Third date and he wants me to stay over ...
Q. Dear aunties I am goibg on my third date tomorrow with a guy. First date we kissed, second date we also kissed but he said he had three pints so was not safe to drive. So I said he could stay on the sofa. Then inside he said he wanted to stay i...
A. 7 December 2013: He certainly sounds like a fast mover,i think he expects sex.If your not comfortable with it then don't do it.If he has feelings for you then he should be prepared to wait.He might sleep with you and then dump you and move to the next conquest.You ... (read in full...)
Why has he moved on so quick if he really loved me?
Q. I have ended a very turbulent relationship, which went on for over three years, due to his continued determination to continue using dating sites, while at the same time swearing blind that he loves me. After being broken up, for less than two week...
A. 4 December 2013: It's obvious he didn't really love you if he was trawling dating sites.You're better off without him.... (read in full...)
Four years and he still doesn't know when he'll be ready for marriage?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for 4 years and yet he still says he doesn't know when he'll be ready for marriage. I've asked him twice now and he's said he does want to 'one day' but he has lots of living to do before then. When I ask him what type ...
A. 4 December 2013: I believe Ken Dodd was engaged for over 25 years and his fiancée died still waiting.... (read in full...)
After two years lust and communication are gone
Q. I've been with my girlfriend for 2 yrs, not my longest relationship but the best one I've had tgus far.in life. I'm 25/m I understand in the beginning of relationships you have that a few months of lust exploreling a new partner, but recently ...
A. 4 December 2013: You complain after 2 years,wait until you have been married 31 years like me!... (read in full...)
The safe option vs. the one you really want?
Q. Hi, I wonder if any girl has had this situation before? My female best friend I've known for a long, long time. We talk a lot, especially relationships. She asks my opinions on blokes she dates and vice versa. She met a guy two years ago ...
A. 4 December 2013: Women tend to want sex with the "bad" types and settle down with the good types.... (read in full...)
I have become attracted to someone else and it's changing the way I feel about my boyfriend!
Q. I've been in a relationship for about 5/6 months now, but recently I've been having a dilemma. My boyfriend is lovely and sweet and I'm not unhappy in my relationship but neither am I happy. I just feel a bit bored and sometimes it feels like we are ...
A. 4 December 2013: What makes you sure that you might not be in the same situation with this new bloke if you left your previous partner after5/6 months?He might be extremely chatty now but after 6 months he might be the silent type.He might just say "I don't fancy ... (read in full...)
Can you forgive a cheating husband?
Q. Hey all, im devastated , found my husband of 6 years cheating, he had changed for a while and i suspected something. I took his mobile while asleep and found love msgs.. I was soo shocked, im young and we hav two adorable girls... He then started ...
A. 3 December 2013: Cheaters are always sorry when they're caught.What was he getting from the other woman that he wasn't with you?Do you have problems?Does he really still love you?I always say if you love someone you wont cheat on them.... (read in full...)
My husband and I are more like friends than a married couple. Why does this bother other people?
Q. How to deal with society ? The story is that my husband and I became more friends than a married couple. Sex is long not in a picture, which doesn't seem to bother any of us. It's not like it's gone forever, sometimes we do it when get tipsy or...
A. 3 December 2013: I think couples like you are the norm out there.My wife and I are the same.The perception these days is that couples are at it all the time with ecstatic sex lives but the reality is the exact opposite.So long you're both honest with one another and ... (read in full...)
Why is boyfriend so upset? I love him so much!
Q. So my boyfriend was very quiet, he didn't talk much over the weekend. That's very unlike him cause he's usually very chatty and makes me laugh so much to point where I'm always peeing hehe. I asked him why he'd been quiet he said he's not...
A. 3 December 2013: He sounds insecure.You better hope he doesn't start believing in his own dreams or he'll convince himself you really are cheatimg on him.Maybe he's looking for an excuse to break up with you.... (read in full...)
What about AFTER an affair?
Q. How do you think men feel after having a long term affair on their partner? Do the feel regret? Do they even care? What if their current relationship was on the rocks and they were together "for the kids".... would there be less guilt? ...
A. 3 December 2013: To have an affair means something is missing in the relationship for either partner.If the love you feel for your partner has gone then there is no guilt.Most stay together for the sake of the kids(if there are any).If you love someone then you will ... (read in full...)
Is my best friend flirting with me? She's married!
Q. I'm getting mixed signals from my very best friend. We work together and they live on site in an apartment. I'm not sure if she is flirting with me or if I am reading too much into it. She is married and in her late 50's, I'm a female as well and...
