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My name is Amanda Roberts. I am a psychology student and despite my age have a lot of life experience to offer. I own and operate a website ( that keeps me pretty busy in addition to school. I am in a long term and fulfilling relationship.

All tests were then why have I not had a period in nearly 3 months?

Q.   Ok. I haven't gotten my period in 2mths. It will be three on may 17. Now here is the weird part. I have taken 5 at home pregnancy test and 1 blood pregnancy test 2 weeks ago. All were negative. Can I be pregnant or what's going on with me?...

A.   4 May 2008: More likely than not this is just a result of stress (thinking your pregnant can just add to that), but since it has been more than one month you should defiantly see your OBGYN. If the problem persists and if you are sexually active (which I assume ... (read in full...)

My "virgin" girlfriend says some pretty shocking things! Is she for real?!!

Q.   My Brand new GF has told me that she is a virgin and says she wants to wait to see if she finds that special person to give herself to. she told me she has done genital to genital(no penetration just rubbing), and has given Blowjobs. I believe her ...

A.   5 April 2008: There is no real "virgin test". Some girls don't even bleed on their first time because of physical activity and tampon use. Toasty is absolutely right on her behavior though, hormones in a young girl can do that. Plus you got to imagine that she... (read in full...)

Can I be "sex friends" with my relative (cousin) or should I just stick to phantasising?

Q.   I want to have sex with my cousin. I not talking getting married, having kids and all that, just sex. I can't stop thinking about her and I was wondering if this was even possible. If it is possible and does happen I'm really only worried about ...

A.   5 April 2008: Talk to her about relationships and see where she is standing right now... that leads to flirting and yea, just like a normal girl. My personal opinion on this though is you should stand back on this. Being "sex friends" with her will turn out... (read in full...)

My last boyfriend put me down and I can't get over the things he said.

Q.   Is there something wrong with me? I have been single now for about 3 years and in this time not one boy has asked me out it has really put me down because my last boyfriend said some really horrible stuff when we broke up and I haven't been able to ...

A.   20 March 2008: Realize that he had a problem if he stopped dating you. Breaking up is an emotional experience and sometimes we bite back when we realize we don't have complete control. Separate what he said in your mind. If one particular thing hurt you because ... (read in full...)

Can I be "sex friends" with my relative (cousin) or should I just stick to phantasising?

Q.   I want to have sex with my cousin. I not talking getting married, having kids and all that, just sex. I can't stop thinking about her and I was wondering if this was even possible. If it is possible and does happen I'm really only worried about ...

A.   18 March 2008: Like you have been told, google cousin relationships and see what the legal repercussions will be. Also though, I beg of you not to make a move towards your cousin unless she has an interest as well. If you come right out and tell her now and she ... (read in full...)

I doubt anyone has ever been in such a situation with his girlfriend

Q.   Before everyone begins with the "nah bro, dump her dump her" stuff, read it completely, and put yourself in my situation, and atleast TRY to understand how I feel. I'm with a girl right now, and quite frankly, she is amazing. Whether we're talking ...

A.   18 March 2008: It is possible to forgive. It is possible for a cheater to change. That being said, what else is going on here? She is willing to fly somewhere to see you, yet she still cheats? It seems very contradictory. I think what you should do if you... (read in full...)

Left Wanting More...

Q.   Hey :) I broke up with my 2 year boyfriend, whom I lost my virginity to, about two months ago and a month after I started out with another guy. We've been having sex too but I'm quite disappointed, and I know it sounds cruel and it's not the mos...

A.   18 March 2008: I agree completely with Collaroy, but I think there is something else that you need to think about. You broke up with the guy you lost your virginity to. Not having that connection can lead to a change in how you feel towards sex. Take this into ... (read in full...)

How can I snoop on my boyfriend's cell phone to see if he's been looking at porn?

Q.   How can I snoop on my boyfriend's cell phone to see if he's been looking at porn? How do you find out? Do you look at the Internet options on the phone? Please give me some help, I'm so nosy, but I don't want him to know I looked at his phone-ugh. ...

