A
female
age
30-35,
*XBeccaTxX
writes:Hiya, I'm Becca.I have been out with my now ex 3 times and have always dumped him every time. He is 4 years older than me an i am still friends with him after i have dumped him.I dumped him for these reasons:*He think's he's like the most fashionable person on earth and often boasts about it and then tries to earn sypathy later. *He gets to jealous,even when i talk to guys!!*He always seems to ask me if i'm cheating on him and recently got really upset just because i wouldnt let him see my phone!! (i'm funny about that though!! He was getting suspicious as to if i had txts i didn't want him to see on there)*He's really girly (he's bi) and that would be ok in a friend.but not a bf.*He's the skl retard.*And i generally do not get turned on by him!! I'm only 13 and just want to flirt and have a bit of fun!!! I don't mind having a mature relationship,but it got to serious!!!*He's like 16, way too old for me!!! I lost the spark and there was no fun in the relationsip!!!The problem being,when i dump him,he goes in to a state of depression,start smoking,and crying. When i dumped him the second time my friend rung me up to ask if i could cum round because he had tried to poison himself with alchol,and was asking for me and crying. He wouldn't listen to anyone else and everytime they tried to take the vodka off him he got vicious and i was the only person who could control him as he would never hurt me. He really does love me soooooo much,he has had a lot of gf's in the past and he told me since Kate had left him he had never really got bk wat he had lost untill he met me.I have had various year 8's and 11's come up t me and tell me how upset he is an to go bk out with him becaue he loves me very much,apparently,i was "the one". He as no will to acheive his goals without me, he doesnt want to go to skl, smokes cries all day. The only way i can get him to go is if i tell him i will never talk to him again if he doesn't go to school.I can't help feeling guilty, He wasn't the one for me but i obviously was for him and i feel i have ruined all his hopes and his life now...I really didn't mean to do this with him,i lost the spark and he still had it. I don't know what to do, i am upset because i can't believe i have put someone through this!!!And i can't handle looking aftr him for much longer,but if i stop he goes ahead, smokes drinks hurts himself... It's really upstting for me and he is slowly bringing me down because i feel so bad i hurt him!!!PLEASE HELP ME XXX
View related questions:
flirt, jealous, smokes, spark Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
male
reader, Neboraic +, writes (1 October 2008):
The only thing you can do is distane yourself from him, not all at once, but slowly. Maybe he wants your attention. Your presence doesnt help him recover. It maintains him but it doesnt heal him. Healing comes from time away from the person you once loved. Also try and look for other things in his life that are important to him that can be used as a distaction or as an incentive to stay clear minded. People stay away from smoking and drinking if it damages their ability to do something important to them like play music or sport, it
A
female
reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (1 October 2008):
Split up with him and if he does something stupid then tell his mum.
He's only doing this because he knows you'll be stupid enough to fall for it and take him back.
Once his parents get involved and have to ask him why he's self harming / smoking, he might actually grow up.
He can't keep you a prisoner of emotional blackmail.
Good Luck!! xx
...............................
|
