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Hello to anyone reading this :)

I'm 20 at the time of writing this [born Nov 1990], and I live in London. I was born in England but my parents are originally from India.

My username is lacrymosa_652, titled after the song "Lacrymosa" by Evanescence - one of my favourite bands. I wish I'd looked up the definition of "lacrymosa" before I put it as my username though!

I first came on dear_cupid when I was about 17 to receive advice for a couple of problems. It was only recently though, when I asked a couple of questions (I always ask anonymously though :P) and received brilliant advice that I felt I should return the favour, and so now I come on here regularly to answer people's questions. I'm not a judgemental person and I understand that what may not be a big deal to one person is a problem for another, so I rarely view questions as meaningless or pointless. I try to give responses and advise people as best as I can, and I try to not answer questions that I feel are out of my depth.

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Friends vs. Relationships

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1 March 2011: Have you ever been in a situation where you want to be with someone, but another person isn't happy about it, and therefore is standing in your way? Perhaps you've liked a sibling's friend, or a friend's relative, or someone your friend likes as ...

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Friends vs. Relationships

Q.   Have you ever been in a situation where you want to be with someone, but another person isn't happy about it, and therefore is standing in your way? Perhaps you've liked a sibling's friend, or a friend's relative, or someone your friend likes as ...

A.   15 March 2011: GeeGee, if it's helpful to at least one person, I'll be satisfied. And thank you for saying that.xXx... (read in full...)

Friends vs. Relationships

Q.   Have you ever been in a situation where you want to be with someone, but another person isn't happy about it, and therefore is standing in your way? Perhaps you've liked a sibling's friend, or a friend's relative, or someone your friend likes as ...

A.   14 March 2011: Thanks :) I'm glad you managed to rebuild your friendship with your friend.xXx... (read in full...)

Friends vs. Relationships

Q.   Have you ever been in a situation where you want to be with someone, but another person isn't happy about it, and therefore is standing in your way? Perhaps you've liked a sibling's friend, or a friend's relative, or someone your friend likes as ...

A.   3 March 2011: Thank you, your comment is much appreciated :)... (read in full...)

Is his penis too big?

Q.   I'm a virgin and I love my boyfriend to bits but his penis is 10.75 inches. Will it hurt when he takes my virginity? Will my vagina get ruptured rip and bleed? Is there something that I need to do? Will it feel good or bad?...

A.   2 March 2011: This isn't an article, it's a question. You need to post this as a question.... (read in full...)

Sad breakup...slowly moving on

Q.   Hi, I need your perspective to get healed faster. A year ago, I fell in love with my close friend of 6 months whom I knew for quite few years. He proposed me,I had deep admiration and love for him,I said yes instantly. We were/are in diff...

A.   26 February 2011: You're only going to drive yourself crazy over-analysing why he did what he did. It's hard, but try and accept that it's over. He isn't the great person you thought he was, and tell yourself that you deserve better. Even though he was your first, he ... (read in full...)

In love with my maths teacher...

Q.   so i'm a teenager girl,15 yrs. old ,i'm good at studies and have fair plans for the future studies .i have been in love with my math sir since i was 13 yrs. old [8th standard]....i think i truly love him but i dont know if he loves me,he is 29 ...

A.   25 February 2011: You don't love your maths teacher, you're most likely just infatuated with him. You need to realise and accept that you're too young for him, and nothing can happen between the two of you because of the age difference AND it's illegal. Once ... (read in full...)

How should I tell my ex that I have accepted the break up?

Q.   After finding an article in this website and seeing how good the advices are, I decided to ask for an opinion before I contact my ex. I'll try to sum it up as much as I can. I met this guy on the internet who was living with the mother of his ch...

A.   15 February 2011: Even though you've said you've accepted the break-up, maybe a part of you is hoping if you message him, he'll respond and say he wants to get back together. You can email him if you want to, however it's better if you don't, because he may not reply ... (read in full...)

I'm feeling very upset by the way my boyfriend is treating me!

Q.   My boy friend ignore me from last few day. we have 1.5 years. Now last 7th month he was in kolkata, and i live in siliguri. some time he talk to me like a baby, immature he is i thought. but in night when he talk to me, i am just sex toy for him. i ...

A.   2 February 2011: You need to stop putting your boyfriend before yourself and start respecting yourself more. Don't be afraid to put your foot down and say you're not happy with the way things are - that when you call him, you expect him to have a conversation with ... (read in full...)

