Could this be my first period, at 14?
Q. Okay so my mom didint start her period till she was 16. so today I started bleeding like dark brown and it was In my underwear? I'm only 14 never had sex what's going on? PlZ help? ...
A. 17 January 2010: It sure sound like a period. Tell your mum if you can... (read in full...)
I am doing the right thing in stopping him from kissing me, aren't I?
Q. This guy that I was sleeping with tells me he doesn't feel he is ready for a relationship and he doesnt want to have just causal sex, so we both decided to remain friends. The day we decided that, he came over to mine and we were watching a movie ...
A. 16 January 2010: Yes, I think you are. If you have both decided to be friends then treat him like one. You probably don't snog your girlfriends. Or hold hands with them or cuddle up to watch movies together.
It sounds like he doesn't know what he wants at the mome... (read in full...)
Any 'different' ideas for a gift for Valentine's Day?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for a little over a year and I honestly love him with all my heart. Well, this Valentine's Day, we decided to make each other something, not go out and try to spend money on each other. He told me he's going to ...
A. 16 January 2010: Making something is always more significant. How about making a CD collection of songs that "mean" something to you. They needn't all be romantic.... movie sound tracks, advert jingles, that annoying Xmas number one, the song that really annoys him ... (read in full...)
It's embarassing when my mother has mood swings in public, how can I calm her down?
Q. Hello people I have a problem, My mum has sudden mood swings sometimes and one minute she's in a great mood and the next she's in a terrible temper what can I say to her to calm her down so she doesn't get these terrbible mood swings that are a ...
A. 15 January 2010: I note your age and wonder how old you mother is. If this is a new problem (not one that's been going on for years) I would discuss it with other members of your family to see if they have noticed similar changes. Sudden personality changes in the ... (read in full...)
Can guys fall in love with girls who have scars on their bodies?
Q. Can you guys fall in love with a girl with scars on her body? burns, insect bites, injuries and other types of scars. Can you guys stay, love and be with a girl with those? Does it matter?...
A. 15 January 2010: Yes a guy can fall in love with a girl with scars. No it doesn't matter if he loves you.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has a pimple on his penis, is this normal?
Q. i kno this is goin to sound weird and all and i just want to make sure that we are both ok and safe. my bf has a pimple on his you know what... and i looked at it. it def. looks like a pimple and nothing else. Is that normal?...
A. 15 January 2010: Zits and pimples on the penis are not uncommon but if you want to know "could it be an STD" the only sure way to tell is by an STD test.... (read in full...)
Counselling sessions advice?
Q. I am considering going to a doctor asking to get a referral to a counsellor. I am 18 and in higher education. Will I have to pay for counselling sessions and is there anything else I should know?...
A. 15 January 2010: Your college/uni health service may be able to give you a course of counselling sessions or you can access it from your G.P.
The NHS offers free weekly counselling for 6 - 12 weeks (depending on the health authority you live in) There may be a sho... (read in full...)
Gushing climaxes
Q. when I orgasm it spurts out in rather large amounts and (gushes) distance is this normal for most woman?...
A. 15 January 2010: It's not normal in "most" women but certainly for some. As emily says - it's an ability that some people would love to have.... (read in full...)
Can being too wet be a bad thing?
Q. This is a question coming from an obvious virgin, but I'm a little worried at the same time. I get wet very easily and very fast. It's enough to saturate my underwear. My only problem is I'm worried I'm going to be TOO wet when I actualy have sex. ...
A. 15 January 2010: I would say "I suffer with the same problem" but that would be a lie. It's not a problem and it certainly doesn't cause suffering. Men love it!!... (read in full...)
He don't want him to need a drink to make a move on me...
Q. ok i've started seeing this guy about 4 or 5 weeks ago and everything is going well - i'm quite surprised at this because all my life i've had failed relationships and i'm not really that confident when it comes to relationships. When he's drun...
A. 12 January 2010: I'd just pounce on him. Not sure if it's the right thing to do bit it's what I'd do.... (read in full...)
I've slept with one person, and been with him for 3 years. Yet I think I have herpes!
Q. Hey everybody. Im seventeen years old and going through a tough time. About two years ago me an my boyfriend of 3 years slept with each other for the first time, and have been sleeping together since, at first using condoms and then after a...
