What should I do about my life?
Q. I am incredibly confused about my life. I had to quit my previous job due to the lack of skill in that area. Now I have trouble finding another job. I am 18yo, and it's the end of June, and I start college in August. I am broke as hell, and in 1 ...
A. 25 June 2010: Hello Mr Incredible. Usually when people hit the wall...which happens a lot you know. They go to family for help. Either to parents or grandparents. Aunts, uncles ect. Thats what we are all there for. A safety net for when things go wrong...which ... (read in full...)
I don't feel comfortable moving to "second base"
Q. my bf and i have been been dating for 4 months but we dated before for 3 months i am a virgin and so is he but he has gone to "second base" and i have not and i just dont feel comfortable moving on to second base and we have had a talk about it and ...
A. 25 June 2010: Hi. I dont know what you legal age of consent is but i dont think you will be able to "make" yourself comfortable. You will just know when you are ready. Telling you he is happy for now, will just add to the pressure and make you even less ... (read in full...)
I don't feel comfortable moving to "second base"
Q. my bf and i have been been dating for 4 months but we dated before for 3 months i am a virgin and so is he but he has gone to "second base" and i have not and i just dont feel comfortable moving on to second base and we have had a talk about it and ...
A. 25 June 2010: Hi. I dont know what you legal age of consent is but i dont think you will be able to "make" yourself comfortable. You will just know when you are ready. Telling you he is happy for now, will just add to the pressure and make you even less ... (read in full...)
Anal sex straight into my mouth--will I get sick?
Q. So embarressing but I have to know... My boyfriend and I were drunk and had anal and in the heat of the moment I sucked his dick straight out of my bum. I don't want to get sick. Should I take any medication or precautions? Don't worry, I don't pl...
A. 25 June 2010: Ooops! As person12345 says. You should be fine. Vaginal would be more worrying. Just try and remember to keep condoms at the ready next time you are having a drink...just incase x... (read in full...)
Should I confront her or trust her?
Q. Hi to anyone out there. Hopefully you can help me with some advice. I just registed to use this site as an outlet for some of my thoughts and pains. I need some advice as to whether or not my gf may be cheating on me, and how to discuss the s...
A. 25 June 2010: Hi. You said she ended the relationship in march and just wanted to be friends. But you call her your girlfriend, so im a tad confused. I think you are in the friendship zone right now, even though she hasnt changed her facebook status yet. She ... (read in full...)
Should I trust him even though he's talking to his friend about having sex with other girls?
Q. i just found out my partner of 2years has been textin his work mate talkin about how he wants to have sex with some of the girls at work he said nothin has happened im reali confused because we have a daughter and i want to do whats best for her ...
A. 25 June 2010: Hi. It might just be male banter and he would never act.on it. However, you are his partner and the mother of his child, so that type of conversation is inappropriate. If he loves you, he should have respect for you. If a single friend expresses a ... (read in full...)
He sitll has her number. What does it mean?
Q. what does it mean when your boyfriend of 1year and 4 momths still has his ex girlfriends number in his phoe,but say he dont call them...
A. 25 June 2010: Hi. I think it means its time he gave up his "little black book" of past conquests and deleted their numbers x... (read in full...)
Is he being fair?
Q. Hi there, I have a problem with my bf whom I met online last year. I'm 31 and he is 43. When we met he knew I had 2 kids, 1 who is 14 and the 18mths baby. The problem I have with my bf is he does not want my daughters father to be anywhere near his ...
A. 24 June 2010: Good for you. Dont give that guy another thought . It was totally wrong of him to try and make you chose. Enjoy your family x... (read in full...)
Is this my baggage or am I right to be concerned?
Q. Im feeling very anxious in my current relationship. I have been with this girl about 2 years now and all can be pretty well in the main. We were both single before we met but had previous relationships in the past. We went through the conv...
A. 24 June 2010: Hi. I know where you are coming from. I aquired my partner by default, much as you did yours. Someone, somewhere didnt want them enough. It broke their hearts but now we've got them. Isnt that true of half the relationships on the planet though? I ... (read in full...)
