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I'm 20 at the time of writing this [born Nov 1990], and I live in London. I was born in England but my parents are originally from India.
My username is lacrymosa_652, titled after the song "Lacrymosa" by Evanescence - one of my favourite bands. I wish I'd looked up the definition of "lacrymosa" before I put it as my username though!
I first came on dear_cupid when I was about 17 to receive advice for a couple of problems. It was only recently though, when I asked a couple of questions (I always ask anonymously though :P) and received brilliant advice that I felt I should return the favour, and so now I come on here regularly to answer people's questions. I'm not a judgemental person and I understand that what may not be a big deal to one person is a problem for another, so I rarely view questions as meaningless or pointless. I try to give responses and advise people as best as I can, and I try to not answer questions that I feel are out of my depth.
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1 March 2011: Have you ever been in a situation where you want to be with someone, but another person isn't happy about it, and therefore is standing in your way? Perhaps you've liked a sibling's friend, or a friend's relative, or someone your friend likes as ...
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Is it appropriate for my boyfriend to be saying these things? Or is he crazy to want to come and meet me?
Q. no body replied to my question so i have to post it again.plzzzzz reply. Im in a ldr committed relationship since 1 year and 5 months.i am going to attend one uncle's son wedding to a place where my bf also lives.but i am going with my parents,...
A. 26 November 2010: If your parents see you talking to your boyfriend at the wedding reception and ask who he is, what are you going to say?
Your relationship could work out, on the other hand, having to keep everything a secret plus the distance problem is likely t... (read in full...)
Is it appropriate for my boyfriend to be saying these things? Or is he crazy to want to come and meet me?
Q. no body replied to my question so i have to post it again.plzzzzz reply. Im in a ldr committed relationship since 1 year and 5 months.i am going to attend one uncle's son wedding to a place where my bf also lives.but i am going with my parents,...
A. 25 November 2010: You're not going to like me saying this, but you should probably end things with your boyfriend. Long distance relationships hardly ever work out.. look at all this hassle being caused because you rarely see each other, and when the opportunity ... (read in full...)
Should I wait for her to come to me even though she doesn't seem interested, or approach another girl?
Q. hey people ... i was in love with a girl ... it was a love at first sight ... and i was behind her for about 5 years ... she's not even considering but she's a kind of girl who says she doesnt like boys and love ... and im fed up going behind her ...
A. 24 November 2010: If you feel like you're not going to get anywhere with this girl, don't try and pursue her any longer. The pain of wanting her but not being able to have her will just be long and drawn out if you keep waiting for something that's not going to ... (read in full...)
How does a guy lose is virginity?
Q. what are the ways by which a boy loses his virginity?...
A. 23 November 2010: After a guy has sex, he's no longer a virgin. When a woman loses her virginity, her hymen breaks. However with a man, there's no difference to his body physically from when he was a virgin to after he's had sex.
Is that what you wanted to know?... (read in full...)
Threatened by my boyfriend's female friends!
Q. Hi, I've been with my boyfriend for a year and we're in a long distance realtionship as I'm at university.I really love him and am generally really happy in the realtionship. However, for some reason, I've always been quite a jealous person a...
A. 22 November 2010: I think dirtball is right with his last paragraph. Letting your boyfriend know how you feel will give him the chance to reassure you, and he might make you feel better. It must be really tough for you to think of his friend paying him a visit, but ... (read in full...)
Should I pretend I'm not a virgin?
Q. im 20, almost 21 and still a virgin. I recently dated my first real boyfriend. When i told him i was a virgin, he started treating me like a little kid. he was also a pig and would have totally held it above me, sorta notch on his belt idea. What ...
A. 22 November 2010: Don't lie about being a virgin. Why? Because there's no need! Seriously, there's nothing wrong with being a virgin. These people who teased you need to get a life, and your ex-boyfriend acted like a total dick. Maybe he just felt sort of proud in a ... (read in full...)
Am I a freak for not having my first kiss yet?
Q. im just about to turn 15 and i've never had a boyfriend or been kissed. ive never even had a friend who was a boy. i feel like a freak, is it normal not to have your first kiss at my age?...
A. 18 November 2010: It can seem as if everyone has a boyfriend or has had experience kissing, but that's not the case. I understand you may feel left out and lacking in experience, but it's totally 'normal' to be 15 and have never kissed a boy.
I was 18 when I first ... (read in full...)
How should make his birthday special?
Q. For my boyfriend's 18th birthday, do you think it would be a good idea to get a hotel in London for a few days, and book tickets to attractions I think he'd like; he's never been before but has always wanted to. I am already eighteen and we've been ...
