Recently discovered my BF is looking to hook up with men. I don't know what to do.
Q. My boyfriend and I have been going out for quite some time.(3.5 years) Recently when i looked at the computers history I noticed he was looking at M4M ads on craigslist(maleformale) This disgusted me so much, but I was even more disgusted when I saw ...
A. 17 April 2011: Looks like your dating a closet case. That obviously hurts like hell because its like he doesn't find you attractive and its not your fault. Unfortionatley society doesn't make it easy for guys to be openly gay though there are some that do identify ... (read in full...)
I need help on how to approach someone who liked me but now seems to be ignoring me
Q. hi, hears how it goes... this guy approached me whilst i was at work and i had absolutely no idea he liked me even though he had spoken to me a few times that night, at the end of the night, kick out time, he asked me for my number, i had no idea ...
A. 17 April 2011: Don't waste your time with someone who doesn't know what they want. Sorry for the bluntness but i'd consider cutting contact and let him chase you if he changes his mind, don't wait for him.... (read in full...)
I admitted my feelings for my friend while he was getting over a break up
Q. I've told my best friend that I was gay and that I have feelings for him. At that time, he had just broken up with his gf and was working to get back with her. His reactions were positive but sounded like he was confused. He told me that he was 95% ...
A. 17 April 2011: all i'll say is this, sex between friends especially on a break up is a no no. Once you've crossed the friendship line theres no going back... seriously. Hes on the rebound and not 100% about what he wants so there isn't a relationship there. If you ... (read in full...)
How would you deal with his?
Q. As an adult, if a child came up to you, and told you they were being sexually abused by someone in the family, how would you deal with this? and what would you say to the child? I'm 18....
A. 10 April 2011: How do you know this child? for example, if you were a working in an educational environment you would have a child protection officer who would decide what to do. Most likely if what you have been told constitutes a arrestable offense then you must ... (read in full...)
Make a move or stay away?
Q. There's this one guy at my school and he said he loved me but he's 3-4 years younger than me (he's 15-16 and I'm 19). I love him as well (I'm a boy). He told me he was gay so what do I do here? Make a move with him or just stay away?...
A. 7 April 2011: The younger one probably looks up to you as a strong older person who will look after him, support him etc. Nothing wrong with that tho they can sometimes be clingy, i'd say why not go on a date or something as long as you both are comfortable but ... (read in full...)
We want to leave this judging, lying town and head for the states
Q. Hey guys, recentley I've had alot of BS in my life. Only way to put it. So me and my girl went camping in the woods for a bit, just wanted to leave everything for a while. I really realised a lot about myself, and about why i am depressed. As soon ...
A. 9 March 2011: Hey,
I know this question is old by Dear Cupid standards but I know how you feel in a way. Small towns have such a clique and if your in a millitary place then everyone is bound to know eachother. Fresh start is a good thing especially when you... (read in full...)
My friend told me he likes, but I didn't realize I was gay until he got a girlfriend. What should I do?
Q. Ok so this may be a little long so please bear with me. I've known this guy (I'll call him C) for a long time. In the fall of 2009, he told me that he is bisexual. I of course didn't have any problem with that. After he told me, I began to see ...
A. 8 March 2011: do you really want to be someones sloppy seconds? i'd go find someone else and let him work out his sexuality in his own time.... (read in full...)
Am I imagining emotional abuse? I am so desperately confused! Please help!
Q. My husband (of 16 years) is an intelligent, kind man. He does not drink or abuse drugs. He is not violent. He does not gamble. I can see eyes rolling and people asking, "So, what's the problem?" We've been together 21 years in all, and it's con...
A. 8 March 2011: It looks like you have had a lot of time to think about this and you have tried everything you could to make this relationship work, are there children involved as well or just you two? To be blunt I think you are dealing with a control freak who ... (read in full...)
I found my teacher on a gay dating site. I'm interested in him. Should I contact him?
