I wish this guy I was dating was black.
Q. Hi, well im 14 and ive always dated black boys. im white and recently im dating a white boy, we're "in love" but i dont love him a lot because he is white but when i date a black boy i always love them so much but they play me. I don't know wha...
A. 2 July 2009: You should be grateful to have a man that treats you right instead you are knit picking why did you hook up with him if you know you prefer black guys (why if they are using you) you need to be grateful to your boyfriend for being good to you and ... (read in full...)
I'm wondering if my boyfriend is having an emotional affair.
Q. I've been in a relationship for 12 years. I'm wondering if my boyfriend is having an emotional affair. he has a friend of the opposite sex. he tells me about her. i've met her but, she won't speak to me. she said she gets along better with guys. he ...
A. 2 July 2009: You have let things go to far already you should have nip this in the bud for him to introduce you and she not even bother to have a casual conversation with you is just dumb. You cant tell him who to be friends with but if you are hurt he should ... (read in full...)
Can in-laws date, if both are divorced?
Q. Can in-laws date, if both are divorced? As in mother of the bride and father of the groom....
A. 2 July 2009: I think you can date if your not blood related i dont see why not do what makes you happy your old enough it may seem uncomfortable at first but the families will get use to it. Good Luck... (read in full...)
On and off...?
Q. A girl I really liked went out with me and all her closest and my closest friends were like messengers. Everyone told me that she really liked me and I really liked her. I asked her if she did and she was like you first. So I said I think I can grow ...
A. 2 July 2009: You need to move on she doesnt appear to feel the same that you do and she is letting her friends ruin things for her this is a common problem with teenagers maybe she is shy or doesnt know how she really feel but you are to young to start talking ... (read in full...)
I'll never get over him if I have to see him constantly!
Q. I was with this guy from age 17 until 24 we broke up 6 months ago when he left me for another girl. We have a kid together also, now his new girlfriend is pregnant - ugh. Anyway she left her husband, the father of 1 of her 2 kids for him. Their ...
A. 2 July 2009: Let his dumb butt live with what he has done he doesnt have any concern for you or your child he is being selfish and you dont have to talk to him you can have a mutual friend or family member be the drop off point for your kid he is using you and ... (read in full...)
How am I going to tell my family I'm pregnant at 14???
Q. I'm 14, I'll be 15 in 3 days and i believe i am 4 or 5 weeks pregnant. My boyfriend is 16 he will be 17 in about a month.HE is completly happy about the pregnancy. he wants a kid.He has a job.I am Scared! I will NOT give up my kid. Will NOT have a ...
A. 2 July 2009: How do you expect someone to not criticize you when you have made a huge decision that will affect the rest of your life first off CONGRADULATION'S ON YOUR GOOD NEWS A BABY IS ALWAYS A BLESSING AT ANY AGE. All you can do is be honest your family ... (read in full...)
Advice needed? Is he using me for sex?
Q. hiya :) I'm 15. There's this boy I've liked for a while. we'll call him connor. I've been on a date with him but that was months ago. He knows i still like him and he says he likes me too. we're quite close friends and have been for about a ...
A. 2 July 2009: You do not need to be sleeping with someone if he is not in a committed relationship with you, He can go and sleep with those 7 girls he already has been with. For his age 7 girls is alot and you dont the emotional issues that come with having sex ... (read in full...)
I'm lost right now...
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for 6 years since i was 19 i do love him but feel like I am missing out on life and we now have 2 kids i am pregnant now and i feel like we have to stay together for our kids he has no lue that i feel this way but ...
A. 1 July 2009: No one forced you to have 3 kids its called birth control i am pretty positive you are depressed you should talk with your doctor to get you some help because you are overwhelmed I only have one and I am tired constantly. Try to start getting out ... (read in full...)
Do I really want him back or is he getting back at me for breaking up with him?
