I experimented with my male friend, but decided to go back to females. Why is he so upset?
Q. I’m a young man and I’ve trouble with a friend. I’m very outgoing person, I like to try new things and everything new. My friend is gay and although I’m straight, I thought that I’m living only once and decided I want to try something with another ...
A. 24 January 2013: Hey man, Your friend probably thought at the start that you were just trying it out and had decided you were gay and wanted him. Did you kiss him while you were fooling around etc? I know you were clear with him at the start but unfortunately yo... (read in full...)
My male friend has a crush on me but I'm not interested in him, but I don't want to lose the friendship either! What should I do?
Q. Hello there, I am in a bit of a sticky situation. I'll just dive right in. I have mostly guy friends. I never really seem to get along with girls, so most of my best friends are guys. My boyfriend of ten months is totally fine with this, never ...
A. 29 June 2012: Hey, it sounds to me like your friend might be either emotionally dependant on you or confuses admiration with a crush. How old is this guy? He's probably battling with hormones and allsorts at his age. I would tell him you see him as a little ... (read in full...)
Times are hard and today my girlfriend started working as a stripper, but I'm feeling awful about it!
Q. So ive been with my fiance for three years and we live together in a nice apartment..im disabled and get a tiny check every month thats only enough to pay the rent and i receive food stamps...and my fiance is a CNA at a local hospital so everything ...
A. 15 June 2012: Hey,
I can understand your feelings because you feel she is degrading herself to help look after you so don't worry that's natural. I would feel the same in your shoes so perhaps there is a way of getting in extra money without your partner ... (read in full...)
What are some good ways to break the ice with a stranger?
Q. Good evening (or morning) agony aunts/uncles. So, I want to cut to the chase. I have am a single gay man. And in my town on the opposite end--there's a gay man that works in a coffee shop who also happens to be single. Problem is we don't know each ...
A. 31 May 2012: Hey,
Well this guy works in a Coffee Shop, perfect oppotunity there then, hes in a customer facing job. A friend of mine once had the same problem and this is how you solve it. Visit the coffee shop with a friend (or two) when you know he is worki... (read in full...)
Why couldn't I get Mr. Happy to be happy?
Q. Ok, so hopefully i won't get too much stick for this... I have been seeing my girlfriend for 5 weeks, she is smoking hot and we sleep together everyday, sometimes 2, 3 times a day. I have never had a problem getting turned on and she loves it how...
A. 23 May 2012: Hey, well it just sounds to me like your worried about your sexual performance in general. You were probably a little worried at the time, maybe you thought you might get caught by a stranger or you feel your not worthy of this hot woman. I say stop ... (read in full...)
Gay but heartbroken over a girl?
Q. Hello there, I am a 23 years old gay male, well that's how i though myself to be since 10 y.o. (I am a straight looking gay though, so noone could ever guess without me telling it). But the problem is that from my 15 years I met this girl, who...
A. 15 March 2012: Hey, She is your number one and you are hers at the moment. The thought of having someone else taking that from you hurts and the fact its a close friend makes it more complicated and sometimes you might feel betrayed by that close friend as ... (read in full...)
Arrested but the charges were dropped, but my boyfriend has vanished! What do I do?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating for about 2 months. We have a great relationship and never had a fight. We have said the love word and we are always together. Last Sunday, while together, I was picked up by the police. They arrested me for some ...
A. 15 March 2012: Hey,
I'm sorry to hear this drama has happened. Just when you needed him he has now disappeared. In my opinion 2 months is a bit early for I love yous but thats just a personal one. Well if hes cut contact sadly there isn't a lot you can do. Did ... (read in full...)
I seem to have trouble making friends and keeping them
Q. This isn’t really a relationship question of sorts, but just something I’m curious about. It’s more of a confidence and friendship question if I’m honest :). Well basically, I’m having some trouble with things at the minute, mainly with my friends ...
A. 4 March 2012: Hey, Well friendships are a relationship though not romantically obviously. First off, if anyone tells you there is anything wrong with being quiet, take no notice. Some people are loud, some talk a lot and some don’t. You are who you are, no one c... (read in full...)
