I still dream about my ex
Q. Well, I've recently broke up with my boyfriend of 7 months. I've known him for 3 years nearly.. He's kinda cheated on me, and over those 7 months has progressed a side I've yet to see before. He lies a lot. About stupid stuff though! Like, he made ...
A. 9 November 2009: I broke up with my ex over 7 years ago and I still think about him at least once a day. I still dream about him sometimes too.
I don't miss him, I don't want him back, my life is much better since we broke up - but I still think about him.
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I just don't know what's wrong with me these past few months!
Q. Hey everyone, just dont know what is wrong with me the last few months. its like im in the depths of despair or something. i came out of a 3 and a half year relationship 5 months ago. and i just havent been the same since. im not sure why im like ...
A. 9 November 2009: I think you sound clinically depressed, love. It's natural to feel lost and despairing after the end of a long term relationship - especially if it lasted for 3 years and the break up was only 5 months ago. You really can't expect yourself to be ... (read in full...)
Sometimes during orgasm, I pass out.
Q. when im having sex, sometimes i have mulitple orgasms. on an occasion that that does occur, sometimes if the orgasms are too pleasurable they can make me pass out. is this something occurs to many people or is it something i should be concerned ...
A. 9 November 2009: I have heard of this before but I don't think it's at all common. It can happen to people with narcolepsy (a condition that make you fall asleep suddenly) but if this was the case you would probably be passing out at other times as well.
I per... (read in full...)
Guys, what is your favourite position?
Q. What do guys like best sex wise? Any special posistion? ...
A. 9 November 2009: What's the betting they all say "doggy style?"... (read in full...)
Tried a new position and it made me bleed. Is this normal?
Q. My boyfriend and I made love last night, and we were a little more adventurous i.e. trying a couple of new positions, but nothing strenuous or 'weird'. Anyway, when we had finished and I went to the toilet and there was a little bit of blood - Is it ...
A. 9 November 2009: I think it's unlikely that your hymen "broke some more" if you've been sexually active in the past but it is possible. (I once witnessed a woman give birth who had a stretched but intact hymen despite the fact she'd conceived naturally. Needless to ... (read in full...)
Did I mess up taking my birth control pill?
Q. Hi, i am just wondering what to do, I am startng on the pill and i misheard the doctor and took the first pill on saturday even though im not due my period until wednesday. I only took one of the pills becase i discovered i wasnt supposed to start ...
A. 9 November 2009: The reason that women (in the UK) are advised to start taking the pill on the 1st day of their period is because the arrival of a period is a relatively clear indicator that the woman isn't already pregnant. (The pill shouldn't be taken during ... (read in full...)
Snoring and talking in his sleep?
Q. What causes a guy to snore and sleep talk, if h never use to do it before?...
A. 8 November 2009: stress and/or alcohol might... (read in full...)
Can anal sex get you pregnant?
Q. Can you get pregnant if you have sex from the back?...
A. 8 November 2009: It is possible but highly unlikely to get pregnant from anal intercourse as semen can run out of the anus and can come in contact with vagina. Use a condom suitable for anal intercourse... (read in full...)
Need some clarification on her flirting techniques! What did she mean?
Q. Hi, just a quick question about flirting. This girl and I have been flirting for a while, mostly harmless but sometimes more suggestive. Recently, we were flirting by text, and she sent me a teasing message, questioning my sexual experien...
A. 8 November 2009: I think that this is definitely part of the flirting. Obviously I can't read her mind but I think she may be trying to move things along a little if you haven't flirted at this level before.
I take it that this is welcome attention and that bot... (read in full...)
I'm 13 and wondering if I am a lesbian?
Q. I am 13 and like boys. But last weekend I stayed at my BFF house like we do sometimes. That night we started talking about boys and sex and stuff. We were talking about what it is like with our boyfriends and started messing around. So we e...
A. 8 November 2009: Having a same sex experience and enjoying it does not make you gay. It's confusing as hell when you're only 13 but it doesn't mean that you're gay.
If you identify yourself as straight, continue to do so. Lots of people straight have enjoyed ... (read in full...)
I love him but am willing to let him go...but he has some college books I need and I can't talk to him! What should I do?
Q. hey guys i hooked up with mu housemate during the summer but he didnt want a relatiosnhip. recently i saw him agian and it was lovely to see each other but he said its too hard for us to see each other asnd i nearly agree even thio i love him im ...
A. 8 November 2009: send him a text or an email explaining that you really need those books back. Or write him an old fashioned letter. Be sure to suggest a way he can get them to you without you having to meet up (just in case he thinks you are trying to keep the ... (read in full...)
Do you think he blames me for him getting to work late? What is going on with him?!