A. 1 December 2013: You seem to be uncomfortable in her company now as if she is crossing a line. What would you do if she tried to kissed you out of the blue. She may have marital problems.... (read in full...)
How do Atheist men date when most women are Christians or believers?
Q. Many women are believers or Christians etc. I'm not saying you can't date at all, that's absurd, all I'm trying to convey is that your dating pool is rather limited. Like at my college, most women seem to be believers. I know this because in ...
A. 1 December 2013: I'm an agnostic (don't believe in any god or life after death) but my wife is a committed Christian and regularly goes to church alone. Doesn't bother me at all.... (read in full...)
Men: how often do you think about having sex?
Q. Men of all ages - roughly how often do you think about having sex? And who with? Your partner/girlfriend/wife, that random hot person who walked past you on the street? Do you ever feel guilty if you think about having sex with someone who isn'...
A. 1 December 2013: Im 60 and think about sex all the time.... (read in full...)
My stepson says he is in love with me and won't take no for an answer!
Q. Hi I hope someone can help me I'm 29 and I'm married to my 45 husband for 10yrs with 2 beautiful step kids I love very much. Things haven't been good with my husband and I for years a month after we got married he started to abuse me in every way ...
A. 1 December 2013: If you do confess this to your husband, chances are he won't believe you and will accuse you of of seducing his son and you say your husband is abusive which will make it even worse.You're going to have to tell someone whether it's a close friend or ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend had a secret porn blog and we barely have sex anymore. Should I leave him?
Q. Okay so my boyfriend and I have been dating for 10 months. We've been fighting a lot lately. I found out he had a porn blog on tumblr and i got upset I made him chose me or delete it. He deleted it but he's been such an ass. Hes had an attitude...
A. 1 December 2013: This is what on line pornography does to relationships. Love becomes a thing of the past, it's all about instant sexual gratification and no love. Women are abused left right and centre with online pornography. End this relationship and find someone ... (read in full...)
Husband's uncle is causing problems in our marriage!
Q. My husbands uncle is very jealous of our relationship in fact some people have told me that he never stops talking about us like hes obsessed. He tells my husband to do things behind my back and he can get him another woman etc.. he never likes us ...
A. 1 December 2013: Why isn't your husband standing up for you?This uncle sounds like a pervert creep,make sure you're never alone with him,i think this uncle is obsessed with you to be honest.Be careful and tell your close relatives of your concerns.This sounds ... (read in full...)
Can somebody tell me what is in his mind?
Q. Dear cupid, am sorry this may be a bit long but am confused and need help.it started one and half year ago I met this cool guy in my college we are classmates we donot have close friendship we just help each other with things related to colle...
A. 1 December 2013: He's certainly exhibiting a strange behaviour towards you to say the least.Beware of the rich smart types, they think they have a licence to do whatever they like with any female.What are your friends opinion of him?... (read in full...)
My boyfriend throws tantrums when he doesn't get his own way!
Q. My boyfriend likes to make plans for us with or without me and it is driving me crazy (it's relevant that we live together). I say yes to much of what he suggests, but sometimes I just don't feel like going. He will suggest something in say, a week ...
A. 1 December 2013: Don't marry him whatever you do,if he's like this now you'll be like a prisoner then.Relationships should always be give and take equally, it's about love and respect for one another.He sounds selfish to me.There's no future in this ... (read in full...)
I really, really want to kiss him!
Q. It's nearly Christmas and I really want to kiss this guy I like (I think he likes me too) but I don't see him very often (I'll see him a few days before Xmas) and when I do our friends are always around, what do I do?...
A. 1 December 2013: Get him under the mistletoe if your having a party or try and strategically place him under the mistletoe in a room (it's Christmas)... (read in full...)
Everything is going wrong right now .....
Q. How do you handle it when everything seems to go wrong and you are under so much stress? I don't want to get into too much detail but over the past few months I have gone through a whole lot. My parents have never been there for me and don'...
A. 1 December 2013: No matter how bad you think it is there's always someone much worse off.Think of all those poor people in the Philippines after that massive typhoon,they were poor before but have nothing now and they say it'll take 10 years to get back to what it ... (read in full...)
Wife admitted she used to be a prostitute! Should I cut my losses and leave?
Q. My wife and I have been married now for 23 years. When we began dating I realized she was probably more worldly than I was used to going out with. However , I was starting to fall for her, and at 27 I wasn't meeting anyone that came close to her . ...
A. 30 November 2013: Well it took courage to come clean with you,she could've kept quiet.If she's benn faithful to you and you love her there's no problem."Let him who is without sin cast the first stone".... (read in full...)
Is this man attracted to his daughter and possibly her friends?
