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How do I tell if he just wants sex or if he loves me?
Q. So I have this best friend and he is a guy we have dated off and on. I'm 16 and he is 19... Our relationship is complicated because he is going to College in another state and I'm in high school. I'm able to see him every break that comes though ...
A. 22 July 2010: Well the reason it is on/off is actually because of my father... He doesn't want us being more than friends until I'm older. But we had dating and then decided to be friends a few times. i know he cares about me though...
I just want to know how ... (read in full...)
My soulmate, or my true love?
Q. I recently took this quiz from a lady who studies about true soul mates and write books about them. The quiz was pretty long, and it said that i met my true soul mate. The problem is, i have a boyfriend, whom i've been dating for 4 years. We are c...
A. 22 July 2010: Forget about what you think a "soul mate" is. Clear your mind of all the crap people tell you. And who says this lady knows all the answers in the universe just because she wrote I book that was published? Simple choose the guy that makes you more ... (read in full...)
Is he gay because he has issues with kissing his own wife?
Q. My husband has admitted to me on several occasions, today included that he is just "not that much into kissing." He especially does not like french-kissing. For some reason he finds it to be gross. As a result of our intimacy issues,also due to h...
A. 22 July 2010: This guy definitely has some issues.... I think you should see a marriage councilor. Have you ever thought about looking through some of the porn he watches? If he is gay he would be watching Gay porn... A straight man would never want to want to ... (read in full...)
Told him I loved him, but didn't mean it and took it back. Now I feel weird. What's going on?
Q. I have a best friend and we've been "twins" for almost all the time we've known each other because we have so much in common. His girlfriend broke up with him a couple of days ago and I was talking to him about it. He was telling me about how his ...
A. 22 July 2010: How long was he with his last girlfriend?
Maybe you could just try talking to him about it....
Tell him saying I love you right now is too fast and that you "like him" but you need to take it slower. You said you never thought about him like tha... (read in full...)
How do I tell if he just wants sex or if he loves me?
Q. So I have this best friend and he is a guy we have dated off and on. I'm 16 and he is 19... Our relationship is complicated because he is going to College in another state and I'm in high school. I'm able to see him every break that comes though ...
A. 22 July 2010: I may not have been very clear here...
@ohgetreal.. I was drunk at my house drinking with family not around him... What I "said" was in text message. Don't worry I'm always at my wits with guys my age around. It's important to remain in control.... (read in full...)
Why do men leave pregnant women?
Q. (disregard my age please, i am 21 and the guy is 26) this happened to me with a guy i dated for 2 and a half years and when i got pregnant he said he didnt love me anymore. i'm 7 months pregnant now. he changed his phone number, won't answer ema...
A. 22 July 2010: What's important here is the baby... A lot of moms get caught up their own lives to look out for their child. When your baby is born it should be your number one priority (unless you give it up for adoption) And if it's a girl you have to be extra ... (read in full...)
Based on my symptoms, what could be wrong?
Q. I AM 35 Years Old(Male). I am feeling very very weak right from the time I wake up and till i sleep again.even in dream also i always sees myself of not being able to move my leg or hand.My legs also trembling most of the time. The whole day I could ...
A. 22 July 2010: Have you talked to a doctor about this?... (read in full...)
My parents didn't know I was dating and now I'm 2 months pregnant and don't know how to tell them!
Q. Okay.! Im 15 and pregnant.! I dnt know how to tell my parents.! My bf and i have been together for 2 months.! but my parents dnt know.! we have been seeying each other without no one knowing.! but i guess that now im have to tell my parents.! me and ...
A. 22 July 2010: I would advise you not to tell your parents who the father of the child is.. Llike "soon567" said they may try and charge him for staatory rape (when your have sex under the age of concent 16-18 depending on the state.) I would just sit down with ... (read in full...)
How do I overcome not being attracted to my wife?
