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Love:1. strong affection for another arising out of kinship or personal ties.2.attraction based on sexual desire.3. affection based on admiration, benevolence, or common interests.4. unselfish loyal and benevolent concern for the good of another.5. the fatherly concern of God for humankind.
We each have it within ourselves to love whomever we choose to open our hearts to.As such love is among the least important qualities in a real working relationship.
Trust,communication,happiness,friendship,kindness,compassion,
affection,loyalty,warmth,understanding,commitment,respect.
If you have these things you have love even if your eyes are not open to it.It is equally possible to not have these things and still have love.Love is a powerful emotion and can make us do many things that are not healthy for us.
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I've just found out she had a threesome and this is eating away at me!
Q. I really need some help here. Me and my girlfriend broke up a couple months ago. I had sex with one girl, shortly after the relationship ended and again two weeks later. She found out about both as i admided to it. She then procieded to have sex ...
A. 20 July 2009: Your revision really hasn`t changed any of the original facts. To be blunt this girl seams easy.In my experience easy girls never make good partners.That being said your best bet is to forget her and move on. ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has been having sex with me whilst I'm asleep
Q. i really need help! my boyfriend has been having sex with me whilst im asleep. i should explain that i have a medical heart condition that makes me faint quite a lot it also makes me very tired so i have extra naps during the day to prevent b...
A. 17 July 2009: After reading what you have said and Holmar has said I think her assessment was pretty accurate.Your latest post changes the scene dramatically from the way I originally played it out in my mind.The issue at hand is no longer about what happened.At ... (read in full...)
Would this be considered mentally cheating?
Q. I've been with an ex co-worker of mine for three months now. I do care about him but I'm pretty sure I don't love him... Anyhow, about two months ago, my ex from when I was 15 to 19 somehow got a hold of my new email address and, well, he emailed...
A. 17 July 2009: Going threw my answers for the day I find this is the one I am Least happy about.So I`m gonna give it a second shot. First off your ex is an ex for a reason even if you can`t remember what that reason is. Second I would like to mention t... (read in full...)
What do you do when your man prefers porn over you?
Q. I'm in my 40's and still get compliments from 20yr. old guys!..but my man prefers porn over me? ive tried everything i'm willing to do for him..but he still does this..we have a child together.. and i want to be a family..but it hurts to know..that ...
A. 17 July 2009: Umm is that normal? Thats where I`m at as well so I would have to say yes.The only sight I use is X-match,(an affiliate off friend finder)its live and its free.I don`t communicate with these girls in anyway.My current gf doesn`t know about this ... (read in full...)
Should I contact him after so many years?
Q. What should be the best way to get in contact with a lost friend after six years of absence? I was romantically involved (non sexual way) with one of my college professors. At that time he was on his fourties and I want on my twenties. Although the ...
A. 17 July 2009: Well it certainly can`t hurt to try.Don`t hit him with everything all at once, but do call him and open a line of communication.See where that takes you.Tell him a little about where your life has gone.Give him your # , email whatever and hope he ... (read in full...)
We never do anything together and he mostly ignores me
Q. I am gay and my partner is ignoring me most the time, I cant understand why, once we moved to live together I found him different person, not the one that I love, he always off from his work to his computer, then to take a nap, and he spend all the ...
A. 17 July 2009: You obviously can`t let thing to continue as they are going. Your situation isn`t hopeless but it may be grim. Try talking to him and explain how you feel.
I love my girl to death.But recently when she came here I neglected her.Didn`t pay her ... (read in full...)
I like this girl who's hung up on her ex
Q. NEED HELP!!!!!!! I've been dating a girl, who is perfect in every way. I know she likes me, but shes stuck on her first boyfriend, who cheated on her. I really like her, and she knows that. I tried asking here if she just wanted to be friend b...
A. 17 July 2009: She would be a fool to go back to her ex.If you really like this girl and want a relationship with her don`t let this silence linger.With out communication there is no relationship.Talk to her.Small talk,pour your heart out.It doesn`t matter as ... (read in full...)
We broke up and now I'm depressed
Q. Me and my boyfriend broke up about a week and a half ago. He had told me every day how much he loved me and how much I meant to him. However, the night before we broke up, he was acting really distant. After asking him to be nicer to me, he ...
A. 17 July 2009: If he cared for you as much as you want him too you would have gotten back together by now.Do what ever you can to put him out of your mind.You have already been trying and have done the things I would suggest.The only thing left to do is give it ... (read in full...)
