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writes:So, I have been seeing a married man. Didn't find out until the third time we met that he was married, because something was telling me there was something not rite. We usually meet up about once a week for a few hours then go our separate ways. Lately there have been a bunch of excuses on why he couldn't meet me. It is just really frustrating to plan something then be blown off by an excuse or him not answering my call at all. I want to end it, but am not exactly sure what to say. It's like i am at his convenience, he had the nerve to ask me why i didn't call him one weds (is when we meet up) but he blows our plans off half the time. I am not one to just leave things unsaid or unfinished, things have to be finalized i guess you cud say. so basically what do i say and how do i go about doing so without being sweet talked back into it. i think of his family and realize yes i have fun when i am with him but i can no longer be the other woman...thanks everyone and blessed be.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 August 2009): You reap what you sow, from the 3rd date when you found out you always knew you were doing so much wrong. Now it's karma time for you. He can't and won't answer you becuase he is with his wife, maybe even making loving to her when you call him, maybe it is her birthday so he is putting his wife first. WHAT do you expect when you are only and always will be a bit on the side, extra helpings so to say.YOU say you want it to end, thats easy the next time you call him instead of making arrangements to sneak away and have sex, YOU tell him you never want to see or speak to the kind of man who uses woman YES he is using both you and his wife. You will never be anyone's second best again and you will never lower yourself to be anyone's bit on the side. That way you may get back some of your dignity and pride again, until then you will remain in this shambles you and him have created. All the best
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 August 2009): I have been seeing a married man for 8 months. I am also married.. It has ben so hard.. I am not in love with my husband and would like to end the marriage. but he still loves me. I no in my heart me and the other man will never be together, but I cant help myself.We meet at risky places surprised we have not got caught yet..I am so in love with him.I cant eat or sleep I hsve lost so much weight..What should I do?
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reader, devastated2008 +, writes (15 August 2009):
 You're stalling... if you want to end AND you DEFINITELY should... for your\
have better options than a two-timer and most of all you have more self-respect than to be the other woman. THEN absolutely never take his calls, see him or read his letters again. Don't be nice-he wasnt nice to involve you and don't listen to any excuses... preferably you end it without ever seeing him again and risking further entanglement. Trust me everyone gets hurt more the longer you stall.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 August 2009): If you must, put on a "mask" of rigid confidence and tell him point-blank: "We're done." Then never talk to him again. Do not answer his phone calls, and if you pass each other in public, then ignore him. Be done with it - completely and forever.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 August 2009): you found out by the 3rd day yet you continued, now you realise that he isusing you. but your are powerless to stop seeing him? your fun and games are over with him. he is tiring of you. you knew the score when you slept with this MM.
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reader, Renee okc +, writes (13 August 2009):
Are you serious why are you on this high and mighty trip, you said yourself you found out he was married on your third meeting which to me was still enough time to not get involved. Now your upset because he can't get away to be with you well I guess he has family things to do instead. You need to break it off with him because in his case you get what you see, hell he probably is seeing someone other than you and just hasn't told you. Why are you asking how to end things write him a letter and send it to his job and cut off all contact with him, you are no victim here because you knew what you were getting into please don't try to make yourself sound innocent because it takes two. He is a piece of shit just in case you couldn't tell.
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reader, QuirkLady +, writes (13 August 2009):
 Tell him you are not interested in dating a married man, and that you will be moving on to find someone single. You don't need to say any more than that. He knows he is married and he shouldn't be messing around behind his wife's back.
Next time, trust your intuition. It often saves us from getting into bad situations.
Good luck.
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