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Should I stay with a mentally ill boyfriend?

Q.   Hi all. I've been with my bf for almost 3yrs. He has as few problems with anxiety and depression. He has even been on anti depressants for 3months. Anyway whenever he drinks even a little these feelings he has amplifies and the smallest thing can ...

A.   27 January 2012: I agree with Tisha-1, it's not your job to fix him. I made this mistake right out of college, and it took 15 years before she got so mentally ill that she started imagining a ton of wild things, including that I was having an affair (nothing was ... (read in full...)

My boyfriend hates animals and wants to get rid of my dogs!

Q.   My boyfriend off and on for the past 6, years wants me to give away my dog who is 9 and my rescue puppy who is 3 then find a job in his state and move in with him he moved away 5 years agao and we stay in touch meeting when we could in talking ...

A.   27 January 2012: This is not about animals, but about a guy who's putting his desires WAY beyond yours! He doesn't care that these loving animals would be heartbroken without you, or you them. You need to see him for what he is, a sick selfish person. If you make ... (read in full...)

Should I ask my ex, who is the father of my children, to not date my friends?

Q.   My ex of 15years, father to my 2 kids is going to a new years eve party tonight where lots of my friends will be. Is it unreasonable of me to ask him not to get it together with one of my mates, there is one girl in particular, he doesnt really know ...

A.   31 December 2011: yeah, sure... did he listen to you when you were married?... (read in full...)

I am bi-sexual, but worried my family won't accept me for who I am

Q.   Okay my question is what should I do about this? I am bisexual and I have told my good/ close friends and they accept me for who i am. I want to come out to my parents but my dad sometimes makes gay jokes he doesn't do it anymore so that's good. ...

A.   31 December 2011: Your too young to come out to your folks. You're really young and some people (not all) go through a bi phase at the age you are. For some it's a phase... happens, then goes away. For others, it part of who they are forever (some flip back and ... (read in full...)

Am I just an ego boost for him or does he have feelings for me?

Q.   I have a crush on a guy at work. He's married but I don't know if he's happy. His wife is really beautiful and classy but he rarely ever talks about her. At work he always sits next to me when we're in meetings; he compliments me frequently on my ...

A.   31 December 2011: Odds are he wants attention... and odds are he'd take some strange sex if you gave it to him. Let this guy go, this is trouble...... (read in full...)

WHY does he want anal???

Q.   dear readers, recently by BF has taken to asking me to have anal sex, but i really dont know what to do here? i dont really want to, but at the same time i am a bit curious. i want to know does it really hurt? does it feel better for him? is ...

A.   29 December 2011: oh, so many misconceptions here... First, anal is "Big League" sex, not something that you simply decide to do one day. It's takes preparation, and possibly weeks of anal finger (and/or toy) play to get a woman relaxed enough to take a cock in ... (read in full...)

She wants to wait until we're married

Q.   my girlfriend wants to wait to have sex when were married, how can I control my sexual desire to her and release sexual tension without masturbating...

A.   29 December 2011: What? Is she telling you that you can't beat off till you're married because that's SEX? If so, you need to seriously reconsider this relationship, as you may very well have a seriously messed up (sexually that is) person here. Many couples ... (read in full...)

My girlfriend's going to China, what does her insurance cover?

Q.   My girlfriend's going to China to teach for a year. I've been told she gets insurance from the school but I don't know how extensive it is and I want her to be covered properly. In anyone's experience, does this usually cover most things needed ...

A.   29 December 2011: You don't even know what KIND of insurance! Medical, trip cancellation, or what ever! She needs to grow up, look into this and see what she has, and what is available and what she needs. There is no insurance that's going to cover a passport... (read in full...)

Girl that keeps coming into our bar fancies my husband

Q.   Im married 6years. Me and my hubby have just opened up a bar which is going ok. I did hire this girl who i found out a few days later that she fancies him. I have fired her already. But she keeps coming to the bar. Ive said it to my husband and he ...

A.   29 December 2011: "You shouldn't have fired her for fancying your husband"... BULL! Clearly this woman doesn't take a HINT very well, and doesn't care about your marriage. You we're right to fire her, and I assume that your country allows people to be fired for any ... (read in full...)

I want to know how to get my wife to change her mind

Q.   My wife used to hesitantly perform fellatio. A few years ago she quit. There is no discussion. Just to bring it up pisses her off. I feel like I am worthless because she will not do this for me. I am not a kid, I am over fifty. How do I cha...

A.   29 December 2011: Sounds like the two of you need to work on your sex life. Both of you need to be good lovers and stretch a bit for the pleasure of the other. If for some reason she's going to start holding back sex (or various acts) you'll have to see if you can ... (read in full...)