The girl of my dreams is walking in and out of my life
Q. Hi, (Sorry for such a long message) I have a situation that I never thought I'd be in and was just wondering what other people's perspectives are. I am in a long distance relationship with a girl form Hong Kong (we've been dating on and off for m...
A. 17 July 2009: Wowsers! I don`t know how you do it.Your a better man than I am.It seams to me like she is more worldly then you may think.Not adding you to her facebook.Being unreachable for days at a time.I know this is no prof of anything but her having ... (read in full...)
My ex has a new GF but we still have sex. Should I keep trying?
Q. My ex and i broke up 4 months ago. Even though we broke up, the sex hasn't stopped. He has moved on and it kills me. Because we still talk and have sex I'm still attached. I still love him and want to be with him. He tells me he still cares but he ...
A. 17 July 2009: If his current gf does not know about him still sleeping with you then you should do 2 things.
1.leave his pathetic cheating lying ass.
2.tell his current gf what a pathetic cheating lying ass he is and apologize to her for falling for his char... (read in full...)
Two of my friends slept with my ex, should I befriend them again?
Q. I found out that my good two "friends" were sleeping with my now ex-boyfriend. I dumped them all and I haven't talk to them for about 2 months. Well My "friends" have been begging me to hang with me because they are sorry and want us to be buddies ...
A. 17 July 2009: Are you going to take your ex back as well?Maybe hang out with Charles Manson and start a heroin addiction? Are you nuts to even suggest this???They betrayed you.Treat them as such.... (read in full...)
He asked me to bring lunch, but then was a no-show because of his female trainees! I'm furious!
Q. Should I be upset or making too much out of it? B/f calls me prior to my lunch hour, asks me to pick up burgers and come to his work. I come with food, he's not there. I call his cell, no answer. His co-workers say they haven't seen him all morning, ...
A. 17 July 2009: Do you have a right to be pissed? YES!!!
Its not a relationship ending ordeal thank goodness but he was extremely negligent.And owes you an apology.You took time out of your day for him and he caused it to be a total wast of effort.He shou... (read in full...)
He is constantly making comments that I'm cheating and checks my cell phone!
Q. I have been with my fiance for 4 yrs. we moved in together 18 mos ago. he no longer makes me feel desirable, which is damperin my self esteem. he used to make me feel so beautiful. we are intimate ocassionally but nowhere close to how much we used ...
A. 17 July 2009: Your not married yet.Maybe its time to get out while you still can.If you have been together 4 years and have been giving him 0 reason to think your being unfaithful and still get reamed for it there is a problem.You have already talked to him ... (read in full...)
Was it right for me to go out with a guy that my friend liked, even when she had a boyfriend?
Q. Ok so I havae a realy good friend, so close we refer to each other as sisters. Her names,well.."Jennifer". and "Jennifer" and I wouldnt want anything to come between us. Or so I thought. She is in a Really good relationship. They both claim to...
A. 17 July 2009: Try talking to your friend about it and try hard to get her ok.Even though there should not be a problem with what you are doing she obviously has a problem with it.If you can`t do that I would advise you let this boy go for these reasons. 1.He l... (read in full...)
I've just found out she had a threesome and this is eating away at me!
Q. I really need some help here. Me and my girlfriend broke up a couple months ago. I had sex with one girl, shortly after the relationship ended and again two weeks later. She found out about both as i admided to it. She then procieded to have sex ...
A. 17 July 2009: Wow and ouch. You were separated at the time so you can`t hold a grudge or hard feelings. At least not openly. Your best bet is to probably re-evaluate whatever it was you had with this girl. Why did you separate in the first place? And do some ... (read in full...)
Does my husband have the Madonna/Whore complex?
Q. My husband of over a decade avoids looking at me when I am undressed and when we have sex. Lately I have let him continue his conversations with me while I change clothes right in front of him just to see how he reacts. I wait in the nude for a ...
A. 17 July 2009: I`ve had plenty of problems with girls not wanting to be seen but never any with not wanting to look. I have 0 experience with this. Seems really weird.Maybe counseling of some sort.But I doubt he will go for that if he wont talk to you.Maybe ... (read in full...)
How do I help him and stay friends without hurting my current relationship?
Q. ok so where to begin, i have been dating my boyfriend for a little over three years now. We began dating when i was in high school, but at that time i was not really allowed to date so i would only see once a week. It was like that for about a year. ...