A.   15 March 2008: Dear original poster, I'm so sorry that you have discovered this and feel inadequate. You need to understand that because your man looks at porn does not mean that you are any less of a person. Men are genetically wired to "spread the seed", a... (read in full...)

He cheated on me a long time ago... Now, I'm considering doing the same. Is that wrong?

Q.   I am engaged but i just found out that my fiance cheated on me a long time ago. So i'm really feeling down. I ran into this guy i used to be in love with but we broke it off because of the distance. This old flame wants to meet up and go out but i ...

A.   6 March 2008: If you know it would lead to a sexual encounter, or an emotional encounter that would put you in a bad place then you should not go. You were hurt when you found out your fiance cheated on you, to cheat (emotional or physically)on him would lower ... (read in full...)

Is it possible to have a Muslim marriage at 17 with NO parental permission?

Q.   hiya am a 17 year old female from uk currently in Love with a 23 year old muslim guy....... am wondering if it legal to have a muslim marriage at age of 17 with NO parental permissional... PLZ HELP...

A.   5 March 2008: I believe you need to be 18 or over to get married if you don't want parental permission. As for just having an Islamic marriage (not a country recognized marriage) as long as you have an imam to support and marry you. Talk to the leaders at your ... (read in full...)

Would it be wrong for a 36 year old to date a teenager? Can people choose who they are attracted to?

Q.   honeslty do people think this is wrong if a 36 year old man is really really attracted to a 16 year old (mature, or so he thinks) girl...i mean people cant help who they're attracetd to right??? and if he got carried away and ended up in bed with ...

A.   2 March 2008: Can you control who you are attracted to? No, it is a chemical reaction to various pheromones and to certain physical features that are good for breeding. Can you control what attraction you act on? Certainly. A relationship with this man is illeg... (read in full...)

Will these marks on my vagina go away?

Q.   Hi, this is an awkward question so I'd prefer women to answer it. Thank you. When I was younger (around 4-5 I think) I used to pull and twist the sort of inner lips of my vagina. I stopped doing this in about 6 mounths (I can't remember WHY I d...

A.   2 March 2008: You should be fine and as you go through puberty things will drastically change. If you are really worried, you can ask your doctor. ... (read in full...)

How can I tell my mum I don't want to take "the pill"?

Q.   hi I'm 13 and my mum recently put me on the pill but I don't want to take it. I was wondering does anyone know how I could tell my mum I don't want to take it without shouting or fighting please???...

A.   2 March 2008: Say mom, I am worried about being on the pill. Talk with your obgyn and ask why you should be on these pills. A small study has come out recently that linked birth control pill use and breast cancer. It is a relatively small scope study, but had big ... (read in full...)

How can I snoop on my boyfriend's cell phone to see if he's been looking at porn?

Q.   How can I snoop on my boyfriend's cell phone to see if he's been looking at porn? How do you find out? Do you look at the Internet options on the phone? Please give me some help, I'm so nosy, but I don't want him to know I looked at his phone-ugh. ...

A.   2 March 2008: He is right, every time you access the internet on his phone he gets charged, so don't. You and your guy need to sit down because you have some serious insecurities. You need to trust him, unless he was a horrible porn addict (all day, every da... (read in full...)

How can I get rid of or camouflage these stretchmarks on my shoulders?

Q.   This isn't a relationship question but Ii need a bit of advice. I'm in year 11 at school, I'm 15 and I have my school leavers prom coming up in May. Well as you do to a prom, I have to wear a dress which I'm not really bothered about but most o...

A.   2 March 2008: Everyone gets stretch marks, you said it yourself so you shouldn't be so concerned about it. Also, your dance will most likely have dim lights, so not many will be able to see. That being said, stretch marks occur when your body grows rapidly,... (read in full...)

My stepson lies about me...

Q.   My partner and I both have one child each from previous relationships, mine lives with us and his have visited at weekends and school holidays for 3 years. From the very start my stepson has told us stories about how nasty his stepfather is to him ...

A.   27 February 2008: The child is obviously having some attention problems if he is talking badly about both you and his step father. This might be an attempt to turn his parents against their newly chosen spouses in an attempt to reunite them. Either way, the child ... (read in full...)

