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As a teenager, why do I find older men attractive?

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Question - (5 March 2011) 6 Answers - (Newest, 5 March 2011)
A female United States age 26-29, *agle101 writes:

Am I weird? I mean for some reason I am attracted to older men. I feel attracted to some of my teachers. (they are just stupid little crushes, nothing out of the ordinary). Anyways ive told my friends some think its weird, I didn't st first. And now I'm having second thoughts.

I mean I don't know why I find a man who is older than me attractive. I'm not talking about like 3-6 years older. I mean like any where from 8-(whatever) years older.

Do I need help? Our is this just normal. Thanks for reading.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (5 March 2011):

So a 16 or 17 year old girl, plus "a few years" of maturity, equals a match with a guy in his 20s or 30s?

Yeah, keep telling yourselves that.

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A female reader, MistressNataliee United Kingdom +, writes (5 March 2011):

Ooh im same, i love them, im 18 and engaged to a 39 year old. Im so glad i am because we get along so well despite the age gap as i act older and he acts younger, embrace it!

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (5 March 2011):

Once you leave school you'll find that there's a wider range in typical ages for a relationship than when you were in school. A ten year gap in ages isn't rare and I know two couples with a fifteen year gap.

Also, you've probably just had a "growth spurt" in your intellectual interests, making the men your age somewhat facile. Given a bit a time and they'll catch up. I had the same experience when your age.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (5 March 2011):

I have the same "problem" as you hun,Im 17 and for aslong as I can remember I`ve fancied men much older than me Im talking atleast 10 years and up age gaps! I fancy Liam Neeson and hes 58! Id say the youngest person I like is 28! I too fancy my teacher and have since I was 13 but its normal! I hate it when people say your looking for a "father figure" because its weird - Im not! I like older guys maturity and they give off this confidence and security and plus they are way better looking than BOYS my age. Hun your completley normal! you can like who ever you wish!

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A female reader, lacrymosa_652 United Kingdom +, writes (5 March 2011):

lacrymosa_652 agony auntI think it's normal. Until I was about 17 I just found older guys really attractive, like men in their 30s onwards [and yes, plenty of teachers, haha]. Then I just started liking guys my age.

I think it's okay but it's probably better to not get involved with older men for now, because the differences in age and maturity might not make an ideal relationship. But it's totally normal to be attracted to them.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (5 March 2011):

I think it's absolutely normal. I once had a man 20 yrs older than me, and I was a teenager at that time. Girls are growing up faster and that's why they see how silly and childish their male-friends are sometimes. It's pretty difficult to find a boy of your age who'd be intellectually and emotionally as developed as you are. So don't worry about it, we all go through this, I guess. And some of us end up with older men, and live happily ever after :)

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