Q. So my bf was supposed to come over yesterday night, because he needed me to wake him up at 5 in the morning because he has work at 6, he never came over and i called him like at 10 the next morning, asking him why he did not come over again, he said ...
A. 8 November 2009: Let me just get some facts straight in my head....
1) He was supposed to come over last night but didn't because he went out instead.
2) He is an hour late for work the next day
3) You call him at 10 and he says he'll call back later.
4) H... (read in full...)
Do you think it's okay to send your ex a Happy Birthday message? Or should you just leave it?
Q. Do U think its ok to send your ex happy birthday message or just leave it?...
A. 8 November 2009: It all depends on the circumstances of the break-up, how long ago, who broke up with whom, is someone seeing someone else?
A simple happy birthday is a harmless, inoffensive greeting and should be fine but you should question your motives before s... (read in full...)
BF has other priorities than a relationship... should I wait for him?
Q. I have been seing this guy for over a year now. its basically an open relationship. it strictly sexual when we first started it. But as time passed by, we both started getting attached. I know he cares for me but the problem is he doesnt show it. He ...
A. 8 November 2009: I'm inclined to agree with all the other readers on this. Does he say what these "other priorities" are? If he's working towards a qualification, caring for a poor sick mother or paying maintenance to children from previous relationships, then he ... (read in full...)
Who is right in this situation?
Q. Hey everyone, So i was with this guy for 3 months and he got close with my best friend. Anyways I found out that my boyfriend cheated on me so i broke up with him. The very first person i told about this was my best friend. I came crying to her and ...
A. 8 November 2009: I'm afraid I think you're friend has more of a point. You can choose you friends but you can't choose your friend's friends.
I know it's much easier if, after a break-up, everybody you care about also hates the ex and wants to bitch about them too... (read in full...)
Should I pursue my gay cousin?
Q. Okay, so, I am gay, and my 3rd cousin twice removed is as well (homosexual and male), and i'm not going to beat around the bush, i want to hook up with him and have even thought about dating him. 1. Is this bad? 2. What do i do about it?...
A. 8 November 2009: I'm not entirely sure how incest laws work in the US but in the UK it's very unlikely that relationships between 3rd cousins would be regarded as unlawful unless you had grown up together as brothers or if he is much older/younger than you. Much of ... (read in full...)
Boy troubles - which one should I choose?
Q. Hello! Im dumb with boy troubles. Six months ago, I was suppost to date this guy called Zak whos 16, Im 15. Everything was working out perfect, until we got into a fight, and stopped talking. Then I dated this guy called Dylan for three months, e...
A. 8 November 2009: I'm with caringguy on this one. Choose neither, give yourself a break for a couple of months and see how they behave. Hopefully in those few months someone else will turn up who's not a jerk.... (read in full...)
Should I tell him I meant it when I said that I loved him?
Q. Last night I said in my sleep "i love you" to my bf for the first time. We have never said 'i love you' to each other yet before. I sleep talk quiet often, but usally I either just mumble things he cant understand or im yelling and screaming when I ...
A. 8 November 2009: Something very similar happened to me a long time ago (although it just slipped out while I was awake so I couldn't even blame it on a dream) My boyfriend of the time didn't say anything back and I didn't mention it again til the next day.
I sai... (read in full...)
Is my girl hinting that she wants anal sex?
Q. Ok, so my girlfriend and I had tried anal sex a long time ago and she didn't like it, but we didn't do the "prep" work to make it enjoyable, sort of just were spontaneous about it...big mistake. Anyhow, I can care less, but she asked for it the...
A. 8 November 2009: Lots of people do enjoy anal stimulation but don't enjoy full penetrative ananl sex so this is not necessarily and indictaion that she's going to want to try it again. If it is sign that she wants anal sex and you have an realtionship bas... (read in full...)
The worst thing that can happen is rejection but I've already had that, What do you think?
Q. Hello, This is a bit awkward for me so bear with me. I am a sophomore in college. My 2nd semester of freshman year I was in a class and I noticed an individual who caught my interest. It had been about a year and a half since I had been in a re...
A. 8 November 2009: Don't forget to get on and do something to take your mind off it.... (read in full...)
My daughter is ten! Is this sexual role play normal?
Q. my daughter is ten and is friends with a girl the same age. my daughter told me about a year ago that her friend masturbates in their class at school (which i have since told the head teacher) and has now told me that this girl has been role playing ...
A. 8 November 2009: You've done the right thing by reporting to the NSPCC. If you mentioned to the NSPCC that her parents are actively involved in the school via the board of govorners, this should be taken into consideration during any investigation. Bear in mind, ... (read in full...)