I'm being elbowed out of our friends group and I have no idea why!
Q. I have always tried my hardest to be a decent person, good friend and supportive boyfriend but it would seem as if my efforts and near-perpetually confounded. A reoccurring theme in my life is that I’ll reach out to someone who seems to be at a rou...
A. 4 March 2012: Hey there, Well from reading your question, it is honourable of you to have picked up someone who was having a hard time with their social group and integrated them into yours. As you said, you are treating others how you would like to be treated ... (read in full...)
Not sure if I'm reading the signs correctly -- gay or just a grabby drunk?
Q. I have a guy mate at uni who I met at the beginning of september. I'm quite good friends with him but when his drunk he can be a little bit gay with me lol, but I dunno if that has something to do with it. If were out his constantly doing...
A. 4 March 2012: Hey,
It sounds like either your mate is a total attention seeker or yes hes gay and trying to push your bondaries. Either way from what you have said your happy to be friends with him and you'd like him to clam down and perhaps direct his feelings... (read in full...)
Who is a Natural flirt? And what qualities signify a Natural Flirt?
Q. Today as I was leaving work and walking to my car, I passed, going in the opposite direction a co-worker who I *barely* know who was walking with another man. He is a tall, attractive man with an engaging smile and bright eyes. He's 10-15-maybe 20 ...
A. 28 February 2012: I was having a read of this old convo. Its not soo much flirting in my opinion, its more being sharp and having confidence. My close friends and family often communicate a bit like this but we tend to either say sweet things or down right inslut ... (read in full...)
Is it ok for me to have these romantic thoughts about Transsexuals?
Q. Hi agony aunts, i want to know if it's normal for me to be interested in transgender people sexually and emotionally. Right now im 18 years old, It all started a little over 2 years ago. I was looking at pornography on the internet and i h...
A. 28 February 2012: Hey, well different strokes for different folks. Transgender people are meant to look opposite (hope i've worded this correctly) to the gender they were born as. Sexuality isn't as black and white as were brought up to believe and I think you should ... (read in full...)
How do I tell this guy I don't want to play his games any longer?
Q. Why does he keep doing this? how do I tell him i want to forget him? ? There's this guy I use to work with. I liked him a lot and I use to stare at him a lot of times at work and each time I looked at him he'd be looking at me too. So I got...
A. 18 February 2012: Hey,
With some guys, they are scared of rejection. Because you are soo nice to them they feel they don't deserve you so they back away suddenly when they fear that things might not work out and make ridiculous excuses. The fact he called you back... (read in full...)
We broke up because he didn't "feel right" about our relationship. What do I do now!?
Q. Okay, so I'm a gay male teenager, this is the first serious break up I've been through and I don't know what to do now. We're aged 16/17, just a few months apart. So we sort of started something about 7/8 months ago now, but it didn't really fe...
A. 16 February 2012: Theres always things we wished we'd said, unanswered questions etc. If it was me I would take a holiday so that there is nothing to remind you of him. I'd also take a good friend whos opinion i'd trust but I didn't find attractive so I wouldn't be ... (read in full...)
We broke up because he didn't "feel right" about our relationship. What do I do now!?
Q. Okay, so I'm a gay male teenager, this is the first serious break up I've been through and I don't know what to do now. We're aged 16/17, just a few months apart. So we sort of started something about 7/8 months ago now, but it didn't really fe...
A. 14 February 2012: Hey man, well from reading your question I would say you need to give yourself space for at least a month to give yourself some perspective on the situation and then you will be able to make an objective decision on what you do with your contact ... (read in full...)
Is he more than just friends with his flatmate?
Q. So I am facing a major dilemma. I am a gay male, but that shouldn't really matter as that has nothing to do with it. I can use the opinion and advice of anyone. So around August, I met this wonderful man on a social internet site (not facebook.) We ...
A. 14 February 2012: Hey, sorry to hear that you've got some feelings for this guy. The problem with internet relationships is you don't have the luxury of reading the persons facial expressions, tone of voice etc so its all a bit one sided if you like. Ok, he might ... (read in full...)
