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writes:I'm in my 40's and still get compliments from 20yr. old guys!..but my man prefers porn over me? ive tried everything i'm willing to do for him..but he still does this..we have a child together.. and i want to be a family..but it hurts to know..that he's not attracted to me..What should i do?
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reader, WTFdude? +, writes (17 July 2009):
WTFdude? is verified as being by the original poster of the questionwell hey guys! just wanted to say thanx for ur input..i have spoke to him in the past..about what his wondering eye..does for our relationship..& he still wonders why i am not turned on by him?..i have needs too, & his getting off on other women..does not do it for me..infact he has caused major depression in my life..i simply told him that...sexual attraction doesn't last 4 ever..but love & commitment can last a lifetime! what will u have in the end?
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reader, RAINORFIRE +, writes (17 July 2009):
 Its probably normal but not rite he should be dedicated to you but at this point and your age what are your options is he taking care of his family putting bread on the table it seems harmless to me aslong as hes not physically sleeping with theese women. What can you do now is divorce an option for you hes probably not going to change and you cant change him hes a middle aged man set in his ways and habits you can try a marriage counselor etc but i doubt this guy will go for that, you can tell him how you feel just sit down and talk to him hes your husband if he cant be open and truthful with you then hes a lost cause good luck post your progress if you can
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reader, Jason32477 +, writes (17 July 2009):
 Umm is that normal? Thats where I`m at as well so I would have to say yes.The only sight I use is X-match,(an affiliate off friend finder)its live and its free.I don`t communicate with these girls in anyway.My current gf doesn`t know about this yet,but she does know I use porn.So obviously I don`t do it when she is around.And I don`t use porn when she is there for the taking.A couple of my ex`s knew about my use of the sight and in a small way might have lead to the break up with one of them.(of course the deciding factor was when she slept with someone else).And the other ex we used the sight together and she even had her own account.So if my partner was to masturbate like this I wouldn`t have a problem with it as long as she wasn`t neglecting my needs.Its when she tries talking to guys that I have a problem.
I believe in God but don`t hold to any church.So yes I do think that what I do is wrong and immoral.Like smoking is bad for my health and I still smoke.But no one is going to tell me what to do until I decide to do it for myself.If it bothers you this much talk to your husband about it.Just let him know you know what he is doing and it makes you uncomfortable.I wouldn`t suggest telling him to stop. Just let him know how it makes you feel.And if you like I will talk to my gf about my use of it and get her take on it. That will have to wait for tomorrow though for she is already sleeping.
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reader, WTFdude? +, writes (17 July 2009):
WTFdude? is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanx..i know, that everyone says its normal for guys to watch porn..but would a guy feel the way we women do if we were constantly masterbating to it..oh & he has graduated from watching it..to web cam sex..i also find sites "adult friend finder" in his history! is this normal? i could never do this to a person i have commited my faithfullness to..weather he knew or not!
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reader, Jason32477 +, writes (16 July 2009):
Him watching / using porn is normal and natural.Him doing the same and neglecting you does pose a serious problem. I don`t really have any solutions to offer. Talk to your husband and explain your problems/ frustrations/ feelings.If that doesn`t work then maybe try a marriage counselor.
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