Embarassing vaginal odor - is this normal?
Q. Ever since I was probably 15 (I'm 19 now) I've had a distinct smell from my vagina. I know it's normal for girls to have an odor or scent down there, but sometimes its strong enough that if I just sit with my legs apart I can smell it. Along with ...
A. 8 November 2009: You're right to say that the vaginal reason has a smell and this smell will vary slightly according to the time of the month becoming stronger during menstruation. This smell will be slightly stronger/more noticable towards the end of the day (same ... (read in full...)
What can I do to impress him?
Q. I've just started uni, and really like a lad, who I haven't even spoken to yet. I've just heard him speak in the class etc, and he is really gorgeous. I know that he may not be what he seems because I've not even spoken to him yet, and I'm wiling to ...
A. 6 November 2009: Smile Make eye contact Say Hi to him every time you see him Pay him a compliment (nice jacket/trainers/tattoo/whatever) Be yourself... (read in full...)
The worst thing that can happen is rejection but I've already had that, What do you think?
Q. Hello, This is a bit awkward for me so bear with me. I am a sophomore in college. My 2nd semester of freshman year I was in a class and I noticed an individual who caught my interest. It had been about a year and a half since I had been in a re...
A. 6 November 2009: You're right, you've got nothing to lose so go for it. The worst that can happen is that he'll ignore it. Just plan some fun stuff to do right after you've sent it so you don't hang around stressing about whether he's going to reply or not... (read in full...)
Do men that are abusive and violent always act like this?
Q. I have a question is it normal for a guy to always make me feel like his the victim. The scenario is that I have been with a guy for more than 4 years who is not the father of my 2 boys..Some violent incidents have occured in the past were I ...
A. 5 November 2009: Yes. It's very common for the abuser to blame the victim for everything that's gone wrong, sometimes even blaming the victim for causing the abuse to happen. Abusers do this because they need to convince themselves that they are the victims and ... (read in full...)
Is it normal to prefer sex during the first days of menstruation?
Q. I am curious. My wife tells me that she is most interested in Sex about the 3rd or 4th day of her period. Is this quite normal?...
A. 5 November 2009: A lot of my friends have told me that they feel hornier during their period. I do too - and I ususally find it's around day 3 or 4 (because the cramps on day 1 & 2 are a bit of a turn-off) I also have a much higher sex drive during ovulation - it's ... (read in full...)
I have a full life, but worry that I may not find love. Are there others out there like me?
Q. Hello all, I am an attractive, and very young looking 41 year old woman.I never meet men around my own age, as they always think I am too young for them, and do not approach me, and the guys I do meet are never really settled, or they are unsuita...
A. 5 November 2009: Wow! There's certainly a lot of food for thought here. I'd be interested to know if you get any sensible answers out of your male friends like LazyGuy & Tisha suggest. (My male friends were no help at all!)
And both Lazy Guy & human male have giv... (read in full...)
My period is SO much heavier than NORMAL!
Q. I am not sure if this is normal...so I will ask? I got my period yesterday(not for the first time,had it lots of times) and it has been really heavy, since yesterday around 3 pm and now I have gone through like 6 pairs of underwear. Also I have been ...
A. 5 November 2009: I'm glad you've made the appointment. You want to be reassured.......... (read in full...)
I have a full life, but worry that I may not find love. Are there others out there like me?
Q. Hello all, I am an attractive, and very young looking 41 year old woman.I never meet men around my own age, as they always think I am too young for them, and do not approach me, and the guys I do meet are never really settled, or they are unsuita...
A. 4 November 2009: Yes, I share this problem and I empathise. I don't know if I'll be able to advise you much because I haven't figured out "why" yet either but sometimes it helps to know that there are other people out there who feel the same way! I try not to d... (read in full...)
Do girls have a problem with a curved penis? And what skin tone do girls find more attractive?
Q. Hi...i'm 18 years old boy,i have two questions. 1. I don't know why but i have a slightly curved penis.Its very little bent downwards and slightly curved to its left,perhaps its coz of the way i masturbate as i masturbate pressing my penis on...
A. 3 November 2009: I had a boyfriend with a curved penis once. When it was inside I couldn't notice the difference from a straight penis. It was cool to look at though....... (read in full...)
My period is SO much heavier than NORMAL!
Q. I am not sure if this is normal...so I will ask? I got my period yesterday(not for the first time,had it lots of times) and it has been really heavy, since yesterday around 3 pm and now I have gone through like 6 pairs of underwear. Also I have been ...
A. 3 November 2009: No this doesn't sound normal. I wouldn't even like to hazard a guess as to what's causing you to bleed so heavily as it could be so many things.