We had a great connection, now he is ignoring me because of family issues. What should I do?
Q. I met a guy about 2 weeks ago and started talking on facebook things were going good so we started meeting up in real life. He is incredibly attractive and we spent hours upon hours talking and eventually cuddling and kissing eachother. We'd go out ...
A. 17 January 2012: Hey, we've all been there. He might have problems but considering the circumstances thats probably unlikely. You need to be strong man and consider cutting all contact. Guys, especially young ones can be complicated at the best of times and there ... (read in full...)
I kissed a guy today. But now I'm freaking out. How do I deal with my confused feelings?
Q. I kissed my friend today. We are both the same age, it felt really nice. That was hours ago and now i am feeling really low about it all. I think we were both half expecting the other to punch when it happen but we really did kiss. It just happened ...
A. 8 January 2012: The first question really is, was it just a spur of the moment thing or had you wanted to kiss your friend prior to it happening?. I would take things one step at a time before saying anything or worrying what your parents think. At the end of the ... (read in full...)
How do I go about talking to this guy more?
Q. So I've been frequenting the Starbucks near campus for the past few weeks when I have classes. I'm starting to recognize some of the baristas and they recognize me too. But there's one guy in particular. He's one of the new ones, and he's as fri...
A. 17 November 2011: ask him what time he finishes, if his reaction is friendly then say you might just "stop by" then and you two might end up bumping into each other. If his reaction is a bit business like then you know hes just testing his customer service skills. Oh ... (read in full...)
He's back and I don't want to fall for him again!
Q. He is back and I think I've fallen for him again! The guy I used to like for 2 years ignored me and acting like a major b*****d to me so I learnt how to get over him. Now he is back, he has apologised sincerely I'm afraid my feelings have come...
A. 17 November 2011: I find once i'm over someone I never go back. If hes out of your system then I wouldn't worry. Don't waste your time with those who waste yours!... (read in full...)
In love with my best friend and now so confused after he gave me my first kiss!
Q. hi every one well my story is kinda long so plz try to bear with it and thanks in advance so i am 17 years old a guy and in love with my best guy friend who is 18 i confessed to him last year and rejected me in a very hard way he hurted me so much ...
A. 17 November 2011: Hey there, From reading this story it sounds to me like your friend doesn't know deep down what sexuality he is or really cares about you but has confused those feelings of admiration with that of infatuation or love. I know this is of little com... (read in full...)
Is my crush from college gay? or bi?
Q. hey there all, and sorry if its long, I am 22 y.o. gay and yes from Cyprus. So you understand that being out of closet means shame for my family and no friends (that is why i am in the closet yet). Anyway, there is a guy at my college that i am...
A. 27 October 2011: I lived in Cyprus for 5 years (South side) and I noticed how much more affectionate and passive the Cypriot people are towards eachother compared to those from my British culture. He might just see you as being friendly and probably doesn't care as ... (read in full...)
I'm in the closet and like my best friend. How do I proceed?
Q. Im 16 and gay (closeted) and i have a huge crush on my best friend. I just need some advice on how to go about getting with him or at the least coming out to him. I dont know his sexuality. Everytime i see him i i just want him more and more. Pl...
A. 26 October 2011: Hey,
First off, hold old is your best friend? I am assuming he is around the same age. As he is your closest friend you could (if you feel ready) come out to him and tell him confidently that you are gay and see how he reacts and give him some tim... (read in full...)
Do gay teen boys have more boys or more girls as friends?
Q. hi im a 15 teen boy i was wondering would you find that gay teen boys will have more boys or girls as friends...
A. 16 September 2011: Not always, you could argue a guy has lots of female friends because he likes playing the field and can't think of anything else but skirt and the girls like his attention. Its not so much the friendship, more the way he interacts with them. Does he ... (read in full...)
My feelings change very quickly and I'm not sure who I'm attracted to!