A. 17 July 2009: What you should do is what you feel is best for you.You can`t have your cake and eat it too so you need to decide which guy is better for you.Out of curiosity who`s baby is it anyway? I think you would probably be better off staying with the guy ... (read in full...)
Is my husband still talking to other women on the internet?
Q. is my husband still talking to other women on the internet? heres the deal atleast once a year lately i find that my husband has been having internet cheating opens up new email account to through me off. when he does this he lies to me says ...
A. 17 July 2009: Coming from a guy I don`t know how this sounds but had I been pregnant I would have given him another chance as well. But it seams he has abused that chance. Regardless if you can prove the adultery before you give him the boot you can take him for ... (read in full...)
How do I cope with my feelings about my teacher during the summer?
Q. Hey everyone.....so got a problem with a teacher, he's not mean to me or anyhting like that but since I've had him as I teacher we've got closer and I've developed feelings for him. It all started the first day I had him for class. We didn't...
A. 17 July 2009: You know the answer already.There is no way you can have a relationship with this man.I don`t know what to tell you to put him out of your mind ,but I would suggest you put your friendship with him in the cooler till your not so emotionally ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has been having sex with me whilst I'm asleep
Q. i really need help! my boyfriend has been having sex with me whilst im asleep. i should explain that i have a medical heart condition that makes me faint quite a lot it also makes me very tired so i have extra naps during the day to prevent b...
A. 17 July 2009: I have had sex with girl friends while they slept a few times, but its more like waking them to for play rather then ramming my member into an unprepared zone. And always I have known before hand that they would be ok with it.So yes I can ... (read in full...)
The head of my penis is very sensitive to touch
Q. right the head of my penis is very sensitive to touch. in fact it is quite uncomfortable. i am just wondering is this normal and will i grow out of it?.........
A. 17 July 2009: Well the head is obviously the most sensitive part.Maybe the most sensitive part of the male anatomy.Don`t know why it would be uncomfortable though.The only time I can remember the possibility of it being uncomfortable was puberty and you seam a ... (read in full...)
She showed interest but now is suddenly ignoring me
Q. Well hey there. This all started about 3 weeks ago. There's this girl that literally lives across my work. For the first week we've been looking at eachother and smiling and all, and then I've decided to make the first move. Started talking t...
A. 17 July 2009: I would pretty much agree with JasonX on this.She is on vacation probably having fun with guys being single and does not want to be bothered with the guy back home.If she really cared about you she would have found a way to stay in touch.... (read in full...)
We miss each other but whenever we are together we argue!
Q. Hey guys please help again lol..wel ive been with my boyfriend for like 3 years now and i think the world of him he lives 4hours away from me now which isnt a issue cause we always try our best to see each other . but when he doesnt come down and ...
A. 17 July 2009: If he is driving down to see you I would say he is making an effort.You want advice but you did not get to the root of the problem.Why do you argue?What do you argue about?If my gf lived 4 hours away and I was the only one making the trip I would ... (read in full...)
Why is she hurting me like this?
Q. so it been 4 weeks since me and my ex have split up i got a flat just round the road from her we have 2 kids and i want to be near them she asked me to leave she said i was making her unhappy and i was doing nothing around the house i had just lost ...
A. 17 July 2009: "you dont hurt the ones you love" If only that were true for it`s the ones we love that have the ability to hurt us the most. Why is she doing this is a question I can`t answer.Some thing is obviously troubling her and it runs deeper than what she ... (read in full...)
Talking to my ex is making it hard, should I stop talking to him?
Q. Heyyy all :) My boyfriend and I split up just over 2 weeks ago now and at the time i was on holiday, it was a long distance relationship and we finished over the distance. At the time i was a bit sad but i just continued with my holiday. However...
A. 17 July 2009: Right after a break up when the feelings and emotions are still strong I try to have little or no contact with the ex.Over time as the feelings fade/have been replaced it becomes easier to have them as just friends.I just come out and say it.
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I thought we were so happy, but niwshe's treating me so badly.
Q. My girlfriend and I have been together for almost a year things had been amazing, obviously we had our ups and downs. The past 3 weeks had been great.... Well I thought so. I took her out for a meal and a movie we had a really enjoyable night. ...
A. 17 July 2009: If you feel you just can`t leave her(and honestly that might be your best bet)try treating her like shes treating you.She might think you have no spine,and has lost respect in you for that.There is also the chance she has got some kind of mental ... (read in full...)
My fear of rejection makes me too shy. I can never make a move!
