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writes:My bf of 4 years has been asking me for a 3 sum for a long time, I agreed to have a ffm 3 sum if he would have a mmf 3 sum for me. Since we thought that if we gave in first the other would back out we opted for a group thing with another couple.which was planned this afternoon everything was going great and everyone was having fun. Then out of no where my bf started flipping out with he seen the other male and I having sex. He started yelling for him to "get his f***ing hands off me" he jumped up and punched the guy away and stormed out of the house in tears. I tried calling his cell and he wouldn't answer he final came home and has locked him self in our bedroom and won't let me in or talk to me. What do I do?
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reader, na202  +, writes (16 January 2010):
I think your boyfriend had not really thought of how he would feel watching you with another man. But since it has now happened and it was his idea in the first place let him calm down first then you can both talk about what happened.
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reader, kayla20  +, writes (4 September 2009):
 he probably didnt expect it to happen like that maybe he didnt want you to have sex with the other guy at all maybe he wanted to have sex with you and for the other guy to just kiss or touch you or maybe he only opted into this because he wanted 2 girls and him to have a threesome maybe he couldnt take it and feels betrayed i dont know let him calm down and then talk to him
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 September 2009): he hadn't thought it through. He didn't realise how he would feel. Sounds like he's really into you, which is great. Maybe you can put this behind you and realise you have a strong relationship.
3 somes are bad news except in swinging circles where no one knows each other. Mostly they end in tears, and in this case, the tears were your boyfriend's. Ahhh, an emotional man, how lovely! Keep hold of him but find out what he was bored with sexually that led him to want a threesome in the first place.
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Ps these ideas often come from porn, where the fantasy can never be matched by reality.
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reader, applebite8821 +, writes (4 September 2009):
 Personally, I still could not fathom the thought of group sex with someone I love. I only speak for myself as I know for some people, this is okay..
I think your boyfriend has in his mind that it would be exciting to see you have sex with someone else. But when he was actually seeing it, it dawned on him that it was better left to his imagination. It was like cheating in his very eyes.
So in my opinion, your boyfriend realized the difference between a fantasy and reality. And reality is an awful sight afterall. The gf whom he loved having sex with another guy? That's not a joke. I don't mind if your relationship with him is casual but he is your boyfriend, someone who gives you love and care and sex is only the bonus there.
For what happened, there is no one to blame but the two of you. Just take this as a big lesson learned. Next time you know what to do.
This is only my opinion.
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