Is he being fair?
Q. Hi there, I have a problem with my bf whom I met online last year. I'm 31 and he is 43. When we met he knew I had 2 kids, 1 who is 14 and the 18mths baby. The problem I have with my bf is he does not want my daughters father to be anywhere near his ...
A. 24 June 2010: Hi. Your daughter shouldnt be hidden away so you and her father dont have any contact. Its shocking. After watching your first little mite cope without his dad around. Why would you knowingly put a child through that sort of thing? Children need ... (read in full...)
Should I give up on him and find someone my own age?
Q. I'm 23 and the man I'm in a relationship with is 52 and divorced he and his ex-wife share custody of their 14 year old daughter. I really feel a connection with him but all my friends judge me for our age difference. All I ever hear is you have ...
A. 24 June 2010: Hello. Bless you, how miserable to feel you love someone but not be able to rejoice or share that feeling. First of all, whether youve been with him for 2 weeks or 2 years, you need to sit down with him and have a serious talk about things. Im ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend takes pictures of other girls! should I forgive him?
Q. I found out that my boyfriend of over a year has been taking pictures of other women. Most recently while we were at the beach he took about 20 pictures of young women from all angles in their bikinis. I'm very upset over this but he says it will ...
A. 24 June 2010: I really do feel sorry for you but it would be very difficult for you to have a healthy, normal relationship with him. Because hes neither! And he wont change for you. He may "destroy" the images on the pc...put them on discs. He may delete the ... (read in full...)
I'm stuck forever to my husband so how can make things better?
Q. What can you do,if you did everything to change things in your marriage,but ,it is not getting better? I feel Im stuck in here forever,with a man ,who might not love me at all,and we are just wasting each others time. I just can't figure him out. I ...
A. 23 June 2010: Hello. Its only bad for as long as you allow it to continue. Youve mention the things that you have done but what has he done? If you took on the role of mother and father to the children and left him in peace because he "worked" and you kept a ... (read in full...)
I don't want his partner and her son to move in because I want him for myself!
Q. Ok, I was having an affair with a man. I'm married. He was married for twenty something years (almost divorced) and has a non live in partner, they have been together for a few years. We were caught out by my husband. My husband and I have ag...
A. 23 June 2010: Hi. I get the feeling you are both too scared to make the decision to be together. If you dont act soon you will lose him. Once this other woman moves in he wont find it so easy to see you. If she gets wind of you, she will run you off. He wont ... (read in full...)
My girl's sexual tally is less than mine but I am still bothered by it
Q. I recently discovered that at my girfriend at the age of 23 has had 22 sexual partners including me. Let's forgo the truth part as I believe her but what's bothering me is the number. I didn't think I'd be bothered but when she counted up and told ...
A. 23 June 2010: Hello. I cant imagine she was in love 22 times. Or you were in love 40 times. So i would guess most.of her sexual partners were one night stands and relationships of short duration. You may look back on your past with a shudder now you are older and ... (read in full...)
Am I being used as a doormat? Is something going on?
Q. I am 35 i have been in a rocky relatonship for almost 7 yrs,my partner has a 24 yr old son from previos relatioship and we have 2 little ones together. i recently suppected there maybe a interest in him with his ex as he had arranged to meet her one ...
A. 23 June 2010: Hi. Something must be going on between them. Its not usual to arrange a meeting with an ex and not tell your partner. Nor is it normal to be sending them dirty texts or texting goodnight at one in the morning. If sounds as if they have a lot more ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend takes pictures of other girls! should I forgive him?
Q. I found out that my boyfriend of over a year has been taking pictures of other women. Most recently while we were at the beach he took about 20 pictures of young women from all angles in their bikinis. I'm very upset over this but he says it will ...
A. 23 June 2010: Hi. This is an on going problem for him by the sound of it. I cant understand the stupidity of the man, telling you to check his pc when he must have known he had all those pictures of women there for you to see! He is a pervert, getting his ... (read in full...)