Q. Hey all. I have a situation, and being the hopeless romantic I am I need advice. Ive recently met a guy I really like. It takes alot in a man to make me like him so quick and so much but I really do. Trouble is, when I have feelings for a m...
A. 17 July 2009: If you can`t tell him out right how you feel try dropping hints.Brush by him.Make that slight accidental touch.Look at him.A lot so he sees it.If you can find an excuse to talk to him reach out and touch him.Maybe on the shoulder,or arm.Just little ... (read in full...)
I pushed my wife away because of insecurities, now she's gone to study and all I want is her.
Q. After 9 months of marriage, i broke up with my 19 year old wife and now she's left town for further studies which i disagree with her because i felt insecure that she might be use by some male friends in her college just for enjoyment. I'm no more ...
A. 17 July 2009: You broke up with her just because she left for school? Man apologize to that girl and beg forgiveness.She is/was your wife and you don`t trust her? Unless you have some base for your mistrust you were totally in the wrong. I understand you not ... (read in full...)
I went away on busines for 2 month and came back to find out my Girlfrend was engaged to another man!
Q. Hi, I am really going through a disturbing situation now days. Six months back I went out of country for 2 months business training. When I came back found my girlfriend behavior a little mischievous it was like she is hiding something from me. ...
A. 17 July 2009: If it was me I would leave her.Her memory will fade with time , and it helps to make new ones.... (read in full...)
Should I have an affair just to get sex?
Q. I need some help. My husband and I have been together for 7 years (married for 2). My husband doesn't want to have sex. I always try but he is never interested. I rarely have the courage to talk to him but when I do he either says he doesn't ...
A. 17 July 2009: If I was in your shoes I would talk to him.Explain what you feel and what you want to do.If my wife wouldn`t give me sex I would go get it somewhere else, but I wouldn`t keep it a secret.Being that she is 12 years my junior I am also open to the ... (read in full...)
Could I be in love with my best friend?
Q. So i've known this guy (let's call him Sam) for about 3 years now and he's my best friend, i'm closer to him than anyone else. We're like brother and sister. Unfortunately, he's going out with someone who i'm good friends with (let's call her ...
A. 17 July 2009: I don`t think now would be a good time to date Sam.If your feelings for him were true then they would have been there before.And it would totally not be fair to Sara.Try to explore your feelings more to make sure of yourself. Maybe let Sam know ... (read in full...)
Would this be considered mentally cheating?
Q. I've been with an ex co-worker of mine for three months now. I do care about him but I'm pretty sure I don't love him... Anyhow, about two months ago, my ex from when I was 15 to 19 somehow got a hold of my new email address and, well, he emailed...
A. 17 July 2009: Well your current bf obviously is not going to like getting dumped.But you haven`t developed any real feelings in 3 months so you probably wont.So saying that breaking up with your current bf is probably the best thing for you to do. That frees ... (read in full...)
Is she open to the possibility of us being together? I would risk the friendship...
Q. Basically the story is that I'm a guy, and I've fallen in love with one of my best friend who is a girl. It's been a long time in the making, and recently it's become overwhelming. It's not just a crush, it's not just attraction, it's the real ...
A. 16 July 2009: Well I`m not female but you might try this approach.I`m sure if your as close as you say you are you have a mutual friend.Talk to said friend and have them talk to her.Maybe mention to her that way that your interested so it`s not coming from you ... (read in full...)
What does it mean when a man keeps going back to his manipulative ex?
Q. Dear Cupid, What does it mean when a man keeps getting back together with his ex even though they have a very strained relationship. She is very manipulative and makes him feel guilty for leaving her and bad because she says she has no one else ...
A. 16 July 2009: Gullible. But why does he keep leaving her?... (read in full...)
I don't want to be a trophy or a toy to him. How do I know if he feels the same?
Q. I'm kind of stuck in such a classic situation: really like a guy but I don't know if he's feeling the same! It all started when I met Stefan last winter at a job fair organised by the uni he goes to. We flirted a bit but that was it as I was stil...
A. 16 July 2009: I probably would have acted the same way even if I was interested in you. It`s not like you were alone at the time for him to be getting all affectionate.But I bet he wanted to. Did he at least hold you hand.I woulda gone at least that far with a ... (read in full...)
Should I have a baby or just wait a few years?
Q. : )i really want a babyi mean really want one i concider my self quite mature and think i would be able to handle it i have 3 neices and a nephew all under the age of 5 and i have a great time looking after them even when the are stressing me ...
