Does she deserve a second chance
Q. There is a long history to this story, but I'll keep it as short as possible. If it's long, I'm sorry but this is really killing me. I have dated a girl for 15 years on and off...since 8th grade. We became very close and i knew she was the one ...
A. 29 May 2010: Hi. It sounds as if you've travelled a long hard road to get this far. You BOTH slept with other people during breaks. And you didnt lose your virginity with the "one" either. If shes really what you want, dont find fault. Put the past firmly behind ... (read in full...)
My wife is noticing that I'm constantly on the internet
Q. Well ive bin married for five years now and i recently got a computer to keep contact with my friends and fam. But i have found my self in a situation im falling for a girl i met online that lives milles away from were i live. MY question is could ...
A. 29 May 2010: Hello. I dont think this is a phase. I think its called cheating. And if your wife is noticing things, im not sure how we can help you out with that! My advice is to delete the other woman... if you value and love your wife. And just stick to ... (read in full...)
Help!!! How do you continue a romantic relationship with someone who is your blood relative?
Q. I just recently found out that my boyfriend of 1 year is my half-brother. Apparantly my father "got around" a lot more than I had thought. My bf and I have talked many times about our family and what attracted me to him was how much we have in ...
A. 29 May 2010: Hi. Im sorry to hear you have found yourself dating your half brother. Im sure this sort of thing is more common than we realise though. One of my cousins found out he was dating a "close" relative. They didnt know they were related until the birth ... (read in full...)
I want my boyfriend off his online dating site, am I over-reacting here??
Q. I have been in a relationship for 6 months, my boyfriend lives with me and he tells me he loves me everyday. i thought our relationship was going great until, i got on the computer after him and saw he was on a dating sight connected to facebook. i ...
A. 29 May 2010: Youre welcome. All the best x... (read in full...)
"He dosen't know what I look like and he wants to meet"
Q. I have been chatting to a really nice guy on a dating site for a couple of months now. I have seen a picture of him but he doesn't know what I look like at all he wants us to meet up tomorrow night.I don't know what to do. What if he doesn't like ...
A. 25 May 2010: Im sure things will be fine. But you wont know if you dont meet him! Go on the understanding its just a friendly meeting and nothing more. That way if nothing developes for either of you, no ones feelings are hurt.
Have a nice evening and dont worr... (read in full...)
She texts the guys I meet and it is getting me down, please help!
Q. Hey, i have my friend and she always go for boys i like. I don't see why she is doing this. she flirts with everybody she sees, i get its a bit of fun but once i tell her I'm texting a boy shes like 'when am i going to meet him' and once she does ...
A. 25 May 2010: Hello. Shes too much in your business and if she doesnt stop she will eventually ruin your friendship. Its a shame but this does happen sometimes. Shes not considering your feelings at all.
The best thing to do, is to keep cetain things to your... (read in full...)
What should I do... I'm not the same person I used to be..
Q. Okay im 16 for the record. So I met this guy Chris online in july. after meeting him, we totally fell for each other :) i'd do anything for him. so for the first time, he got me to send him underwear pics. and then eventually i also sent him a ...
A. 25 May 2010: I dont think you are a bad person but i do think these guys are taking advantage of you. And you dont want to get yourself a bad name. So just delete any wrong pictures and dont do anymore. You cant even know where the pictures will end up. In a ... (read in full...)
Is it possible to pass on thrush to your Boyfriend?
Q. I have some symptoms that are quite like thrush. However my boyfriend and I had sex sunday night and now he appears to have the same symptoms. Red gentils, itchiness, White clumps, odour etc. Is it possible that I could have thrush and passed i...
A. 25 May 2010: Yes its possible for guys to get thrush too and for it to be passed from one to the other. So you will both need treatment. ... (read in full...)
Everyone hates me, Please help me.
Q. Everyone hates me. I hate my school because everyone really hates me. I only have 2 friends that i can be with. But I'm bullied, teased at and I'm always being hurt emotionally and physically. No one really cares about me and I my parents said...