A. 18 November 2010: I think it sounds like a great idea :) it seems original too. Make sure it's on a day where he doesn't already have plans with family or friends first, though.... (read in full...)
Can I do anything to get bigger boobs?
Q. hello everyone, im 15 and im a 32 a and im size 6 or sometimes 8. im always being bullied about my boobs and i was just wondering if i can do anything to get bigger boobs? I've heard if i put weight on they will grow but im just confused and des...
A. 18 November 2010: If you're a size 6/8, it's natural to have smaller boobs. Seriously, if you had 34D breasts, it would look less natural! I'm sure you look fine the way you are. But as Cerberus said, you'll probably grow more. Some women's breasts are still growing ... (read in full...)
How can I end this relationship once and for all?
Q. Hey people, I know my story is kinda weird but i really really need help. so i am not origenally from the US but i live here. Anyways, i had a girl friend back home for almost 2 years, she is from a very very (traditional) family. In...
A. 18 November 2010: Just gently tell her that you don't think you both should be together anymore. Perhaps say that it is because her parents may soon want to marry her off again, and you both will be back in the place you were at before. Say that you'd accepted that ... (read in full...)
Will my heart go on?
Q. hey im 22 and broke up wit my ex 2 years ago we were together for 6 years,,for some reason i still cant get her out of my head and still love her,i seem to judge other girls on what she was like and thinbgs never work out..i feel like i can never ...
A. 17 November 2010: Will your heart go on? Yes it will. Will it be easy to get over the pain? No it won't. But keep in mind that there WILL come a time when you WILL have moved on from your ex-girlfriend. But for this to happen, you have to let go of her first, and it ... (read in full...)
Clingy boyfriend! Help!
Q. Ok so i have been dating this guy for almost 6 months, i really want to spend the rest of my life with this guy but sometime he is just too clingy. I just moved an hour and a half away to college and things have just gone downhill. Its no...
A. 15 November 2010: I think the best thing is to be honest with him. Just sit him down and tell him that you love him, and you enjoy his company and love talking to him on the phone, but you can't spend all your time on the phone to him because you feel it's important ... (read in full...)
What to do with his erection?
Q. Hiya, been on a few dates with a guy and we made out pretty passionately on the last date and he got hard. I don't want to do anything literally below the belt as we haven't been going out that long. Should I just ignore it, ask him about it, tell ...
A. 14 November 2010: You could just ignore his erection. He knows it's there and probably knows that you know it's there. It's natural that it should happen if he's turned on, as long as he's not expecting you to do anything you don't want to do then hey all is well ... (read in full...)
Girlfriend likes to abuse me and then says "Grow up and take it like a man"
Q. my gf says she likes to put me through pain and likes to give me hard times. my gf likes to punch me hard aswell as nipple twist and pinching. she also likes to strike at my emotions and i'm a very sensitive and she knows it but all she tells me to ...
A. 10 November 2010: Tell her how much it's really bothering you, and that if you persisted on doing something to her that she doesn't like, how would she feel? She's not empathising with you at the moment, she's just seeing things from her point of view.
Expla... (read in full...)
Girlfriend likes to abuse me and then says "Grow up and take it like a man"
Q. my gf says she likes to put me through pain and likes to give me hard times. my gf likes to punch me hard aswell as nipple twist and pinching. she also likes to strike at my emotions and i'm a very sensitive and she knows it but all she tells me to ...
A. 7 November 2010: Break up with her. I was going to suggest you talk to her about it and ask her to stop but she already tells you to "grow up and take it like a man." Can I just say, the fact that you don't like her doing this does NOT make you any less of a man. ... (read in full...)
Do you think we should have sex?
Q. First, please don't answer "Save yourself for marriage," because that's clearly not going to happen in our modern day and age. Secondly, please don't tell me that I'm an idiot who is going to get pregnant. Now. My boyfriend and I hav...
A. 7 November 2010: Although the decision ultimately lies with you, you did ask and: no I don't think you should have sex.. you are under the age of consent, which means it would be illegal. And secondly, there's a reason you're asking, and I don't know if you just ... (read in full...)
Should I stay with my muslim boyfriend?
Q. I've been dating this muslim boy for almost a year now, and everything's going amazingly. I'm not one to say I've fallen in love with just anybody, I take that very seriously, so I wouldn't necessarily say that I'm madly in love, but I definitely ...
