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How can I make her leave us alone?
Q. my partner and i have been together for two and a half years so far and have a 6 month old daughter together. my partner had a gf before me but they never did anything more than kiss. we both lost our virginitys to each other. the ex didnt stop ...
A. 20 July 2010: I agree with "dirtball." He needs to cut her off completely. If she is so unstable that she says she will kill herself, then she would already do so none the less. If she wanted to actually end her life she would have done so already. She is only ... (read in full...)
Sex doesn't feel right!
Q. when i have sex with my partner it doesnt feel right it feels like its in my stomach and is touchin my belly button a dont get any pleasure at all but i have a few times it just wont go away what could i do to help make this feeling stop. ...
A. 19 July 2010: That sounds like it may be a health problem and certainly doesn't sound normal. Have you talked to a doctor about this?... (read in full...)
I want to go to his country and marry him but I don't know how to do it!
Q. hi i was with a kurdish man 4 near 3 years,he was an reffugee,was given work permit,[had a job] was FORCED DEPORTAION on 16th june 2010,im broken hearted,i want to no how i go about goin to iraq and getting married to him,im from uk, thanking ...
A. 19 July 2010: I guess he is going to have to find a way to get into another country... It is impossible to go to Iraq right now. Travel there is prohibited for civilians because of the danger.... (read in full...)
Falling in Love
Q. I met this guy on April while working I never did talk to him but during that month I decided to add him on FB and from there we hit it off so fast next thing you know we were texting everyday till the next month we decided to be in a relationship. ...
A. 19 July 2010: Of course! Khloe Kardashian and Lamar Odom got married after dating eachother after two weeks! When you connect with someone and it just feels right then that is all that matters. Time is simply a small measurement.... (read in full...)
Not reaching its full potential??
Q. i'm 17 and my penis is uncircumised and my girlfriend thinks its not reaching its full size when i get an erection because its uncircumised. what do ya'll think?...
A. 19 July 2010: No it would actually be bigger because of the foreskin still being attached. Are you naturally smaller than average or something? Either way I'm sure your girl friend cares for you the way you are now.... (read in full...)
How can I make her leave us alone?
Q. my partner and i have been together for two and a half years so far and have a 6 month old daughter together. my partner had a gf before me but they never did anything more than kiss. we both lost our virginitys to each other. the ex didnt stop ...
A. 19 July 2010: Does he still openly and willingly text her?... (read in full...)
Would it freak him out to give him my phone number?
Q. just so you know how nervous I am I have never had a boyfriend. But there is this guy that I really like. And i'm pretty sure his interested in me too. But so far all I know is his first name and that he's only summering in my town. He hasn't asked ...
A. 19 July 2010: Well if you and him were just chatting up with some conversation somewhere and things seemed good... You could say well it was great talking to you but I have to get going now but tell ya what (pull out a pen) here is my number (write it on his ... (read in full...)
I'm annoyed with my boyfriend of 3 years!
Q. Mod Note: Original Title Hello everyone. I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years and I love him to death. I'm 20 years of age and he's 24. Sometimes I get annoyed with him because I feel like my feelings aren't important. I'm always waiting on h...
A. 19 July 2010: You should just ignore him until he finally makes the effort to call you and ask what's wrong and when he does you should tell him why you are so irritated at him.... (read in full...)
I feel that I deserve better, but despite the way she treats me, I don't want to lose her.
Q. ok, so i've been friends with this girl for almost a year now, and at first, we got along really well to the point where i wanted to ask her out. I never did ask her out and i never asked her to prom even though i really wanted to. Now, i feel like ...
A. 18 July 2010: There is clearly a reason in which she would act this way towards you maybe you did something that upset her you are unaware of... If she means that much to her then try talking to her and telling her the way you feel and try to find out what is ... (read in full...)
I'm really worried he'll cheat on me with her... help!
Q. I have only been with my boyfriend for 3 months now and the first month was brilliant with no arguments whatsoever. Going into the second month facebook began to cause arguments with the way he commented on other girls statuses. They weren't extreme ...