How do I go about breaking up with him when he doesn't want a relationship?
Q. I've been seeing this man for almost four months and I really, really like him. But, I'm not his girlfriend-he claims not to want one. He does the sweetest things for me, always ready to help and/or soothe me. He always misses me and I miss him too ...
A. 23 June 2010: Hi. I dont think it will be possible to "break up" if you are only friends and still stay friends with him! Even if you see less of him it wont help because you will still want to be his girlfriend. I think you have two options. Either accept he ... (read in full...)
Is my relationship pretty much over?
Q. Is my relationship pretty much over? I dont know whats going on...my boyfriend is 31 and I'm only 21...and we've been living together for the past 8 months, and we've been dating for a little bit over a year. and all we've been doing lately is ...
A. 22 June 2010: Hi. It sounds as if your boyfriend got the girl and now hes happy to retire! Which is no kind of life for you. I think you could be correct about things being over. He doesnt want to take you.out. He doesnt want to talk to you. And he wants to spend ... (read in full...)
Whenever my friend is ill, she disappears. What to do?
Q. My close friend of mine is carrying a lot of baggage. She's been to a psychologist, a shrink, has borderline and a handful of other mental disorders (written down on what she calls her "declaration of insanity). Anyway, despite all this she's a good ...
A. 22 June 2010: Yes i though a visit in person might not work out very well. Sometimes when people step out of life like that...they really do want to be alone and find it intrusive if friends dont respect their wishes. Its difficult isnt it! You sound like a very ... (read in full...)
Where has she disappeared to?
Q. Well there is this girl, we dated for 2 months... this was because i had to leave the country. the day before my flight (she came to see me and we had sex) i was supposed to go see her later that night but then earlier that day a few friends came ...
A. 22 June 2010: Hello. I expect doing what she did with you just before you left, was a big deal to her. The fact that you had too much drink and didnt see her, may have given her the impression that you didnt care much. As CaringGuy says, she has gone. So its best ... (read in full...)
Can you look at your man the same way after that?
Q. My boyfriend of 3 years just came out about being bisexual and a crossdresser. He is a very manly, rough type, not feminine in any way. He has been faithful but is asking for a man to join us in the bedroom. I'm not against it, in a way it has been ...
A. 22 June 2010: Hi. I think you are amazing to be taking his news so well. As i understand it. Once theres been a confession and its been received without too much drama. Being with a man is the next step. Including you being there... rather than excluding you. ... (read in full...)
Why did he keep the naked pics?
Q. Y does my ex keep naked pictures of me in his cell phone if we r no longer together?...
A. 22 June 2010: Hi. He obviously enjoys looking at them. Its probably just a visual thing and not emotional, so as Caringguy says, its not worth trying to read anything into it.... (read in full...)
Is it wrong not to tell someone you plan to sleep with?
Q. how wrong is it to not tell someone you're going to sleep with that you have genital warts? i mean is it that big of a deal?...
A. 22 June 2010: Hello. Im sorry to hear you have HPV. But yes it is a big deal not to tell someone you have it. HPV is a highly infectious sexually transmitted virus. Without protection there is over a 60% chance of you passing it on. Even if you dont have any ... (read in full...)
Whenever my friend is ill, she disappears. What to do?
Q. My close friend of mine is carrying a lot of baggage. She's been to a psychologist, a shrink, has borderline and a handful of other mental disorders (written down on what she calls her "declaration of insanity). Anyway, despite all this she's a good ...
A. 21 June 2010: Hi. If your friend has decided to step out of her life for awhile, theres not really a lot you can do. Sometimes when people have a lot to cope with, they withdraw and focus on whats bothering them. Hopefully shes just having some alone time to get ... (read in full...)
Issues with boyfriends friends.
Q. my boyfriends friends are really horrible to him and they use him. i hate seeing him unappreciated and it's driving me mad. i'm having loads of issues at home, it's a sensitive subject that i don't really want to talk about but my mum wa...