A. 25 May 2010: Ask your parents about home education and explain to them how seriously this is affecting you.
If you dont feel that you can talk to them about it face to face, then write down EXACTLY how you feel in a letter and give one copy to your mum and one ... (read in full...)
I want to marry this guy, but his anger is hurting me
Q. hii people!!im in a relationship with a guy for a couple years and we are planning to get married...he is very sweet ,caring and loving when he is normal..!!!he is the best partner one could get when he is normal...!!but when he becomes angry he is ...
A. 25 May 2010: You cant control your boyfriends temper tantrums. Only he can do that. And it doesnt sound as if hes making a very good job of it.
When hes in a good mood, ask him to find out about anger management training. And book classes.
In the meantime... (read in full...)
Is he shy or do you think he is gay?
Q. Hey guys, Ok so my bf (20) and I (22) have been seeing each other for about three months now. But I can't help but question if he really is gay and not bisexual like he says he is. With in these three months he hasn't tried to make a move sexu...
A. 25 May 2010: It sounds as if hes gay rather than bisexual. If you are sleeping with him but hes never shown any interest in being intimate with you thats rather odd.
Maybe he likes you alot and thinks the only way to secure you (so you wont flit out of his ... (read in full...)
I'm so lost! My own father and wife have been having a secret relationship!
Q. I just learnt that my Father age @65 and my Wife age @31 Years have been having a sexual relationship for the last one year. Both are doing regularly and chatting with us.We are live in joint Gujarati hindu family with my mother and two chil...
A. 25 May 2010: Find a quiet time when the children, your father and your wife are not at home. Then have a private talk with your mother. Tell her what you have discovered and show her the evidence you have.
She may feel differently than you and want to forg... (read in full...)
I want my boyfriend off his online dating site, am I over-reacting here??
Q. I have been in a relationship for 6 months, my boyfriend lives with me and he tells me he loves me everyday. i thought our relationship was going great until, i got on the computer after him and saw he was on a dating sight connected to facebook. i ...
A. 25 May 2010: Its not appropriate for him to be using a dating site for anything if hes in an exclusive relationship with you. Ask him to delete the account. It would bother me if my partner was in a dating site too, so i dont think you are being unreasonable in ... (read in full...)
Please advise! Just found out I'm pregnant, my fiance wants to adopt it out...
Q. I am 18 and just found out I am pregnant... I think I am about 3 or 4 weeks. I was never told that antibiotics would cause my birth control to not work properly, and the condom broke. My fiance and I are both very scared right now. I refuse...
A. 25 May 2010: Hello. I understand both of you being in a state of shock at the moment. So its not really the right time to try and make such a life altering decision. I would suggest you both wait awhile and see how you feel in say, a month from now.
Ask your... (read in full...)
Tricky nipple hair situation, what do I do?
Q. My girlfriend is dark haired, sometimes she gets dark hairs around her nipple region, how to I go about this because it is sometimes hard to concentrate during foreplay? Thank you...
A. 20 May 2010: Hi. When hair grows...it grows! If you are only feeling it sometimes then its a safe bet that she knows its there and is removing it. Just not very regularly. You could either learn to love the peach fuzz or just tell her when you feel a few hairs. ... (read in full...)
Why was he embarrassed by the birthday gift I got him?
Q. i was wondering if anyone out there could help me understand this. Why would a guy you have known for yrs and have a casual relationship with and are also good friends with. say to you that he was embarrassed by the birthday gift you gave him, eve...
A. 20 May 2010: Hi. Ive been known to tell someone a gift has embarrassed me...and ive had it said to me too.
Its always if i feel what theyve given me is far superior to anything ive given them. So im sure it wasnt meant in a negative way. Just his was of sayi... (read in full...)
He's sending explicit photos to me and wants the same back!
Q. This guy im talking keeps sending me non stop nude photos of him... they are veery explicit and wants the same from me. He sometimes begs for photos. I never have sent a picture but shouldi be worried? I have a feeling this guy is jut using me for ...
