I'm sick with worry that my parents will split!
Q. My parents are starting to make me very nervous. They're going through a rough patch. I'm 20, and the idea of them breaking up terrifies me. They're currently in a long distance situation at the moment. My dad works away during the week, and is only ...
A. 1 August 2009: You haven't realized yet that your parents have issues like any marriage and they probably are just tired of each other it sounds like they tolerate each other for you. You have to live your own life and let them live theres your probably worried ... (read in full...)
I'm so in love with him and he told me never to talk to him again. Why is he texting me NOW?
Q. okay so i had this boyfriend since 2006 we been on and off since then. i gave him all my heart and i love him so much. i stood agains my family for him n he wouldnt do thhe same for me but i ignored it... for valentines day we went out for a ro...
A. 1 August 2009: Move on he is just full of drama, if you can tell. He is doing this because he figures you are so in love with him that you will keep letting him come back and he can say what he wants to you. He was probably having problems with his current women ... (read in full...)
How do I tell my wife that I want to see her with another man?
Q. I want to watch my wife have sex with another man but I am not sure how to break the Ice? ...
A. 1 August 2009: Now that is a very good question, I would just ask her if she would like to have a threesome and see what she says and go from there. You never know she may want to do it willing and may already have someone in mind for the job. The question is will ... (read in full...)
How do I show my girlfriend I love her?
Q. I have been with my girlfriend 3 yrs and she recently asked if i loved her. i was quite angered by this as she knows i do. what things should i be doing to let her know how much i love her other than the occasional flowers, chocolates etc?...
A. 31 July 2009: Sometimes a women doesn't really want you to do anything but help out with the kids, housework, maybe take her out to a hobby that she enjoys or better yet a occasional I Love U never hurt either or maybe a thank you. We sometimes assume people know ... (read in full...)
I'm just not comfortable with her going out and drinking with a bunch of single guys!
Q. Me and my girl friend have been together for almost 3 years. Everything was great til about 2 months ago when she said she wanted to go out and party and get drunk and go downtown with her friend. We have never been the couple to do all that. So it ...
A. 31 July 2009: She has told you that b/c she is looking at it differently than you she figures she is young and there is nothing wrong with going out with her friends. Your excuse for telling her not to go was that your so afraid of what she will do, well buddy I ... (read in full...)
Is she lying? She didn't bleed when we first did it!
Q. Hello, my question is my gf said that she was a virigin before me, but wouldn't that mean that when we first had sex that she would bleed? Or is she lying about me being the only one? I do trust her but Im not sure because she didnt bleed when...
A. 31 July 2009: Look dude, there is nothing saying a girl must bleed when she has her first time. I had sex a couple of times and didn't bleed I was sore and it was painful but no blood. Then I finally started doing it more , then my cherry broke and I had blood ... (read in full...)
Her daughter is standing in the way of us taking it to the next level!
Q. Need opinions please. I’m a 47yr old male in great 3.5yr relationship with 50yr woman. The woman lives with her 27yr old daughter and I do not. The daughter smokes pot daily (moms more of a friend than a mom) has dead end job, never has had a car ...
A. 31 July 2009: This is just something that you have to except about your mate she refuses to let her baby grow up and I am guessing she isn't going to change her behavior she probably feel's her daughter needs her and it sounds like she does. I would say if you ... (read in full...)
Here we are saying we'll wait for each other... What do I do?
Q. Im going to just let everything out because I want an answer. First off... I can't believe im writing on a site like this.. but from the answers ive seen.. i want to. About 2 years ago.. i randomly added this girl, who lives in germany, she ...
A. 31 July 2009: Honey I hate to tell you it is very unrealistic of you guy's to think that you will wait for each other the things is you both are very young and will start to grow and meet other people that are hot and interesting LOL and your feeling may change. ... (read in full...)
Do I have a good reason to be angry?
Q. I hace been talking to a guy for 2 weeks now and he has a gf. I didnt know that for a while but then when i found out i was furious. I know we arent together but he says hes comfortable in this relaionship and doesnt like the girl shes been pushing ...
A. 31 July 2009: No you don't have a right to be mad because you guy's have just been getting to know each for two weeks. If anything you should be relieved because now you know how much of a jerk he is. As long as he is with her he will continue to do things with ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend doesn't yet know that I'm pregnant. This is a very tough situation to be in!