Is it weird that something like that is enjoyable?

Q.   During the act of bringing me to orgasm, my normally conservative boyfriend reached up to my throat and slightly squeezed. He lingered for a moment and then released, I guess to see if I would protest. He then placed his hand back on my throat with ...

A.   1 February 2011: It's not weird, like you said, you may have just enjoyed the sense of being dominated. It's just essential that he doesn't get carried away or caught up in the moment that he ends up hurting you.... (read in full...)

See, not all boys want just sex!

Q.   So my girlfriend and I have been dating for like, a month and a few days... We really like each other, no joke. I'm 15 and she's 14. Same grade though, so it's okay. We've gone on lots of fun dates, we're open with each other, i've meet her ...

A.   1 February 2011: To the male anon reader who responded - Jeez, calm down, having sexual experiences with your boyfriend as a teenager does not equal trauma in the future. I think it's good that you want to keep things at a slow pace.. especially as you feel you... (read in full...)

I've been so lonely since my boyfriend has been away I had phone sex with another guy!

Q.   What have I done? My boyfriend has now been away since October and I miss him so much, and there's still 2 months left to go. I can't imagine being with anyone else but him. But I've done something horrific... I was on the phone to a very close ...

A.   1 February 2011: Your situation reminds me of my friend - her boyfriend went on holiday for 4-6 weeks, and she was missing him a lot and felt really empty and miserable without him, and I think she started texting this other guy a couple of times because she was ... (read in full...)

Who cheats more - men or women?

Q.   I just wanted to see other opinions.....Who cheats more.....men or women?...

A.   31 January 2011: Hmm I get the impression from your follow-up that maybe you think men cheat more? I think it's pretty much equal to be honest.. both men AND women cheat as much as each other. My ex-boyfriend didn't think a woman could cheat because she's more in ... (read in full...)

My husband likes his bum licked, is this normal?

Q.   Hi guys this is rather a funny question but it has been puzzling me for a while now. My husband likes me to lick his bottom whilst he masturbates lol!. I know it sounds funny and i have no problems doing this but is it normal? He has a bit of an ...

A.   31 January 2011: Using your tongue to stimulate the anus [i.e. bum-licking! sorry, I was at a loss as to how to phrase it haha] is called rimming. I'm sure more people than you'd expect do this, but because it concerns the anus it's probably a bit taboo. It doesn't ... (read in full...)

What is the secret to being happy?

Q.   Hey everyone, I have a question I'd appreciate your honest answer to. How many of you are truly happy in your lives? If so, what are your lives like and what's most important to you? What do you think the secret is to being HAPPY? How...

A.   31 January 2011: I think happiness starts from yourself. Sometimes you have to take a step back and appreciate all the good things in your life, as it's easy to overlook them. Plus, you have to make time for the things that make you happy.. and do things in your ... (read in full...)

How do you lose fat from your inner thigh?

Q.   I am needing to lose fat off my inner thigh. Dose anyone have a suggestion over it. Cause it could really help me out. I mean I have try everything. ...

A.   31 January 2011: You can't pick and choose areas of your body to lose weight from. But maybe try exercising your legs more, by running or cycling. And perhaps look up exercises that will focus on your thigh area.... (read in full...)

What are the signs of a student-teacher affair?

Q.   I want to know what is the sign of an teacher-student affair. If a student get poor result, and she wrote a sorry letter at the back of her exercise worksheet to that teacher saying that she should work harder later, then that teacher didn't g...

A.   31 January 2011: Nothing you've said seems to indicate an affair to me. Maybe the teacher feels if she had to write a letter, maybe something's going on at home or something, so he's more easy going on her. I don't know why he wouldn't return the book though, it ... (read in full...)

She first told me nothing could happen, then led me on, left off abruptly and started dating someone else after telling me she wasn't allowed to...should I be angry or what??!!

Q.   I met this girl, who i really liked and we had a really good friendship. She already had a boyfriend, so I couldn't ask her out or anything. They eventually broke up, and we started hanging out more. Eventually I told her how I felt, and she had ...

A.   31 January 2011: Yes you have the right to be annoyed with her... but don't dwell on it. It's just a sign of her immaturity that she can't be straight with you. Tell yourself that you deserve better; no matter how attractive she is, it's not worth being with someone ... (read in full...)