Q. First time i have gone through this site and find it so helpful. Hope i too will get some help Iam 29 year old, married two years back. it was an arranged marriage and from the day one i didnt liked the girl but the family pressure was so ...
A. 22 July 2010: Why can't you just divorce her if she makes you so incredibly unhappy? Hasn't she ever realized that you don't love her?... (read in full...)
I'd like to date this girl but I think she's really confused
Q. i like a girl, a lot. and i know she likes me atleast a little bit. we used to just be friends but recently realized theres a chance we could be more. the main problem is that she got out of a long relationship not too long ago and she seems ...
A. 22 July 2010: You are right about the situation. She simply isn't ready... The fact is she isn't going to be ready for quite a long time. If she was in a relationship for a long time that just ended she obviously has no interest in starting a new one any time ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend re-evaluating our relationship because he seen me stressed and didn't like my behavior
Q. I previously posted a story about this but there have been further developments. I truly need a lot of feedback on this one because this is ongoing and currently changing on a day-to-day basis. My boyfriend that I met in college lives 1,000 miles ...
A. 22 July 2010: If he cannot work through the challenges with you then he isn't the right guy to be with. Being a couple isn't about the good times. It is about being with a person that makes you happy, but will stick around when you look stressed or messed up. If ... (read in full...)
Who is in the wrong?
Q. Ello! I am new here, but my question has been in my life for over a decade. See, my mom had this friend, which I will call her Kanine, and she has a son, which I will call Ahola. They have been in my life over a decade and I just can't stand them! ...
A. 22 July 2010: Obviously your mom is the one that is wrong here... But you
already knew that. Kick these people to the curb already. Who cares if your mom wants to remain friends with them? Doesn't mean you have to. I suggest you tell your mom to shove it beca... (read in full...)
On the pill so how come I missed my period?
Q. well i have been on aviane birth control for one month now and im about to start a new pack but its placebo week and i have 2 pills left but i didnt have my period?? and during the pack i missed one pill but i didnt have sex that day i was sick so ...
A. 22 July 2010: Yes if you miss one pill you are more pron to becoming pregnant. If you read the instructions it says right on there. Most likely it sound like you could be... Get a test.... (read in full...)
Crazy and disturbed sister-in-law!!
Q. my sister in law is totaly crazy to make this short as much as i can i am suffering from a sexless marriage due to my wife's very low to non-existant sex drive her elder sister whom is very close to her used this fact to seduce me(( though she i...
A. 21 July 2010: Well everything was all you needed to know... You also admitted your wife was the favoered child as I suspected. That is your answer. Stay around family and make sure you're never alone with her.... What is the problem? Is this like the movie ... (read in full...)
I'm hesitant about going further with this long distance relationship
Q. my boyfriend of a year dosen't live where i live and it worrys me when he starts talking about children , he lives in another city to me . we have to travel to see eachother but there is no problems when were with eachother , we are in a serious ...
A. 21 July 2010: If you are hesitant I would say the best thing for the both of you is to take a break.... That doesn't mean you can't still talk though. I'm in love with a guy that feels the same way about me but he is going to College in another state, so until we ... (read in full...)
I'm hesitant about going further with this long distance relationship
Q. my boyfriend of a year dosen't live where i live and it worrys me when he starts talking about children , he lives in another city to me . we have to travel to see eachother but there is no problems when were with eachother , we are in a serious ...
A. 20 July 2010: If you love each other you are just going to have to find a way to compromise. And living in another city isn't to far away. You could always get married and try moving back and forth every couple of years. You could also move in the median between ... (read in full...)
Again? But I don't trust him.
Q. Okay so, Recently I was in a relationship with this guy, and me and him were also practically best friends and got really close, but he dumped me because he liked this other girl who I'm also friends with and know, and apparently she dumped him like ...
A. 20 July 2010: Sometimes when guys are with a girl they care about for a long time they just need to take a break and test the waters. You have to give him credit here he was honest and straight up with you about liking your friend. You really have no reason not ... (read in full...)