Q. My boyfriend and I were together for 5 years. I broke up with him 3 months ago. I found out he meet someone. I on the other hand have been trying to get over him. Then bingo he calls after 3 months and wants to see me. So I thought I should ...
A. 1 July 2009: There is no way you can know for sure what he is doing in less you investigate he could be doing all you said or maybe he just realized that he has more in common with you can decided he would like to be back with you isn't that possible i would ... (read in full...)
I love him, but he's still dealing with issues about his ex
Q. For the first time, I truly love a man, but I can't let him know because it would freak him out. His ex badly hurt him about a year ago - they'd been together for 5 years when she cheated on him. She's still with the other guy but still sees my one ...
A. 1 July 2009: HEY as long as your not being hurt and no where you stand more power to you, I believe what you say about the ex she doesn't want him but she doesnt want him to be with anyone which is selfish and really sad but he is the one that keeps falling into ... (read in full...)
Is the man I love gone forever?
Q. The guy I have been dating for the past 8 months has not always been the most affectionate (up to my standards I guess) and so this has been an issue since day one. We have discussed this and he has always made an attempt but then things go back to ...
A. 1 July 2009: Your man would not be gone from you forever if you accepted him the way that he is, Have you ever thought that he doesn't know how to be effectionette so maybe you should try to teach him instead of judging him if you know you say terrible things ... (read in full...)
Falling out of love? I'm I not expressing my emotions clearly?
Q. I don't feel like I'm in love with my bf anymore, we've been together for about 3 yrs now and were friends for about 5 yrs before that. Due to a mutual decision for him to move out and move in with his friend Mark as a roommate b/c of our financial ...
A. 1 July 2009: Its sounds like ya'll do have problems but if you are so worried about what he is doing why did he move in the first place maybe you make more of a issue with things then needed so what can he do you just said it yourself his life has changed he is ... (read in full...)
Break up, make up, break up again?
Q. me and my boyfriend, we've had a lot of problems during the last 2 weeks , everything started when we went to a club 2 weekends ago, I got a little drunk, but i felt he was pushing me away to dance with another guys, at some point he told me to my ...
A. 1 July 2009: You dont want to lose what he is treating you like a piece of dog poop he is playing games because he knows he can make you jump through hopes he sounds like he is bi why would he be arguing with you to dance with men give me a break you need to ... (read in full...)
I feel like my step dad favors my sister more than me...
Q. i've got an issue, my mom died like a year ago and lately i've been getting like these jealous rages with/about my step sister and step dad.... i don't know why i get mad, i just do! and i get soo jealous. like the past 2 weeks my step sister, let's ...
A. 1 July 2009: Baby girl it sounds to me like you are jealous of your step sister because she has a mom at least parttime i would think why isnt she with her mother instead of father. You need to talk to someone at school to deal with your issues there are places ... (read in full...)
I want my ex to have her closure...what do I say?
Q. I dated a girl for two months a year ago. The relationship ended when I told her I had "hooked up" with someone else. That someone else was my old best guy friend. I only said "hooked up" but all I did was kiss him. After I told her I had "hooked ...
A. 1 July 2009: I dont understand why she is having problems with closure your a jerk enough said. So now she thinks every man she is dating is gay are you serious. If I were you i would let her know it hadnt anything to do with her its just that your feelings ... (read in full...)
Does this mean he still has feelings for me or am I putting words in his mouth?
Q. me and my husband are getting a divorce. we have been married for 2 years. he says he done with me and he has found him an older much older woman than him that he is in love with he says. he tells me not to txt him anymore unless its about our 12 ...
A. 1 July 2009: It sounds to me like he isnt to sure of his decision You shouldn't waist anymore of your time on a man that says he doesnt want you this is a classic case of he doesn't want you but he doesnt want you to be with another man either. Let him go ahead ... (read in full...)
Should I leave her?
Q. Ok, heres the things. I have been dating my current girlfriend for about 1.5 years. For like the past half year she never wants to do anything any more, all she wants to do is watch tv and sleep. Don't get me wrong, when i get off work, I like to ...