A. 16 July 2009: 16 is to young to be having a child.Wait at least a couple of years.Plus your not thinking about once you have a baby your not going to keep working.Who`s going to watch the baby?If you start working separate shifts to watch the baby when will you ... (read in full...)
What do you do when your man prefers porn over you?
Q. I'm in my 40's and still get compliments from 20yr. old guys!..but my man prefers porn over me? ive tried everything i'm willing to do for him..but he still does this..we have a child together.. and i want to be a family..but it hurts to know..that ...
A. 16 July 2009: Him watching / using porn is normal and natural.Him doing the same and neglecting you does pose a serious problem. I don`t really have any solutions to offer. Talk to your husband and explain your problems/ frustrations/ feelings.If that doesn`t ... (read in full...)
My husband can't stand my two children! What do I do?
Q. my husband can not stand my 2 children, his step children. He wants nothing to do with them, cause he can not stand their dad. My kids are 11 and 8, they are just kids. My husband and I have one child together and he is a great dad to her, but he ...
A. 16 July 2009: Your husband is being unfair and selfish.What he is doing is not right nor is it acceptable.I don`t know how you have put up with it for 6 years.Try talking to your kids and see what they think.Talk to your husband.Let him know your sick of his ... (read in full...)
Help! I'm falling for Older People!
Q. i was wondering if anybody could help me? i seem to fall for people alot older than me, no im not talking 3 years or 5, im saying 10,15,20. im 17 myself and i consider myself to be mature for my age, i like adult conversation over my peers i have ...
A. 16 July 2009: My advise is tell her you interested.Things may get more awkward for you if you don`t.I don`t see a reason for hiding your feelings,or even acting on them.Just take things slow and be sure your doing what feels right to you. ... (read in full...)
We have amazing chemistry so why does he disappear on me?
Q. Me and this guy have been talking for a little over a month now. We meet through mutual friends and hit it off right away. At first he initiated everything such as texting me asking me to come over and being pretty talkative. Then about two weeks ...
A. 16 July 2009: I can`t think of what to tell you.I have no clue how this guy is thinking or what he may feel from what you said.It could be either way.Try asking him.I bet he knows. Communication is the best solution to any problem.... (read in full...)
I just want to sleep all day and none of my friends like me....
Q. I feel crap all the time. My friends don't like me, I'm lonely, bored and pretty miserable. I don't do anything all day, except text this girl I met on a Pro-Ana website and isit Pro-Ana sites. And I feel like a fraud becuase I'm not even thin. ...
A. 16 July 2009: You sound like you have a low self esteem.What other people think of you is not important.Its your opinion of your self that counts.Find a way to be happy by yourself with yourself. People are complex creatures.Don`t worry if no one understands ... (read in full...)
Will he take me back? Would you?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for almost two years. The thing is that i sent an email to my ex saying that im sorry for what happened in the past and i hope he doesnt see me as a bad person ever (our relationship lasted almost 4 years and i broke hi...
A. 16 July 2009: I would totally take you back and your bf is way over reacting.You didn`t lie.You just hid something you felt he would over react to and look and behold what happened. Complete over reaction.Anyone close to him that your close to?Maybe talk to them ... (read in full...)
He hasn't yet asked to meet me in person? We met online.
Q. I have met a guy from online. I have been talking to him for about a month and two weeks. He would always ask specific questions about the subjects we talk about. We are open minded with each other. Although, one thing that i dont get is why did ...
A. 16 July 2009: Sounds to me like he is interested in you.If your ready to take the next step and meet him bring up the idea next time you talk.... (read in full...)
Can someone tell me what's going on in his head?
Q. Firstly I'd like to thank everyone who's helped me in the past, your help is much appreciated. I've been seeing a guy not exclusively for a while now (almost 4 months), but for the past month he's been contacting me less and less, although he's to...
A. 16 July 2009: Maybe the opposite is true? "I've been seeing a guy not exclusively". Does this mean your seeing other guys? That would sure make me uncomfortable about getting involved. The best solution to any problem is communication.Talk to him.Tell him how ... (read in full...)
Is my husband still talking to other women on the internet?
Q. is my husband still talking to other women on the internet? heres the deal atleast once a year lately i find that my husband has been having internet cheating opens up new email account to through me off. when he does this he lies to me says ...
A. 16 July 2009: Its good to know things for sure before jumping the gun.Him opening new accounts and blatantly lying to you does raise a lot of red flags and suspicion,but unfortunately proves nothing.Don`t throw him out with out prof.That way if you separate you ... (read in full...)
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