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for a month and a half now and I've been pregnant with his kid for just as long. I know he's the father because he's the one who took my virginity. I feel like a complete idiot, though, because I'm abou...
A. 30 July 2009: Yes you will have to make some tough decisions but there are always options, #1 You can see if a family member would like to adopt your child or better if the father would like to raise the baby. #2 you can take the time to find a loving home for ... (read in full...)
Why did I act as such a fool? Have I lost him for good?
Q. Hello there, I'd like some advice on how to stop feeling like a complete fool and move on after breaking up with my bf of 9 yrs. I'm sorry if this is a bit long, bit here goes... I met him 9 years ago at Uni, fell in love hard and fast, and 2 ...
A. 30 July 2009: why would you want him back it sounds like you have enough baggage of your own with the added stress honey get a grip and read in between the lines it is time to let this go and get yourself a fresh new and exciting relationship because I feel he ... (read in full...)
How do I get out of the house for a trip with my boyfriend parents don't know about?
Q. Hey guys slight prob and need some help... my boyfriend has booked a 4day trip away from home for me and him to go on togther... the issue is that my parents dont know about him and i cant tell them about him... so i need an excuse to get out of ...
A. 30 July 2009: I hate to be the one to tell you this but you are 18 legally grown you don't have to tell anyone anything but if you really need too you can say you and some girlfriends are going on a trip to have some fun and let them know when you are leaving and ... (read in full...)
My ex asked my best friend out! Was he trying to make me jelious?
Q. please help on this one ok i had a bf then we ended it before school ended about a week after that he asked my best friend out and but it only lasted a week but he knew that i had feelings 4 him was he trying to make me jelious?...
A. 30 July 2009: Yes he was trying to make you jealous but why do you care if you broke it off he is just trying to be a player and you and your friend are falling into the player trap let him get on. His character isn't to outstanding if he is willing to move on to ... (read in full...)
I'm so alone. Help me fix it
Q. i feel so alone and helpless i feel like im in a world full of aliens and im the only human... how can i stop this i just want someone to love and hold onto someone who can make me happy when im sad and someone i can comfort when they are down. how ...
A. 30 July 2009: You have to get comfortable with you , You can't expect to meet someone and they fix all your problems because honey no one can do that at all, you will have to find happyness within yourself because if you go around looking for people to make you ... (read in full...)
Insecurites over boyfriend watching porn!
Q. my boyf looks at porn which in return makes me feel as i am not good enough for him!! i dont no what to do it affects me everyday even when were watching the tele.. and there are some naked girls on there to shopping where he can look at girls.. hes ...
A. 30 July 2009: Porn is nothing more than a fantasy a means to add to your sexual pleasure. You shouldn't feel insecure because alot of people watch porn it is a movie and is not real. You need to become more secure with your body and your sexuality he doesn't seem ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend is a player but talks about starting a family? Whats wrong?
Q. Hi there....ok I met this guy, realized he is a player, had sex and now we keep it cool, always talking with each other, but knowing that nothing serious will happen. Every time that I am with him, he talks about women, he flits with other women in ...
A. 30 July 2009: what is the problem here you no he is a player and up to no good then why do you need advice. You can be his friend all day long but he isn't ready to settle down and he maybe just telling you what you want to hear. Why would you even consider ... (read in full...)
I've lied to my husband to see him just like he did to me.
Q. I have serious issues. I'm in my late 30's I've been married 2 years, been with my husbad for 7 total. We don't have any kids (thank God!). Before him I was in two consecutive 3 year relationships. I broke up with both of them. In each of those ...
A. 30 July 2009: You no what I will be the one to say you are full of crap, The bottom line is you just want to hang out and be with whomever you feel is for you at the time. I can understand you thought your husband was cheating with this women but that is no ... (read in full...)
I want to go out with my friends but my girlfriend wants to see me. What to do?
Q. Hi there, I've started seeing a girl for the past month or so. But I'm worried she's becoming a little too attached to me. She constantly wants to see me, and while I'm thrilled to bring her all the happiness I can, it can be hard work, because 1)...