A. 27 June 2009: I think you should leave her but also try to help her at the same time, She probably is depressed because she is in a slump and dont know how to get out of it, You cant really do anything for her if she doesnt want to help herself, maybe she should ... (read in full...)
New baby but don't love the father. I still love my ex! Help!
Q. i've just had a baby with my current bf but i don't love him anymore and i feel trapped we've been together only a year and everything has moved so fast i dont feel he's the one 4 me plus his family are horrible!! but i dont want our daughter ...
A. 27 June 2009: I find myself in a similar situation and it is crayzi because you dont want to make the wrong decision because of your child, I believe you should take a break let him know you want to concentrate on the child and not deal with relationship issues ... (read in full...)
I can't take this constant abuse. If anything goes wrong its suddenly MY fault!
Q. I can't take the blaming anymore. Ive been dating a man for over a year and everything that goes wrong, every insecurity he has is somehow a result of something I've done. If his boss doesn't return a call to him, it's because of me. If someone ...
A. 26 June 2009: It seems to me you know what you need to do unless you like being treated like a dog i would suggest that you move on and tell him how you really feel he is immature and looking for someone to blame why would his boss not call him just because he ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend trouble, confused... do I still have love for him?
Q. I've been seeing this guy for 2 years now and it's been good, he's soon to be divorced, encourages me in lot's of ways, I left my job to follow my dreams and his still standing by me, he has 3 kids, 2 with the ex wife and 1 before her time, I'm so ...
A. 26 June 2009: He is living his life and you are sitting around waiting on him to call i think you should move on you are waisting your time he should at least call once a week and visit a couple of days a month then i would say ok well give him time Honey he isnt ... (read in full...)
I wish I hadn't gotten in touch again, what can I do?
Q. I was dating a guy for 3 years and we broke up. We didn't speak for 3 months and I emailed him last week and he responded briefly. After that I saw in a couple of times in work and he wouldn't look at me or say hello. I got upset and sent him an ...
A. 26 June 2009: am i confused why would you email him after 3 months then turn around and say you need to get over him if i were him i would be confused to because if you felt this way why contact him at all and why do you care if he speaks to you or not you are a ... (read in full...)
Is he flirting, cheating or am I insane?
Q. Is it my imagination? Hi all, hope you're well. I recently split with my boyfriend of 5 years-hes not been much of a boyfriend since for the last 4 years its been too much to even give me a hug-we've been more like flatmates really and ive...
A. 26 June 2009: Are you serious why are paying a grown mans bills and then worried about if he is cheating if you havent gotten any affection in 4 years then i would say he is not interested in anymore he isnt going to tell you if he is seeing anyone because then ... (read in full...)
She's really pissed off at me! Was my joke a bit harsh?
Q. Kay my friend is going to sound like a skank but please dont trash her cause I will report you!! Well my friend decided to cheat on her boyfriend for some reason with some random guy she met at a party. They had sex without using anything. She th...
A. 26 June 2009: Honey there was nothing wrong with your joke hell she was talking about getting a abortion so why is she trippen off of you saying you can smoke and do drugs i think she just is being a little sensitive because she played herself and now she doesnt ... (read in full...)
Decisions decisions... go back with the ex or stay with my current boyfriend?
Q. Ok so i have a difficult decision, go back to my ex or stay with my current bf? Ive been with this guy for about 2 weeks and hes really sweet and all but now my ex has told me he wants me back and i want him so bad now. Last time we spilt up because ...
A. 26 June 2009: you are to young to love these guys honey you are rushing it and why is the question why do you need to go out with anyone and if your ex is a player why would you trust him now he probably only wants you back because you are with someone if you ... (read in full...)
Problems with the family and their culture...
Q. Hello all i'm in turmoil as the man i love is from India and his parents are tradtional hindu's, he went home 6 wks ago and told them all about me and they are devastated, whilst he was over there his mother arranged for him to meet potential wives ...