A. 21 June 2010: Hello. Im very sorry to hear about your mum and dad having problems. That sucks and i think your boyfriend should be there to support you at the moment. Many couples hit rocky patches in relationships but they dont all end in a break up. So take ... (read in full...)
Do you think the sex problem could be part of the reason he didn't stay?
Q. My boyfriend has been sleeping over every Saturday for the past 4 months. This is embarrasing, but I have a lot of difficulty having an orgasm. I don't know why. I am fine with it not happening for me, but he always insists on making sure it does. ...
A. 20 June 2010: Hello. If he said he didnt feel right and he looked awful, im sure he was telling the truth. I expect he just wanted to crawl back to the cave and go to sleep. No bed is as good as our own when we feel poorly. Im just wondering why you werent ... (read in full...)
What advice can I offer my friend?
Q. I have a friend thats had a boyfriend and they had unprotected sex´s she think she is preguant. She told her boyfriend that it was his foult because he told her that he was being safe but he wasn´t so......she left him now she is goin to have an ...
A. 20 June 2010: Hello. First of all if they werent using any sort of proper protection, like condoms or the birth control pill, then it wasnt safe sex. It doesnt matter what the boy told her about being safe. If people dont use any sort of protection, pregnancy can ... (read in full...)
How can I tell him to back off?
Q. Hey guys, I was wondering if you could possibly help me out? Recently I found out that my best friend's eleven-year old brother has a giant crush on me. I'm fourteen, so that would mean that he is in sixth grade and I am due to be in ninth. From ...
A. 19 June 2010: Hello. The best way to handle it, is to speak to your mum and tell her you really dont like the way hes behaving. Let her know its making you feel totally uncomfortable and is going to put you off visiting the friends house. Ask her to have a word ... (read in full...)
Freeze up ...but I just want to say "I love you"
Q. i love a girl.....i tried to tell her my love bt i keep failing whenever i call her...i always get stuck wif the the word 'i'..the other 2 words 'love you' always doesnt come out of my mouth...
A. 19 June 2010: Hello. Do you have any idea at all why you cant say it? Something is holding you back. But you havent given many details, so its guess work really. It could be that youve said it before to someone else and things didnt work out. So its made you a ... (read in full...)
How can I make these dreams go away?
Q. Me and this guy we use to be great friends but he was a jerk to me and I could see he never really cared about me like a friend should. He’s not my friend anymore and I was really hurt by this at first. Anyways, I also liked him more than a friend ...
A. 16 June 2010: Hello. I always think of dreams as the mind going through the cupboards and having a good spring clean! Getting rid of thoughts it doesnt need. I think you are getting over the end of the friendship very well, so just give it a little more time. The ... (read in full...)
Is it wrong to meet this man?
Q. I feel like a bit of an idiot saying this out loud but please someone help me. I've been with my partner for 4 years. We recently migrated with his job. He works away all the time and I am struggling to get work. So i am alone, no work or frien...
A. 16 June 2010: It might seem exciting but hes probably had a lot of practice at it and will be good at shmoozing bored, lonely ladies. Hes been talking up a storm just so you will want him. Thats the idea of it all! And if you havent had much attention from your ... (read in full...)
What should I do about this?
Q. Hi everyone, I've been battling with this for a while now and after reading a lot of replies to similar questions here, I decided that this is the best place for me to get advice. My boyfriend and I are both young (we're both 20) and we met...
A. 16 June 2010: Hello. It was wrong of him to break a promise to you and talk to her in an inappropriate manner. Again! It was also wrong of him to pretend he was single. And it was extremely hurtful of him to tell her, he wished he'd met her not you! You will be ... (read in full...)
Is he just scared of being hurt again,,,?
Q. First I need to give a little background information. I reunitied with an old male friend about 9 months ago. I have known him since I was twelve as he was friends with two of my old teenage boyfriends. He actually introduced me to my first husband ...