I'm not sure I am doing the smart thing with this older boy ...

Q.   Hey. I am a freshman in highschool. This junior and I have been texting on and off for a few months now. He doesn't really talk to me in school. We just smile the casual hey what's up but not a real conversation. I really like him and I know he ...

A.   29 December 2011: hello... anyone.... if he's a junior that makes him around 17. Your 13 to 15... anyone see a potential FELONY here? You need to find someone who is your own age. There is a distinct chance that if you two got together and had sex, he could be... (read in full...)

Hubby's clothes have body glitter on them...is this from another woman?

Q.   Three years ago right after having a baby, I found my husband's jacket that he wears everywhere (especially on business trips) covered in body glitter, on the front. He of course told me a female co-worked sat on it after he had thrown it on a ...

A.   20 December 2011: Sounds like he's been hanging out in strip clubs and getting lap dances... ... (read in full...)

I embraced Christianity, but I still have the urge to be a swinger. Can anyone help me?

Q.   Wow this is scary, but I just thought it would be easier then going to a counselor or something. Before I gave my heart to Christ, my very beautiful and yes sexy wife and I played around with the thoughts of swinging. After we be came Christian we ...

A.   22 November 2011: Google "Liberated Christians" and start reading... following Christ and have a great sex life should not be exclusive. You can still swing and follow Christ!... (read in full...)

My partner's addiction is getting in the way of his providing for the family

Q.   Hi! I need some good solid advicw! Me and my partner have been together nearly 7 years we have 2 young kids! Im not working at the minute as i wanna stay at home and look after my chuldren properly! My partner tried starting up his own cleaning ...

A.   22 November 2011: Addicts are going to do what addict do. They usually will not consider change until they realize that they can't manipulate people around themselves (you). When you confront an addict, they'll figure out how little they can really do, do it for ... (read in full...)

She is the whole package but her hobby is really freaking me out!!!

Q.   I have been in a relationship for the last two years with a girl who’s the complete package but for the last two months a strange hobby of hers is creating some doubts and fears in my mind. She’s been keenly watching serial killer movies and tv ...

A.   11 November 2011: "a strange hobby of hers is creating some doubts and fears in my mind" Get ready to dump her... she's trouble, manipulative and it will get worse. Tell her how you feel, and that you can't be in a relationship like this. If she can STOP, th... (read in full...)

Should I choose to not marry him? And take action to get him to give me my money back?

Q.   ive done something really stupid and need some advice as to what i should do. My boyfriend who i havent known all that long is from a diferent country. Possibly quite jealous and possesive. He works and so do i, but i make more money than him. he ...

A.   1 November 2011: Run away from this marriage... this has so many red flags waving that you need to STOP and re-evaluate the relationship. 3,000 may be getting off light if he is the kind of guy that he sounds like... Image 30,000 of credit card debt, and then he ... (read in full...)

How do you feel it is or isn't appropriate to express affection to your loved one around family?

Q.   I'm in a serious relationship for the first time in my life. Our families have never met or seen us together but they will soon. His family is very openly affectionate and so I wouldn't worry about sitting with an arm around him now and then or ...

A.   1 November 2011: So long as your not being overly affectionate (deep tongue kissing or grabbing his ass) you should be fine. Sitting next to one another, holding hands and an occasional peck on the cheek are all fine. Your 3o (or older), Mom needs to let it go an... (read in full...)

What can happen if you are found guilty of kissing somebody of 13 years old, and your 20.

Q.   OK a simple question. If somebody is 20 years old, and they kiss somebody underage (13), and there is evidence of it, such as witnesses, or pictures, etc. And if Police do get involved etc, what can happen?? As far as I know, (but this is ...

A.   28 October 2011: "I suspect the most that would happen if it was handed over to the police is you could get a minimum sentence of 2-4 months. I do not know weather further action would be taking including the sex offenders register." And men who go to prison for... (read in full...)

I cannot live with the thoughts of his immoral illegal past dating a 14 year old when he was 23!

Q.   Hi I have been with my boyfriend for 7 months now. We have spent almost every night together for the past 4 months and he more or less lives at my house with myself and my child. He sends me love notes and love bears and tells me almost every ...

A.   28 October 2011: deal breaker, relationship ender.. right there. You have a child, end it, and protect your child. Any 23 year old that has sex with a 14 year old deserves to be horse whipped and then put in jail where he can become a sex toy for someone.... (read in full...)

I asked her to dress sexy and she laughed at me and now I feel embarrassed!