A. 30 July 2009: Ok this can be tricky, You need to set her straight now because if you don't she will be doing to you every time you want to do your own thing. Explain to her that you cannot spend 24/7 together and that you both have outside interest besides your ... (read in full...)
The programs on tv just make me want a baby!
Q. Heyy :) this isn't a major problem but just something i'm curious about. i've been watching the programmes 'underage and pregnant' and i imagine they were broadcast to try and stop teens from becoming parents and to stop/be more careful when hav...
A. 30 July 2009: Baby girl..I was just like you I always wanted a baby everysince I could remember well I am 35 and just had my first baby completely by surprise of course and I love my baby dearly but you can't do anything. I have family and the baby daddy on a ... (read in full...)
I was molested and nobody believes me. How do I make them see?
Q. I was molested by my step dad @ the age of 4-12 when i said something to my mom she dint beleave me i was 15 when i finally said something. I was put in a foster home right away, my mom dint want to look @ me. I was to testify but befor that he died ...
A. 30 July 2009: I am glad you came to some peace by saying goodbye to them, that just shows you how much common sense they have if they don't know why you don't want to see them anymore. Sometimes friends are better than family, you don't need people that only ... (read in full...)
Why does he always LAUGH at me?
Q. Why does my boyfriend laugh at some of the stupid things I say. I know I'm a bit ditzy but he makes it worse; it makes me feel more stupid and lowers my self-esteem. Especially when it gets serious it upsets me so much... ...like the time we were...
A. 29 July 2009: Have you ever thought that it seems like he is always laughing at you because he finds you entertaining and he doesn't mean it in a negative manner. He probably finds it amusing some of the things you say. I wouldn't take it so personal but now if ... (read in full...)
Threesome question please - Advice on before, during and after
Q. Hello, My Fiancee and i have been in a relationship for 12 years and still have amazing sex. First and foremost, i have always been curious about being with a woman but never tried it beyond kissing and fondling. However since i turned 40 thre...
A. 29 July 2009: You sure have a large order to fill don't you can I suggest maybe ya'll should have couples sex with another husband and wife this way he will get the all around treatment. I have to ask though if he is saying he is not interested then why are you ... (read in full...)
I don't understand what's going on with us now. Help!
Q. Hi, I am a 27 year old male and madly in love with 28+ years old dreamgirl of mine. She really was my dream girl..beautiful...Infact she is divorced and i am never married...she was very depressed when going through this and i was her new friend.....
A. 29 July 2009: You have some serious issues with this women, Maybe because she is divorced she isn't really ready for a full committed relationship and she just said yes to you to make you happy. You can't see what is really going on which is she is playing with ... (read in full...)
Does this make me look desperate?
Q. I was seeing this guy for a couple of months until a couple of weeks ago when he stopped calling. I sent him a text a few days later, he replied, I replied and that was it until just now when he called me and asked me to come to lunch with him and ...
A. 29 July 2009: Why can't you be straight forward and let him know he is sending you mixed singles and you would like to know where you stand so you can move on to the next man if he can't find the time. You don't sound desperate so far but now if you are ... (read in full...)
I think I'm pregnant...help!
Q. Hi, i recently just graduated from highschool. I think i might be pregnant but im not sure. Back in novemeber and december i was pregnant but i ended up having a misscarage. And the last time i tested positive when i took a home pregnancy test. My ...
A. 29 July 2009: Now your problem is easily solved you could be not far enough along for it to show up on a home test. You will need to go and get a blood test then you will know for sure. Your period could be irregular now due to you having a miscarriage and also ... (read in full...)
Is it weird that I've never had a boyfriend before?
Q. hey so this is kinda embarassing but here goes i an 16 and never had a boyfriend or a proper kiss. i wouldnt say i am pretty or thin could this be the reason ? all my friends have had boyfriends and it makes me feel bad because i feel so stupid it ...
A. 29 July 2009: Why do you feel weird there is nothing wrong with not having a bf in high school your friends are just a little farther along then you. I promise you once you get out of school and find your own confidence you will find a bf some of us take longer ... (read in full...)
Forced to raise a brat!
Q. I have lived with my bf for almost 6 years now. We have been thru a lot and I really love and care for him. The problem is he has a 14 year old bratty son who no one has ever diciplined and now the child's mother wants to give up custody and have us ...