A. 18 July 2010: These are two people that clearly are not resolved over each other and even if he isn't cheating on you he still doesn't care about the way you feel. He has no shame and doesn't seem to care if him talking to her hurts you. And he isn't going to ... (read in full...)
Tips on meeting a pushy, aggressive woman?
Q. Dear Cupid, Hello, I have a question for the ladies. I, um, have jsut been wanting to meet a girl who is, to use a generic term - dominant. Not like whips and chains and all that, but assertive. Bossy. Demanding. High maintenence. ...
A. 18 July 2010: What you want to do is hit up your cities hottest clubs on the weekends. Look for the extremely attractive girls. Don't approach one girl at a time. Girls like this are never alone and they always have their gal pals around. Walk up to the hottest ... (read in full...)
Am I giving out gay vibes???
Q. This isn't really do to with a relationship but more my sexuality. A girl that is in one of my lessons at college (who I actually get on quite well with) asked a mutual friend of ours if I was gay. I'm not gay (neither is she just to clarify)...
A. 18 July 2010: If you wear scarves and/ or vests it may be time to change up the style. Talk to one of your guy friends and say your straight and don't know why someone would think that. Who could help you understand what you are doing wrong better than a guy?... (read in full...)
Do you think that if I give it time he will eventually get over me sleeping with someone else?
Q. Me and my ex-boyfriend split up a year ago. We have both liked each other for the whole year since, and have almost acted as if we have been going out, but actually haven't. When we were barely talking to each other, I ended up very drunkenly s...
A. 18 July 2010: Forever he will have the image of you and his best friend doing it. That is just how a mans mind works. But if you two end up together for a long time making each other happy eventually he will realize it was only one stupid drunk night. But one ... (read in full...)
Should I pursue guy 1, guy 2... or just become a nun?
Q. Hullo, Its my first time on this site but I really need some advice. I am kinda torn between two guys and I was hoping that everyone here could help me? Guy one is a close friend, my first crush and my only boyfriend and I have been his only gi...
A. 18 July 2010: Absolutely DO NOT go for guy #2. Trust me he only sees you as a piece of ass. If everything is about looks that he compliments you on and everything is sexually related then he doesn't want anything more... Also you don't want to have sex as soon as ... (read in full...)
What can I do to kick start my life?
Q. Ok so I dont know how to really put this but im male, 17, rather intelligent and not the worst looking but not the best :S basically my childhood sucked. i used to live with my great grandmother and my brother. my great grandma died and me and ...
A. 18 July 2010: I think it would be wise for you to try talking to someone at a Financial Aid office. Lot's of people with no money can find a way to get loans for College. After earning your degree you can get a better job and pay back the loans. You can even take ... (read in full...)
Do I have jealousy issues?
Q. Do I have jealousy issues? So I'm a guy and I'm going out with S, my boyfriend, for a month now. S is bisexual and you couldn't even tell that he's into guys. In fact, he makes fun of gay people. But anyways, he's really nice and all that. When w...
A. 18 July 2010: It's perfectly fine to feel this way. You are in a relationship and he is treating you like a second. Sit down talk to him and explain specifically the way he acts around her that he isn't acting with you. A relationship does not exist and/ or ... (read in full...)
Is there some other meaning to this?
Q. I have just started dating this guy, maybe about 2 months or so. Sometimes, we'll be watching something on tv and then he'll just turn, look at me, and say hi. I find this kind of weird but I go along with it and say hi back since I am not too sure ...
A. 18 July 2010: @ big ron... Dang no need to over react!! LOL... And maybe he just wants to get your attention because you both have been zoned out and not been having much of a conversation. He could also potentially be bored. Try kissing him when he says that... ... (read in full...)
Shyness and how to get rid of it?
