What songs should I listen to after finding out he doesn't like me?
Q. To cut a long story short I have recently found out that the person I like, likes someone else, and to be honest... I'm gutted. But rather than moping around any longer [I like him A LOT] I want to move on. I need some songs that I can listen to ...
A. 24 November 2009: Have just bought the Lily Allen album - many of the songs seem to fit the bill!... (read in full...)
Could "spotting" mean pregnancy?
Q. I had sex with my boyfriend for the first time yesterday, and it was the first time in about 6 months. I have went a year without sex before and this has never happened to me! I started spotting today, just barely. I am kinda worried. I think that ...
A. 23 November 2009: If you only had sex yesterday you can't possibly be pregnant yet. If you're worried because you had unprotected sex and want to avoid pregnancy go to you doctor as soon as possible to get the morning-after pill. You can take it up to 72 hours after ... (read in full...)
Blow jobs and riding..need advice!
Q. So there are 2 simple things i need help with... The first things i would like help with is as follows: I'm nervous about oral sex. "Blow-jobs". I don't really know why. But is there any way to make me feel a bit more comfortable about it? I ...
A. 23 November 2009: This is a really hard question to answer, honey, because only you can make yourself feel less embarrassed. Sex is often awkward and fumbly when we first start and that's okay. It doesn't matter if it doesn't seem to be perfect every time. You're ... (read in full...)
I smell bad and I don't want sex because of it!
Q. I'm 17 and have currently been in a 1 year relationship with my boyfriend. Only recently i have noticed and increase in the amount of discharge i am producing, its a white colour and is very think with an off putting smell which puts me off having ...
A. 23 November 2009: How was your GP not helpful? Did he simply tell you that there was nothing to worry about or did he give you a treatment that didn't work? If you tried a treatment that didn't work I strongly advise that you go back to him/her and explain that you ... (read in full...)
Is this a normal kind of "fetish" if you could call it that...?
Q. Hey everyone, So, the other day my friend asked me what it was that women found attractive in men. He had asked me for specifics and so I gladly proceeded to list those men I found attractive, and for what reasons. Upon completion, my frien...
A. 23 November 2009: I don't think you have a fetish. A fetish is when you cannot achieve sexual satisfaction without a certain stimulus. Unless you only find men attractive if you can't see their face or can only reach orgasm if your partner is wearing a balaclava, ... (read in full...)
Do you think I'll grow to be over 6 foot tall?
Q. Hi... everyone I'm 18 years old and I have adolescence problems about my height, I'm 5 ft 10 inches but i dunno if i'm tall or short from other people's points of view, but I do want to grow more so i wanna know... will my height grow a bit more ...
A. 23 November 2009: 5'10" is certainly not short. It might not be overly tall either si I guess you're a nice average. At 18 though, you may still grow a little bit more.
From a personal viewpoint I do like a guy to be taller than me (but I'm only 5 ft anyway!)... (read in full...)
Is sex painful?
Q. I love my boyfriend of 2 years with all my heart,the problem is when we kiss, whenever he feels horny and asks for sex, I get really scared, is sex really that bad and is it painful?...
A. 23 November 2009: It's a little bit painful, honey, but not that bad. It varies from person to person but it doesn't last that long. However it will be much more painful if you are tense, anxious or scared.
I think you need to wait until you don't feel scared a... (read in full...)
How to decrease the pain from sex?
Q. hey all after having sex for the first time the other day, my girlfriend and i were both sore as we expected is there anything we can do in between having sex next time to decrease pain? (ie stretching foreskin heaps, i dont have any problem re...
A. 23 November 2009: Is the problem that your foreskin does not retract properly when you are erect? And you find it painful or was it just painful when you had sex for the 1st time.
Lack of lubrication can be one reason for mutual soreness after sex but this shouldn'... (read in full...)
Was this my period or do I still need to take a pregnancy test?
Q. is it possible for me to be pregnant? i had unprotected sex(yes i know, its my bad so no lectures or rants please) a week ago yesterday, last sunday, the 15th november, took immediate action by going to the local minor injuries unit to get the ...
A. 23 November 2009: If it feels like a normal period and is occurring at normal period time then it's probably a normal period. Having taken the morning after pill previously may have screwed up your cycle a bit though.
Some women bleed when a fertilised egg is impla... (read in full...)
Are there any home remedies for oral yeast infections?
Q. I have a oral yeast infection on my tongue. I have used a full tube of gel for it and am well into a liquid stuff I put in, swish around and swallow BUT it isn't getting any better, it is getting worse. I have reduced my sugar intake, avoided ...
A. 23 November 2009: I've also heard that warm water with a few drops in it used as a mouth wash is good for yeast infections. (Don't swallow it or use it neat in your mouth. Don't use it with a prescribed medicine unless a pharmacist says it's okay)
Have you been tes... (read in full...)