A. 10 May 2010: Hes using you to service his urge to expose himself. If thats his "thing" hes probably sent them to many women. Dont send any pics back as you never know where they will end up being displayed or who will see them! As for just meeting you for sex, ... (read in full...)
I didn't get a card for my birthday and now, the GF is upset at me??!
Q. It was bothering me that my GF didn't get me a card for my birthday(2 days later). She noticed that something was on my mind and asked me. I asked her if she got me anything for my birthday and she told me she "didn't know what to get me" (so I got ...
A. 10 May 2010: She should know the sort of things you like. Even if she didnt, she could ask. You can either view this as a terrible lapse in her attention or shrug it off. As for her making you feel guilty for mentioning it. Shes just trying to reflect how she ... (read in full...)
Am I gross? OR was the guy just not nice?
Q. Hi, I recently hooked up with a guy and whilst we were in bed fooling around he took off my pants, then he stopped and was like ew, so I asked what's the problem and he told me "your vagina is gross". I've had my confidence knocked by it my...
A. 5 May 2010: He`d probably never seen a real one before just watched porn. "Google" vagina and see for yourself, they come in all shapes and sizes. You are perfectly normal x... (read in full...)
I don't see my internet boyfriend enough in real life!
Q. hi i met this guy in a chat room about a year ago,we both felt something special,we kept talking everyday and we made a deal to meet first in person to decide where our relationship can go,so we met and it was cool and he became my internet...
A. 5 May 2010: If you feel things are going stale, you arent moving forward and hes not making an effort to see you regularly, try telling him that. LDR`s by their nature, must be very difficult things to manage and require lots of online reassurance and ... (read in full...)
When I needed him to be there for me he was talking to another woman
Q. really need advice.....my husband and i have been together for 8 and half yrs married foe 4..we have really been distant for the last year.I lost my job dealth with lots of family issues..in march i found out he had been talking to another woman on ...
A. 5 May 2010: I know you can feel dreadfully let down when this happens. You imagine when the **** hits the fan, that you can rely on your partner to be there for you. When they arent...as in your case...it can be quite distressing. If he understands that he let ... (read in full...)
Why do guys assess every female's attractiveness, almost automatically?
Q. Hi. Just fancied asking a question for discussion. I know this is a kind of sweeping generalisation, and I know not every guy is the same, but go with me here... Why do guys assess every female's attractiveness, almost automatically? And why do men ...
A. 27 April 2010: Like yourself, i dont watch men and rate them on a Bonkability Scale. Im in a relationship and tend to focus on my partner. And my thoughts of sex and physical attractivness are directed at him. But i gather it is quite normal for SOME men to do ... (read in full...)
Mate denies cheating but phone number of someone keeps popping up!
Q. If you are in a relationship with someone who has cheated on you in the past and you come across a number in their phone, and when you talk to the person that the number belongs to and they tell you they have been having a sexual relationship with ...
A. 27 April 2010: No it isnt. He is not being honest with you. If the other woman was forth coming last time and you know your partner is still lying to you, then ask her how she got his new number. That should clarify things for you. ... (read in full...)
Do you think he is playing mind games with me?
Q. i feel so down,in march this year i took my mum out one wednesday afternoon to a place for lunch,unknown to us they had a guy playing a piano.i didnt take much notice to be honest my 80yr old mum enjoyed it! at the end this guy came straight over to ...
A. 27 April 2010: Hello. Hes met you, has your number and knows you are interested. So theres not much more you can do but sit back and wait....if youve a mind to. Personally id find his behaviour rather rude. He made the first move, appeared charming but didnt ... (read in full...)
She threatened to have an affair or go to a sperm bank to have another child
Q. My wife had a pituitary tumor that grew after she gave birth to our first. Another pregnancy would be risky. She asked what I thought about having another child. I said I voted no as I didn't want to lose her or take the chance of killing my ...
A. 8 April 2010: When i was a child, growing up on an apple farm, id watch the men every spring, go from orchard to orchard, beating the trunks of the apple trees with a chain. I was told they did this to distress the trees. The trees were tricked into thinking they ... (read in full...)