Q. What causes shyness and how do you get rid of it? thanks. x...
A. 18 July 2010: Shyness is simple drawn from inner fear. Most likely of rejection. There really is nothing to rid of it other thanto step up and try to be more bold. Take it a step at a time talking to a new person. Remember you can't fail unless you try.... (read in full...)
Should I try to get back with either of my ex boyfriends?
Q. i'm really not sure what to do. i just went off to college this past year and i broke up with my boyfriend of 2.5 years for a boy i met there. we only dated for 3 months before breaking up because, despite being a sweetheart, was a bit too ...
A. 18 July 2010: I once went out with someone who was controlling as well so I know what you mean. Even after we broke up he practically yelled at me and told me all I did wrong... A lot of it was normal things. I was still best friends with my ex which always made ... (read in full...)
Stressed in case we lose contact after my holiday...
Q. Hello, I have been talking with a guy who is currently in another town. We cannot see each other every often but last time he was here he asked me out and we had a blast. He is talking to me very often and he is consistently contacting me. I...
A. 18 July 2010: Simply call him ask if he would like to meet up soon when you are in town.
If you don't try because you are afraid to lose, then you will never win.... (read in full...)
Love in trouble!!!
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been together almost 4 months and he was supposed to move and now he isn't. His mom kicked him out because he was dating me. She told him that he would move and start going to school the next day or he could pack his bags ...
A. 18 July 2010: It sounds like someone is in need of a secret relationship... What he needs to do is tell his mom he will stop seeing you and do what she wants. When he hangs out with you he can say he is with friends. Conflicts resolved with mom, he can still see ... (read in full...)
I can't work out how I feel or what I want.
Q. Hi, I need some advice. I have been with my boyfriend for about 3 years, there has been good and bad points and on and off points. After uni I moved with him back to his home town in Northern Ireland. It was there that he cheated on me with an old s...
A. 18 July 2010: When you are with a person they are the only one you should be thinking about. If they aren't then it is time to take a break and see other people. He kissed another girl and you question being with other people. Maybe you both just need to ... (read in full...)
It's been rocky for the last while
Q. Dear Cupid, My boyfriend and i met about 8 months ago and has been together ever since. Im his first girlfriend, so i feel kinda honored. But, the thing is, he lives in Missouri and I live in North Carolina. We've been so much in love an...
A. 18 July 2010: First of all please explain the situation more... How did you two meet? Etc. Do you ever see each other?
Now put down whatever your cutting yourself with because I've got some news for you; guys don't like girls that cut. This apply particul... (read in full...)
I really like this boy but I don't think he likes me!
Q. I really like thiss boy called Charles. But it seems orqward. Everytime he fancyies me he is really nice we always hold hands have our funny moments, i have been with him before for 6 weeks untill we broke up last year and we have been friends ever ...
A. 18 July 2010: It sounds like he wants experiment with being with other people and when he likes you it is because he is still attracted to you and you two are very close. He is NOT however ready to be committed to you. Therefor you need to date around a bit and ... (read in full...)
He has a girlfriend and didn't want to know how I felt, why not?
Q. Should i feel bad for this? mI recently told my mate how i felt about him, id felt that way for a while and i always kinda knew he knew anyway because people had said stuff to him. I always thought he liked me to from his previous actions but turns ...
A. 18 July 2010: It could be perhaps he had felt something before but decided to deny so because he is trying to so the right thing... How would you feel if your boyfriend told another girl he had liked her?.... Exactly. He must be enjoying his relationship and ... (read in full...)
We just got married, but he doesn't want to have sex every night!
Q. My husband of only 2 weeks doesn't want to have sex every night, Is this normal?...
A. 18 July 2010: How often did you have sex before you were married? ... (read in full...)
She keeps betraying my trust, what should I do?
Q. So here's the situation. I've liked this girl for as long as I've known her, I never asked her out cuz I though she was married or dating someone which I was correct. She was dating this guy for like two years and one night we met at the club...