A. 12 January 2010: treat yourself for thrush first. It sure sounds like it.... (read in full...)
What do men find really irrestible in women???
Q. Is it possible to make someone fall in love with you? Im not talking about attracting a guy so you can sleep together, but the kinda love where he wants to meet your parents. What do men find really irrestible in women??? please be honest,...
A. 11 January 2010: If you find out, be sure to let me know :)... (read in full...)
Help me out here! Is it illegal for an 18 year old to date an 15 year old?
Q. Is it illegal for an 18 year old to date an 15 year old? ...
A. 11 January 2010: No it's not illegal for an 18 year old to date a 15 year old but it is illegal for him to engage in any sexual activity with her.... (read in full...)
Boyfriend's mom seen nude pics of me and says she's going to show everyone!
Q. I sent my boyfriend some nude pics of me, and his mom saw them and took his phone. Now she is saying she is going to show people the pics of me. I was just wondering if there was anything i could do. Now before you judge me, i have been with my ...
A. 11 January 2010: Tell your boyfriends mother that if she does show anyone you will tell the police. Remind her that technically, she will be distributing indecent pictures of a minor if she does show anyone (and such actions are worthy of police attention)
Of co... (read in full...)
I hate university! How do I tell my parents?
Q. Let me just get straight to the point, I hate university, and i'm only there to make my parents happy. They know that. I've tried telling them so many times that i'm literally depressed there. I still live at home and travel up every morning, but I ...
A. 11 January 2010: It might be useful for you to consider why you hate it so much.
I was in exactly the same position more years ago than I care to remember. My parents had big plans for me but I didn't do as well in my A levels as they had hoped. I felt pressure... (read in full...)
I can't check for the strings because I'm repulsed by my own insides!
Q. Right this is really embarresing for me. But I had the implant about two months ago so I am almost fully protected for pregnany and stuff. But I have been told to check for the strings, and I just can't put my fingers up there, the feeling of my ow...
A. 11 January 2010: Try wearing a latex glove - you can buy them from a pharmacy... (read in full...)
I feel really guilty...how do I come to terms with my past?
Q. I just finished college, and my last semester was one I unfortunately regret in many ways. I dated a guy for two years and he broke up with me right before first semester ended. He was my first serious boyfriend, and this hit me pretty hard. We ...
A. 11 January 2010: Double M's right. You can't carry it round with you.
I went through a similar phase when I was a student and felt pretty stupid at some of the decisions I made but now I do honestly look back and laugh and remember (most things) fondly.
If you ... (read in full...)
Skipping rope dangerous?
Q. hey guys!!!! my girlfriends 18 ....well actually she has gained a lil weight and now wants to get rid of it!!!! before 2 years i was 85 kgs n came down to 60 kgs just by skippin (jumpin rope)..... i told my gf to do the same...bt i hav heard tht ...
A. 11 January 2010: Skipping has no effect on the uterus that I know of... (read in full...)
How do you end a friendship?
Q. How do you tell a long time friend that your friendship is over? Lets say for instance that if you tell this friend they might hurt themselves or hurt you or do something else. I need help I don't have the courage. I am afraid!...
A. 11 January 2010: I agree with country woman that more information would be useful.
Is this a romantic relationship you wish to sever (mutual or not) or just a friend that you want to cut out of your life?
Why do you feel that you need to stop being their frie... (read in full...)
Can a labia majora be docked?
Q. my best friend has a quite big labia majora and a friend of us suggested her that she should put a rubber round it so it can cut out(docked),like people do it on dog's tails.is that ok?i am worried about her......
A. 11 January 2010: She should not do this - absolutely not!... (read in full...)
I've slept with one person, and been with him for 3 years. Yet I think I have herpes!
Q. Hey everybody. Im seventeen years old and going through a tough time. About two years ago me an my boyfriend of 3 years slept with each other for the first time, and have been sleeping together since, at first using condoms and then after a...
A. 11 January 2010: It could still just be a bad bout of thrush but I agree that you need to see a doctor if you've tried treating the symptoms as you did before but with no effect.
At 16 you do not need a parents permission to see a doctor. Your G.P should treat yo... (read in full...)
Should I say yes and go out with him?
Q. Hi im a 16 year old boy from england and i recently gor asked out by another boy. He is gay, i am not. It started with a talk on MSN and he asked me if i would go out with him i said no, but then i kept on thinking that gay sex might be ok and i sh...