Q. I have been dating my boyfriend for two years, we got engaged but his daughter had become jealous and wanted me out of there, so we are no longer engaged. He engages in alot of pornography, and while snooping I came across lots of fantasies about ...
A. 30 November 2013: This person should be flagged to the relevant authorities asap.... (read in full...)
Its such a slap in my face that my ex would end up with this girl who had made my life miserable
Q. Me and my ex boyfriend broke up last December but we're still friends. However, during and before our relationship started this girl who liked him tried everything in her power to break us up, she threatened me and tried to get some girl to beat me ...
A. 30 November 2013: You're far to young to be dating seriously.You're better off without him,he'll only do the same to his "new" girl.... (read in full...)
My girlfriend spends a lot of time with her gay male friend who's almost always semi-naked. Should I be concerned?
Q. My girlfriend often tells me how her male fried walks around the house purely in his underwear. I know this sounds petty but I can't help but let it bother me. I even went as far as to ask what kind of underwear...they're the tight boxer brief ...
A. 30 November 2013: If he's truly gay it might be ok,but what if he's bi-sexual?I think you're right to be concerned,there are certain lines that should not be crossed.... (read in full...)
Should I forgive him? Can we work through this or do I write off the last five years?
Q. Hey guys I really need some advice. So here goes ... I have been together with my boyfriend *dave ( not his real name) for about 5 and years and a half. We live together, we have a dog we have joint bank account I mean everything we are basically ...
A. 30 November 2013: You should not have told him you slept with someone whilst split.It's a fact that women are much more likely to forgive their partner if they cheat but sadly it's not the other way around.If a woman cheats on her partner then it really is a big ... (read in full...)
He believes what people told him about me and wants a divorce
Q. So my husband was in Afghanistan for 9 months. He just recently got back. Some ppl I know told him I had been cheating on him, which I didn't. He is so cold now, and just wants a divorce. We don't talk, he has changed so much. Should I just get a ...
A. 29 November 2013: If you do divorce take him to the cleaners.Why would these people start a false rumour?this is so nasty and he believes them totally.Where's the proof?You'r husband is a jerk,maybe he's the one whose cheating and wants rid of you.Get some legal ... (read in full...)
A guy told me he's been having sex with my girlfriend and while I know it's a lie, it's still bothering me!
Q. A bloke came up to me in my local the other night and told me he's been having sex with my girlfriend for the past 4 months. He explained that she was waiting for the right time to tell me it's over.I just burst out laughing at the thought of my ...
A. 29 November 2013: I think I misread the last part of the letter.Is he implying she doesn't go to the gym but somewhere else?You might have to tail her but be discreet in case you fall into a trap.Maybe he'll watch her drive off followed by you but then what?I'm ... (read in full...)
A guy told me he's been having sex with my girlfriend and while I know it's a lie, it's still bothering me!
Q. A bloke came up to me in my local the other night and told me he's been having sex with my girlfriend for the past 4 months. He explained that she was waiting for the right time to tell me it's over.I just burst out laughing at the thought of my ...
A. 29 November 2013: I find your girlfriend's response to what you said to her a bit puzzling,she sounded a bit dismissive and defensive.I would have hit the roof if my girlfriend had said something similar to me.You could go to the police and make a complaint about him ... (read in full...)
I feel like I am not part of my boyfriend's life. What should I do?
Q. Dear Cupid, I've been dating a guy for around 6 months. During this time we have seen each other at weekends and once during the week. To begin with this was fine, but now I am starting to feel this relationship is stalling. We have a great sex...
A. 29 November 2013: To be honest he doesn't sound that keen on you as you are on him.Stay quiet and see if you get any response from him.He sounds to me to be letting you slip away silently.You've developed feelings for him,this is what i'm sensing-he doesn't deserve ... (read in full...)
Did the text mean that he was looking to have sex?
Q. So this guy was flirting with me. We were texting and talking about the movie I just watched. Then he said "If you're free we can do something maybe... ;)" Did he mean sex? And how should I react to it? This msg just kinda popped out of nowhere. ...
A. 29 November 2013: He could've worded his text in a better way.Text him back and say "did you mean coffee?"what was the film about?... (read in full...)
Should I sleep with my ex casually?
Q. My Ex, who I have not seen in about 7 years, recently invited me over to have a drink. He asked me if I wanted to have sex. I was shocked as he married since our breakup but apparently is splitting up. I told him I was looking for a relationship, ...
A. 29 November 2013: No you tried it once and split.He's just looking for no-strings sex.Have some self respect.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is too close to his secretary!
Q. My boyfriend has a really lovely secretary who he thinks a lot of. There are eight guys working in the office. I have met her a few times and she is a lovely warm friendly woman happily married with children. She is 35 and my boyfriend is 38. He t...