I don't want my boyfriend to see me with all of this acne!

Q.   Hi all! Hope y'all are doing good! :) In a way this isn't a relationship type of question. But I really have bad acne, I have tried every thing to get rid of it and I don't know what to do to get rid of it. I have an online boyfriend, we ar...

A.   27 January 2011: I agree, see a dermatologist for advice if you keep trying products that don't work, you'll get the best advice for treatment from an expert. Does your boyfriend know what you look like? As in, has he seen a picture of you before or have you met ... (read in full...)

Why am I being so rude to my mom?

Q.   Lately I have been rude to my mom, and like not rude to my dad and everything.. But it just started happening. And all my friends have been asking me why I am so rude to my mom, and I don't know why..It just started happening. And i don't kn...

A.   26 January 2011: Maybe because you're a teenager and have all these hormones flying around, you tend to get angry easily and fly off the handle a lot. Your mother may be doing little things that are just magnified because of the way you're perceiving things.. and ... (read in full...)

Help! How can I tell if I'm pregnant?

Q.   Okay... well me and my ex were going out for about 9 months till we broke up. Sex between us is very good, we both enjoy it. I love my ex and he loves me. His a great guy very respectful too. I think it was a week after we broke up we had sex, he ...

A.   23 January 2011: You can wait till your period's due to see if you miss it. Although stress may delay it so you won't know for sure. Only way to be positive is to take a pregnancy test (no pun intended). Can't you see your doctor by yourself? I'm sure you don't need ... (read in full...)

I'm jealous because my friend has a boyfriend

Q.   Okay so here it is: My friend recently got a boyfriend and she's incredibly wrapped up with him. We used to hang out everyday, but now she's with him. A lot. The thing is i'm incredibly jealous and it's making me depressed. She's never had a boyfri...

A.   23 January 2011: It's a horrible situation to be in, when your friend gets a boyfriend and suddenly you feel shunted to the side. Unfortunately, you'll need to accept that your friend needs to spend time with her boyfriend too, and will naturally have less tim... (read in full...)

Does being really good in bed make you a hoe?

Q.   The man that I am seeing has constantly accused me of cheating when my loyalty towards him has only been solid and faithful. I believe it is his own insecurities that make him act the way he does at times. Whenever he goes out drinking he tell...

A.   21 January 2011: Heyy, I'd love to try that water trick, but I'd probably end up having water slopping down my chin. Suave. Even though you care about this man, he's unlikely to change his attitude - which is horrible, by the way. There's no reason to assume y... (read in full...)

I pushed my fiancee into having a boob job and now I regret it

Q.   I'll probably get criticised for this............... I always had a thing about boob jobs on women n although my fiancee had nice size breasts and a fantastic figure i constantly went on to her about wanting her to have one. Stupid i know. ...

A.   21 January 2011: You're just going to have to accept it. Really, ask yourself why you were so hell-bent on her having a boob-job, especially when you admit she had "nice size breasts". I really don't understand how you can "have a thing about boob jobs", is it the ... (read in full...)

My b/f is going to be an assistant teacher at my school

Q.   Hey, my boyfriend told me that in September he will become a student-teacher at our college. By then we will both be eighteen, but I will probaby do another year at college. This would mean that I would be in lessons he would be helping teach. I...

A.   20 January 2011: I tried to research this for you, but couldn't find an answer as to whether it's illegal or not :S I think the best thing to do is not be open about your relationship. Don't spend time together during school hours - you don't have to avoid ea... (read in full...)

I can't get a new guy because I'm too fat. I lost my ex over it. Best dieting tips please?

Q.   I want to diet but if I don't satisfy my hunger, I get migranes! Also, if I'm nervous or bored my stomach growls so loud, it's embarrasing!. I want to diet because my ex refuses to say I'm hot, or sexy because I'm so fat. And I can't get an...

A.   20 January 2011: Okay first of all, you should only go on a diet if you feel your weight or size is causing a health issue, not because your ex said or implied that you're too fat. Size does not play a factor in how attractive you are, I know of plenty chubby people ... (read in full...)

Was I wrong as I was not behaving professionally?

Q.   I recently had a stomach infection. When I went to see my doctor, who knows my family very well, advised me to be hospitalized. He used to check my whole abdomen daily in the hospital and I never felt shied from him. He was also very friendly with ...

