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writes:Hey everyone.I really like this guy I’ve been speaking to on the internet for a while. We speak every day online and get on well. I see him a lot more now coz we go to the same college.He’s a really shy guy and he’s told me that he has trouble with stuff like eye contact and meeting new people. Online he tells me ‘see you tomorrow’ and ‘you can ask me tomorrow’ so it’s obvious he wants me to speak to him. He remembers a lot of little things about me and I know he notices me. He seems interested in what lessons I’ve got and stuff.Every time I see him I make an effort to smile and say ‘hi’ but he just ignores me! He won’t look at me and turns away or looks busy. I’m a shy person too but I don’t ignore him. He wants me to be friendly but how can I when he won’t look at me!? It’s like he’s scared of looking at me or something. I don’t know what he’s thinking but I really like him. He doesn’t seem as shy around other people. So how should I approach him? And why is he behaving like this? Please help coz I’m totally confused.Lots of love. X
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 September 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you all for replying. I really appreciate it. I hope I can think more straight now after having someone else's prospective! So thank you.
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reader, gunnerlil +, writes (4 September 2009):
I'd say he's just really embarrassed. Talk to him in person when he is on his own, maybe he'll feel a lot more comfortable. Or maybe try and arrange to meet him out of college, just the two of you so you can talk and maybe get to know each other better.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 September 2009): I think he is daft...he does know u coz he chats to u online! And how does he think hel get to know u if he blatently ignores u? when u next talk to him online ask him y he ignores u, coz it makes no sense thats he fine in college where there are loads of ppl he dont no but not with u! Or ignore him online just for a day or 2, c if he does anything. He'l probly come and chat to u after that.
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reader, kayla20 +, writes (4 September 2009):
 He probably really likes you too but is just painfully shy towards girls and he probably ignores you because he is scared that if he talks to you yourl think his a weirdo or that it might be uncomfortable. Maybe you should tell him that he should come and talk to you when he sees you in college cos every time you try and talk to him he ignores you.have it out with him ask him why hes acting the way he is and why he wont talk when you say hi.he probably has trouble getting girls and doesnt have much self esteem therefore his not confident enough to talk to you when you see him on his own go up to him be friendly and ask him why he hasnt spoken to you yet it might be slightly awkward but if you keep talking to him it might get easier
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reader, sunnycomet  +, writes (4 September 2009):
 Wow...your not the only person who is confused...
Does he act this way with everyone else?
If he does he has some major issues with ppl contact.
But that is still no way to treat you!! Ignoring you is rude no matter how you look at it.
Try talking to him about it on msn.
Explain how hurt you were and how it makes you feel and if he really likes you he will put in an effort to at least say hi.
Good Luck!
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