Married but have found a FWB relationship
Q. I have been married for MANY MANY years. Last year, my husband and I decided to separate, but to stay together as room mates for while due to finances. I found a married man and started an affair with him. My husband decided that he wanted to stay ...
A. 28 July 2009: I am not going to judge you, we all have are reason's for the things that we do as long as you have thought about what you will lose if you continue on with this affair. I feel where you are coming from you have needs and if you have tried talking ... (read in full...)
I'm starting to feel like a caged animal in this relationship!
Q. My partner and I have been together for almost a year now, when we first started dating we use to go out heaps. Now we both work during the week the only time we get to see each other is on weekends. We hardly go out anywhere and he never spends m...
A. 28 July 2009: I hope it works out for you sweetie but I can't see how anything will change unless you change it. When a person does things that turn you off it is hard sometime to turn it back on and after so long it isn't even worth it. I hope he straightens out ... (read in full...)
The guy I had an affair with has been cheating on his current girlfriend, so I sent an anonymous email. Do you think he might finally have learned his lesson?
Q. Hi I had an affair with a guy that works with me.We were friends for 2 years,then we started to have sex for 1 year then we stopped. Now we are friends again for 2 years. His last girlfriend left him because he cheated on her. Then he cheated ...
A. 23 July 2009: Am I on one, but doesn't it take two who are you to judge him when you have been sleeping with him knowing he had someone at home. Could be that you are just jealous and mad because he didn't pursue more of a relationship with you. You have stuck ... (read in full...)
He left us for his internet woman. I need to move on, but cant!
Q. My husband of 15 years left me and our 2 sons for a woman he met on the internet. He walks around and acts like nothing is wrong, like this is the Reba show. I was totally devastated. When i do talk to him he just blames me for the way our ...
A. 23 July 2009: I'am sure once he start's to have problems with her he will be right back on your door step. You have to stay strong and find ways to spend your time until you are over him. It is not that he isn't there it's the way he went about it and now he is ... (read in full...)
Please help! Only 15 and I think I'm pregnant!
Q. Help please I think I might be pregnant and Im only 15. Im on the pill and last month I had sex with my bofriend (didnt use a condom) I was on the pill but about a week ago my period was late then came and when I stopped taking the pill, I started ...
A. 23 July 2009: Well the only way you will know for sure is to get tested we can't help you on that one. I will say that i was three months pregnant already when I found out. I did'nt have the usual signs either. I was waiting for my period to come and I had a ... (read in full...)
Married but have found a FWB relationship
Q. I have been married for MANY MANY years. Last year, my husband and I decided to separate, but to stay together as room mates for while due to finances. I found a married man and started an affair with him. My husband decided that he wanted to stay ...
A. 23 July 2009: You need to talk to your husband and ask him what would he suggest you do and then take it from there. You might be surprised by what he tells you and he may eventually agree to let you see other people and this way you don't have to lie and cheat. ... (read in full...)
How do I stop hurting my boyfriend..I really don't want to be with him anymore
Q. Over the past year or so, my bf and 5 years and I have had 3 of "those" talks. Each time it was about the same thing - whether I still want to be with him or not as I was not showing it. Each time I have assured him that I do love him and want to be ...
A. 23 July 2009: Sorry for your situation, Maybe you should try writing him a letter and explaining how you feel and that you wont be able to continue a relationship with him. If he is making it this hard for you to get out, then he knows what he is doing and he is ... (read in full...)
I'm starting to feel like a caged animal in this relationship!
Q. My partner and I have been together for almost a year now, when we first started dating we use to go out heaps. Now we both work during the week the only time we get to see each other is on weekends. We hardly go out anywhere and he never spends m...
A. 23 July 2009: all that you are saying is perfectly true, I myself find myself in a similar situation right now and I have decided I want a real man and not a boy that runs to his mother for everything and is not willing to stand up on his own two feet. All yo... (read in full...)
Long long story short, rekindle or put out the flame? Please help!
Q. Me and my boyfriend broke up 2 months ago after dating for 14 months. It seemed right we both, yes even myself at the time, decided maybe friends would be better, the spark just wasn't there anymore. It was a lot harder then i thought it would be ...