A. 15 June 2010: First of all, may i say well done you! You took a very mature step by trying counselling to see if your second marriage could be saved. Its unfortunate that the marriage couldnt be saved. But it has given you clarity. You are now able to move on ... (read in full...)
HIs fantasy freaks me out!
Q. I'm 18 and I'm having sex with a 40 year old man. We met on the Internet and met up in a hotel for the night, we stay in hotels most weekends and have for a while. its really amazing and we are both sexually attracted to each other and have amazing ...
A. 14 June 2010: Hello. Im just thinking if a guy was too old or young for me to have a proper relationship with, i wouldnt be having sex with him either. As you met this guy on the internet and ONLY go to hotels, do you know anything factual about his background? ... (read in full...)
Are all my friends lying to me?
Q. Alright, I've been with this group of people that I thought were my friends, we use to go out every now and then, have beer and do some dumb stuff, like all friends do. My problem at that time was that I didn't have a car, so I was asking any of ...
A. 14 June 2010: You're welcome. Hope things work out ok. ... (read in full...)
Did I handle things in a mature way
Q. My ex and i were together for a couple of years. It was petty things that broke us up but nonetheless still important mistakes to be learned from. And I did learn from my mistakes with the time apart. I know what i would never do again. My ex and I ...
A. 13 June 2010: Hello. Im sure you handled things very well, so try not to worry about that. Youve grown and learnt alot from the past and you wanted to test the waters. Theres no shame in that. What did you think? Was the water cold, tepid. Or hot? It sounded ... (read in full...)
Should my boyfriend take his ex wife to court?
Q. I am asking this question on behalf of my boyfriend. My bf and his ex wife have a custody agreement over there 3 year old daughter. Now she has been withholding information from him. She has physical custody and a joint legal custody. She is ...
A. 13 June 2010: Hi. Your partner needs to speak to his solicitor/lawyer and follow his legal advice. If his daughter is at risk, he needs to do that immediately. In my opinion no child should be within hailing distance of a sex offender. If the offender is ... (read in full...)
She wants me to pay her bills yet we don't even have sex!
Q. if im in a relationship with my girlfriend, and she wants me to help her pay bills, but doesnt want to have sex or sleep together, what is my best resolution??...
A. 13 June 2010: Im not sure what sex has to do with paying bills. If you like and trust her enough to help her out financially...thats great. But if you feel shes over stepping the mark by asking for help, just politely decline.... (read in full...)
Can someone else trigger anxiety in us?
Q. Is it possible for another person to cause anxiety? I have been in a very verbally, physically, and emotionally draining relationship for two years. I constantly feel like I am walking on eggshells, I could cry at the drop of a hat, and there r...
A. 12 June 2010: Hi. Anxiety can give you heart palpitations. Which is what you are experiencing. You might find you also have panic attacks. Horrible things! Ive had both at different times. If you were relatively "nerve free" until the "light of your life" turned ... (read in full...)
So she was with another guy...now I am starting to WANT her to cheat
Q. *OP's Original Title* I told the story in my last post...I am 42, she is 27, recently married...together about 2 years. We had separated for about 2 weeks last fall and i recently found out she had sex with a 22 year old guy during that period. ...
A. 12 June 2010: Yes you are. As a woman i know if i became emotionally interested in another man it would be because i was attracted to him! And i would run towards him, not away from him! Common sense should tell you thats also the sort of guy your wife would run ... (read in full...)
Are all my friends lying to me?
Q. Alright, I've been with this group of people that I thought were my friends, we use to go out every now and then, have beer and do some dumb stuff, like all friends do. My problem at that time was that I didn't have a car, so I was asking any of ...
A. 12 June 2010: Hello. You dont need to feel guilty. S*it happens. They just werent the good friends you thought they were. I cant help thinking the guy that bought the beer is stirring the pot. Its easy to see how he would have been annoyed. He gets a message ... (read in full...)
| *yrrh's friends
These are mutual friends, so *yrrh has
added them and they have added *yrrh!
|