A. 29 July 2009: You have every right to feel the way you do, you didn't sign up for a kid that is out of control. I would leave him and take my stuff and get my name removed from the lease ASAP. If you let this child move in he is going to be playing you both ... (read in full...)
I was molested and nobody believes me. How do I make them see?
Q. I was molested by my step dad @ the age of 4-12 when i said something to my mom she dint beleave me i was 15 when i finally said something. I was put in a foster home right away, my mom dint want to look @ me. I was to testify but befor that he died ...
A. 29 July 2009: I am sorry for your pain, I can see how that would hurt being constantly rejected. How in there minds do they feel it is your fault because his kidney burst that is just ridiculous to even hear. I know you may long for a family and for things to be ... (read in full...)
This whole year with him has been trying! What's going on?
Q. I need help with some advice from some wise people. The relationship im in now is going sour atleast from my view it is. Its almost been a year and In the beginning my bf wasn't as bad as he is now. He cared about how I felt when he acted a way I ...
A. 29 July 2009: you need to dump his cheap but, He is punishing you for not doing what he want's you to do. Why can't you give your money to whom ever you feel if you have worked for it. If he is hiding his phone then honey that is a sign that he maybe cheating and ... (read in full...)
I can't stop thinking that he stole money from me!
Q. I think my boyfriend may have stolen from me, but I can't prove it. Saturday night, I came home from my waitressing job and counted my earnings and put it all away very neatly in my wallet to take to the bank. The next day, a large bill was m...
A. 29 July 2009: There is a possibility that you could be right and he stole it from your purse then maybe he didn't you have a tough situation here. I would say let it go and be careful of where you are putting your money and keep it away from him, Better yet why ... (read in full...)
I feel like if I have a threesome, the other person will fall in love with my man. Have you been in this situation before?
Q. I am a bisexual woman who is dating my soulmate. He is a great guy and has all of the qualities that I have dreamed about since I was a child. I love him so much. But I am bisexual and I do have my moments where I crave other women. But I have ...
A. 29 July 2009: I see your problem if you are this insecure, I would advise that you dont do it only because if your relationship is great then why bring these problems into the mix. Until you get right in your mind what you really want to do don't do it. Why ... (read in full...)
My husband get angry, throws things and sometimes hits me, what should I do?
Q. hi there, ok my question is more of a long story that i need advice on my husband has this thing where i cant do anything right he will give me a list of things he wants done before he gets home and i will do my best to finish them but he never be...
A. 28 July 2009: I am so glad to hear you are leaving it will be tough but you will see that you and your kids will be better off thank god for your sister it makes no sense honey to live unhappy and scared when you don't have too. Best Wishes ... (read in full...)
Married but have found a FWB relationship
Q. I have been married for MANY MANY years. Last year, my husband and I decided to separate, but to stay together as room mates for while due to finances. I found a married man and started an affair with him. My husband decided that he wanted to stay ...
A. 28 July 2009: I am not going to judge you, we all have are reason's for the things that we do as long as you have thought about what you will lose if you continue on with this affair. I feel where you are coming from you have needs and if you have tried talking ... (read in full...)
I'm starting to feel like a caged animal in this relationship!
Q. My partner and I have been together for almost a year now, when we first started dating we use to go out heaps. Now we both work during the week the only time we get to see each other is on weekends. We hardly go out anywhere and he never spends m...
A. 28 July 2009: I hope it works out for you sweetie but I can't see how anything will change unless you change it. When a person does things that turn you off it is hard sometime to turn it back on and after so long it isn't even worth it. I hope he straightens out ... (read in full...)
He lied about smoking weed and he was messaging another girl about going out on a date!
Q. I feel like i have problems all the time :(. Sorry this is so long, but please read. Well, I love my boyfriend. Some of you may have read my last post about the Birth Control. Well, unfortunatley we have another problem. I love my bo...
A. 28 July 2009: I do understand what you are saying because I am in a similar situation where my boyfriend smokes constantly and it is annoying and I wish he would slow down or stop, but I have realized that I can't make him do anything, he has to do it on his own ... (read in full...)
He was so embarassing to be with when he drinks that I don't invite him along anymore!