Are there any home remedies for oral yeast infections?
Q. I have a oral yeast infection on my tongue. I have used a full tube of gel for it and am well into a liquid stuff I put in, swish around and swallow BUT it isn't getting any better, it is getting worse. I have reduced my sugar intake, avoided ...
A. 23 November 2009: Go back to your doctor or pharmacist (doctor preferably) and explain that the medication you took has not worked. If it oral thrush, there are plenty alternatives that can be used - yeast infections can sometimes become resistant to certain ... (read in full...)
I'm overwhelmed by condom selections! Any tips?
Q. Hey, Me and my girlfriend are thinking of having sex. And it sounds embarrasing, but when i looked in the shop for condoms, i was completely confused on how many different types there are. Can anyone help me out, and tell me the best 'DUREX...
A. 18 November 2009: Durex have a website which explains about all their products and which people they suit. Have a look at it to help make your decision - it's less embarrassing than reading the back of the pack in the shop... (read in full...)
I haven't been myself lately and I am worried I am pregnant!
Q. im 17 years old and have been with my boyfriend for almost a year he is 24, we are in love and are very close. there have been a few times over the past few weeks that the condom split...i put it to the back of my mind and told myself i'll be okay. ...
A. 18 November 2009: It really depends what part of your menstrual cycle you were in when the condoms split. If you were ovulating the chances of you becoming pregnant are high. Since it's happened more than once (the condom splitting) I must strongly advise you to take ... (read in full...)
Why do women sleep with married men?
Q. Why do women who fool around with a married man get it into their thick skulls that men are using them....why do these women persist with married men, is it low self esteem issue, does it give them a high that this man whos morals are clearly not ...
A. 18 November 2009: I guess they're stupid and/or gullible.... (read in full...)
Is it bad to talk to yourself?
Q. Is it bad to talk to yourself? I dont do it in public but if I'm by myself such as in the car driving I usaully talk to myself. The reason I do it is because I dont have nobody else to talk to all my friends that were always ears have babies now ...
A. 18 November 2009: I talk to myself a lot when I'm at home. I find myself very interesting and witty (Which is probably a good thing as I'm sure nobody else does!) LOL... (read in full...)
Is a Christmas gift a sign to a girl that things are starting to get more serious?
Q. I've been dating this girl for about three months now, and we haven't really had any sort of talk about the status of our relationship. I really like her, I'm pretty sure she likes me, and we have a lot of fun together, but I don't want things to ...
A. 18 November 2009: It depends on the size/cost of the gift. Something small is fine (and may well be expected) e.g - plants, teddies, bubble bath, candles, choccies etc. Jewellry, expensive perfumes, sexy undies etc I would consider to be far more personal and I would ... (read in full...)
What songs should I listen to after finding out he doesn't like me?
Q. To cut a long story short I have recently found out that the person I like, likes someone else, and to be honest... I'm gutted. But rather than moping around any longer [I like him A LOT] I want to move on. I need some songs that I can listen to ...
A. 18 November 2009: Gloria Gaynor's " I will survive" springs to mind! Lots of people find that listening to music helps through a period of feeling down but I think the choice of music is very personal. I like to listen to something very noisy and upbeat - something ... (read in full...)
Am I too young to move in with my boyfriend?
Q. i have been with my boyfriend for 9 months now, we are in love and really care about eachother. im 17 and hes 23, we both have jobs and that. at the moment hes looking for his own place, and the other night he turnt and said to me "you could live ...
A. 17 November 2009: I think you are a bit too young to take such a drastic step. Discuss it seriously with your family before making any decision. After all, if the relationship goes pear-shaped, you will have to move back into the family home.
If you are still st... (read in full...)
Why did my ex text me? What does he want from me?
Q. I wish i didnt even care to ask this question but i cant help myself. ive been broken up with my ex since march and just two months ago we stopped talking completely. it was hard since the break up because we would still see each other and he even ...
A. 17 November 2009: I don't know how long you were together for but he's bound to have fond memories and he's probably texted you in a moment of weakness.
You won't know what prompted this moment of weakness though - it could be that he's had a bit of a rough pa... (read in full...)
Female Ejaculation Problems, Help!!!
Q. So I've been attempting to masturbate for a while now to see if I can have an orgasm since I haven't experienced one with a partner. I watched a video explaining tips on how to ejaculate, so I start masturbating and I reach that point where I'm ...
A. 17 November 2009: I feel the OP is a little confused - or maybe I am. Are you saying that you are trying to have an orgasm or trying to experience female ejaculation? Because they are not one and the same thing. Women can enjoy orgasms with or without "ejaculating". ... (read in full...)
My husband has no sexual desire and can't keep an erection!
Q. How can you find out ,why your husband has no sexual desire, and losing his erection? How do you know know if it's psychological? ...