A. 7 November 2010: Do you see yourselves as having a future together? Say if in a few years time you're still together and love each other, and you wanted to spend the rest of your lives together, would this be possible when you both are from different religions? ... (read in full...)
I lied about my age and have found out he is a copper!
Q. Hi Aunts. I am 15 and hang around with a large group of girls. I wear nice clothes and make myself up to look older I suppose. I went to a party recently and met this really nice guy. He said he was 26, I really liked him so I said I was...
A. 6 November 2010: @ "sageoldguy" - this is NOT a case of rape. He did not force her into having sex, it was consensual, and it's most likely he was unaware that he was having sex with a minor. I don't know if you should actually tell him your age because he may be h... (read in full...)
How late is too late to lose your virginity?
Q. I'm 23 and was reading an article about age on losing virginity http://abcnews.go.com/Health/Sex/story?id=3932047 and page=1 I was late when it came to dating and I nearly lost it when I was 20. But everyone thinks if you haven't had sex wh...
A. 6 November 2010: It's never "too late" to lose your virginity. It may seem like everyone's lost it by a certain age but that doesn't hold true for everyone. Some people have sex for the first time in their teens, in their 20s, even 30s.. some people want to wait for ... (read in full...)
Pain in stomach, Hard times peeing, Sores and Discharge
Q. Can anyone help figure out whats going on? I Have been sexually active for over 4 years and rarely use protection but have been with 24 partners. I have had a burning sensation in the past when peeing and itchy vaginal as well as some swelling...
A. 4 November 2010: Go to your doctor and get tested, it's the best way to figure out if you have an infection and what it is, and they'll give you medication to clear it up. Tell your partner to get tested as well. Don't be embarassed, doctors have seen everything ... (read in full...)
We had sex and now he threatens to tell my husband if I don't do what he wants!!! Help!
Q. Long story short, I met a guy and we ended up having sex. I'm married. Now he threatens to tell my husband if I don't do what he wants, when he wants. How do I get out of this? Please help me....
A. 2 November 2010: You have to tell your husband the truth. You cannot let this other man use you and blackmail you. If you come clean, you run the risk of losing your husband, but it's better than living with this weight on your shoulders and feeling down and ... (read in full...)
My best friend has broken up with him and I would love to be with him... help!
Q. hi there I like this boy, i mean i really like him and we are good friends but my best friend was actually going out with him and i felt guilty about liking him . . but my best friend knew that i liked him and she said she was ok about it but i kn...
A. 30 October 2010: CaringGuy said it all! But yeh, i understand that you really like this guy but he's not going to be the only guy you'll ever like. If you got with him and lost your friend because of it, and then you and him eventually break up, you'll have lost ... (read in full...)
Jealous over my ex and his new girlfriend?
Q. right guys, i'm totally confused here! I'm 17 almost 18. and i had a relationship last year november time, with this guy.. who i thought i actually loved. and i (out of my own decision) had sex with him, and lost my virginity too him, and he lost ...
A. 30 October 2010: I think it's a case of, even though you've moved on [right?] you still want your ex to miss you. A lot of people feel like this.
Why is your ex's girlfriend on your Facebook? Just delete her, and delete your ex, so that you can't see statuses that... (read in full...)
I like sniffing ladies dirty panties
Q. I like sniffing womens dirty panties and i dont know if i am normal.Am afraid that if my girlfriend finds out she will leave me.Ladies if you find your man sniffing your dirty panties will you leave him....
A. 30 October 2010: And your question is...? Trolling much?
I don't think the issue is whether you're normal or not, but how you come across women's worn underwear. Violating somebody's privacy, perhaps? Respect other people's items - you wouldn't want somebody rifl... (read in full...)
Why won't he perform oral on me?
Q. My boyfriend simply won't go down on me. We have been sexually active for over 3 months and I've received it maybe 6 times. I give him head all the time, hoping to get some in return, but he claims he just has to be in the mood for it. I can't stand ...
A. 29 October 2010: Some good advice has already been given, but can I just say, to the person who said she should spray her intimate area with perfume - err no! Don't do this, there is a delicate balance of bacteria and you shouldn't really use heavily perfumed soaps ... (read in full...)
I am in love with my best friend's boyfriend! Should I tell him how I feel?
Q. i really like this guy he is so cute but he is already with someone else!!! its so not fair he's noticed me and everything and he allways teases me and talks to me if its fair to say there relationship is coming apart but the girl is my best frien...
A. 28 October 2010: If you were to get with this guy after they've broken up, you would seriously be hurting your best friend, and it would damage your friendship.
