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writes:There is this guy that I think might like me. I really like him too. I've never had a boyfriend. I've never had a guy act the way he does around me. It's to the point where I'm scared that he likes me. It's so bad that I've been trying to make it seem like I don't like him. I've been trying to get over him. I think the thought of someone actually liking me is scary to me. How can I get over this?
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reader, Neboraic  +, writes (10 May 2009):
Tell him you like him. Its scary but will make everything easier.
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reader, Sodee +, writes (10 May 2009):
 It SOUNDS like you're just afraid of being rejected and you're testing him. At least that's what it sounds like to me because that's how I used to act around guys I thought liked me.
You're not confident he'll like you, so you act like you're not interested to see how far he'll go to get your attention.
When you act like you don't like him and he gives you attention does it make you happy?
Here's my personal experience; I used to really like this guy and I thought that he really liked me, but I wasn't sure because, like you, I was bad at telling when people were interested in me. So I subconciously pushed him away, I started joking around with sarcastic and mean comments and made fun of him when he said something slightly flirtatious to me and it became habbit. But when he did pay attention to me like that, I would secretly feel triumphant and really happy.
Unfortunately one of my best friends was and is going out with him so it would have never happened and that could have been another reason I pushed him away. But your situation sounds very similar.
In my opinion, just ask the guy out, don't be scared or you might miss something amazing! or he might get taken by someone else who shows more interest in his adcvances. Don't be afraid to get rejected, if he says no, then you'll know for sure and you can rest easy. And if he says yes, well then you guys can have a chance at being happy!
Good luck... hope I helped a bit. My answers ramble on so much :\ lol
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 May 2009): ok here is the thing go up to him and ask him and if he says no then you cover it up with i meant as a friend you will get ur answer
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reader, LazyGuy  + ♥, writes (10 May 2009):
 Why don't you feel comfortable with the idea someone may like you?
Is it extreme shyness, are you afraid to talk to him or is it something more sinister. Don't you feel worthy of someones affections?
It is impossible to give advice without knowing the reasons. Are you in general afraid to get close to people or is it just men. Are you unsure about your appearance or afraid of what might happen sexually?
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reader, Samantha x + ♥, writes (10 May 2009):
 I think it depends on why the thought of someone liking you is so scary. If you dig a little deeper inside yourself, you might find the reason. It could be low self-worth, bad experiences in the past, all kinds of things. If you can pinpoint what it is that is so scary, it will be a good starting point.
Maybe you could get some help from other people too. Perhaps a counsellor, they will be able to help you work on whatever is holding you back.
As for this guy, I think that if you feel that you can handle giving things with him a try, then I would just tell him that you are a bit nervous, and would like to take things slowly. But if you really don't feel ready for a relationship yet, that is fine, but I would just try to let him go for now. Otherwise he could get confused about what you want, and the situation might become more complicated.
Good luck. x
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