Feeling like an old married couple... will it end or should I just end it?
Q. Hi. I've been in a relationship with this guy for about three years now. It's not my first long-term relationship. He used to try to have sex with me all the time, but rarely does anymore, unless it's morning-time -and I can't help but to think it ...
A. 20 July 2010: he doesn't like a loser. Any guy that finds it acceptable to be that dirty all the time is a slob... Stop trying to see something in this guy that isn't there. Stop aiming so low when you know you can do better. Just look him straight in the face ... (read in full...)
Can I trust him or is my ex playing games?
Q. Im confused about my ex boyfriend, who is 31 by the way! We were together for 2.5 years. We broke up this April. He ended things with me through phone and text. I haven't seen him since April, and I have kept minimal contact just for my sanity! T...
A. 20 July 2010: He is just trying to control you and get you to come crawling back to him. Don't do it. Don't fall into the trap of his mind games. If he ever tries to talk to you again just tell him you can do a whole hell of a lot better than someone who dumps ... (read in full...)
Does this old friend want to destroy everything I have?
Q. Well an old friend knew I was having relationship problems with the guy i was with back in september and took advantage of me being weak and we ended up sleeping together. But now he's going around telling people that I planned us having sex ever ...
A. 20 July 2010: He is simply a guy with brag rights. He is just trying to be cool. Walk up to him and tell him how spreading those rumors was bullshit and he knows it. Maybe even give him a good slap across the face to tell him you mean business. As for your ... (read in full...)
I can cum, but not with her...we want a baby but its just not happening...
Q. i have a mental block every time I try to have sex with my partner, I cannot achieve an orgasm and we would love a baby so when the time of the month is right i just cant cum, the doctor gave me Viagra but no good,please advise as we are desperate, ...
A. 20 July 2010: This may sound gross but you could always do it another way if it is such a problem... And yes by that I mean masturbating and cumming in a cup. Just saying. It would work if you need it to happen. ... (read in full...)
Crazy and disturbed sister-in-law!!
Q. my sister in law is totaly crazy to make this short as much as i can i am suffering from a sexless marriage due to my wife's very low to non-existant sex drive her elder sister whom is very close to her used this fact to seduce me(( though she i...
A. 20 July 2010: This is definitely NOT personality disorder. I find that men use that often to describe woman who's actions seem radical due to ignorance. It is a fact that women are very competitive with each other. Sisters in particular. It could be that growing ... (read in full...)
I cheated, I feel badly but I'm glad the secret is finally out
Q. I've being in a relationship with someone for three years. And recently, I was caught cheating on this person. I feel terrible, I feel like a scum bag for betraying this person's trust. I really love the life we had together, the companionship, and ...
A. 20 July 2010: This person still loves you and if they have seemed like the forgive type in the 3 years you've been together and not the type of person to hold grudges then it is possible he may be able to forgive you one day. Right now he is extremely hurt and ... (read in full...)
I feel like a fool. Has he changed or was he always like this?
Q. what can i do i feel a complete fool i really like a guy at work and thought we were close friends or at least he gave me that impression. he used to call me several times a night and i didnt have much confidence after coming out of a really b...
A. 20 July 2010: He used you and deep down you know that exactly what happened here. Don't feel bad he is just your average manipulator. he got everything he wanted from you and has no need for you anymore. Absolutely DO NOT help him with the final. UNless, you want ... (read in full...)
How can I make her leave us alone?
Q. my partner and i have been together for two and a half years so far and have a 6 month old daughter together. my partner had a gf before me but they never did anything more than kiss. we both lost our virginitys to each other. the ex didnt stop ...
A. 20 July 2010: I agree with "dirtball." He needs to cut her off completely. If she is so unstable that she says she will kill herself, then she would already do so none the less. If she wanted to actually end her life she would have done so already. She is only ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend has on-line girlfriends!