A.   20 January 2011: Your doctor won't think badly of you, he may not have even noticed you feeling embarrassed. If he did, I'm sure he'll be understanding as there are lots of people who feel uncomfortable when they have to expose certain parts of their body. Try n... (read in full...)

He read my comment on facebook and totally misunderstood it

Q.   Hi! I really dont know what to do about this guy i like. Ive been meeting him for about 3 months now. Everything has been great, we spend alot of time together, like each other and he recently asked me out, this week.. I said i didnt know what i ...

A.   17 January 2011: If you really like this guy, you should try and talk this out properly, and resolve this issue. You shouldn't have gotten angry and said that you wish you'd had a man around, as it's an honest mistake on his part. Having said that, he probably ... (read in full...)

How to make it not obvious you like a guy?

Q.   There's this guy in one of my classes that I like. But the thing is, I don't think he likes me. I mean, he teases me and hits me and stares at me sometimes but I think nothing of it. It's so obvious I like him though. Even my friend whose oblivious ...

A.   15 January 2011: Don't stare at him too much and don't openly flirt.. these are the more obvious signs that you like him. But to be honest, boys don't always pick up on hints that you like them anyway, so what may seem obvious to your friend and yourself may not be ... (read in full...)

My ex talked crap about me on facebook and I can't let it go!

Q.   So I just really need to vent. I already did some to my boyfriend but I still can't get it out of my head. I'll give some of the back story. Okay I dated a guy a year and a half ago, we dated for a little over a year. It was an awful relationship. ...

A.   7 January 2011: Ahh, honey if I were in your position, I would be mad as hell too. But remember, he's your ex, and you don't have to put up with him anymore. You don't have to see his crap on Facebook because he's not on your sister's list anymore. This guy seem... (read in full...)

I like my best friend's uncle

Q.   I like my best friends uncle, he's 23, and we often talk, I know this isnt a crush, I've had crushes and I've never felt for anyone quite as strongly as I do for him. My friends made it clear to me that if anything ever happens that she will refuse ...

A.   7 January 2011: Ask yourself how much you value your friend. My guess is a lot, seeing as she's your best friend. Pursuing anything with her uncle is only going to hurt and upset her, as she's made it clear it will. If anything happened between you and this man, ... (read in full...)

Is it a good idea to 'replace' my ex so I can get over him?

Q.   I'm really struggling with what to do if anyone could help? I've recently broken up with my boyfriend of 4 years, i grew up with him so its really hard on me and i miss him like mad. its torture living without him :( the type of person i am is i...

A.   7 January 2011: If you "replaced" your boyfriend, it just seems like you'd be trying to ignore the pain from your break-up rather than dealing with it. It's hard coping with a break-up, and it may take a long time to recover but that doesn't mean you won't. Getti... (read in full...)

First kiss under the mistletoe: Good idea?

Q.   I was wondering if a good way to have your first kiss would be under mistletoe? I'm going to this Christmas party on Tuesday and my crush (who is also my best friend) is going. It's a mutual friend's party and she said that there will definite...

A.   18 December 2010: Doesn't seem like a bad idea to me - seems like it would be sweet and memorable :)... (read in full...)

Why is it we "hurt the ones we love?"

Q.   Why is it we "hurt the ones we love?" I know it's an old saying but I think there is much truth to it. We hurt the ones we love most. I wish it weren't true or even knew how to change it. It is no secret that I love my wife very much. It's no se...

A.   2 December 2010: I'll let someone else with more knowledge and experience help you with your actual problem, but as for your question as to why we hurt the ones we love.. well, I guess that's because we find it easier to hurt them because we know they'll always be ... (read in full...)

How do I get the courage to talk to a girl and ask her to dance?

Q.   hello friends I am 15 i am not in a relationship uptil now,i just want someone to love me,noone loves me,I want someone to hug me when I am sad,wipe my tears when I cry,noone does,it....it just hurts very badly, soo my question is I study in a boy...

A.   2 December 2010: It can be hard when everyone else seems to have someone, but you're not the only single person out there. Aunt Honesty is right, you need to learn how to be happy on your own first. There must be other good things in your life. Enjoy spending time ... (read in full...)

Can anyone share relationships that have gone right?