A. 17 November 2009: You know if it's psychological by eliminating medical causes first. He should go to the doctor really (but I know that it can be impossible to get a man to do that)... (read in full...)
What was this thing I found in my panties?
Q. im 17 years old now... but a few years ago when i was about 14 on holiday i woke up and had this thing i cant explain in my knickers, it was kind of big, it looked a bit like a fetus, but the thing is i was a virgin at the time so i dont understand ...
A. 17 November 2009: Well it obviously wasn't a foetus if you were a virgin at the time. If this happened a few years ago, it's never happened again and you have no heath problems you should just try your best to forget about it and put it down to one of life's ... (read in full...)
Trying for a baby
Q. Hi I have a question I really would love some advice on. My long term boyfriend and I are trying for a baby. In anyways I have been off the pill for the last year and now no longer using condoms. My boyfriend and I had sex umprotected sex on the ...
A. 16 November 2009: I think there's still a chance, love. Your pregnancy hormones may still be quite weak, especially if you have a slightly longer cycle than average. Repeat the test in a week if your period is overdue. Fingers crossed for you...... (read in full...)
Is it wrong to have sex during your period?
Q. Is it wrong to have sex when you're on your period? I recently did and I believe that I freaked my partner out, but I didn't think anything about it and forgot to tell him....
A. 14 November 2009: No, there's nothing wrong with it. Some guys are just a bit more squeamish than others. Also some girls refuse to have sex while they're having their period so it might be something he'd not experienced before... (read in full...)
Late period, and pregnancy test is negative! What do I do now?
Q. I just took a pregnancy test because I'm over a week late for my period, the test was negative... Should i take another one? If yes how long should I wait? And what should I do? I'm normally not this late!...
A. 14 November 2009: If you're still on the pill and have been taking it properly the chances of you being pregnant are quite slim but still possible so do take that other test.
Discuss it with your doctor when you see him and get him to weigh you as weight loss (an... (read in full...)
Late period, and pregnancy test is negative! What do I do now?
Q. I just took a pregnancy test because I'm over a week late for my period, the test was negative... Should i take another one? If yes how long should I wait? And what should I do? I'm normally not this late!...
A. 13 November 2009: At your age it's not unusual to skip a period (or have a delayed period) even if you've had regular ones up until now.
If you're sexually active, there's always a chance you might be pregnant even if you've used contraception - but you already ... (read in full...)
Should I be feeling guilty because of how my ex's life turned out?
Q. My ex fiance was back in contact after 20 yrs. When we were engaged i would do anything for her. We broke up because of unknown reasons. When got back in touch what she told me was disturbing. Here is the list. She was prego by me but lost it. Her ...
A. 12 November 2009: It's not wrong to feel guilty but guilt is an unpleasant emotion which nobody likes to experience. But you shouldn't feel guilty - these were events that you had no control over. Ypu could never have known these things would happen and they are not ... (read in full...)
How can I go out clubbing if I'm underage?
Q. ok so heres my story. My girlfreind/also my best freind is 19 on the 13th of december, and im 18 4 days later she is having her birthday party going out clubbing, as you know you have to be 18 to get into a club..... i cant miss my girl...
A. 12 November 2009: What a bummer! The only thing I can suggest is change the date of the party if it's only 4 days. She might just think about it.... (read in full...)
Is it possible she died of a broken heart...?
Q. Dear Agony Aunts, A really pretty girl who had a thing for me when we were teens died back in March from a heart problem. We didn't get to know each other as much as she wanted to due to interference by different people I was dealing with. An...
A. 12 November 2009: I'm sorry she died but no. She died of a heart condition. You had nothing to do with it.
Why do you believe "Any girl who makes a pass at a boy who doesn't reciprocate even if he likes her will feel like a complete whore." I certainly never ha... (read in full...)
What exactly is masturbation for a girl?
Q. What is masturbation for a girl? I've seen many people saying 'I can fit 4 fingers in' but what does it entirely mean? And how do you get pleasure from it? Hope you can help :) xx....
A. 12 November 2009: Masturbation is stimulating the genitals to gain sexual pleasure. Girls (and women) usually masturbate by stroking or rubbing their genitals with their fingers or an object (such as a vibrator). Some girls also masturbate by rubbing their genitals ... (read in full...)
First time sex tips, please?
Q. Hi, im a 15 year old female and a virgin and want to have sex with my boyfriend soon. He's 16 but has had sex alot of times. He knows that i am a virgin and says that when we do it, he will take it slowly for me and make sure that i'm okay with it....
A. 12 November 2009: lubricant (or "lube") is like a thin clear jelly. It's designed to make it easier to slide the penis into the vagina. The vagina produces its own natural lubricant, especially when a woman is sexually aroused but for some women their own natural ... (read in full...)
