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... Send *ason32477 a private message | | | *ason32477's profile:I like to think of myself as an open minded individual.I believe that trust is the most important aspect to any relationship.
Love:1. strong affection for another arising out of kinship or personal ties.2.attraction based on sexual desire.3. affection based on admiration, benevolence, or common interests.4. unselfish loyal and benevolent concern for the good of another.5. the fatherly concern of God for humankind.
We each have it within ourselves to love whomever we choose to open our hearts to.As such love is among the least important qualities in a real working relationship.
Trust,communication,happiness,friendship,kindness,compassion,
affection,loyalty,warmth,understanding,commitment,respect.
If you have these things you have love even if your eyes are not open to it.It is equally possible to not have these things and still have love.Love is a powerful emotion and can make us do many things that are not healthy for us.
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Venting relationship troubles
Q. Where to start? I am with this girl and she is 8 weeks pregnant with my child.She lives almost 2 hours away and neither of us has transportation at the moment.I broke up with her the morning of the 4th because she wanted to go home.I don`t have ...
A. 18 July 2009: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/my-pregnant-girlfriend-is-way-too-flirtatious-any.html... (read in full...)
I think my man is a pimp and I'm scared! What can I do?
Q. please tell me if you think this sounds like something to do with organized crime-okay,so a few years ago I knew this girl who I'm sure was a prostitute-she would go to different men's houses and come back with cash-one day she took me to this man's ...
A. 16 July 2009: What about friends co-workers?Even with the risk of them following you I would suggest a change of location.Move to your mums temporarily till you find somewhere else to go.Maybe look through adds for room mates wanted.You don`t want to live ... (read in full...)
I think my man is a pimp and I'm scared! What can I do?
Q. please tell me if you think this sounds like something to do with organized crime-okay,so a few years ago I knew this girl who I'm sure was a prostitute-she would go to different men's houses and come back with cash-one day she took me to this man's ...
A. 15 July 2009: Ok. I`m sorry for thinking you were crazy.... what did you do back when you were raped?If there is a police report from that it lends a lot of credibility to your story.Second,have you talked to your current bf about the situation at all.I`m ... (read in full...)
I think my man is a pimp and I'm scared! What can I do?
Q. please tell me if you think this sounds like something to do with organized crime-okay,so a few years ago I knew this girl who I'm sure was a prostitute-she would go to different men's houses and come back with cash-one day she took me to this man's ...
A. 15 July 2009: That is exactly what I am suggesting.It was a simple question.Who do you know that knows your boy friend?... (read in full...)
He physically hurts me, but I love him
Q. if been with my boyfriend off and on sence 7th grade I'm now n 10th we've gone through so much being together or at least I have he has the rep of a cheater and he's cheated on me more than once well if only proved it once the rest is just rumors he ...
A. 15 July 2009: My dear this guy is no good.You already know this.End the relationship today.Its going to hurt regardless.Sever this relationship quickly before it takes a greater toll on you than it already has.Its not going to get better.I know he is sincere when ... (read in full...)
I think my man is a pimp and I'm scared! What can I do?
Q. please tell me if you think this sounds like something to do with organized crime-okay,so a few years ago I knew this girl who I'm sure was a prostitute-she would go to different men's houses and come back with cash-one day she took me to this man's ...
A. 15 July 2009: No no.I am defiantly not trying to make fun of you.Regardless if my assessment is right or not you have a serious situation on your hands,and need help.More help then this advice column can hope to give you. And yes I read your story through twice. ... (read in full...)
Was it wrong of me to lose my virginity to my ex?
Q. Well first off i'm a 16 year old girl in serious need of advice! I would normally go to my mom or dad for advice but this time i cant. i feel like if i tell them ill disappoint them and thats exactly what i dont want. cuz like ever other norma...
A. 15 July 2009: Whats done is done.Don`t make a big deal of it.If you have feelings for this boy find out what he feels for you.If your interested let him know.Just tell him how you feel and ask him any questions you may have.... (read in full...)
A man's taken interest in me but I still love the father of my child. Should I go for it or not?
Q. i have recently split with my fella who is also my childs father.he has clearly showed me his interest are else where and he has no interest in me,im having some work done in my home and been bombarded with 4 elecrticians 1 of whom has taken a bit ...
A. 15 July 2009: I think you should go out with this guy but explain you have feelings for your ex still and that you want to take things slow. Maybe even contact your ex just to be certain it is over.What ever happens just be honest with every one ... (read in full...)
Did she want to talk to me?
Q. I go 3 times a week with my mum to the hospital so she can have her dialysis. There's this girl in the dialysis unit she runs a exercise program she keeps looking at me and when i look back she turns away (i asked on here before about her doing ...