Q. I'm an 18 year old male. I consider myself as Bisexual but it's confusing. I definitely feel attracted to girls, although not as many as guys that I'm attracted to. I generally find Men more attractive. However, the idea of penetrative gay ...
A. 16 September 2011: Before I came out, I used to feel repulsed by my earlier feelings after masturbation, for me it was guilt and I hadn't accepted myself yet. Sounds like your bi-curious and you haven't found your preference yet. I'd say go for what you fantasize over ... (read in full...)
Am I wasting my time talking to this guy I met at a party?
Q. I met this guy at a party a few weeks ago. I am 21 and he is 20. He was really shy and kept staring at me but I didn't really notice him at first, and then he got drunk and we were flirting quite a bit. I get the feeling he is generally a very quiet ...
A. 29 August 2011: I wouldn't say its an age thing as he is a year younger. Hes probably a bit insecure and looks at you and thinks "why does a girl like you want a guy like me". Its disappointing what he has done by cutting the conversation, I would case him once... (read in full...)
Should I just keep talking to my ex to help her? Or cut her off completely?
Q. Hi. I broke up with my girlfriend a month ago (we're not getting back together, don't suggest us to) but she's been really depressed and miserable without me. She's always been depressed, but she's even worse off without me. I'm very worried abou...
A. 14 August 2011: All I can say to this one is have you heard the expression you've got to be cruel to be kind. It sounds like shes emotionally dependant and she depends on you emotionally. I take it that it was you who decided to end things?. I would say move on ... (read in full...)
Should I just keep talking to my ex to help her? Or cut her off completely?
Q. Hi. I broke up with my girlfriend a month ago (we're not getting back together, don't suggest us to) but she's been really depressed and miserable without me. She's always been depressed, but she's even worse off without me. I'm very worried abou...
A. 14 August 2011: All I can say to this one is have you heard the expression you've got to be cruel to be kind. It sounds like shes emotionally dependant and she depends on you emotionally. I take it that it was you who decided to end things?. I would say move on ... (read in full...)
He's a single male teacher. But he lied and told me he was married. Why would he do that?
Q. I know this guy who is in his late 30s and who is a teacher - the problem I have is that he has been lying about having a wife and daughter when he doesn't. He claims that this is because he wants to protect himself from typical issues that coul...
A. 14 August 2011: As someone who works in a UK school. We have it drilled into us about acting professionally and for some of us being private about our lives outside of school or pretending to be married etc is our defense mechanism. I know someone whos male, works ... (read in full...)
I don't know if he is gay or not - do you think he likes me? What should I do about this situation?
Q. I am definitely dealing with some crap. I know that others have gone through much worse, and I am not downplaying anyone else's situation, I just have no desire to do pretty much anything unless it's with Josh. Pretty much the only reason I leave ...
A. 22 July 2011: Hey USC823. I've been following your story for a while now. I think you need to find out what this guy feels for you otherwise this is just going to eat you up with what ifs and also the longer this goes on, the more painfull its going to be for ... (read in full...)
Questions regarding a threesome...
Q. My boyfriend really wants a threesome. It will be me and him (obviously) and one of his friends, who is male. I have told him i wasnt interested but he is kinda talking me into it. however i do need some questions asking. Is it a good idea to be ha...
A. 30 June 2011: So your boyfriend wants to watch another man have sex with you or does your boyfriend want to have sex with this man with you watching or participating? Is your boyfriend bisexual?
Most men don't like to watch another man have sex with their gi... (read in full...)
I moved in with my boyfriend but I feel homesick
Q. Hello i am 21 years old and got a wonderful boyfriend called Rick who i love. recently i moved with him when he got a promation to Wales. i love it but the problem is that im feeling homesick. i recently told Rick he it it was normal as this the ...
A. 21 June 2011: I'd say go out and do more things with Rick to keep yourselves busy and hopefully less homesick. Go out and meet new people too, life goes on. ... (read in full...)
I've got low self-esteem.
Q. I can't help but be bothered about self image issues and peoples opinions about me. My friends just made a huge montage of pictures and framed them in their front room. I've put on a bit of weight in the last couple of years and there are pictures...