A. 29 November 2013: Trust your instincts on this,you feel something is not right.He seems rather too eager to get into her company for me and something might be developing or has already developed.Not being possessive with his phone means nothing,people who have ... (read in full...)
Is it acceptable for other girls to seek comfort from my boyfriend?
Q. Is it appropriate for other girls to come to my boyfriend for comfort and advice? My boyfriend and I have been together for 2 years. Early on in the relationship, he told me he didn't have many female friends and didn't have much contact with girls ...
A. 24 November 2013: If he's faithful to you and honest it's ok I guess. He must be good at flattery and sympathy and a good listener for all these girls to unwind their problems on him.Maybe he should become an agony aunt!... (read in full...)
2 months later and I can't get over him. I feel alone!
Q. Hi all So I registered for a dating site and met this one guy after a really long time. Finally found someone I thought I liked. We met and hit it off immediately. We got along really well and he would be really eager to meet me and texted me al...
A. 24 November 2013: Well he laid it on the line from the start thatthat he only wanted a casual relationship which meant long term seriousness was not on the cards.You'll have to let it go i'm afraid, you sound like the type that falls in love to easily.Plenty more ... (read in full...)
I recently found a bunch on naked pictures of my wife's privates on her phone!
Q. Hello everyone, i need your help...i recently found a bunch on naked pictures of my wifes privates on her phone. we have been married for 9 years and she has never done anything like this. i checked the dates on the pics and they have been take...
A. 21 November 2013: It certainly sounds like she is cheating.It sounds a very sordid thing to do but it sounds the kind of thing that would happen if that person was having a passionate sexual affair with someone.This is the kind of situation you see on the"Cheaters" ... (read in full...)
Came home unexpectedly and found husband in strange situation. Is he gay?
Q. Dear everyone, Hi I have been married to my husband since May 11th 2013. We havebeen together for almost 8 years. He has never shown any signs of being bi sexual or gay. Well the other morning he didn't expect me home for awhile but my daughter...
A. 20 November 2013: Why would his underpants be on the step anyway?Surely if he was taking a bath he'd take them off in the bathroom but you say he never takes a bath.The situation is suspicious to say the least and I don't buy his story.He'll probably be on his guard ... (read in full...)
What do I do if I bump into a guy I used to date while at work?
Q. So, I'm going for a job interview in a couple of days. Nothing fancy, just an office job at a university near to where I was a student. I still have friends there, so thought it would be fun to return. Thing is, there's a guy that goes to the uni ...
A. 20 November 2013: I'm sure this situation happens all the time.Just be civil and polite in any exchange.... (read in full...)
Went through boyfriends phone and found messages to other girls. Is this cheating?
Q. My bf and I have been going out for almost 7 months now. I've never gone through his stuff before but he left his phone behind today and I got curious. I honestly wasn't expecting anything, maybe just a couple messges from his girl-friends. Wha...
A. 20 November 2013: In any relationship honesty is the best policy.Do you think he's serious about you?He's already set the alarm bells going in your mind.As a bloke I think he's stringing you along.Do you know anything of his past history?... (read in full...)
How do I move on after a divorce which husband cheated and got married so quickly?
Q. I had been married 17 years when my (now ex) husband notified me of his intention to file for divorce through a solicitors email while I was overseas for a week. We had been having a bad time and I had tolerated emotional and some physical abuse ...
A. 20 November 2013: Your ex sounds like a bum to me and a complete coward,he couldn't tell it to your face even.Clearly he didn't love you and had planned to do this.You must blank this creep from your mind or at least try to,he's not worth worrying about.Don't stay at ... (read in full...)
Were you ugly as a teen then become a good looking adult?
Q. In high school were you ugly and then get good looking when you became an adult? I was a cute kid/preteen until I hit the age of 15. At 15 I got a weird facial structure, acne, dry frizzy hair, and am SO socially awkward. I'm 19 and still have all ...
A. 20 November 2013: Sounds like your hormones are raging at the moment.This'll die down eventually and spots etc. will be a thing of the past.Most men have these problems when being a teenager,it's life.I knew several girls at school who weren't lookers and you would ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend lied and cheated for over a year and got another woman pregnant. Should I dump him?
Q. Should I dump my boyfriend he has fathered a child with another woman and lied and deceived me for nearly a year he was having sex with both ov us but I had no idea he was cheating neither did the other girl know about me. He told me cause I caught ...
A. 20 November 2013: If he says he loves you then why cheat?He's been having his cake and eating it.Dump him.He will have a child to look after now.... (read in full...)
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