He Has NO sex Drive
Q. I am in a long term relationship with a wonderful man in almost every way but one. Our sex life is non - existant. We have had sex one time in the last 4 years and that was only after I told him that I was unhappy about our lack of sex life. A...
A. 8 April 2010: It sounds a little one sided. You would rather pull your arms off than upset him, yet hes neglecting you sexually and youre suffering because of this....and he does nothing? You are a very patient lady. Having sex with you once in 4 years is not ... (read in full...)
Marriage is a mess! Can anything be salvaged from it?
Q. I stumbled across this site through Google, and basically just need someone to listen. 11 years ago, my wife and I got married (second time for me, first for her). At that time, she was a little overweight, but sexy with it. Fast forward to 2009:...
A. 8 April 2010: I dont think anyone should resign themselves to living the rest of their lives in abject misery. That sounds too depressing for words. If you are unhappy with your wife, then tell her so and see if the marriage can be salvaged. I dont know the ins ... (read in full...)
Fed up with guys just looking for sex on dating sites!
Q. hey so ive join a dating site.. and i only get guys who just want sex..(i don't have revealing pics on there) so am thinking of putting this on my profile. P.S. don't message me if you speak slang and if your looking for a slu.t. to **** an...
A. 8 April 2010: Your English seems adaquate. I certainly got the gist of what you meant! For a start, if you speak to guys like that, they probably wont respect you very much. Try saying you are looking for a proper relationship and you dont do one night stands. ... (read in full...)
Since I cheated on her, she won't say that she loves me! What can I do?
Q. ok so i feel horrible for this but i cheated on my gf but she said she loved me enough that she would give me another chance but she wants me to still say 'i love you' to her but she wont say it back for a while until she fully trusts me again. I ...
A. 8 April 2010: If you love her then you will have to be patient. Shes probably still feeling very hurt, so you have to understand that and wait until shes ready to say it to you again. I expect she likes to hear you say it because its reassuring her all the time, ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend gives more love and attention to the dog than to me!
Q. My BF of 12 yrs and I have not had sex for about 2 years. We have been in/out of counseling and are currently seeing a new counselor for one last chance to salvage our relationship. I am 57, divorcedX2, and he is 63, divorcedX3. I am aware of an...
A. 8 April 2010: Its great that you are still trying therapy but a shame it isnt working for your husband. The trouble is, he doesnt find you attractive anymore as he pointed out with his remark that you are just plain old...... You arent like the porn stars he ... (read in full...)
He says, he loves me but I can't trust him. Please help!
Q. Hi, Ive know my boyfriend for 2 years now, ever since i met him he was always interested in me however i wasnt really in to him. But 6 months ago he asked if i wanted to go for a drink, i went and we havent been apart since then and are currentl...
A. 8 April 2010: I think patient66 has the answer. Say nothing about Facebook. Just start a conversation about respect and fidelity within a relationship. Explain to him that you wont flirt or lead any guys on. And ask that he treats you with the same respect and ... (read in full...)
Mockery and insults are making me want to retaliate, .. but I don't want to be petty. How can I let go of my anger.
Q. I posted before regarding a now ex friend of mine and still current friend of my partners who had sent him love letters and was continuing to pursue my partner. I have now decided to move in with my partner, and asked him to tell her that I was movi...
A. 1 April 2010: I would postpone moving in with you boyfriend until you have had some straight answers regarding his refusal to remove this woman from his contacts. If she is on his msn, phone and facebook, im assuming thats so they can have contact. Why else would ... (read in full...)
I believe he never physically cheated, but things are unresolved. What should I do?
Q. Unfortunately when I was pregnant with our son my husband took it upon himself to seek out other people on craigslist and sent private pictures of himself to one of them, well I found out and confronted him. He swears that he never met with any of ...
A. 1 April 2010: Youre welcome. I hope every thing works out ok for you x... (read in full...)
I feel like I married a pimp!
Q. Before my husband and i were married we were out one evening drinking and i picked up a woman mostly to please my husband. We ended going back to her hotel and even as drunk as I was I was very uncomfortable when I saw him touching her and I ran ...