A. 9 January 2010: Have you actually met this guy in person yet? If it's still an online friendships, remember that there are all sorts of perverts and weirdos on the net who pretend to be who they are not. Be very very careful in that respect.... (read in full...)
Protection?
Q. Me and my bf are going to have sex for the first time. I'm wondering if being on the pill and useing a condom is pretty safe? Because I'm only 17 I don't want to have to use any other protection but I don't want to get pregnant. But is the pill and ...
A. 9 January 2010: It sounds very safe and sensible to me. Just make sure that you use both PROPERLY.... (read in full...)
He says he feels comfortable with me but doesn't want to get too close!
Q. hi guys,when a guy says he wants to be more than friends but is wary and doesn't like getting too close but feels comfortable with you what does that mean?a bit confused!opinions greatly welcomed!...
A. 8 January 2010: It means he wants sex without commitment. Only go to the next level if this is also what you want, you're sure that you will never develop romantic feeling for him and that are willing to lose his friendship when it's all over. I'm inclined to agree ... (read in full...)
Would it be stupid to start something with him?
Q. Met this boy online. I'm falling for him but he lives about a hour away from me. Neither of us can drive and I haven't even met him yet. Would it be stupid to start something with him? Or can this actully be the start of something amazing?...
A. 30 December 2009: I would avoid "starting anything" with him before you have met him in person.
Smellyellie has already pointed out that the internet is crawling with weirdoes and people pretending to be someone they're not - so do be very very careful if you do a... (read in full...)
My 2 children don't know their father! Should I contact him?
Q. hi i am married woman the mother of two kids,the man i am married is not the father of my kids , they are from relationship before my kids do not know there father we separate when one was one year and other was not yet born i do not see father ...
A. 30 December 2009: There's no reason why you shouldn't contact him to see if he wants to be involved in the lives of his children. Be prepared for the fact that he may not want to be involved and if that's the case, you can't force the issue. If you haven't been in ... (read in full...)
Finger fun
Q. want to make my girlfriend cum from touching/fingering her. is there any goog technigues positions to get her in. i can make her cum from oral but it would be nice to do it with fingers. I know it can happen because she told me she cums while ...
A. 30 December 2009: Ask you to show you or ask her to guide your hand/finger... (read in full...)
Why do boys stare at my lips?
Q. why do boys tend to stare at my lips? its happened to me ocaasionaly and i find it weird. One minute there talking to me next they're talking and staring at my lips.I've caught 2 atleast doing that on regular basis. why?...
A. 30 December 2009: Some people (not necessarily boys) need to watch someones's lips during a conversation because it helps them concentrate on what the other person is saying. People with hearing problems have to do this all the time (and it's not always immediately ... (read in full...)
What do I do in the meantime while my boyfriend is in jail?
Q. My boyfriend is going to jail. I'm very confused about what to do. Here is the thing: we had dated previously and had had a very rocky relationship which ultimately ended badly. It had been a relationship full of lies and cheating and both ...
A. 30 December 2009: I think you should cut your losses and get out. It'll be tough but worth it in the long run. If you stay, he won't change and you'll carry on the way things are for years and years....... (read in full...)
Advice on sex and pregnancy?
Q. Hello all, I had a quick question concerning sex and pregnancy. I'm 36 weeks pregnant with our first baby and my boyfriend and I still have sex, its not as often as it once was, maybe only 3-5 times a week. My doctor never told us that we should ...
A. 30 December 2009: Your doctor or midwife is the best person to advise you but generally it's safe to have intercourse at any stage of pregnancy unless you have had complications. If you have complications, your doctor will probably have advised you by now.
You a... (read in full...)
Getting your ex back through friendship - did it work for you?
Q. Hi, has anyone out there ever tried to win their ex-boyfriend by playing the friend card? Staying in life as a friend and hoping things take their natural course to reconciliation? thanks...
A. 28 December 2009: I tried it once. I didn't work and stopped me from moving on. I had to sever contact after about 2 years as it became too painful.... (read in full...)
2 periods in October and none since, am I pregnant?
Q. hey im a 16 year old girl and i am always feeling sick all through out the day an through the night to and really tired all the time just always feel like sleeping i had 2 periods in october but since then i havent had one am i pregnant?? please ...