Q. Okay well, I'm in my final year of school and will be heading off to uni next year. Since I'm almost 18 and still a virgin (it's somewhat difficult to find other gay guys) I figured I might as well sign up to a few dating/hookup sites and see if ...
A. 6 March 2011: heya, Well I'm gay and work in a school (not a teacher) and noticed a student had profile on a gay dating website so I didn't bother putting a picture or finishing mine. The teacher is taking a risk by putting images of themselves in a public plac... (read in full...)
Is it normal to not want to date people older than me?
Q. hey there, I was just wondering if i'm meant to be attracted to people older than me. I mean i'm gay and I like people my own age, but not older, and I was wondering if thats normal. Cause some of my mates have older gf and bf. So any help woul...
A. 28 February 2011: I feel the same way you do to be honest. I only really like 2 years either way and it depends what you mean by older.... (read in full...)
Am I puritan for staying a virgin at 18?
Q. I am an 18 year old girl who is a virgin. All of my friends have had sexual relations prior to turning 18. They say I am a puritan and should be having sex at my age. I think I am right in that I want to wait until I am married. Am I wrong ?...
A. 27 February 2011: not a puritan no, you just have respect for yourself and should be proud at your restraint. If someone loves you enough to want to marry you before sex, they are worth keeping! :-)... (read in full...)
Should I consider marriage to a woman if I'm probably gay?
Q. Hi I am a 23 year old guy and most probably gay. I am predominately attracted physically to men (like 90 %) with the rest for feelings for women :s I have not come out yet, and live in an indian, religous household where being gay is for...
A. 29 August 2010: If you feel like this now, just imagine how you will feel in 10 years time with kids and a women your not interested in. You need to be confident in yourself to deal with your situation. I don't envy you with the religious side and you may have a ... (read in full...)
I'm in love with a youtube sensation!
Q. I really need help on this issue I have. I'm a 17 year old male, and I'm gay. I've dismissed the idea of love to focus on my school work, but during early this year I fell in love with a youtube sensation. I really love him, I really do. When I ...
A. 29 August 2010: woah, you will be telling us you love Justin Beiber next! Ok, without meaning to be too harsh. I know one UK YouTube sensations Brother and one of my coworkers sons went to school with another (accually he is the UKs most famous YouTuber) Basically, ... (read in full...)
I'm 23, do I need viagra?
Q. Well its been about a month since my boyfriend and I broke up. The thing is that I can't seem to get erect during sex like I used to. I feel awkward and it feels really different. I am versatile so I can top or bottom. I have done both but I ...
A. 29 August 2010: forget pills for starters. This is a strange world we live in where people believe they can solve problems with pills... anyway rant over. What you need to do is work out why you keep thinking about your ex during sex? do you think about him ... (read in full...)
FInding gay guys and picking them up!
Q. The thing is I am gay! and I've been wanting a boyfriend for about three years and I can't wait anymore! I need a boyfriend or I'll go Nuts. The thing is I have friends that are straight a I don't fancy them I see them as friends but the thing is if ...
A. 26 April 2010: Hey, i've been there and I eventually tried to get in with my neighbour for about 4 years! Anyway you don't want to be needy or depend on a man to make you happy etc. If you want to meet someone under 18 to be your man or at least a gay friend find ... (read in full...)
I've finally told myself I'm gay, but I need help because everything confuses me, now!
Q. Hi I'm in my Teens and I'm Gay. I've been thinking I'm gay for so long and I've just made the step if telling myself I am gay. My Problem is that I am not experienced at picking up guys or even how to know If the guy is gay. I have friends that are ...
A. 18 April 2010: Congratualtions in accepting who you are, the first step to coming out is admitting it to yourself, once thats out the way you have to decide how you want to tell others which you are contemplating. If I was you i'd see if there are any gay youth ... (read in full...)
I want to fight!
Q. my name is Gillian i am 16 and i have a problem i cant solve, i am a normal girl into normal things except i love to fight, its all i dream about and think about all day, i just want it so much it is a massive thing for me. I especially want to ...