Get to a doctor as soon as you can. Having to change tampons every hour is excessive. Even if it is ju... (read in full...)
Is there a way to check for broken hymen? Out of curiousity and health.
Q. Is there a way I can check if my hymen is broken or not?i want to see if theres a way.just for curiosity...
A. 2 November 2009: No I'm afraid not. Unless you want to ask a doctor for an exam.... (read in full...)
I can't stand the thought of my divorced parents with new partners, what should I do?
Q. My parents have recently split up after 30 years of marriage. I think one of them has just started a new relationship and I don't know what to do. I don't want to have anything to do with the new partner but does that mean I can't have the same ...
A. 2 November 2009: I can sympathise - I think I'd find it tough if my parents split and I had to get to know new partners etc but it wouldn't be up to me. I have no say in what my parents do. I think it will change the relationship you have with each parent but ... (read in full...)
Has anyone else felt this ache?
Q. My period should be due next Week and it comes about every 30-32 days. 14 days after my period I had a ache on one side of my pelvic area. So I think I ovulated then.... Now I have been getting a ache since yesterday and it seems like it could be...
A. 2 November 2009: This could be anything or nothing. I'm afraid I don't think anybody on this site will be able to offer you much more help. The symptoms you describe are so vague and generalised even a medical professional couldn't hazard a guess from what you've ... (read in full...)
How do I keep myself from contacting him?
Q. Oh help me! He is at it again. How do I keep myself from any contact with him - I think I need to be hospitalized! He is texting me again this morning. About what they are doing and their jobs etc. I think it is a desperate attempt from him ...
A. 2 November 2009: Well done and hang in there. You've made a really positive step. You are the strong one in this - he's the weak one that can't give you up so remember that!
Your ex seems to think you've got a lot to offer and I'm sure you do - just don't offer it... (read in full...)
I miss him so much! Is this a phase?
Q. hello need some advice! I was with my boyfriend for nearly two years, i loved him very much but we started arguing daily and i felt like there was little trust in the relationship.. so even though i wanted to be with him, i knew i shouldnt be with ...
A. 2 November 2009: Just hang in there sweetie. You know you've made the right decision but it doesn't make it any less painful, does it?
Breaking up with someone is horrible and it always hurts really badly - it's normal to feel like this and only time will help you... (read in full...)
If he held my hand does he like me?
Q. hello everyone. So i am a freshman and i am in a play currently, and if anyone here has ever been involved in theatre, they know how close you get to EVERYONE! So there is this senior who is so nice and sweet. BUT he has a girlfriend currently. But ...
A. 30 October 2009: This guy obviously likes you a lot and is enjoying flirting with you but no-one can tell whether he's serious about you or just a player..... that you'll have to decide for yourself.
I've done loads of plays and completely understand the friendsh... (read in full...)
What are the chances of a false positive on a pregnancy test?
Q. i had my last period on the 13th of september, my next one took longer to come around so i did a pregnancy test and it was positive. i know it sounds silly but i found it hard to believe, even though i am in a secure relationship and we are happy to...
A. 29 October 2009: If you have had 2 positive tests and haven't had a period since sept 13th then congratulations are almost definitely in order! The tests are pretty accurate
We can't tell how far along you are because it is possible to have a bleed similar ... (read in full...)
Worried about the aspect of my genitals!
Q. is it normal for one side of the inside of the vagina to "hang" lower than the other?! its made me well paranoid lol.. dont know if this is normal or not! also, do boys care about girls having a fat vagina?! coz i mean im a bigger girl and yer i was ...
A. 29 October 2009: Are you talking about the labia minora - the inner lips? Yes it's perfectly normal for one to be larger or hang lower than the other one. Nobody is truly symmetrical. As for "fat vaginas"... I couldn't say if blokes like them or not! But I don't... (read in full...)
Why is one breast smaller than the other?
Q. I am 13 years old. and I have come to know that my left breast is smaller than the right breast, it worries me. what should i do....
A. 29 October 2009: My right breast is a whole cup size bigger than the right. It doesn't bother me as you can't really see it under the clothes and almost all women have different sized breasts. You're very young so they should even out a little. Very occasionall... (read in full...)
How do I keep myself from contacting him?
Q. Oh help me! He is at it again. How do I keep myself from any contact with him - I think I need to be hospitalized! He is texting me again this morning. About what they are doing and their jobs etc. I think it is a desperate attempt from him ...
A. 29 October 2009: Is the question how can you get him to stop contacting you or how can you stop yourself from responding to him when he contacts you? When I needed to sever ties with an ex I got a new phone number and deleted all his contact details so i wou... (read in full...)
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