a lot during my hard times. Recently, he said that his GF (the one whom he left me for) has moved to his ...
A. 13 August 2009: I think in this case you got what you wanted, now you want to contact him just to explain why you aren't talking to him anymore. That seems like a stupid idea to me, he apparently has no regard for your feelings if he find it necessary to constantly ... (read in full...)
He wants every girl but me, yet he spends all his spare time with me!
Q. I met a guy just over a year ago i was 25 and he was 22 and it was great at first, there was lots of physical stuff and affection everything seemed like it was going well. Gradually over the course of about 2 months the sex almost completely stopped ...
A. 13 August 2009: You are making excuses he is using you for a happy home life while he is still able to go and play the field. I can understand you guy's are roommates but why in the hell do you have a joint bank account. You need to find you another place to stay ... (read in full...)
It upsets me that even NOW she is still saying things behind my back!
Q. After my boyfriend and I broke up, I went to my best friend for comfort. She helped me, but there were times when she was tired of hearing me sob about him, so she didn't console me as much. During this time, my boyfriend started talking to her to ...
A. 13 August 2009: Honey it is quite apparent she isn't really your friend after all. Sometimes you can't tell a person all of your relationship business because they will use it against you, or it is a possibility that she may start to like your man. You should have ... (read in full...)
I feel as though marrying her was a huge mistake. Help!
Q. I'm a 39 yrs of age, a barber and married. I've done 5 years in prison. I moved to sc and met a young lady and as of this year married her. at times I feel as if that's been the biggest mistake of my life. she's very demanding, controlling, and ...
A. 11 August 2009: You need to move on and divorce her, Howe are you helping the situation by constantly cheating on her that's probably why she is treating you so badly. You cannot blame her when you knew your feelings for her had changed before you guy's got ... (read in full...)
Everything's broken...
Q. Hello, Just to warn you, this is a long one. Bsically I am in a weird place right now, I was with my ex girlfriend since the age of 16, we spent over three years together,some happy and shit times. We were both each other's fist love and sexua...
A. 11 August 2009: Why do you want to get back together when all ya'll do is argue and say hateful things to each other. I think she is right to take it slow maybe you guy's should try being friends for right now and then take it from there. Do you know how exhausting ... (read in full...)
He said he would be with me if they ever broke up, but I haven't heard from him. What should I do?
Q. So there's this guy that i've been liking for quite a bit now and he was the year above me at school, although we've both left now. And i met up with him and everything was great but on that same night after i'd gone his ex told him she wanted him ...
A. 11 August 2009: I can understand what you are saying, but my question to you is why are you waiting on him just so you can be his rebound girl. When and if you hook up with him you want it to be because it was meant to be not because he made you a promise.
I thin... (read in full...)
Am I gay if I like anal sex?
Q. she was on her period so we had anal sex, it was all good but afterwards she asked if she could bum me, i've always wondered so i let her ( she used a strap on ) It felt so amazing, i started thinking afterwards, does this mean i could be gay?...
A. 11 August 2009: No you are not gay you are just freaky honey, Don't worry so much, now if you do it with a man then you are probably Bi at most but since you have a girlfriend this doesn't mean you are gay. The only problem you have is dealing with your girlfriend ... (read in full...)
It ended with me looking like the bad guy! I feel so down..help!
Q. I was in a relationship for one year and then we broke up and we were dating for 2 years, but we were not in a relationship. for the past two years he stopped calling me less, he said he did not feel 100 percent sure about our relationship but we ...
A. 11 August 2009: you keep falling into the same ol drama why do you feel the need to keep apologizing to him. You are the only one trippen so you need to move on and do like you said you were. You need to concentrate on the future and not on the pass.... (read in full...)
Caught in the middle between Mom and Dad...help!
Q. my parents got divorced a few years ago, and my dad is getting remarried . I live with my mum and everytime I go see my dad she will make little jokes when I get back home, she always says little smart ass jokes like "oh your dads wife" and laughs ...
A. 8 August 2009: You need to speak up tell your dad what you have to go through just to see him, Maybe you can ask him if you can stay with him if she keeps this behavior up. Your mom needs to grow up and you need to check her, what is the worse that can happen she ... (read in full...)
Too many bad things have happened and I don't know how to deal with it all
Q. Right where do I begin... A couple of months ago my brother fell into a severe depression which led to him committing suicide by standing in front of train, 2 weeks after my mum sadly became ill with a perforated bowel and had to be admitted into...
A. 8 August 2009: I am sorry for your losses because that is alot for anyone to handle and I feel you are alone. Honey you have to turn to your friends. I suggest you get some therapy so you can all of your emotions off your chest. May I suggest you try to find a ... (read in full...)
He comes, he goes...how do I deal with this odd relationship?
Q. me and my boyfriend have been together for a year and 3 months and we have got a 5 month old baby but we keep arguing really bad and he moved out but then i begged him to come home but now hes back i want him to leave but if he leaves i know i will ...
A. 8 August 2009: You need to finally decide what you want to do, you want him to leave because he is probably doing stuff to get on your nerves, then you want him to come back because you are scared of being alone especially with a small child and he may go out and ... (read in full...)
It ended with me looking like the bad guy! I feel so down..help!
Q. I was in a relationship for one year and then we broke up and we were dating for 2 years, but we were not in a relationship. for the past two years he stopped calling me less, he said he did not feel 100 percent sure about our relationship but we ...
A. 8 August 2009: Why do you give a rats ass what he thinks of you after he has treated you badly in the first place. Girl get a grip and move on he is a piece of crap and will continue to be he did you a favor. You are spending all your time thinking about him and ... (read in full...)
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