A. 1 April 2010: Im surprised you even wanted to marry him if his condition was that he would only marry you, if you and he slept with another woman. Thats really NOT normal. Didnt that give you a clue as to what you were getting into?
It doesnt sound as if you ... (read in full...)
He never invites me out, and then expects me to pick him up drunk at 6 am!
Q. Why does my husband do this?? He goes out with the guys about once a month. Most of them are the guys he works with. He never invites me and I know that there are other women there because when he calls me I can hear the laughing in the backgrou...
A. 1 April 2010: If he didnt want to leave when his co worker went home, thats his choice. That doesnt mean he has the right to wake his family and make them pick him up drunk at 6am! You say you dont have a problem with him going out like this, which is very good ... (read in full...)
What do women like done to their breasts?
Q. Ok random question i know but.......what feels good for girls breastwise. You see all these hyped up examples and now im not sure what to think. My girlfriend says that rubbing her breasts is slightly arousing but i dont know how much or what wil...
A. 1 April 2010: Well done for recognising that a lot of what you see is hype. Not many women behave the way you see in films and porn when their breasts are touched. They are actors, acting! So if you arent getting from 0 to 60 just by touching boobs, its perfectly ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend wants to finger me!
Q. Hi im 16 and my boyfriend really wants to finger me.oh im also a virgin and im not sure what to exoect?like do you bleed when he fingers you?What does he do after hes done?does he just go wash his fingers?or what?...
A. 31 March 2010: Id steer well clear of it all unless you are ready and legal to have sex because he is leading you up to full sex. If you dont want that to happen yet then dont let him do this to you. ... (read in full...)
Yes I cheated but will he ever put this in the past?
Q. my husband and i have been struggling in our relationship for 5 years ago we have been in a relationship for 10 and married for going on 2 well 5 years ago i got really drunk and really don;t remember the night and i cheated well for 5 years we have ...
A. 31 March 2010: You should have a really serious talk to him and ask if theres ever going to be a time when he can forgive you and move on. Sometimes its impossible to do that. If that is the case for your husband, you need to either work at it with counselling or ... (read in full...)
Is he just using me?
Q. Hi i have been going out with this guy for around six months. i really like him. we got on really well and never did a day do by without him texting me or us chatting. He had been away for six seven week visiting his family he came back last w...
A. 31 March 2010: Id dump him if i were you. Hes not acting like your boyfriend at all. You seem to be doing all the running while he uses you for booty calls. Im sure you deserve much better than that! Dump him and find a good man x... (read in full...)
I don't think my boyfriend's mum likes me!
Q. i dont think my boyfriends mum likes me, i have been with my boyfriend for over a year now. and the other day, he said somthing that i didnt think he meant to say, he told me his mum thinks i moan to much, and just attention seeks? i know i moan, ...
A. 31 March 2010: She doesnt have to like you. And if shes being difficult, then the more you try to make her like you, the more she will find fault. Its a no win situation so try not to take it to heart. Just be sweet about it so your bf can see you arent the one ... (read in full...)
I believe he never physically cheated, but things are unresolved. What should I do?
Q. Unfortunately when I was pregnant with our son my husband took it upon himself to seek out other people on craigslist and sent private pictures of himself to one of them, well I found out and confronted him. He swears that he never met with any of ...
A. 31 March 2010: The fact is, you lost your trust in him and thats not something he can regain with a few contrite conversations. It can take years to rebuild trust. Even worse that it happened at a time when you needed him to be there for you and you were probably ... (read in full...)
Mockery and insults are making me want to retaliate, .. but I don't want to be petty. How can I let go of my anger.
Q. I posted before regarding a now ex friend of mine and still current friend of my partners who had sent him love letters and was continuing to pursue my partner. I have now decided to move in with my partner, and asked him to tell her that I was movi...
A. 31 March 2010: Your partner needs to stop being friends with this woman. He is the problem not her. He needs to tell her straight that hes not interested in her. And shes to leave you both alone or he will inform her partner of her behaviour. Im sure she would ... (read in full...)
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