Q. I met my boyfriend playing bridge on-line. After several months of playing we arranged to meet, fell madly in love, and now, over a year later, we are living together and have a great relationship. He had met his previous girlfrie...
A. 19 July 2010: Dump him. He is cheating on you emotionally and obviously isn't as committed as you.... (read in full...)
Everyone I date is always in my ex's shadow
Q. I went out with a guy for a loooong time and we broke up three and a half years ago because it wasn't working out. this was mainly because we were quite young and at uni so living in different places. we stayed in touch and i guess i've never really ...
A. 19 July 2010: The truth is you two love each other... You already know you do deep down and so does he. When people are passionate , but they fight a lot it isn't the fighting that matters. What matters is that you are always able to come back to each other and ... (read in full...)
I like her but am wondering about her relationship status. Should I ask her?
Q. Should i ask her if she have boyfriend or not? I just broke up with my ex about 4 month ago. This new girl is a good friend of my ex. They share same classes. I have my own reason for my breakup. But in their mind my breakup was becaus...
A. 19 July 2010: It doesn't matter if she has a boyfriend or not she made it clear she isn't interested in you and you chose to ignore that... She avoid you after you said you liked her. If she liked you she would not have done that. Don't ask her because it isn't ... (read in full...)
I want to know if there could still be an "us" but don't want to sound desperate!
Q. Hey there, ok so there is this guy that i really like and we were kissing buddies and that wasnt good because i actually started liking him and i decided to tell him how i feel and when i did, he had told me that he liked me too. But there ...
A. 19 July 2010: Maybe you just need to take things slow. Be casual. Say things like we should hang out. Or So what are you up to this weekend? Well if your not busy we should make some plans etc.
Don't jump straight to lets be an us. Just take things slow if you ... (read in full...)
I find this strange but also erotic what should I do?
Q. my sister moved back to my house, not working just lazing around the house. she loves watching porno, we don't have any kids, but sometimes i come home from work early and she is masterbating. I find this strange but also erotic. what should I ...
A. 19 July 2010: How old is your sister? Age counts alot in this sort of situation. And why is she living with you and not your parents? Also why to you say you find it "erotic" are you saying it's turning you on?... (read in full...)
He may propose..am I ready?
Q. "OP Own Title" I love my boyfriend and I think he wants to propose soon. I am struggling with a huge issue though. I feel very uneasy about the fact that we live 24hrs drive away from my friends and family. I have no support system here. I am ...
A. 19 July 2010: If it is that upsetting to you can't you just talk to him about selling his business and re-started close to where you family and friends are? Also try getting envolved in your community. If you make so friends you won't feel as unhappy as you do ... (read in full...)
How do I keep track of my period?
Q. I had my last period on June.24 or 25 .. Ended in about a week .. Anyways when will I get my next period .. I don't keep track so I'm going to starts doing that now :)...
A. 19 July 2010: I always had this problem. I was never able to keep track of my period until I started taking birth control for my mild acne and PMDD.. But basically it is like this Get a calendar. put a star on the day after your period ends. three weeks after ... (read in full...)
I'm sick and tired of the emotional abuse from my husband!
Q. Hi, I have been married for 22 years. I have had my share of problems. My husband is sometimes a really sweet person, which is why I am still married to him. Over the years we have gone through a lot of crap. The crap that was thrown at both of ...
A. 19 July 2010: You need to get out of this out with your son. Try going to a volunteer place where you can make friends. When you have other people around you giving support you can leave your son in their care to find a job. Also you may be able to apply for ... (read in full...)
I've met his family does that mean he's serious?
Q. I am going out with a guy who has just come out of a relationship. We have fondled and cuddled a lot plus shared the bed when I stopped over. Friends have commented that we are going into things too soon, but I am confused as to why. Are we really ...
A. 19 July 2010: Lots of people want to test the waters with the people they date to take it through family approval. If your family hates them why waste your time? And just ignore what people are telling you if your relationship seems to be going well and make each ... (read in full...)