Q. This isn't exactly a relationship question...I moved to a new city a few months ago, and one of the first people I met was a guy who also just moved here and didn't know anyone. So we sort of became friends by default, though he likes me and has ...
A. 24 July 2009: you need to sit down and have a talk with him and tell him about his behavior he maybe thinking of all the drama as having a good time, when in fact he is ruining your good time. Honey he can't fix the problem if he doesn't know what it is so you ... (read in full...)
He wasn't making me feel good, so I broke up! Should we try again?
Q. Well... my boyfriend and I been dating close to a year, never been perfect, he sucks in bed, but I have fallen in love regardles. For some reason, can't explain it why, he casues for me to withdraw, I like him and want to be cheerful and happy ...
A. 24 July 2009: If you have all these things going for you why do want to be with someone you can't even be yourself with. Girlfriend get a grip and move on you haven't to many great qualities that anyone would want to be around, just the simple fact he is ... (read in full...)
I'm damaged goods... should I just settle for him?
Q. Ok so I hope you can take time and read this, as I dont know know who else to reach to. I am a woman in my mid twenties, I have a small child that I raise at home alone. I was married to the father of my child for four years. The relation...
A. 24 July 2009: I understand you problem, It isn't your fault he gave you a S.T.D you trusted him and he let you down. What I'am not getting is why would you want to be with someone that is so unstable, you aren't thinking of your child and that is what you should ... (read in full...)
I can't listen to my husband's advice.
Q. Help! I'm happily married, life is going really well except i use to date this controlling guy for 4 years before i meet and married my husband. and now if ever my husband advices me on anything i freak thinking he's trying to control me. i need ...
A. 24 July 2009: you need to get professional help to work through your baggage. You shouldn't make your husband accountable for what someone did to you in the past, that would not be fair to him at all. Just get some help or better yet explain to him what is going ... (read in full...)
He lied about smoking weed and he was messaging another girl about going out on a date!
Q. I feel like i have problems all the time :(. Sorry this is so long, but please read. Well, I love my boyfriend. Some of you may have read my last post about the Birth Control. Well, unfortunatley we have another problem. I love my bo...
A. 24 July 2009: I would advise you to just break it off, for some reason you are expecting him to act like you do or a adult. He is still a kid and is going through the growing pains. It seems you are only happy when he does what you say or what you expect him to ... (read in full...)
The guy I had an affair with has been cheating on his current girlfriend, so I sent an anonymous email. Do you think he might finally have learned his lesson?
Q. Hi I had an affair with a guy that works with me.We were friends for 2 years,then we started to have sex for 1 year then we stopped. Now we are friends again for 2 years. His last girlfriend left him because he cheated on her. Then he cheated ...
A. 23 July 2009: Am I on one, but doesn't it take two who are you to judge him when you have been sleeping with him knowing he had someone at home. Could be that you are just jealous and mad because he didn't pursue more of a relationship with you. You have stuck ... (read in full...)
Married but have found a FWB relationship
Q. I have been married for MANY MANY years. Last year, my husband and I decided to separate, but to stay together as room mates for while due to finances. I found a married man and started an affair with him. My husband decided that he wanted to stay ...
A. 23 July 2009: You need to talk to your husband and ask him what would he suggest you do and then take it from there. You might be surprised by what he tells you and he may eventually agree to let you see other people and this way you don't have to lie and cheat. ... (read in full...)
I'm starting to feel like a caged animal in this relationship!
Q. My partner and I have been together for almost a year now, when we first started dating we use to go out heaps. Now we both work during the week the only time we get to see each other is on weekends. We hardly go out anywhere and he never spends m...
A. 23 July 2009: all that you are saying is perfectly true, I myself find myself in a similar situation right now and I have decided I want a real man and not a boy that runs to his mother for everything and is not willing to stand up on his own two feet. All yo... (read in full...)
I'm starting to feel like a caged animal in this relationship!
Q. My partner and I have been together for almost a year now, when we first started dating we use to go out heaps. Now we both work during the week the only time we get to see each other is on weekends. We hardly go out anywhere and he never spends m...
A. 22 July 2009: You need to sit down with him and explain how you feel and how bored you are getting with the relationship. It is sad you have to ask permission to visit on the weekends he is sounding like he is just a selfish person, apparently he doesn't think ... (read in full...)
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