A. 25 June 2009: He need to stand up for what he believes if he has graduated and is a grown man how can they make him come home and why would he want too i think he needs time to be a man and make his own way it is sad but like you i understand there culture what i ... (read in full...)
Going crazy here, need someone to help!
Q. My girlfried just moved. Shes been hanging out with her 30 year old land lord she is 18. We're on a "break" like were not together all the time. she is with him alot watching movies shopping exc.. im i just really jelous or does there seem to be ...
A. 25 June 2009: It seems to me that she is moving on with her life while your sitting around wondering what the hell is she doing she is doing what your not doing living buddy get a grip i would say that she probably is screwing him too. she sure is spending alot ... (read in full...)
Overprotective parents and Sex
Q. Ok so. Me and my boyfriend are almost 18. We have been dating for the longest time and I can say I have never felt like this before and I love him. But we have one (or two) problems. Overprotective parents. We both still live with our parent and I...
A. 25 June 2009: Ok we can take the mature approach to this you and him need to sit down with both ya'll parents and let them know how you feel and tell them what you need to make a mature decision about your sexual needs. Why cant he man up and talk to his parents ... (read in full...)
He is getting married and he won't leave me alone!
Q. I have a big problem. I have worked at my job for almost 10 years. Up until 2007, I had never dated anybody that I worked with, because I was not interested and I don't think its a good ideal. Most people that tried to talk to me were up to no good ...
A. 25 June 2009: He sounds like a real jerk and very immature Maybe you should consider filing some kind of harassment against him he thinks he is gods gift to women but then again you made your bed so now you have to lye in it i would continue to ignore him and iam ... (read in full...)
Is my body not ready for sex? My boyfriend told me that.
Q. me and my boyfriend tried to have sex but, it didnt work. he says its not my fault its just my body isnt ready. do you have any sugestions as to what to do about this? also he says he needs to be able to put 2 fingers in easily before his dic...
A. 25 June 2009: being that you are young i am sure he wont fit but what he doesnt know is that he wont ever fit if he doesnt put it in you body will gradually adjust to him and you will stretch out over time it is not something that can happen over night so you ... (read in full...)
Is my indecisiveness keeping me from moving on? I don't want to be treated this way.
Q. hey , well i feel that i got no character because am not decisive when it comes to taking decisions , i mean whenever i say am gonna do something or am not gonna talk to a certain person i go back and talk to him like nothing happened even thought ...
A. 25 June 2009: It sounds like you need some serious professional help if someone is treating you badly and you have put your all into making it work then you need to let him go and at you know why you keep taking him back its like you are scared to be alone and ... (read in full...)
Why am I freaking out about having sex? I'm not a virgin.
Q. i am 16 and i have had sex twice i want to do it again. i feel like i am always horney my bf recently asked me if i wanted to have sex with him. i dont know what to do i really want to have sex we have done other things but not quite got to sex we ...
A. 25 June 2009: You are probably just scared because you know once ya'll have sex your relationship will change you both should get tested and use birth control but i am sure you should the consequence of what ya'll are doing he may change or you may change take ... (read in full...)
What do I do with this pain?
Q. my heart is a mesh and my soul is darkenned. Many times I feel hopeless in this world. I have a child who is the only one that keeps me going. But the light that my child gives me is easily tarnished by his father. A man who abandoned my child and ...
A. 20 June 2009: What are you thinking why are you letting this man control your life and how you feel like this your child knows when you are hurt and this will effect them in the long run what will you do when your child is older and can notice how dad doesnt give ... (read in full...)
How do you kick a dysfunctional relationship to the curb?
Q. How do you kick a disfunctional relationship to the curb, without ever going back? My and my boyfriend constantly have problems.. and nobody wants us to be together. Truth be told, I don't know why I love him, but I know something is keeping ...
