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writes:Dearcupid, I am at the most confusing stage. I love my boyfriend a lot. We met online. He is 26 and I'm 16. I have asked this question before,please check. http://www.dearcupid.org/question/im-torn-between-my-ex-and-my-friend.html He disappeared for 4 months. I thought that he broke-up without saying anything and I was trying to move on. Now he is back. He says that he is busy. I take him back. I can wait for him but In past, he blocked me on facebook. I found it out when he disappeared. We talk when he gets time. I didn't ask him about it. I made a fake account and I asked him if he is in a relationship. He said that he is single. And he says that he loves me. Even he lied about his age when I was chatting with him using fake id. I want to break-up with him. I am confused. I don't know what I want. He says that he loves me. Do you think he is really busy? Its been 5 months. We used to talk daily but he is changed now. He calls me once or thrice in a month. And when he come online he reply to me sometime and go offline without saying anything. He never reply to my messages, e-mails, phone call. He never show through his act that he loves me, but when he calls me even if its once a month, I fall for him. He said that he will visit me in December and he wants to meet me. How do I break-up with him? What should I say? Am I being clingy? Should I wait for him? I tried to talk about it with him but he said that don't irritate me. I know break-up is not easy. Is it true that you become strong after break-up? Do you miss your ex-boyfriend/girlfriend? How do you get over it? Its my first relationship. I don't know how to handle it. I really love him. I don't want to lose him. Please help :(
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (8 June 2011):
 if he's being a jerk on facebook hon, you gotta block him and get on with your life. it hurts and it sucks but it's the best way.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 June 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 June 2011): Good for you :) i don't know why he said that, but he sounds very bitter at the moment because of that. Don't worry about it. You made the roght choice and you deserve to be happy. What i would suggest is just keeping your mind off of him.
Good luck :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 June 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks Anonymous,
I was online on facebook today. He talked to me, he was showing attitude, he said leave me.. Why did he say that? I already sent him good-bye message :( When I asked him why did he lied he said that he is not single now. He is in a relationship :( I don't know how I am feeling. I guess he just want to make me jealous. It will take time for me to get over him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 June 2011): Yes, you did it right. Just because he didn't reply doesn't mean he didn't see it.
I know its hard. First loves are always the worst to get over. Listen, (i took this from wizards of waverly place but it helped me so maybe it'll help you!) your gonna have a million broken hearts before you find your true love, so think of it this way. Your one less broken heart to pure happiness.
And everyone has doubts, but you have to remember what he did to you. Remember when you created the fake facebook an asked him if he was single? And he said yes? He was probably cheating on you. My mom always told me that love has a vision problem--it can't see faults. And trust me, we've all been there.
Hope you feel better :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 June 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks everyone for replying :) .. I sent him message on facebook. I have change my number? Did I do right? Do you think I should talk to him ? He didn't reply... I don't know if I made a right decision , I love him a lot. He was my everything. He was the only person I had in my life.. I guess anonymous is right. He is not my someone. I will try to focus on my life and hobbies. Its really hard for me. I am getting depressed :(
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 June 2011): When you do break up, just send him a fb message or an email. I read your last question and just send him an email. I'm really sorry. We all fall for players. I suggest after you get over him, hang out with guys your own age, and let a simple but nice first date develop into a drama-free relationship. Theres someone for everyone, but I don't think this guy is your someone
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reader, zebralove  +, writes (3 June 2011):
 You REALY shouldn't be with him. You'r 16, I don't understand why a 26 year old man is even in you'r life in that way. I'm 21 and wouldn't date a 26 year old because I know that we wouldn't be at the same point in life. And you guys are waaayyy further apart then you think! He doesn't realy care about you, by what you have toled us I don't think he realy loves you. You should break up with him and move on. And yes you will miss him and think about him, it will be hard. What you should do is focus on being with your friends and do other things istead of being home alone.
Be indipendent and have fun, you'r young. :)
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reader, lacrymosa_652  +, writes (3 June 2011):
 Tell him that you don't want to be in a relationship with him anymore because it's not working out, and that you don't want him to call or message you again, as you think it's better that you both part ways. If he tries to call you, don't answer, and don't respond to any messages.
I think he probably did use you a bit, and cared about you less than he said he did. I'm sorry, it won't be easy to move on but once you get the break-up out of the way, tell yourself that you deserve better than him, and that will help you to let go. Tell yourself he's not worth your time or effort. Even though you may love him, there's no point in being in a relationship that isn't fulfilling and where the other person doesn't truly care about you. And the age gap is weird. Please break up with him, and the focus on moving on. Good luck.
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reader, Sjroller14 +, writes (3 June 2011):
 I'm sorry....it sounds like he is just playing you.
I Know how you feel, you think you rly love him even though u know all the stuff he is doing to you. Ive been in the same situation, but things only get worse.
You have either got to tell him u know about and lay down some rules or, you have got to tell him u deservve better and end it all!
I hope I have been some help! :)
best of luck!
XOXO
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 June 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for replying..I don't know my heart is not ready to accept that he is a player... :(
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (3 June 2011):
he is a player and I'm sorry but NO 26 yr old MAN should be dating a 16 yr old GIRL...
he's playing you sweetie...
get on with your life and let him go.
It's hard I know... but it's better for you.
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