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writes:i dont think my boyfriends mum likes me, i have been with my boyfriend for over a year now. and the other day, he said somthing that i didnt think he meant to say, he told me his mum thinks i moan to much, and just attention seeks? i know i moan, but i dont mean to all the time, and i deffinatly dont attenion seek.my boyfriend loves me and tells me to ignore her, cos she always moans about everyone. when i know she dont, cos she seems pretty happy with his older brothers fiancé and his older sisters boyfriend.and i think she is too hard on my boyfriend, cos the other day she said to him that he has just wasted a whole year on a course he is doing. he has applied for the job he wants to do, but he has to wait for an interview yet. and she just turned around and said that she thinks he has wasted his time, doing something to try and get more education for himself.i think he is doing really well for himself.every time she sees me, i can see she dont really like me, i dont know what i have done wrong, i make him happy, and i love him with everything i have got.he has spoken to her, but i dont think it sinks in to her head that he wants to be with me, and i make him happy. she just dont care.every time he asked her if i can stay, she always has an excuse, but then his brothers fiancé is alowed to stay round when ever she likes and she dont mind. it upsets me, cos i thought she was nice and now i think she hates me.im really upset, cos i wanna make her like me i just dont know how =( Reply to this Question
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reader, naughty girl +, writes (1 April 2010):
Try to stop moaning and making mountains out of molehills. If your not carefull you will start a war over a throw away comment that even you yourself half agree is true. You sound very sweet caring and loving. Contiue to be this with him and his family. If situation escalates, you will at least be reassured that you are not the problem and have not played any part in creating a division between mother and son. Let the mother be the one to do this, if this is what she chooses.
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reader, Myrrh +, writes (31 March 2010):
 She doesnt have to like you. And if shes being difficult, then the more you try to make her like you, the more she will find fault. Its a no win situation so try not to take it to heart. Just be sweet about it so your bf can see you arent the one with the problem. Whatever you do, dont moan about the fact that she doesnt like you because you moan too much! That would be self defeating if you want her to see she is wrong about you.
Its probably got more to do with her son than you. If hes ambitious and wants things from life and you encourage him, shes probably worried he will end up living outside of her "jurisdiction" and sees you as a threat for encouraging him.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (31 March 2010):
 You can walk that extra mile for your b/f and his mom.That is all you can do .If she still does not like you , there is nothing you can do about it.
I know you want to be on her good side but sometimes, some MIL's are hard to satisfy.
Just ignore her as your b/f said. Don't take her words or feel bad about it.
Is your b/f going to stay with her after marriage?
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (31 March 2010):
He loves you and that's all that matters. She's just worried about letting him go.
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reader, little me 05  +, writes (31 March 2010):
I would say be yourself if he loves you that is him....he's mom can not make it for him....
she is prob. maybe jelous cause you are with her baby....
I have 3 sons and I know i will be.....just hold your head up be strong just listen to him....
every thing will work out like it is meant to be....
he loves you , you love him....
the mother will get over it and if she dont that is her fault she might regret it someday....if yall have kids
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 March 2010): Of corse she does not like you.
All most no mothers like their son's girlfirends.
They don't think you are good enough for him, and bla bla bla.
If he loves you than just ingore her.
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