A. 22 July 2009: I totally understand what you are saying, sometimes when people are together for so long they get so wrapped in each others lives and then it seems that the fun isn't there anymore because of all the drama and responsiblity. You guy's are having fun ... (read in full...)
I'm starting to feel like a caged animal in this relationship!
Q. My partner and I have been together for almost a year now, when we first started dating we use to go out heaps. Now we both work during the week the only time we get to see each other is on weekends. We hardly go out anywhere and he never spends m...
A. 22 July 2009: You need to sit down with him and explain how you feel and how bored you are getting with the relationship. It is sad you have to ask permission to visit on the weekends he is sounding like he is just a selfish person, apparently he doesn't think ... (read in full...)
He had sex with his ex behind my back!
Q. I've been together with this man for a year and a half. He is divorced and has a son. His ex wife called me to say that he was seeing her. I didn't believe her, later he admitted being with her twice. I called her to confirm that. She told me they ...
A. 22 July 2009: Honey it sounds to me like is playing the both of you. He has made it seem to you like he confessed so you would believe whatever he told you like you are now. Of course he will cheat again because by you constantly talking to her you have made it a ... (read in full...)
Do I make the next move or move on?
Q. I ended my relationship because he started to distant himself from me then turned around and said that we was never together in the first place which is a lie as we did stuff that most normal couples would do, we spent most our time together then he ...
A. 22 July 2009: Now if he has already told you that when you thought you were dating you weren't and is making it sound like it was all in your head why would you want to date him again. He probably left and ended up cheating on you and it was his guilt that made ... (read in full...)
What is going on? My gut says there's someone else.
Q. Im confused. my girlfriend out of nowhere started trying to avoid me like the plague. she says its cuz shes worried she is pregnant and is hormonal towards me. its shady to me. she hasnt started period but every pregnancy test is negative. i ...
A. 22 July 2009: well the only way you can find out if she is pregnant for sure is to take her to the doctor, unfortunately if she doesnt let you know what is going on you are out in the cold. Maybe the stress from being bi-polar is causing her period not to come. ... (read in full...)
He's going to be sentenced to 2 years, what do I do?
Q. Hey guys! About 6 months ago, i got talkin to a guy who i used to have a crush on! we got on really well and we had such a laugh together! he kept tellin me he liked me but he had a court case coming up and so he thought it would be unfair to ask...
A. 10 July 2009: Ok he might be innocent and so now he is doing 4 years well i would say you should just keep it friendly and be there for him as a friend without feeling obligated to deal with him or do for him . I was in a similar situation and after he was gone ... (read in full...)
He's in a dilemma with his ex-wife, daughter and myself
Q. Dear Cupid, I have been dating this man for about 2 months but we have known each other for about 7 months. When I initially asked him out he said yes but then said he was already seeing someone but it wasn't serious. He said he didn't know what to ...
A. 10 July 2009: This s.o.b. is full of it wake up and smell the coffee are you serious he doesnt have to go back to her but then he says i hope it doesnt work out with the wife you have got to be slow to accept any of these bogus excuses that he is throwing out you ... (read in full...)
He tells me he loves me, we text all the time, but he never makes a effort to come see me!
Q. My exboyfriend txt me every day. We txt talk for hours at a time. He tells me he still loves me and he made a big mistake leaving. He says he wants to get back together but yet he never makes an effort to come and see me. He lives only 35 miles ...
A. 10 July 2009: I have to agree with the polls on this one if he really wanted you he would make a effort i dont see what visiting you for a few days has to do with building a life and getting married he is probably keeping you as back up if things dont work out in ... (read in full...)
How do I make him forget about the lovers in my past?
Q. when me and my boyfriend started going out he asked me how many people id had sex with before him and i lied and said it was only 4 when its really 9. (he was a virgin before me) recently he found out the truth and said he still loves me but he ...
A. 10 July 2009: Well this is unfortunate that this has happen to you and i am sorry he cant accept you for who you are now you dont have to explain anything to him about your past that was before him he is not in love with the real you he is in love with who he ... (read in full...)
I'm fed up with my husband's friends!
