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writes:I am 16, my boyfriend is 22. his ex is having his baby in a months time, and my parents know this.. we started seeing each other only 3 months ago, he is getting a lot of crap from people about my age and a lot of drama is caused.. the situation sounds worse than it feels. my father and mother took a shine to him and i thought they liked him but he stayed the night and my dad was expressing how worried he was that im losing my youth and need to find someone my own age. that is impossible, ive grown up way too fast and can't relate to people my age. he says there is something "weird about a 22year old interested in me"... even though its FAR from uncommon!!!!do you think its too much hassle and is not worth it?do you think we should end it for his sake and rep?i like him a lot..
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reader, miss fit +, writes (7 May 2007):
i would carry on this relationship, but i think you should know that theres no way its going to be plain sailing- when his ex has his baby its going to be stressful and people are going to give you and him a lot of crap.
good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 April 2007): that a funny thing because I have a girlfriend who is 16 and he boyfriend is 22, I have not heard of anyone saying bad things about the age thing yet but as far as your fathers comment you have to understand were he is coming from, you are only 16 and he is 22. I mean he could get in trouble for even being with you. But it just depends of the relationship. DO you really think this guy likes you? Is the baby by someone else or with you. Because you got a bumpy road ahead of you if it is not your baby. I am a stepmother and I know I never ment to but I would get jelous when my boyfriend now husband would go and visit his baby because i knew he would be around his ex. Do you think you are strong enough to handle that? I would really think it over
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reader, rammsteinfan  +, writes (30 April 2007):
 One thing, you said that your parents have taken a shine to this young man....that is a good sign. Really search your very soul about your true feelings about you bf before making any rash decisions that you will regret later on.
Another thing to ponder about is the new life that is about to be born. You have to think about what his feelings will be as soon as he sees his baby. It could very well rekindle feelings towards his ex. Or maybe not. You have to really think about that.
One thing, if you really love this guy...and his ex is no more...I think that you should stay with him. And don't listen to what others say...just ignore them!!!
I wish you the very best in life!!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 April 2007): if you really like him and if he likes you if its definatly over with him and his ex age has nothin to do with it just stay grounded and keep your witts about you'l be fine in this life you look after number one he obviously likes you if he is stil with you while people give him flack their only jelous x
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reader, cd206 +, writes (29 April 2007):
 I think it's natural for your dad to be worried, not so much because of his age but more because his life is so complicated. Are you prepared for the effects this baby is going to have on his life? His first responsibility will always be to the baby and you will come second. I know I wouldn't have been mature enough to deal with that at 16 although I accept that we're not the same person and you might well be.
If this guy was worried about his reputation or the hassle he wouldn't be with you. Stop worrying about him and think about yourself. A six year age gap now is much bigger than it'll be when you're 22 and he's 28. Take some time to think carefully about the problems of being with someone so much older. You can then present a mature argument to your parents and all your friends about how you can manage your relationship.
CD
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