A. 28 December 2009: You could be - especially if you have had unprotected sex. The only way to tell is to do a pregnancy test. You,ve been experiencing some pregnancy symptoms (tiredness, nausea) and although these can also be caused by other things you shouldn't delay ... (read in full...)
Which protection is safer?
Q. My boyfriend and i have been together for a year now. I've decided i want to loose my virginity to him. when we started talking about what protection we would use we had an issue. for my first time i want a guy to cum inside me, but of course i ...
A. 28 December 2009: What your boyfriend is suggesting is the safest option. Hang on to him - it sounds like he's one of those rare sensible young guys. (Using condoms is a much "tidier" experience too.)... (read in full...)
I am producing a lot more discharge, could I be pregnant?
Q. I am 16 years old and i had sex for the first time last week. The condom split and i am scared that i might be pregnant. The only symptom i have had so far is that i am producing a lot more discharge. Does this mean i am definitely pregnant? What ...
A. 28 December 2009: Since you have had unprotected sex (even though accidentally because of a broken condom) there is a chance you could be pregnant, whatever part of your menstrual cycle you were in but the chances are much higher midway between your periods when you ... (read in full...)
What's the safest way to cum inside my girlfriend without getting her pregnant?
Q. My girlfriend really wants me to cum inside her, while yes this sounds very hot, Im at the same time very apprehensive to do it because i'm not ready for a kid, she said she is going to get on the pill so we'll wait 7 days before we have sex, but my ...
A. 28 December 2009: The safest way to have sex without a condom but using the pill as contraception
1) Both of you get a full STD screen before you ditch the condoms
2) Be faithful (or if this isn't the case, use a condom with other partners)
3) She must take the pil... (read in full...)
Is Chlamydia only transmitted by having sex?
Q. Is Chlamydia only transmitted by having sex? and which test is more reliable the Chlamydia swab testing done by the doctor or the Chlamydia self testing kits (wee pot). I ask because I went to the doctors nearly two weeks ago. She thought I might ...
A. 17 December 2009: It doesn't happen often but occasionally peoples results get mixed up. I would go back to the doctors/GUM clinic (who I would consider to do the more accurate test) or phone them up to say that you have had conflicting results. They might repeat the ... (read in full...)
What happens if you take the active birth control pills all month?
Q. Just wondering... if you took the pill every day all month (and didnt leave a gap for your period) what would happen? I'm assuming it cant be healthy or more people would do it... I just really dont want my period next week as i'm away... but i'd ...
A. 17 December 2009: It's safe to do once in a while... (read in full...)
Is there any way to speed up a period?
Q. i just got my period today and its wednesday.. i want to gone by saturday.. is their anything i can do to speed up the process?...
A. 17 December 2009: No I'm afraid not.
If you're worried about having sex during a period - there's no reason why you shouldn't unless you're really squeamish. Just let your boyfriend know, use a condom, protect the sheets with an old towel and keep some baby wip... (read in full...)
Oh No! I hope I'm not pregnant!
Q. Alright I guess this question is more for girls that have been pregnant or maybe people that know about pregnancies.. ok, about five nights ago my guy friend and I had a good bit to drink and needless to say things led into the bedroom.. Well I was ...
A. 17 December 2009: Since it was the LAST day of you period there is a chance you could get pregnant. If you have a shortish cycle, you will ovulate about a week after your period finishes and sperm can life for quite a few days after ejaculation. It's not a dead cert ... (read in full...)
Sometimes I can, sometimes I can't, what's up with my libido/
Q. Hey guys, So I went through a depression a little over a year ago, and went without sex or sexual desires for about 1.5 years (I went through a phase where I thought I was asexual, but this definition didn’t fit, especially because I did ...
A. 17 December 2009: If you are still suffering from depression and anxiety this could be having an effect. Especially if you are still taking some medication to treat depression. It can play havoc on the libido and sexual performance in both sexes.
Keep discussi... (read in full...)
If I'm pregant, I want an abortion without being judged!
Q. hi i am really worried that i am pregnant. I have a feeling that i am and i think im starting to look as though i am. i am scared to go to the doctors because I am afraid of being judged and i know it sounds stupid but if i am i want to abo...
A. 17 December 2009: A health professonal should not judge you. The problem is often more down to the person believing they are being judged by others because they are judging themselves.
Do a pregnancy test. (If you're having normal periods you may well be worrying... (read in full...)
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