Q.   I am in a relationship with this pretty girl for the last 2 years and we are having great loving and sexual relationship . Recently, I asked her to wear very tight pent and jeans in home so that her big tits and butt become obvious for me . She re...

A.   28 October 2011: Some women have no idea the damage they can do to their partners ego. You need to tell her exactly how what she said made you feel. TELL HER... just share your feelings, and don't accuse her, or make it about her... it's about you. It should... (read in full...)

Did I do something wrong by refusing to pay for my wife's new dress?

Q.   Hi, I really got to get this out as I don't know what I am doing wrong, maybe there are some factos which I am not taking into account. My wife and I are both young working professionals, my salary is higher than hers by around 30%. We bough...

A.   28 October 2011: Your wife sounds self-absorbed and appears to believe what is yours in hers, and what is hers is hers. Not at all nice. You both work, you make a bit more than her, and you cover all the household expenses and then she has the guts to ask you to ... (read in full...)

Have zero interest in sex with boyfriend of 4 years...

Q.   Hi. I'm 27, I've been with my boyfriend on and off, for four years. The first two years he turned me on so much, I loved sex with him. In year three we split up - totally unrelated to sex, but it had started to slow down a bit. Anyway, had a ...

A.   1 October 2011: Do him a huge favor, break up with him and do NOT get back with him, what you're doing is cruel and destructive. Let him go, heal and find a woman who can love him.... (read in full...)

How to deal with the unfairness of life?

Q.   Growing up I was poor and my 2 best friends were from rich families. It was hard for me, but I realized it was not my fault and it was not their accomplishment. Now, we have all finished the same university, have the same degree and have our first ...

A.   9 September 2011: It's possible that their upbringing gave them insight into how to pursue careers that paid better. Did you do all you could to insure that you choose a good profession that would pay you very well, or did you pick a lesser profession that pays ... (read in full...)

Should I dump my b/f because he isn't sympathetic when I'm having my period?

Q.   My boyfriend isnt sympathetic when i am on my period, should i dump him ?. He calls me moody and says that he wont put up with the way i am every month when its my time of the month. I get severe cramps and it really gets me down. I know men dont ...

A.   9 September 2011: YES! This will only get worse with time... boot him.... (read in full...)

We just have plain jane sex!

Q.   hi, so, my boyfriend of a year has a wicked past of struggling between two women. His first gf was obsessive, controlling and mentally ill in some ways. His second was a normal girl, but he didn't ever love her. now, he's with me and i know he ...

A.   3 September 2011: You're wasting your time on this guy... you're not going to be able to fix him and he's broken. Cut your loses...... (read in full...)

Cheating for 7years and a child to another woman!!

Q.   my husband has been having an affair for 7 years with his female college friend and a male college friend of his told me that she admited to her close friend that her 6 year old gaughter is my husbands. he has changed alot and swears at me every day ...

A.   3 September 2011: I agree 100%- start gathering all the information you need to go after ever DIME he has. Bank Account numbers, social security numbers, copies of tax filings, his paycheck stubs... everything. Start skimming cash and saving it so he doesn't ... (read in full...)

Why has he stopped all of a sudden??

Q.   I'm confused! I am in my early 20s and ive been with my boyfriend(fiance) for almost 2 years. for the last 8 months, he doesnt want to go down on me?for the first few months we were together, he would go down on me. and now he always expects me to ...

A.   3 September 2011: Well THAT would do it...... (read in full...)

My husbands friends are being too forward..

Q.   I've been with my husband for 6 years now and have been running into this issue a lot lately where his friends, the majority of them, flirt like crazy with me. When I say flirt I mean things like the body language, the "eyes" the sexual innuendo ...

A.   3 September 2011: What is he telling them to make them believe that they have permission to behave this way???... (read in full...)

I like this guy, but he smells really badly. Do I tell him and ruin my potential for a relationship?

Q.   Hey there. So my question is a little weird. For starters, I'm 17 and I'm dating one of my classmates (we're just seeing each other, we're not official or anything yet). We go on dates and hang out a lot and it's all really fun and I really like and ...

A.   3 September 2011: Look, you're NOT going to have a relationship if he smells so bad that you're not going to want to be close to him, so what do you have to loose. Be discrete and consider how me may HEAR the message. Be kind.... (read in full...)

Why do I feel so unhappy and unfulfilled?

Q.   I have a good life so why an I so unhappy? I have a great boyfriend, a nice home, great family and friends but I keep dwelling on the things I don't have. Like a better paying job, my Own house, marriage.... So I guess its more money I want. B...