Q. Hi aunts, My heart is breaking.. This is a long one.. My husband and I of two years are on the brink of another seperation. We had two before only for a couple of days each and since April he's been home and we've been ok.. The problem with us ...
A. 9 July 2009: It sounds to me like he is very immature and that it would be best for you and your son to cut his worthless ass loose if he wants to stop living a lie and be with his drunk friends then so be it why should you stand in his way. What he is saying is ... (read in full...)
I'm having trouble coping with these images of the attack.
Q. hey .. im a 15 year old girl and i jus wana no if people think im strong and if im coping? i hav been attacked before! and for the second time i got attacked agen .. although i got away .. i saw my friend get stabbed .. i actually saw the knife g...
A. 8 July 2009: You need to really get some professional help from a victims agency they will know what you are going through and how to help you or you need to speak with someone you trust about your fears and how you can live with this hope you dont mind me ... (read in full...)
Our relationship doesn't seem to be going anywhere - how long do I stay?
Q. ok so i have a boyfriend , since is summer we havent seen each other since the last day of school. he asked me out like 5 days ago and its been kinda going ok but lately it's like he dont dont give a fuck. excuse the language. but anyways i have onl...
A. 8 July 2009: Why would you call a boy that has flaked out on you he is probably enjoying his summer while you sitting up worried about what he is doing you are to young to put your eggs in one basket enjoy your summer and be a teenager if he feels as strongly as ... (read in full...)
I've fallen in love with another girl - but I know my family expects me to marry a Muslim man! What do we do?
Q. I've got myself in a right mess and don't know what to do. Sorry if this is so long.. I'm female,19 and muslim. My family are religious, and i do believe in some aspects of my faith but i don't really go to mosque much and my parents don't pr...
A. 8 July 2009: Well you are in a pickle arent you i would say you should tell your parents you just arent ready to get married yet because you want to find yourself first and go to school stuff like that this way it will take the pressure off of them trying to ... (read in full...)
How do I get my dad to like my boyfriend? And is this relationship illegal or immoral? I'm almost 18, he's 26.
Q. i am a 17 year old girl, i turn 18 in 3 weeks. my boyfried is 26. we love eachother very much and things are going really well between us... however, some of my family, especially my parents dont approve and say it is morally wrong and some of my ...
A. 8 July 2009: There really isnt anything that you can do right now accept try to have a healthy relationship your dad isnt going to change his mind until you are of age and prove that this man isnt just using you, If you seriously think about it he is kind of ... (read in full...)
He said he couldn't let me in right now. What does that mean?
Q. My ex and I have been exes since early winter, but we were still seeing each other when I got pregnant in January. Our baby was stillborn 2 weeks ago, and I think that brought us a little closer because we were having some really ROUGH times at the ...
A. 8 July 2009: Why dont you know how he feels about you? You guy's share something that know one around you knows about but i cant blame him for being scared of getting hurt again and then the loss of a child on top of that is just to much to bare. give him time. ... (read in full...)
Step brother lover...
Q. This is actually quite hard for me to do, i am and have been deeply in love with my step brother for over 20 years. our parents were together when we were three till 13. he never lived with us and only stopped over once a month. our parents had kids ...
A. 4 July 2009: You need to get some help it sounds like you have some serious mental/self esteem issues because how can you be in love with someone for 20 yrs and you only seen them once a month are you serious honey you are in love with a fantasy and he played ... (read in full...)
Friends' gossip ruined our chances to be together...
Q. Well I am a 17 year old girl and in March of 2009 I Met this wonderful guy. Everything was great. He told me that he wanted me to be the mother of his children and he liked me more than any other girl. Then he started listening to his friends who ...
A. 4 July 2009: now i must be reading wrong what the hell is going on he is choosing to listen to his friends I didnt hear you say ya'll are a couple so why does he care what you did or didnt do you need to check his friends b/c it could be a case of them being ... (read in full...)
What should I do about my husband?
Q. I have a big problem. For some reason, my husband won't tell anyone he is married. We have only been married a month. He really hurt my feelings as there is a wedding photo of us on the wall and I noticed this morning it was hidden behind som...