I understand that you love this guy, but don't you love your friend as well? If she's one of those fr... (read in full...)
I dumped g/f 10 months ago and want her back!
Q. I dumped my girlfriend 10 months ago and everyday I regret it. I treated her bad. Now she's hanging around another guy who treats her like a queen and she acting in a way that she didn't act with me. It torments me to watch anothe guy make her ...
A. 28 October 2010: It's been 10months since you broke up with her. Why has it taken you so long to decide you want her back? Because now she's with somebody else. You said it yourself: you're jealous. You now want her because you can't have her. Well not only for that ... (read in full...)
I'm 13 and like my friends 19 year old sister!
Q. Ok well I just started having feelings for my best friends sister who is 19 years old but the problem is I'm 13 yr old boy... His sister and i talk alot and are kinda close but I don't know what to do... Help plz...
A. 24 October 2010: I think you're going to have to accept that nothing is going to happen between you and her.
I'm sorry :(
There is a 6 year age gap between the two of you, and it's unlikely she'll want to be in a relationship with you. I'm not saying that in a ho... (read in full...)
Could something so great really be real? Do I take the risk and maybe regret it or take the safe route and possibly regret it? Title
Q. I need some advice... I'm married...have been for a few years. My husband is a good guy in that he takes good care of me, I don't have to work or worry about money and our lives are pretty easy and simple, our families get along and my parents l...
A. 24 October 2010: I'm probably a bit out of my depth here because I'm quite young and this concerns marriage etc.
I will say that just because something is so great doesn't mean it can't last or it's too good to be true. I'm happy for you that you found somebody... (read in full...)
My married cousin is so friendly to me, what does it mean?
Q. My cousin is a married woman and also we are so friendly. She is always wearing sexy dresses as her boobs are partially shown to me.I don't know it is accidently or not. She is middle aged. I want to show that i am interested in her. Also she is ...
A. 22 October 2010: Don't get involved with a married woman. Especially one you're related to, even if it is legal.
Maybe you're interpreting her actions as her being interested you, but she may not. If you pursue her, you may embarrass yourself.
Even if she is frust... (read in full...)
How do I get my girlfriend to view her sexuality positively instead of negatively?
Q. My girlfriend and I have been together for 1 year. Since the start of our relationship, we haven't had sex. I don't see it as a problem but it has crossed my mind why we haven't took the next step. So recently I sat down with her and as subtly ...
A. 22 October 2010: This was a traumatic experience for her [as it would be for anyone], and I greatly sympathise with her. I would suggest she seeks some form of counselling, as her past experiences are affecting her present life, as she feels the need to punish ... (read in full...)
Is it really right to strike someone in this situation?
Q. I was surprised and a bit shocked by some of the responses to A recent post about a guy wanting to know if women found it attractive when a guys junk happens to show. Several of the women say that they would slap the guy in the face if his junk ...
A. 21 October 2010: I never saw the original post you mentioned, but no I don't think it's right for a woman to slap a man for that reason. You're right, what if it was just accidentally on show?
To be honest I think it's unfair that women seem to get away with hitt... (read in full...)
Why can't I let go of my ex?
Q. Nearly 10 months after I split from my ex-boyfriend and I am still struggling to come to terms with it. It was a mutual decision (kind of!) to split as we were drifting apart, but I was really hoping that we would resolve things. We got on so w...
A. 18 October 2010: He was probably texting you initially as he may have still been missing you and regretting the relationship ending, even though he'd decided it was for the best. He maybe then felt it was time to move on and felt he was able to, and so cut off cont... (read in full...)
Does anyone else like really rough sex?
Q. So, I'm wondering. does anybody else love really really rough sex? i mean, i feel weird asking, but i dont want to be the only one. like, i love being slaped, called dirt names, and thrown around, choked (not hard but yeah). i love it, but i feel ...
A. 11 October 2010: Haha you're not the only one, there's plenty of people who like a bit of "rough action" and even more hardcore things [sadomasochism] so not to worry, you're not alone.
Yes there are people who may judge you a bit but these are people who woul... (read in full...)
Mum and dad say he's "just another crush". Are they right?
Q. right im not on here to bore the world, im on here to get help with things i need to and figure out if there are other people like me. im a 13 year old girl and i think im in love for real. my mum and dad and friends say he is just another crush but ...
A. 10 October 2010: Maybe you are in love, maybe you're not. I know that doesn't seem like a satisfactory answer but only you can know for sure. It could be that you feel you're in love now, and a few years down the line, you'll look back on this and think "maybe i ... (read in full...)
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