A. 20 June 2009: I think you should start counseling immediately to get focused on yourself your probably just so beat down that you dont have enough confidence in your decision making and think that if you let him go you wont be able to make it but you will you ... (read in full...)
My co worker embarrassed me
Q. One time I envited my co worker to my vacant apartment which I was not residing on for months. I decided to stop by with her to pick up a bill to pay. She decides to use the bathroom. Honestly i did not know that the toilet bowl was dirty. She went ...
A. 20 June 2009: Yes you did do the right thing you told her how you feel the question is if she is your friend why would she be telling your business to another co worker and what does your ex have to do with a dirty toilet you did the right thing she needs to mind ... (read in full...)
He doesn't want to go away together now, should I just step back?
Q. Hello aunts I have been seeing someone I have known forever for the past 3 months. He and I get on fabulously well, have fun and the best loving times together - I am smitten. He split up with his ex a year ago after she cheated numerous times. ...
A. 20 June 2009: I think you have done the right thing he needs to deal with his soon to be ex and get his children situated then that way he can focus on your guys relationship it takes a strong person to make the decisions that you have instead of letting her keep ... (read in full...)
I don't love my future wife what should I do?
Q. Hallo, Actually I am sharing this personal matter after getting much frustration. Before 5 years i got engaged with a girl. I stayed engaged with her for 5 months. but during those five months i thought that i was engaged too early and so i was not...
A. 20 June 2009: You need to get a grip and man up if you do not care anything for her you need to end the engagement asap how will the both of you be happy without love and what about the children please end this now and she probably doesnt like you either and is ... (read in full...)
He's married, we're cheating..I work for him..what a mess!
Q. Hi im in such a dilemma i really could do with some advice.I'm 26 and i have been having an affair with a married man for the last 9 months the worst part is i work with him part time. I'm his dental assistant, also all my family know him quite well ...
A. 20 June 2009: Well honey you have got yourself in quite a pickle havent you i think you know what you need to do but like you said it is hard especially when a man is telling you all the right things about your future and kids. Have you stopped to think if he is ... (read in full...)
FWB..I think he has feelings for me, but is trying to hide it
Q. hey aunts, i have this guy who i grew up with and we never liked each other for anything else but friends when we were growing up...well long story short we've been having sex...we agreed to just be FWB and to not catch any feelings for one ...
A. 19 June 2009: well i dont think he is using you, because women have needs to but it maybe a case of like you said where he is feeling more for you than he would like if you want to you need to bring it up and see where you can go from here but i think you are ... (read in full...)
I don't think I love him so why do I feel this way?
Q. I have a friend that I have had sex with more than a few times. Sleep in the same bed. There was a time that we told each other we were in love but things have since changed he now sees other girls I havnt done so yet so I sometimes get upset I ...
A. 19 June 2009: well if it is your apartment i think you should ask him to leave he can go and live with those other girls that he is sleeping with you probably have feelings for him that you havent addressed or you wont allow yourself to feel anything because he ... (read in full...)
Having trouble with my mom, not sure what to do
Q. Well i need a little advice.My mom is very Bi-Polar(not actually diagnosed).She is always upset about something or shes happy one minute then shes cursing and yelling another.For example:we have a bishon frise(puppy) and he is locked up all day ...
A. 19 June 2009: honey go get you someone to talk to your perfectly fine so what if you a little over weight there is nothing wrong with that your mom is the one with the issue if i were you i would start living for me and doing what makes me happy and i would just ... (read in full...)
He's pressuing me for a baby, but I know I'm too young
Q. hey cupids, ive been with my boyfriend now for just under a year. but recently hes been talking about starting a family together! its scared me a little. we only lost our virginities to each other, about 6 weeks agoo, i mean to be honest, hes 20, ...
A. 19 June 2009: Girl you need to run he is'nt even trying to listen to your wishes i believe it sounds like he is trying to trap you so that you will have to marry and stay with him. He is young so why is he in such a hurry to have children now when before you had ... (read in full...)
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