A. 28 March 2010: A girl wrestler, great!
Seriously though you need to find yourself some activity that makes you less likely to do somthing stupid. Getting in to fights on the street isn't going to do you any favours. Have you ever thought of taking up a contact ... (read in full...)
Any advice as I am hurting my husband but I just can't force myself to participate.
Q. My husband has a child from a previous relationship. The mother of the child is very protective of him and really does not like to let him out of her sight. He is her only child. The child stays with my husband alternate weekends. when the child is ...
A. 28 March 2010: One phone call to the police with times/dates she has sent you these discusting phone calls/texts and they will issue a cease and desist order. Ask yourself, do you get on with this child and mother aside would you like to be in his and your ... (read in full...)
Was it too early to confide to him that I'm a virgin?
Q. I am 21 year old female in college. I have been talking to this guy for the past month over our winter break through Facebook chat. On the first day back from break, he immediately texted me and asked to meet him at a bar...and we just madeout for ...
A. 24 January 2010: To be honest, if a guy dumped you because your a virgin, you got a lucky escape. It might have hurt then but imagine if it had developed any further. Tell him your a virgin, you talk like its somthing to be ashamed of but your obviously not the sort ... (read in full...)
I need an English name similar to my Chinese name which sounds like Melwhi Lam
Q. maybe it looks stupid to ask for help here because of my name thing anyway,my Chinese name sound like melwhi lam .and I'm a girl .in the past ,i usually teach others to pronounce my Chinese name .now it's the problem .I NEED A ENGLISH NAME.my ...
A. 2 January 2010: Why on Earth is your teacher expecting you to have an English name? I have lived in 4 different countries including Hong Kong and I always learn how to pronounce forigen coworkers/friends real names. ... (read in full...)
I don't think he's gay, but why would he look at gay porn?
Q. I have been in a good relationship with a strong black man for 5 years. He has always been interested in porn, and his brother explained that it was common when growing up because their Dad had tons of porn in the house. I started a high demand job ...
A. 2 January 2010: You could always ask him if he is curious about guys or point out you have seen these tracks on the computer then see how he reacts. If anything its probably curiosity.... (read in full...)
The old question: In love with a straight guy part infinity!
Q. (MOD NOTE: POSTER'S ORIGINAL TITLE) I'm a just turned 20 year old (gay)guy who always attract straight guys. But here is the problem: I like my brother in law too much then i actually should. Everytime he looks/smiles or even talkes to m...
A. 2 January 2010: You could always pretend that you don't approve of him and keep away but that will probably make things worse. Just avoid him for a bit and find yourself a new boyfriend or a hobby that distracts you. In a few months time you will wonder why you ... (read in full...)
I'm Bi and I Like my best friend thats a guy
Q. Hi I am 19 years old. I think i am bi since i like girls and guys. I would jack off watching straight porn. I dont really enjoy gay porn and i havent watched it that many times but i do get attracted to guys. I am straight in public. I have a lot of...
A. 2 January 2010: I'm gay and have had plenty of friend crushes, none of which ammounted to anything but we can't help loving someone close to us. In a way, if you are treating this friendship as if its over then you have nothing to loose, you could tell him what you ... (read in full...)
How can I speak to him without ruining the way things are?
Q. Background Info. Met a lad around 2 years ago, was completly besotted with him. Spent around 3 months of seeing him all the time. There was a family crisis and we moved so we drifted apart. So heres my problem, recently started to talk to him ...
A. 2 January 2010: I hate it when we have to move for parents jobs, family reasons etc. All I can honestly say from my experience is people grow apart and you can never go back to a place and expect everything to be the same. I'm speaking from experience here! I ... (read in full...)
Her mom caught us making out and now I think she doesn't like me
Q. we have been going out for a month. today we were making out in the back seat of my car. next thing we know it, her mom caught us. it was about 12 midnight. my car was parked in her driveway. thing is, my girlfriend strictly followes he's abstinence ...
