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writes:I hate the girl I am in love with. Or I am in love with the girl I hate. Not sure exactly how to state it. I have asked her out three times, seeing as she never says no, just that she needs more time and she expects me to be able to guess when she is ready for a relationship. In the meantime she suggest that we stay friends but she doesnt act like a friend. Whenever I ask her to hang out as friends, she always says no. (we were supposed to go to a movie last night, but she texted and cancelled 15 minutes before it started) Now she will only talk to me through text messages. It is like she is embarrassed to been seen with me, even though I have been told, that I am a popular guy. I love her so bad, but she treats me horrible. I have come to recognize this, but I still find myself always thinking about her. She is really nice person, but her unattentional actions are really mean. I always find myself inviting her to do things, even though I expect the same answer "NO" Any help? Opinions? or advice?
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reader, TallGuy +, writes (8 April 2009):
 I am in a similar situation with a girl who I am also very crazy about. She does the exact same thing that you described, but I have come to the realization that she is just leading me on. As yours is leading you on, because she enjoys or gets a power trip out of the attention. She says she loves me, but she never returns my calls,or she says everytime I am busy I can't talk. She never wants to go out, or just hang out. so then we will go out with a group of friends, but if I even look at or even talk with another girl she goes balastic. I am tired of the games, so my advice to you is to do what I am doing, and just move on, and yes it hurts. But we will find somebody that does want to be with us, Good Luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 October 2007): dnt wait for her coz she nos ur always there 4 u that y she iz sayin no but if u dnt ask her out any more she will cme to u
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reader, rammsteinfan +, writes (1 May 2007):
 Sounds like she's either playing games with you, or she chickens out at the last minute....shy or scared.
Why don't you try stopping to contact her...not paying attention like she's used to. That might cause her to make an about-face and change her negative ways to positive and start calling you up all the time.
If that doesn't work at all and she keeps doing what she's doing...she is probably playing you for a fool (I hope that she isn't)
Good Luck!!!
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reader, Helen Help! :)  +, writes (1 May 2007):
 this may seem a little blunt but my advice to you would be get out of there it seems to me she jus likes the fact that somebody really likes her n she nos she can get attention from you. she doesnt want to date you but she doesnt want u to stop wantin her either so she leads you on if she isnt goin to give you a straight answer about her feelings for you then i say try and move on because shes not worth your heart. good luck
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