A. 18 July 2010: Either way this is a lose situation. Someone WILL get hurt. If it isn't you it will be her husband. Obviously if he married her he loves her just as much. However you already lost her once so why not lose her again? Let her kiss you.... But if she ... (read in full...)
He says he wants a break!
Q. Dear Cupid My and my bf are in relationship for the past 6 months before that we were close friends. I am travelling for my studies for an year. My bf says since i am travelling that we need to take a break, i.e we can talk/chat/mail w...
A. 18 July 2010: If he loves you there is no way he will marry another girl. If your the one he will stand up to his parents and refuse the marriage. He is a guy and maybe this year will just help him to clear his head. Also remember what is meant to be will be.... (read in full...)
His mother used to like me, but now she doesn't!
Q. My boyfriends mom use to like me a lot , until one day she caught us ditching school, and well... Then she started talking shit , what do i do cuz i feel well always felt i can't be in a relationship w/o a mother approving . So what should i do?!...
A. 18 July 2010: His mother obviously feels that you are a bad influence on him... Talk to her alone without him around for a second and take responsibility/ apologize. Tell her straight up I know you don't like me and I don't want to be in a relationship with ... (read in full...)
Is it normal for women to act this way after orgasm?
Q. Is it just me,or do women act really strange,or slighty out of character,directly after they've had an orgasm?Ive noticed this with my GF.She has a 2 and half year old daughter which is unfortunately not mine.One day i gave her oral sex,which she ...
A. 18 July 2010: She should just feel good... That doesn't seem normal. But if you just said you will never leave her or her kid and you told her that, then why can't you just marry her? I know that may seem like an insane question but it really isn't. Weddings cost ... (read in full...)
How do I get over my anxiety?
Q. I really like my boyfriend, but when we go to kiss I get so nervous, maybe its becuase i'm not experienced with kissing or anything and he is. So when we kiss i just keep my mouth closed and continue to kiss him and I can feel the tip of his tongue ...
A. 18 July 2010: Well you don't want him to feel like you are shutting him down. Instead of quietly trying to get over your nerves just take the situation head on and simply tell him. Say you feel nervous when kissing him because he has experience and you don't and ... (read in full...)
Is my former best friend sincere in her desire to get together with me?
Q. Hi, im hvaing very mixed feelings about an an old friend that just came back into my life. this isnt about a relationship just a friendship between two girls. So it all started years ago in my freshman year of highschool, me and this new girl hit...
A. 18 July 2010: Just tell your mom that if you and her are on good terms it would be better for her relationship. And it isn't nice to ice out an old friend reaching out to you, especially when your mom is involved with her parent. Just give it a chance. Just ask ... (read in full...)
I'm not interested in my best friend, but I compare other boys I date to him!
Q. John and i are really good friends. He's like "big brother" to me. John has a girlfriend. off and on relationship. john and i talk and hang out just like any other friends. but when were hanging out he'll try to kiss me, and he's giving me signals ...
A. 18 July 2010: I don't want to tell you what you do and don't feel but did you ever think maybe you and him have been like that for some long you can't think of him any other way? The fact that you compare other guys you date to him says alot. Perhaps you don't ... (read in full...)
I'm in love with him, but he's still with his girlfriend!
Q. im in love with my boyfriend but he still has a girlfriend i knew he had a girlfriend before we got together but i let my feelings get the best of me and started going out with him anyway.. he tells me he's not happy with her anymore and what they ...
A. 18 July 2010: Stop talking to him.... When He realizes you haven't said anything to him lately he will ask you why and you should just flat out tell him I'm not going to come second to another girl. I deserve more than that... If he still won't break up with that ... (read in full...)
His lifestyle is making sex almost non-existant!
Q. Hi everybody, I am currently traveling Australia. While I was doing 3 months farm work to get my visa extention I met a guy and we fell for each other. We planned to travel together around Australia and set in place a plan. At first the sex was ...
A. 18 July 2010: Have you talked with your partner about this? If not it is time to do so.... And if possible find a time when you can sneak in a quicky. If he is always tired at night to have any play time try sneaking of somewhere in the morning before the day ... (read in full...)