A. 2 January 2010: Erm, well you were a bit unsubtle doing it on her driveway now! She might see that as disrespectfull as doing somthing in her house as its within her property. I'd keep my distance from her mum for a bit and get your girlfriend to meet you at your ... (read in full...)
Need of a Reality Check or Her!
Q. Happy New Year all, I hope it's been so far so good and possibly a fruitful year ahead. My question is regarding an ex I broke up with in early December. The back story is I'd been seeing this girl for around 2 months and I cannot tell you h...
A. 2 January 2010: It sounds to me like you've just come out of your first meaningfull relationship. I think maybe this girl feels guilty that shes realised she doesn't feel the same way yet can see the effect she is having on you. At the end of the day you can't have ... (read in full...)
How do I end my affair with my neighbor's wife?
Q. i am married and started also started a relation with my neighbours wife. I was the one initiated it and was behind her for it. Most of the time my neighbour will be on tour.We are in to this from last 1 year. Now i want to come out of it , but now ...
A. 2 January 2010: My advice, move house without a forwarding address!... (read in full...)
Am I still "straight?"
Q. I'm a "straight" guy, age 25. I put straight in quotes because there's a bisexual guy that i think i like. He's 25 also and his birthday is two days before mine. He's tall, caucasian, green eyes, swimmer's build, covered in tattoos, and has a ...
A. 2 January 2010: Has your friendship changed since you got close to sex? Does he still want to move in despite this encounter and who started it? In my experience this is either going to go one of two ways, you have sex with each other or you never talk about it ... (read in full...)
Should I euthanize my daughter's rabbit to save on vet bills? And not tell her? Help!
Q. Thinking of killing my daughters pet rabbit! The rabbit is ill, it has a tumor (possibly or an abscess behind the eyes) which is visible about the size of one eye and oozes puss. It requires twice daily eye drops and medication which I administ...
A. 28 December 2009: Put it this way, when I had a sick cat that was depressed and kept hiding behind the sofa it made me sad and I begged my dad to take her to the vets to see what was wrong the vet diagnosed cancer and the cat was 19 years old and wasn't going to get ... (read in full...)
He has a fecal fetish!
Q. I need help.. ive been dating this guy who is 28 for about 3mos now, I am a couple years older the problem is he is constantly talking and obsessed with feces and wants to be humilated by this his mis happenings. The main talk is this situation. He ...
A. 18 December 2009: If your having to ask yourself this question you are at a stage where your thinking, is this guy right for me and can I tolerate the things I don't like (e.g. fetishes) for the things I do like (nice house, money etc). You need to decide if the pros ... (read in full...)
Was it weird that my husband asked me which of my previous sexual partners had the biggest penis?
Q. My husband of 2 yrs asked me who I'd slept with in the past had the biggest penis. Now, I know he's not insecure cause he's well endowed himself. My response was to laugh and asked him why the hell he wanted to know! he said he was just curious. ...
A. 28 September 2009: This is funny. I'd tell him "well dear, its not the size of the boat but the motion of the ocean that matters!" Why do you want to talk about our sexual past and look back at things that didn't get us anywhere. Just tell him hes the biggest (which ... (read in full...)
Visit to brothel did not make me feel better
Q. Hello I few months ago i visited a brothel... and it was a bad bad experience as i didnt get any pleasure out of it and it made me realise what i want in life ( a slow meaningful relationship) I taught me alot and show me that sex is crap and ...
A. 28 September 2009: First off, you have realised what you don't want. Thats good, now you just have to promise yourself you won't waste your time (and money) in that seedy place! Right what you need to do is, make time for friends who make time for you. If they mak... (read in full...)
Why would my ex make a big scene with his new partner in front of me?
Q. Why would my ex bf get off and make big scene with his new partner in front of me in bar, when we bumped into each other? But couldn't stop starring across in my direction all night, and giving evils to the person i was out with that night, who...