A. 19 June 2011: I'd take the fact that your friends put a pics of you in their front room as a good sign. They accept you no matter what you look like and aren't afraid to be seen with you by other people. If your feeling fat perhaps take up running, cycling or the ... (read in full...)
Man in wife's class is unintenionally exposing himself, should she tell him?
Q. I (we) have some need for advice. My wife and I are married for quite a few years, our youngest child is now in full time elementary school, so my wife wanted to pursue a career. She is currently attending a university to become a teacher. Ther...
A. 9 June 2011: Its as simple as this;
Her "your flying low, without a pilot"
Him "ugh"
Her Points down to his crotch
Him "oh, sorry"
And if he does it again just repeat the process above, just a lil louder so everyone can hear. ;-D... (read in full...)
I feel like I have failed as a parent, please help!
Q. I am a mother of a 14 year old daughter that persists on having sex with older boys/men. She's already admitted to having sex with a 27 year old and now she's aiming at 17 year old's. At the beginning of April 2011 she went off with someone from ...
A. 7 June 2011: I have to admit I don't have a daughter or sister but I do work with teenagers. What I would do is sit her down one day and act like your not angry or disappointed in her and come down to her level if you like. Tell her that you love her and ask her ... (read in full...)
I get attached too fast!
Q. okay. here it goes. i get way to attached. way to quickly. and honoestly it kills me to let someone go. like right away ill see someone and wanna get to know them and talk to them. and i get attached and like them. and i get played or something like ...
A. 5 June 2011: I know the feeling when you want to help someone but sometimes they don't want to be helped. You can't change a person so don't try. I'd take angelDlite's advice and look at what your needs are and what you feel you are missing. Once you come to ... (read in full...)
How do I tell my parents that I'm gay?
Q. hi, this might no be quite the right place for this but its the only place i know so :) i was wondering how to tell people im gay, all my friends know. but i need to tell my mum and my step dad and i really don't know how to. i would really ...
A. 30 May 2011: i'm with Cindy on this, sit them down togther and tell them. They might be shocked, they might be expecting it but once its done, its done. They will love you in the end.... (read in full...)
Quick question...
Q. Say you like someone pretty early on, and you suspect they like you but don't liiiikkke you (or are undecided at that time)...Have you ever had an experience where you started to crush on someone years after you've met them or even months? Do most ...
A. 5 May 2011: I tend to be one who suffers from "love at first sight" either I like them or I don't though I did have one situation where I fell for someone i'd known (though only as an aquaintance) for 3 years! It don't work out though. It is possible tho in my ... (read in full...)
It started as something casual, now it's awfully complicated
Q. Backstory, Gay man, 21... studying at Uni. Decided before I started that I would NOT be getting into a relationship while at uni (previous experience of stress + exams = not good!). So I meet this guy 7 months back... was meant to be casual fun, a...
A. 27 April 2011: Ok if I was to be bitchy about this I would say someone's having their cake and eating it and it isn't you! In my experience of being with someone who's in a failing relationship is they always go back to the original partner. They might hate ... (read in full...)
Where do I go from here?
Q. I am stuck, I do not know where to go from here. I am a 17 year old bisexual male who is in love with the cutest boy of all time, and I think he loves me to. My only problem is that I do not know how to pursue a relationship, or if I should at this ...
A. 17 April 2011: Aww that was an interesting and descriptive story to read. Well from what your describing it is obvious that he likes you and probably looks up to you as a stronger older person. He may very well see you as someone he could have a relationship with. ... (read in full...)
Recently discovered my BF is looking to hook up with men. I don't know what to do.
Q. My boyfriend and I have been going out for quite some time.(3.5 years) Recently when i looked at the computers history I noticed he was looking at M4M ads on craigslist(maleformale) This disgusted me so much, but I was even more disgusted when I saw ...
A. 17 April 2011: Looks like your dating a closet case. That obviously hurts like hell because its like he doesn't find you attractive and its not your fault. Unfortionatley society doesn't make it easy for guys to be openly gay though there are some that do identify ... (read in full...)
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