A. 4 July 2009: Why would he be hiding the fact that you are married and not telling anyone something is wrong i would say your marriage is off to a terrible start maybe he embrassed by something that he has not discussed with you I would just confront him and put ... (read in full...)
What can I do to cum sooner?
Q. What can I do to cum sooner? I'm 52 gf is 34 I take cialus and still most times can't cum in her she has a great pussy, help me if maybe I don't jack off or have sex for 3 months I might cum in a few min but otherwise no! Help!...
A. 4 July 2009: What are you talking about if her pussy is so good then shouldnt you be coming faster than slower you have me stumped on this one maybe you should just jack off , that way you can take as long as u like to cum and then you can fool around with her ... (read in full...)
Can a selfish person change at all??
Q. Hi everyone, I have been seeing a woman for the last 7 months. This woman has a had a hard life with her family, having been thrown out of home by her mother at 18 and forced to pay for her studies, finding a place to live and making a career ...
A. 4 July 2009: What is it that you seem to love so much, Why are you so against her visiting with her family how much time do you need i am sorry but half of your letters sounds like you just want her all to yourself and dont feel like you should share her with ... (read in full...)
Was this really nothing, or is she the most ridiculous person ever? Why is she like this?
Q. I don't know if this is a bigger deal that it should be? My girlfriend is kind of shy, but also kind of picky. People tease her about both these things sometimes, even I do. I think she might have a complex, but I honestly don't understand why s...
A. 4 July 2009: Your a jerk only because like she said she cant win either way why cant she just be who she is if you cant deal with her being picky, or passive then you need to keep it moving. She should have sent the food back but didnt feel it was a big deal and ... (read in full...)
I am going CRAZY. I don't want to just let go and regret it.
Q. I know this is probably a common question but I haven't been able to pinpoint a situation that I feel I can completely relate to. I have been dating my girlfriend for about 6 months now (I'm 19 and she's 24). The first half of our relation...
A. 4 July 2009: Maybe you need to give her space she is probably nervous about the age difference and is trying to figure out what she really wants to do . You need to do you and let things with her fall where they maybe because you are young why are talking ... (read in full...)
I don't know what to make of all this, can you shed some light on it?
Q. I don't understand what's going on. My boyfriend has a few issues with confidence and things of this nature. Recently they have become a massive problem and he said that he may need a break, but he doesn't even know if it would help him. So at the ...
A. 4 July 2009: Apparently he isnt ready for the responsibility of a sexual relatoionship and maybe now feels guilty you need to move on with your life he has issues and needs to see a shrink or maybe he is really gay and just didnt know it or was in denial ... (read in full...)
Given up friendship for love.
Q. I am 21 years old and im dating my best friend's ex girlfriend. I knew for a long time that my best friend was cheating on her but never knew enough. Fortunately i fell in love with her but was in a dilemma of keeping my friend's trust or saving ...
A. 4 July 2009: Well you made a choice and it sounds like it has paid off for you if you have a great girl and relationship so why are you worried about what your loser friend thinks he apparently didnt want to treat her right and if he was cheating he kinda ... (read in full...)
Are his feelings still true?
Q. a few months ago my boyfriend ended our relationship. Hes in the army and he was away for 8 months. He came back and within a few days he text me after me returning home from his with a text "i dont feel like its working out, it feels awkward"... ...
A. 4 July 2009: What do you think he has no regard for how you feel, If you get back with him he could do the same thing again and this time you maybe left to fend for yourself in a foreign place or out of state he sounds like he isnt sure and there is nothing ... (read in full...)
This baby was planned, I just need help finding a clinic or a shelter.
Q. Well im 17 and i am 5 weeks pregnant. I cant tell my mom and im afraid she might kick me out. This was planned and im not getting rid of my baby. I just need help. Do any1 know a place i can go 2 get check ups w/o an adult or a shelter i can go 2 in ...
A. 2 July 2009: why the hell would you plan to have a baby with no home honey start at the local welfare or D.H.S office they can get you medical and food stamps or better yet look in the phonebook for local shelters and agency's to help but your mom will probably ... (read in full...)
I'm worried that I'm the only one in love in this relationship!