Awkward dating situation, I don't know what to do
Q. I have a complicated story. I met this girl about couple of months ago and I found out she was so cute. I took her to a nice French restaurant, we went to a nice jazz club and to a live music show. All things were going so well. She once travel ...
A. 18 July 2010: Just explain your feelings to her. Communication is key. Tell her she is sending you mixed signals and acting like a tease. Tell her to choose if she wants to be with you or not, because otherwise you will find someone else that wants to be with you ... (read in full...)
He's distant most of the time, but then reappears out of nowhere!
Q. I have been going out with my boyfriend for about 7 month now. Before we use to see each other more becouse i was in school and i sneak when i had the chance to see him and he will meet me no matter what.. lately becouse school is over i havent had ...
A. 18 July 2010: If a guy wants you he goes after you. It's as simple as that. First of all just stop talking to him all together. If you being out of his life bothers him he we call you and try to talk to you. If you don't hear from him he doesn't care and it's ... (read in full...)
I'm in love with my ex and cant move on.
Q. Im in love with my ex girlfriend and I cant move on. Its so hard. She wont even let me talk to her cause of something that I did to end our friendship after we broke up. I dont know what to do!...
A. 18 July 2010: #1 distract yourself. If you find you find your self creeping her facebook page or constantly thinking about her find something to do. If you have too much free time on your hands that could make things difficult. Hangout with your buddies talk to ... (read in full...)
How to be happy without drugs...
Q. So I have dabbled in to just about every drug in my past. Only a few have stuck with me and those are marijuana and pain killers. I also drink on occasion. Anywho I recently quit the drugs and just drink on occasion. Since I have quit I feel like I ...
A. 18 July 2010: Dear Friend,
You are not alone in the world and I know there are other people that feel the same way you do. The best way to deal with a situation like this is to join a support group. I know you most likely think I am being cliche in saying this... (read in full...)
I feel guilty about having sex with my dead cousin's husband
Q. i had sex with my causins husband. i feel bad,cause i respect him and he is not over my causin. my causin past away last year june and he is still single. i help him by cleaning his house and do the washing every friday. he also gave me his spare ke...
A. 18 July 2010: I think maybe it's best you keep your space. He isn't over your cousin and you don't want to make things complicated sex without commitment never ends well. And what if you want more from him but he only wants you physically? You deserve more from ... (read in full...)
Haven't had sex with my husband for over a year.
Q. my husband and I haven't had an intimate relationship for over a year. we have been married for 7 years and we have had sex on average twice a month. He always has excuses, he is tired, he had to work and study, he lost his dad and he was sad, he is ...
A. 18 July 2010: Alot of times when a man isn't sleeping with his wife it is because he is being intimate with some one else. Men like sex.. If he is always busy and running late, and doesn't have time for you it's time to pry and spy... I realize trust should be ... (read in full...)
He's a great guy but wants more than friendship and I can't give it!
Q. Hi. So, I have been having an issue with a friend of mine. He is literally one of my best friends and for a while I thought we were perfect for eachother, and we ended up kissing a few days ago. I now realize that for one he's too clingy for me, and ...
A. 18 July 2010: If he was a great friend to you before and you find that friendship worth saving that talk to him... If he avoids/ ignores you then go talk to him face to face. Tell him your sorry and that the two of you need to talk and work some things out... ... (read in full...)
Should I try to get back with either of my ex boyfriends?
Q. i'm really not sure what to do. i just went off to college this past year and i broke up with my boyfriend of 2.5 years for a boy i met there. we only dated for 3 months before breaking up because, despite being a sweetheart, was a bit too ...
A. 18 July 2010: All righty... So this is one of those times you need to write a list of pros/ cons. Usually if you can be bestfriends with someone then you have alot of chemistry together.... Also did he tell you he loved you back... Second it sounds like High ... (read in full...)
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