A. 28 September 2009: My professional opinion here. Tell the ex to foxtrot oscar and take no notice. Sounds like hes jelous anyway and probably hasn't got over you. Hopefully he will find somthing else to ammuse himself with, if hes got a new partner he really needs to ... (read in full...)
Does looking at gay porn me I'm bisexual?
Q. I'm 23, and was in a relationship with a girl for 3 months until I broke up with her of my own volition 4 weeks ago. In the past few weeks I've been looking at gay porn (like Mr. Gay UK, Gay Times) and then I feel dirty afterwards, as I'm norma...
A. 23 September 2009: mate, at the end of the day. If you like it, you like it. Does the thought of having a boyfriend turn you on or off? Do you feel the same with straight porn? Seems to me you need to accept yourself and then you will feel much better. If you like ... (read in full...)
Am I gay if I like anal sex?
Q. she was on her period so we had anal sex, it was all good but afterwards she asked if she could bum me, i've always wondered so i let her ( she used a strap on ) It felt so amazing, i started thinking afterwards, does this mean i could be gay?...
A. 23 September 2009: This is funny, I'd go with the GSpot theory here. If you enjoy it, keep doing it. Just don't forget your lube... (read in full...)
We used a condom but I am late, and worried!
Q. Me and my husband have been having intercourse and only used a condom for protection. My period is now 5 days late. And its never late unless i'm pregnant. I am tired, i have sore boobs, and a few other pregnancy symptoms i remember from previous ...
A. 23 September 2009: I'd go with visiting the doctor, sooner you have the test the better.... (read in full...)
Do other men experience this same sensation?
Q. I'm gay and my question is really for other gay men: Whenever I'm kissing or touching my partner, along with the usual signs of arousal, my butthole starts to tingle and even sweats at times(sorry if this is a bit crude) like its longing for him to ...
A. 23 September 2009: Sounds to me more like you are relaxing and getting into the mood if you know what I mean, its great that you are soo relaxed with your partner to even be able to take him without lube. Its pretty normal yeah, but be careful not using lube as the ... (read in full...)
She had conditions before she'll give me a bj
Q. hi my girlfriend doesn't give me a blow job if i ask her she tells me first you lick my pussy and anal and suck my breast then i will do for you but i feel awkward to do to her . i really care about her . is it okay to do things what she asked ....
A. 23 September 2009: I would tell her how you feel and that you don't want to do these things to her, sex and relationships are mutual things. If your not comfortable you are never going to enjoy the sex. I would say find out what she wants deep down form the ... (read in full...)
Was he just toying with my feelings?
Q. well,i liked a boy a lot for two years.he was my first love. I was sure he liked me as well and everybody thought the same. he was always after me, showed all the possible signs that he was into me, but as time passed by he never really asked me ...
A. 23 September 2009: It sounds to me like this guy doesn't know what he wants. If hes aged 13-15 i'm not surprised! Well you now have a boyfriend which I hope makes you happy, just remind him of this and I'd tell him not to touch you if I were you and decide what he ... (read in full...)
How could he do this to me?
Q. Hey, Basically my Ex broke up with me this month. It was because I'm off to uni, he told me he can't commit to a relationship or can't be in one. So fine, I was gutted but that's what he wants, right? Slowly getting over him, decided to have ...
A. 23 September 2009: I had this done to me too, they broke up and within 2 weeks they stopped talking to me and had a new supposidly happy relationship with "the one" makes you sick doesnt it.. yuck!
Anyway your off to Uni which is full of new and interesting people, ... (read in full...)
I'm worried my PE is stopping me getting a girlfriend....
Q. Hi there, my friends think I'm too fussy when it comes to girls and they keep telling me that it is the reason as to why I've been single for the last 4 years. This is partly true as I have to admit I am fussy but the main reason that I choose t...
A. 21 September 2009: You know what, sex isn't everything. I mean whats wrong with a cuddle and a kiss? Be honest and they will understand. I have plenty of friends who can't last very long and they find ways round this. Circumcision seems the best one seriously. Don't ... (read in full...)
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