Q. Ealier today my girlfriend and I took our daughters swimming. One of the girls is mine, one hers. Things have been confusing to me because a couple of months ago we broke up (we were engaged) and she moved out. We got back together, but do not live ...
A. 2 July 2009: you need to move on she is basically ingnoring you period she didnt even comment on how good it was to see you after all that time. You need to stop exposing your daughter to this women if you ask me she probably realizes that you are a great guy ... (read in full...)
Break up with him? Even though I love him?
Q. ok so I have been with my boyfriend for about a yr now. Things were going great he had a job so did I, we were renting a trailer together and expecting a baby...then he lost his job, and my part time job was just not enough to keep us afloat, so we ...
A. 2 July 2009: YOU NEED TO DUMP THAT LOSER He has caused problems with your mom and stolen from your grandparents the only people apparently helping him he is not doing anything to help this situation what are you going to do keep following him around when he ... (read in full...)
I want my boyfriend back, but how?
Q. I want him back! We haven't spoken in a week, and I've been strong and not called/emailed/or texted since he broke up with me. i wrote a previous question about this, in which i thought the best thing to do would be to ignore him hoping he will come ...
A. 2 July 2009: Stop trippin call the boy and tell him you want him back is he cheating i dont know but hell if you want him that bad then go get him before he does move on and find another girl you seem confused so make up your mind quick. You will have to prove ... (read in full...)
Is this a crush or an obsession? And is it my fault? Or is it all her?
Q. ok now this may sound really selfish on my behalf but its driving me crazy. first off i think you should know some things about me, i not exactly what you would call social, if i can i will never leave the house i really hate the outside world, f...
A. 2 July 2009: Why dont you just change your number is it so bad that she has a crush on you, she will get over it eventually but every way that she is getting in contact with you, you can change get off the computer that will stop the emails, change your number, ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend of over one year constantly calls me a whore and accuses me of sleeping with coworkers when I have work meetings.
Q. My boyfriend of over one year constantly calls me a whore and accuses me of sleeping with coworkers when I have work meetings. I have never, in my short 26 years been unfaithful, I have been cheated on and I know that pain. I have been making...
A. 2 July 2009: Are you serious why would you stay with someone who disrespects you so badly and treats you like crap you love him but he doesnt love you he just wants to control and your actually considering moving out of the country with this man honey you have ... (read in full...)
Do you think she's still stalking me?
Q. 10 years ago, my first girlfriend and I broke up after going out for a very short while. We lost our virginity to each other. She is the one who broke up with me because she was a little older than me and graduating high school that year, and more ...
A. 2 July 2009: Dude get over yourself it doesnt sound like she is stalking you maybe she is curious too why is it okay for you to ask people about her but when does the samething she has to be stalking you , Maybe she regrets breaking up with you and that is why ... (read in full...)
Is severing myself from his family the only way I can get over this?
Q. So a while ago i posted a question about my best friend (of 7 years) *parker* (it has all the back ground info so maybe it would help to read it) basically its been over 2 months since parker and i last spoke and its really eating away at me. The ...
A. 2 July 2009: Being that he has done you the way that he has i would advise taking sometime away from his family even though you may love them they are his family first and maybe in a few months you will be able to have closure with him and then be able to ... (read in full...)
He has stopped talking to me and I don't know why... What should I do? I still like him.
Q. This is a really long question... Especially from a kentucky girl like me.. But please answer becuase I am soo heart broken over this :-( Ok, so here it goes - I met this one girl named Dawn and she introduced me to her guy friend, Beckson....
A. 2 July 2009: Honey just face it is probably doesnt want to get attached especially if he is moving out of state you need to just deal with the fact that maybe something is wrong with him he couldnt be a man and just say hey dude i got alot going on right now so ... (read in full...)
I wish this guy I was dating was black.
Q. Hi, well im 14 and ive always dated black boys. im white and recently im dating a white boy, we're "in love" but i dont love him a lot because he is white but when i date a black boy i always love them so much but they play me. I don't know wha...
A. 2 July 2009: You should be grateful to have a man that treats you right instead you are knit picking why did you hook up with him if you know you prefer black guys (why if they are using you) you need to be grateful to your boyfriend for being good to you and ... (read in full...)
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