First time sex tips, please?
Q. Hi, im a 15 year old female and a virgin and want to have sex with my boyfriend soon. He's 16 but has had sex alot of times. He knows that i am a virgin and says that when we do it, he will take it slowly for me and make sure that i'm okay with it....
A. 12 November 2009: I'll start by reminding you that your boyfriend will be breaking the law if he has sexual intercourse with you before your 16th birthday. This could make things very difficult for him if anyone finds out. If you can wait until you're 16 I strongly ... (read in full...)
Are my Irregular periods normal?
Q. I am 13 years old and started my period in May 2009. I had it for about a week and then didn't have my next period until September and then just recently started at the end of October and i'm still on it now so, for about two weeks ......it is ...
A. 12 November 2009: It's very normal for periods to be all over the place when you first start. I think when I started mine I only had 3 periods in one year and they would always catch me by surprise. They really only became regular once I was in my 30's. It's not ... (read in full...)
Can anyone please give me advice on azoospermia?
Q. Can anyone please give me any advice on azoospermia, which is when there is no sperm in the ejaculate. I know someone, 24yrs married, who has this but needs advice on any possible cure? Please, please help!!...
A. 12 November 2009: azoospermia can be caused by a blockage in the tubes that transport the sperm from the testes or because no sperm is produced at all. A biopsy is sometimes needed to discover what the cause is. A blockage can usually be treated surgically but i... (read in full...)
How does mine compare to yours? Or others you might have seen?
Q. hi. i need to ask the guys on dear cupis a question. i honestly want to know how big my penis is compared to yours/ those you might have seen. currently when erect my penis is 16.5 cm or 6ish inches and when flacis its 11cm or 4 inches. so based on ...
A. 11 November 2009: six inches is perfect... (read in full...)
Should I be alarmed by the timing of her personal grooming?
Q. I am a 44 y/o male engaged to a 42 y/o woman...we have been together for 1.5 yrs., our relationship has had it's ups and downs, however, we profess our commitment to each other. She seems to wear her ring with pride. Although, lately we have been in ...
A. 10 November 2009: No, I don't think so. Grooming for women is often about FEELING good rather than looking good. If you feel neatly groomed you feel more confident and sure about yourself even if no-one is going to see all the bits you groomed! If this is a big ... (read in full...)
Is it safe to use vaginal cream after two weeks of abortion?
Q. Is it safe to use vaginal cream after two weeks of abortion?...
A. 10 November 2009: I would avoid using anything vaginally so soon after an abortion unless you have checked with a doctor or pharmacist... (read in full...)
Older women? Should I date one?
Q. I'm 30, I had a woman give me her friend's phone number (the friend had liked me for some time). This was in the supermarket where I worked at the time. This woman was 35. I was also asked out by a 39 year old woman. What should I do? Is it ok to go ...
A. 9 November 2009: Sure it's okay as long as they're not married! Especially if it's just dating. If you are ultimately looking for a relationship you might want to consider the fact that an older women may not have many child-bearing years left if having a family is ... (read in full...)
How to give better advice..
Q. This is a follow-up to my article on "how to get good advice" located at http://www.dearcupid.org/question/how-to-get-good-advice.html This time I am going to delve into the area on how to give good or better advice to those who are seeking it. ...
A. 9 November 2009: Good article tux. I'd also add that the "aunt" should read and re-read the question carefully before answering, taking note of the original poster's age, sex and country of origin. I've often noticed poor or incorrect advice being given because the ... (read in full...)
Do guys like it when women moan during sex?
Q. Do guys like it when girls moan during sex?...
A. 9 November 2009: Some do, some don't. It depends on the guy. Most guys seem to like it if you make a some sounds as it gives them a bit of feedback as to whether you are enjoying it or not.... (read in full...)
I sometimes feel bad about not being able to relate to my friends when they talk about guys or their relationships.
Q. I sometimes feel bad about not being to relate to my friends when they talk about guys or their relationships. I've only been in one serious relationship, but they've been in more. They don't make me feel bad or left out or anything, but I just feel ...
A. 9 November 2009: Cheer up honey - you have some fantastic and enviable qualities - you're strong, independent, career-focused and don't feel that you need a guy to complete you. Just remember them when you start to feel bad. Your friends probably really respect ... (read in full...)
I still dream about my ex
Q. Well, I've recently broke up with my boyfriend of 7 months. I've known him for 3 years nearly.. He's kinda cheated on me, and over those 7 months has progressed a side I've yet to see before. He lies a lot. About stupid stuff though! Like, he made ...
A. 9 November 2009: I broke up with my ex over 7 years ago and I still think about him at least once a day. I still dream about him sometimes too.
I don't miss him, I don't want him back, my life is much better since we broke up - but I still think about him.
... (read in full...)
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