Q.   So I enjoy answering questions here on dearcupid when I have spare time. The thing is they are mostly about relationships gone wrong/problems/etc. I was wondering if people would post about relationships they are in or have been in where things ...

A.   29 November 2010: Keep in mind that this site is for people to post there problems on here, which is why it's likely you're going to encounter plenty of negative stories as opposed to happy ones. I understand how it can make one cynical though :/ Go on www.love... (read in full...)

It bothers me that she lost her virginity to her ex boyfriend

Q.   hiii....iam in a relationship from past 1 year....my girlfriend told me a few months back that she has lost her verginity to his ex-boyfriend..they had a realtionship of 4 years..i love her a lott n cant think of my life without her.but at the same ...

A.   28 November 2010: Just keep in mind that she's with you now, and whatever happened in the past with her ex doesn't matter. The older you get, the less likely you're going to be somebody's first relationship, first kiss, first love, first lover etc. Don't think too ... (read in full...)

Our star signs match. Is it destiny?

Q.   So, my friend recently introduced me to starsigns. I am a Cancer, and the description for a male Cancerian matches me perfectly. My love is a pisces. Its description matches her perfectly too. Coincidentally, Cancer's number one love match is ...

A.   28 November 2010: Hey no need to feel silly about it, everyone likes the odd "romantic" idea of being destined for someone, it's natural :)... (read in full...)

Our star signs match. Is it destiny?

Q.   So, my friend recently introduced me to starsigns. I am a Cancer, and the description for a male Cancerian matches me perfectly. My love is a pisces. Its description matches her perfectly too. Coincidentally, Cancer's number one love match is ...

A.   27 November 2010: I'd say it's a coincedence. You can enjoy the idea that maybe you both match perfectly and are destined to be together in a "the universe works in mysterious ways" kind of way lol.. like it's a fun thought for some people, but don't place so much ... (read in full...)

I don't like the idea of anal sex!

Q.   My boyfriend wants to try anal sex, but i just don't like the idea of it. Is it uncomfortable, or anything? Or should i just not bother trying it :/...

A.   26 November 2010: I should probably let someone more experienced in this field answer your question.. but let me just give my two cents too :) Okay well if you really don't want to do it, don't! There's no reason why you should feel pressured to. However if yo... (read in full...)

Does my bf wants to have sex with someone else in real life but is just controling himself for me?

Q.   i am in a committed relationship,since 17months. its a ldr.recently i asked my bf that does he wants to have sex with other girl.he replied that "he only loves me and can't think of other girl.but sex is a different thing.the more you put,the ...

A.   26 November 2010: Why would you ask your boyfriend if he wants to have sex with another girl?? That's sort of a loaded question. I don't understand what what your boyfriend said, can you re-phrase it? I think he might be saying that basically, no, he doesn't want... (read in full...)

Is it appropriate for my boyfriend to be saying these things? Or is he crazy to want to come and meet me?

Q.   no body replied to my question so i have to post it again.plzzzzz reply. Im in a ldr committed relationship since 1 year and 5 months.i am going to attend one uncle's son wedding to a place where my bf also lives.but i am going with my parents,...

A.   26 November 2010: If your parents see you talking to your boyfriend at the wedding reception and ask who he is, what are you going to say? Your relationship could work out, on the other hand, having to keep everything a secret plus the distance problem is likely t... (read in full...)

I hate myself and the way I look....and I'm only 13!

Q.   Heyy, Well basically I'm 13 years old, quite intelligent, got wa few good mates ect but there are a few things that bother me... 1. Well at the moment I have braces (I can't wait to get them taken off) and I, as a typical teenager, someti...

A.   25 November 2010: A lot of teenage girls [and boys] feel the way you do, so don't feel completely alienated :) It's natural to feel like that because your body is going through soo many changes, you're bound to feel uncomfortable with the way you look and feel at ... (read in full...)

Is it appropriate for my boyfriend to be saying these things? Or is he crazy to want to come and meet me?

Q.   no body replied to my question so i have to post it again.plzzzzz reply. Im in a ldr committed relationship since 1 year and 5 months.i am going to attend one uncle's son wedding to a place where my bf also lives.but i am going with my parents,...

A.   25 November 2010: You're not going to like me saying this, but you should probably end things with your boyfriend. Long distance relationships hardly ever work out.. look at all this hassle being caused because you rarely see each other, and when the opportunity ... (read in full...)

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