A. 15 July 2009: You really ought to strike up a conversation with this girl if you are interested in her.Walk up to her and say hi.It`s natural to be nervous but if you don`t try then nothing will happen.Ask her if shes heard of any good movies then ask if she ... (read in full...)
How can I stop my bf from texting her?
Q. hi, i recently found texts on my boyfriends phone from him to another girl (who doesn't have the urge to look :P) she goes to the same college as me, he was texting her like he does to me putting 'babe' and lots of kisses i could tell he was ...
A. 15 July 2009: Sounds to me like he is cheating on you.And someone that really cares about you would never do that to you (even if served on a plate).If he`s hiding his phone he has something to hide.Deleting those messages proves that even more.Doing things he ... (read in full...)
Big trust issues here! What should I do?
Q. i will try to keep it short thanks to anyone that replies. i was seeing a girl for a few months and she was texting this guy all the time and going out on saturday nights etc with this guy as a part of a group. anyway he told her he liked her and...
A. 15 July 2009: Its not worth it.She is not going to change.I know you love her and I know it hurts.But you need to stop all contact with her.Don`t take her calls and don`t call her.If she shows up at your door (unless its to get her things) tell her to leave and ... (read in full...)
I'm 17 years old---am I too young to get married?
Q. i am just 17 going on to 18 in a few weeks my boyfriend wants to get married to me, i don't know what to do we have been together for 2and a half year he has been a wonderful man to me in every way but i just need some advice. thank you...
A. 15 July 2009: If you don`t know what to do then the answer is not to get married.Explain your feelings to your boy friend and if he loves you he will understand.... (read in full...)
I think my man is a pimp and I'm scared! What can I do?
Q. please tell me if you think this sounds like something to do with organized crime-okay,so a few years ago I knew this girl who I'm sure was a prostitute-she would go to different men's houses and come back with cash-one day she took me to this man's ...
A. 15 July 2009: Sounds to me like you are seriously schizophrenic and maybe you should see a mental health person.Coming across town from you bf`s only to run into your bf with these followers of yours is kinda hard to believe.If these people have been following ... (read in full...)
Am I just a way to get over his girlfriend?
Q. i have feeling for one of my best male friends. we a re very flirty and there is a strong chemistry. he has a gf but we have kissed quite a few times recently, without anyone knowing. i want to know if he has feelings for me or i am just a way to ...
A. 15 July 2009: If he is willing to be with you while he is with her he will be willing to be with someone else if he is with you.... (read in full...)
Do you just know when you love someone?
Q. how do you know when you love someone? i broke off with this girl a month ago cuz i was nt sure about my feelings for her and asked for some time...i am struggling to know whether i love her ot not ...she was one of a kind who loved me from all her ...
A. 15 July 2009: If you can`t get her out of your head then odds are you love her.I think you should give your relationship with her more of a chance but take things slow till your not so confused about your feelings.Love is easy to find if your heart is willing to ... (read in full...)
Daydreams that are more like nightmares
Q. I have these occasional "day dreams" where my mind travels into an imgainary scene or something, although I wouldn't exactly call them dreams. More like nightmares. These visions make me feel extremely sad, automatically tears form. What is this? I ...
A. 15 July 2009: It may be a warning of something bad that is about to happen in your life.I have had multiple day dreams that have become reality.One of which may have even saved my life.I don`t think I`m normal in this regard but never the less I recommend you try ... (read in full...)
When does it become just sex?
Q. Hi Just want to know what you people out there think of Love, do you think you can make love with someone yet not be in love with them,if not does it only then become just sex?? And if you have broken up with someone countless times and they s...
A. 15 July 2009: Physical intimacy does not require any emotional bonds and vise versa.And yes with out the heart felt emotions it is "just sex". Maybe they do love you but haven`t really explored there feelings.More likely though is they see you as an easy lay.A... (read in full...)
Venting relationship troubles
Q. Where to start? I am with this girl and she is 8 weeks pregnant with my child.She lives almost 2 hours away and neither of us has transportation at the moment.I broke up with her the morning of the 4th because she wanted to go home.I don`t have ...
A. 15 July 2009: She is 20 and I`m 32. Her original due date was Feb 15th now its Feb 24th. She was here with me from 5-12 till 5-24.So yes I am certain it`s my baby.And yes if it was not my baby I would have moved on. A conversation between her and a guy friend... (read in full...)
Guy is 27 and she is 15, is this really going to work?
Q. one of my best friends is 15 and a guy that's 27 likes her, do you think she should go out with him ? yes or no and why ? help me by the way he has two kids. ...
A. 15 July 2009: Its the same age difference as me and my gf. Big difference though is she`s 20. Not to sound hypocritical but no I don`t think it`s a good idea.Your friend hasn`t even begun to experience relationships yet and really shouldn`t be getting serious ... (read in full...)