Should I break up with my boyfriend face to face?
Q. I really only had one Boyfriend. But I want to break up with him but don't know how what should I say and should I do it face to face ?...
A. 19 July 2010: Absolutely don't be hurtful and do it over text/ phone. At least give him the courtesy of telling him in person... Just tell him you fell that you need to see other people, and if he wants you guy can be friends.. Just say it's hard to just see one ... (read in full...)
He says he likes me more than her but I know he had sex with her
Q. Hi, I'll get straight to the point. I've been talking to this guy, his nice and everything his like prince charming but not so perfect. We met up once and had a blast. Problem is, he kissed me, i accpeted the kiss and kissed back, i really li...
A. 19 July 2010: Sometimes giving up on someone is what you have to do... He had sex with his girlfriend so clearly what he wants is some action. It could be that by "get to know you better" he really wants to know if you put out. And don't you think your being a ... (read in full...)
I love my best friend but I don´t know if he likes me back even as a friend?
Q. Dear Cupid, I´m a girl, and i have a best friend that´s a boy. I´ve known him for 3 years now, and I fell in love with him before I became his best friend. We hang out alot. He always tell´s eveyone how were the best of friends which we are. I ...
A. 19 July 2010: If you two are that close stop worrying about all of the gossip and talk to him about it. And as for the "annoying falling me around thing".. He may just feel that you are being to clingy. Guy like a little space so just back off a little bit so he ... (read in full...)
My two best friends are dating
Q. I had a best guy friend that I was really close to, and we met on a conference for school, but we went to different schools at the time then, he came to my school, and met my best girl friend, and one night he told me he liked her. When I told my ...
A. 19 July 2010: Maybe you just need to change things up and hang out with other people... And you are also feeling like the third wheel. You need to find someone whom you interested in so that you can go on double dates and not feel left out because they have a ... (read in full...)
Should I delete him out of my memory?
Q. i hooked up with my colleagues ex boy friend(Actually it've been almost 3 years and i saw him again at a party and he told me about his broken up with his girl.at the second time we met at a friend's birthday party,we kissed and had a great night ...
A. 19 July 2010: It sounds like he just wanted some action and you provided him with that... You two didn't have anything else in common besides being at the same place at the same time. Just forget about it. It was only sex, nothing more.... (read in full...)
Should I tell my friend her b/f cheated on her?
Q. my boyfriends friend who is going out with my friend has cheated on her (kissed another girl which still counts as cheating at this age) while she was on holiday, it was only a few kisses but still it shouldnt have happened. he said it was a minute ...
A. 19 July 2010: If you keep his lie and she finds out some other way she is going to be extremely mad at you. Also her bf was dishonest and what if there are other things he lies about? You should give your friend the decency of letting her know. But first tell the ... (read in full...)
Should he be flirting with her at all?
Q. i've been dating this guy for almost 2 months, we have broken up a few times because of jealousy or people interfering but now our relationship is better than ever as i hadent even kissed him or hugged him until the 3rd time so now its good but i ...
A. 19 July 2010: It could not mean anything.. But you should keep and eye out and make sure he is acting committed. Girls constantly flirt without even realizing they are he could also be doing so without thinking about it. And don't listen to you friend's bf. He ... (read in full...)
Sex doesn't feel right!
Q. when i have sex with my partner it doesnt feel right it feels like its in my stomach and is touchin my belly button a dont get any pleasure at all but i have a few times it just wont go away what could i do to help make this feeling stop. ...
A. 19 July 2010: That sounds like it may be a health problem and certainly doesn't sound normal. Have you talked to a doctor about this?... (read in full...)
How can I make her leave us alone?
Q. my partner and i have been together for two and a half years so far and have a 6 month old daughter together. my partner had a gf before me but they never did anything more than kiss. we both lost our virginitys to each other. the ex didnt stop ...
A. 19 July 2010: Does he still openly and willingly text her?... (read in full...)
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