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writes:Well an old friend knew I was having relationship problems with the guy i was with back in september and took advantage of me being weak and we ended up sleeping together. But now he's going around telling people that I planned us having sex ever since I met him back in Secondary School; which is a load of crap and it also causing my new relationship to start to crumble. Does this old friend want to destroy everything I have once again, like he did back then or is he just being a self-centred twat and only thinking about what he could get out of this....HELP please! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 July 2010): I thoroughly disagree with JohannaBanana. Do not slap him across the face. That's grounds for assault, and if he's already bent on ruining your relationships/life, an assault charge will surely help him along.
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reader, johannabanana  +, writes (20 July 2010):
 He is simply a guy with brag rights. He is just trying to be cool. Walk up to him and tell him how spreading those rumors was bullshit and he knows it. Maybe even give him a good slap across the face to tell him you mean business. As for your current crumbling relationship.. I would suggest talking to your partner and try to get him to understand.
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reader, TheWolf  +, writes (20 July 2010):
 One of 2 things are happening here... one your friend turly has feelings for you and jumped at the chance to be with you hoping for more than he got . And in having true feelings for you now is hurt and is lashing out at you due to the fact that you are not with him . The mentality is that if he cant have you then maybe he can damage what you have now hopefully making everyone he tells think bad of you in hopes of your own desperation he will be the only choice left . Which is a desperate attempt of a fool . 2 - he is a complete ass and has gotten what he wants. And now is just that typoe of jerk that only wants to brag about his victory no matter the damage he may do . I would personally think the first is the answer . What to do ??? Ignore him and the rumours , the fact that you let it bother you is giving him the only edge he has . If the guy your with is letting this bother him then maybe he is just as shallow as the other jerk . ignore him cut all ties with him , people that know you and beleive his rumours arent really your friends . your true friends that know you know better ... Look ahead , enjoy each day and forget about your past mistakes , there is nothing left to do but learn from them .
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reader, Oregongrl1 +, writes (20 July 2010):
You all are young! and this is going to happen at your age. all you can do is ignore him and let him know it's not bothering you. the more he knows he gets to you and it bothers you we will continue! i was your age too and i remember those days it can be very taunting you wont understand or see it until you get much older! and you will pass it down to your kids and your kids wont see it until they pass it down to their kids! at that age they can be very cruel and thoughtless. the only thing you can do is just look at him and tell him to grow up and to go get a life! and smile at him. a o k
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 July 2010): He took advantage of you being weak and you ended up sleeping together? As if you had no choice in the matter?You cheated on your boyfriend. The boy you cheated with is spreading rumors about you now. But he's the self-centered twat? What about you, who decided to sleep with him to make yourself feel better during a time of weakness?The cookie crumbles where it may. Apologize to your boyfriend, tell the boy who's spreading lies that you don't appreciate it and move on. Eventually the rumors will die down.
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