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writes: I am 27. I have been with my girlfriend for seven years. We were in a long distance relationship for the last year. During our time apart I regularly hinted that we should get married once we were in the same city again. She had always wanted to marry me, but upon returning, she claimed that things "didn't feel right anymore". She broke up with me without any good reason and with little warning. We have never fought, we still love talking to each other and enjoy each other's company.Does it strike you as a little odd that she just abruptly left me??
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reader, Virginiaac +, writes (22 December 2005):
Take this like a man. Your girlfriend has moved on, so should you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 December 2005): You deserve a better explanantion that what you got, dear. Seven years is a long time to invest into someone's life and then to just be told "I don't feel right anymore". That's the easy way out and she couldn't come clean with the real reason, so she softened the blow. But I'm wondering if this explanation may be still giving you false hope? You need closure and a better, more clear answer because later, when you realise she meant nothing of the kind, it's back to square one on the misery scale for you. You need closure and time to heal, so I would ask her again.
But over the long run, if you and her have been apart, it sounds like this breakup had been weighing heavily on her mind for some time. Only she knows the true answer-why it happened. Accept that she told you it's over. Understand, that every minute she stayed with you, she stayed on false pretenses and stole from your life which would've continued to hurt you, in the end. Sorry...there’s no other way to leave and have you not feel hurt. I'm guessing-but she may have another love interest. Move on and please, take some time to examine your own heart and soul before you get involved with another woman. You need to heal. Take care and best of luck.
Hugs, Irish
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reader, mommyofthree +, writes (22 December 2005):
 After a year in a long distance relationship, I don't think it is a little odd. I am wondering if your real question is does it sound like she left me for someone else? When two people are so far away it would not be unheard of for her to have met someone, but I feel like after 7 years she would have told you. Space does funny things to us, it puts a gap in some relationships because you are not physically there when the other needs someone, it can make things "not feel right". If were you I would move on, don't dwell on how she left you. In time your wounds will heal. Good luck, and take care.
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