Lack of trust on both sides of our relationship
Q. my question is this: I had an affair with a married woman that became much more to both of us. This was 7 years ago. I am now married and my wife knows that i have tried and sometimes managed to contact this woman. Last week was the last straw. ...
A. 15 July 2009: Sounds like your marriage is in trouble.Think about it like this.If she had done nothing wrong would you still want to be with her?Do you still love her?If the answers to both questions are yes you should try to start over at square one.If you ... (read in full...)
Should I go out with him?
Q. Hi! so i'm 15 and i like this guy who's 17. He's a really good friend and we've flirted over texts. He's funny and sweet but i don't know if he'll ever ask me out. If he does, should i go out with him? One of my friends has told me he was kind of a ...
A. 15 July 2009: This is a question only you can answer. But if you do date him take things slow. A player will leave you if he can`t get what he wants. Someone that cares about you will respect you and be patient.... (read in full...)
He physically hurts me, but I love him
Q. if been with my boyfriend off and on sence 7th grade I'm now n 10th we've gone through so much being together or at least I have he has the rep of a cheater and he's cheated on me more than once well if only proved it once the rest is just rumors he ...
A. 15 July 2009: This guy needs his butt kicked.Seriously.And trust me on this.You can do better.Love is the purest of all emotions.And most of us as humans have it within our selves to love whomever we chose.The trick isn`t to find someone we love.The trick is to ... (read in full...)
Getting mixed messages from my boyfriend
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for 3 months now and he's cheated on me (accidentally) with a girl that apparently was all over him and he couldn't stop her. This is fine but lately he's been acting strange and saying things like "I'm scared i'm using ...
A. 15 July 2009: The best advice is the hardest to take. You need to end this relationship, and hopefully find someone that really cares about you.There is no such thing as "accidentally" cheating. There is intimacy and there is rape.There is nothing in between.And ... (read in full...)
Should I contact him again?
Q. I have always wanted to get back in contact with a guy that I went to college with. It has been 7 years now and I ran across his parents number and his sister. I found the courage to call him after I saw that he was on another social network site ...
A. 15 July 2009: I`d say odds are he got your message and he is not interested. But on the other hand it couldn`t hurt to try again.Give it a couple of days and ring the house again and ask if this guy ever got your message.Let it be known that you just wanna talk ... (read in full...)
I have feelings for my moms cousins daughter.
Q. well i know this might sound strange or weird but i have feelings for my moms cousins daughter.I dont know if shes considered my 2nd cousin or not.and well Ive never seen her or talked to her for a very long time.i think i was 9 or 10 when i saw her ...
A. 15 July 2009: To find her attractive or to have feelings for her I would say is somewhat natural. But to act on those feeling or express them in anyway is defiantly wrong. Do not for one second think of her as anything more then your sister. Find some other girl ... (read in full...)
The guy I'm seeing denied my facebook friend request!
Q. I've been casually seeing a guy for eight months. We had been friends on myspace (he added me), but I deleted my profile so about a month ago I tried to add him on facebook. He denied my request! He has over 100 friends so clearly he's not that ...
A. 15 July 2009: I find your question hard to answer because you didn`t say what his bull answer was or why you think it`s bull.It very well may have been an honest mistake.Generally the best answers come from the heart and or gut.So try listening to yourself.Maybe ... (read in full...)
My virgin GF cried during foreplay, is this my fault?
Q. My girlfriend told me she going to give her virginity (I didn’t pressure her and I’m not a virgin). We waited until my birthday to do it just to make a bit more fun. She acted really nervous around me. When the day come she was really freaked. I ...
A. 15 July 2009: Yes and no. I would say that this girl loves you ,but has fears and doubt.If you care about the girl try talking to her and explain that sex is not a big deal.Ask her to let you know whenever she is not comfortable and that you will respect her ... (read in full...)
I did something with my ex's friend that I really regret
Q. hi im christina. i have a guy problem..ill make this short..me and my ex still liked each other very much..but i made a mistake one night and did sumthing with his friend even tho i was intoxicated it was still wrong.. no matter how i apologized...
A. 15 July 2009: Time. Thats it. Anyone that says they have never or would never has not really lived life. We are all subject to making mistakes and the evils of alcohol played a part in your misfortune. What you did was obviously wrong. First you need to forgive ... (read in full...)
I'm Pregnant! Do I marry this guy or not??
Q. I am in the Army and have spent the last 11 months in training and in a holding status. I had been seeing a guy for the last 8 months and broke up with him a week ago. The next day I found out I was pregnant. It was an accident and I was told ...
A. 15 July 2009: Right now your unsure of what you want to do.I don`t think your ready for marriage and may regret any hasty decisions you make now.I think you should get back with him and date him, and give the relationship another chance. Don`t go jumping into a ... (read in full...)
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