A.   3 September 2011: You might want to consider that you may be depressed and seeking comfort from material items. If you are depressed you need to get to a Doctor and see if they can find a combination of medication that will relieve your depression and get you back ... (read in full...)

Finding a unique name for a baby boy

Q.   Dear all...hope you all are fit and fine. I needed you guys help. My sis has just given birth to a baby boy and we are looking for a sweet unique name starting with either A or S. Can you all please suggest some unique names....Thank you...

A.   30 August 2011: OK, throw that kind of question out to the WORLD and get some names that might be really unusual for New Zealand. I lived in Australia and had a roomie named Warren. Folks their found it really odd that anyone's parents would name their child ... (read in full...)

Are there any happy couples out there who don't have oral sex?

Q.   I was just wondering if it is possible to have a happy and satisfying relationship without oral sex. So many people on this web site are complaining about their partner who refuses to go down on them. Are there people who are satisfied with their ...

A.   30 August 2011: I think you're worried over nothing... find love and see what each of you is willing to please the other. Oral sex is nearly a given (for BOTH parties). Some men are going to make it non-negotiable, a small percentage of men are not going to care ... (read in full...)

Should I talk to my guy's parents about his behavior?

Q.   Hi My boyfriend seems to have anger management issues and I was wondering how would I teach him that acting agressive towards a woman is wrong? I had considered telling his parents or perhaps letting it be known to a few of our friends but then...

A.   30 August 2011: It's possible that he may have LEARNED this behavior from his father, so you may be stepping into a mine field there. The only way you're going to get this guy to change is to confront him with the truth, which is "change or I'm out of here". ... (read in full...)

Will a guy still like you even if you don't want to have sex?

Q.   Well I was reading someone's question on here about Teen Sex, my question is, will a guy still like you even if you don't want to have sex? I mean, I would love to find a guy that likes me for me and fall in love, but I don't want him to leave me ...

A.   23 August 2011: If he doesn't dump him... he's only after your body.... (read in full...)

Should I wait until my boyfriend gets out of prison to tell him I want to break up?

Q.   So in a very complicated relationship. I have been with my bf for almost six years. He has been in prison for a year now and will be eligable for house arrest soon to live with me. I love him, always will but think we should have broken up a long ...

A.   23 August 2011: tell him ahead of time, don't wait.... (read in full...)

Being harrassed at work, please help!

Q.   Ok, I have a dilemma. So I recently ran into a guy I used to know. My ex boyfriend's sister dated him for years and years. He had made it clear in the past that he was interested in me but I was never really interested because I was usually dating ...

A.   23 August 2011: Tell him that unless he stops 100% you'll turn over his texts to HR and report him for making unwanted advances. Your company will likely put him on notice that if he doesn't stop that they'll take action. Save 10 to 20 of the messages and have HR ... (read in full...)

Severely bullied when I was in 5th and 7th grade. Now I have some issues--are these normal?

Q.   Recently, I've noticed I have some "issues". Are these normal? (this'll be a long one) Backstory: in 5th grade I was severely bullied by a very mean girl. I went to a private catholic school and that particular year I had one friend that I knew in ...

A.   23 August 2011: It's really difficult to even create a list of what you do that appears odd to you, so there may be more, although some of what your describing seems like 100% normal for a person your age. You seem to have a few items that are telling me that ... (read in full...)

I want my b/f to buy a hamster for me. Is it wrong for me to ask?

Q.   I'm poor. I don't have a cent to my name, and have been trying to get a job to have income for the past three months. I have a boyfriend and he always seems to have plenty of money. I am with him because i love him deeply (not for money... he never ...

A.   23 August 2011: No, go ahead and ask, just know that he has the right to say no.... (read in full...)

I do drugs, smoke and drink to relieve boredom. I want help to stop before I ruin my life

Q.   Hi :) I'm asking this because im starting to get a bit worried. Im generally a sensible person, but I dont (in my view) have a very exciting life and sometimes I feel really trapped and I have to go out and do something that I wouldn't usually do. ...

A.   23 August 2011: The way to feel better about life is to start living a better life. Once you do that you'll feel better and better. When I was your age I decided that I had to change the people I was hanging with. It was a really good move. I met some really ... (read in full...)

I hear my parents arguing about sex and it's grossing me out!

Q.   Hello all. This is not really a question regarding myself beyond the fact beyond that the situation is seriously traumatizing me and really, starting to piss me off. My mom went through menopause 5 years ago and apparently, no longer posses...

A.   14 August 2011: AngleDlite is 100% right! Call them on their BS and avoid going into detail. Your mother sounds 100% like a drama queen and it's unforgivable that she's trying to use you as a human shield. ... (read in full...)

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