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writes:OK so i have a boyfriend we hav been going out for about 4weeks we've hugged and held hands but not kissed, when I started going out with him I really liked him and I still do but there's a complication.Last week I was at the park with 2 mates and I heard someone say my name, I didn't need to turn to see who it was I knew from the voice, it was a boy I used to fancy and I felt like my heart was "fluttering" if you know wot i mean.I had liked the boy a long time but he started to change and I got over him, but when he said my name it reminded me of the old him that is still there somewhere.I still really like my boyfriend but I feel really guilty about the guy I used to fancy. Am I a bad person? Do I deserve to have a boyfriend? Reply to this Question
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reader, Georgiex.x +, writes (24 April 2009):
 As your a teenager with hormones, it's normal you can feel attracted to other guys, espechially if you have a history. Maybe you feel this way because you haven't kissed your boyfriend? Do you feel attracted to your boyfriend?
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reader, Neboraic +, writes (24 April 2009):
You arent judged by your thoughts, only by your actions. It cant be your fault as you do not control the fluttering of your heart. If you think feel more for this other guy then you should explore it, and then decide which.
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reader, bangbangbang  +, writes (24 April 2009):
You're not a bad person at all sweetie. You sounded very mature, it's so natural what you are feeling.
Sometimes that happens to me, when I'm with a new guy and my ex shows up, it's always strange and there are feelings you can't really categorize...like is it butterflies or bats? :)
I don't know what kind of boy is your new boyfriend.But maybe you could tell your him what you felt about this other guy and explain him that you are a little confused, and see how things work out for you two.
You could try to be friends with the other guy you used to fancy, learn the guy he is now and compare him with the guy he was before...Maybe you can sort out if you still feel something that really matters.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 April 2009): Its fine to have a b/f & fancy someone...its only natural!
You'd only be a 'bad person' if you acted on your crush whilst still with your b/f.
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