I unloaded my stress on him, so he broke up with me and started to drink. What now?

Q.   I don't know what to do, I am 17 and have been with my boyfriend for 11 months. We have always had a very exciting relationship, with really strong emotions. But last week I was so stressed out and I took it out on him, which I felt so guilty about. ...

A.   25 February 2008: You are in a relationship together, you should be able to vent to each other (although taking it all out on him isn't a good idea) in a proactive way. You need to sit down with him and say look, regardless of what is going on between us, drinking ... (read in full...)

Is he a sexual predator? How do I get help for my wife?

Q.   My wife and I have been together for 19 years, married 16. She just felt comfortable enough to share with me her "past experiences". She felt she needed to get this off her chest as she felt like a "whore" and useless even though to me she had ...

A.   25 February 2008: I think you should both seek therapy, both together and separately. Regardless of what happened before, the main issue is that your wife and you are now missing the peace you had in your relationship before. Forget about the guy (unless you can ... (read in full...)

I am Muslim and having an online relationship, am I wrong?

Q.   i met this boy when i went for hajj. our families became friends and then we stayed in touch. we live in different cities but text/chat on msn/email each other everyday. we admitted that we loved each other last week. my question is are we as ...

A.   25 February 2008: I challenge you to find a Quranic verse that says relationships are forbidden. The Prophet (pbuh) loved his wives, and if you seriously love this boy than you are not a sinner. Just remember, love or no love, there is no excuse for Zina and you ... (read in full...)

Could you give me advice on how to broach the subject to him without embarrassing him or making him feel worse?

Q.   I started dating my 34-year old boyfriend (he's a friend of my brother's) when I was 15, and we've been seeing each other for about a year now. I've been really happy with him so far, and I feel like he's not only my boyfriend but a casual friend as ...

A.   24 February 2008: I think it would be best for both of you if you stopped the sexual relationship you have from progressing any further. It is making him feel guilty and can seriously wreck your life, so just slow yourself down. As for how to broach the subje... (read in full...)

Can the morning after pill abort a baby?

Q.   Can the morning after pill abort a baby? Just, I took it, and just under a week later I began a thick, brown period-like thing (presuming it's a period, but I'm not due for another 15/16 days). Could this be my body naturally aborting the baby, due ...

A.   24 February 2008: The morning after pill DOES NOT induce an abortion, a miscarriage or any other termination of pregnancy. The morning after pill stops ovulation, so if you are already pregnant when you take it it will do absolutely nothing. Sperm can live ins... (read in full...)

Dating a guy who is a father of a 1 month old. Should I break up with him?

Q.   im in 13 and in high school and im dating this guy hes 18,but he has a 1 month old baby.people tell me to break up with him....i dont know what to do...

A.   24 February 2008: Let me start with the good, at least he is stepping up and taking care of his child. Now for the bad, this man has a role that he needs to fill and I don't think you could really fit that bill. He needs a girlfriend as a companion, a mother f... (read in full...)

I'm 15 and pregnant. Could I legally move in with my boyfriends family?

Q.   I am 15 years old and I ranaway and I got pregnant while I ranaway. And neither of my parents like my 16 year old boyfriend. And his parents like me and would let me move in with them, but he lives two hours away from me. Do you think I could move ...

A.   24 February 2008: Like Ankoku said, it depends on the laws in your state. If your parents really do not like him that much and don't support the baby, then they might support you going away. If not, you can file for emancipation, but that is a long and drawn out ... (read in full...)

Should I have told her I masturbate to her picture?

Q.   I go to school at occhs in troy, tennessee i am 16 years old i like the girl who already has a boyfriend i told her everything about me i told her this secret about me masterbating to her picture she said it was flattering after i told her i gave ...

A.   24 February 2008: What you said can be flattering to some, but to a girl that you are not in a relationship with, it can be kinda creepy. Yes it is normal and yes a lot of guys do it, but until you have her, some intimate details should be kept to yourself. Now that ... (read in full...)

It was only one little mistake!

Q.   I'm only 15 turning 16 and two months and I have a big problem. I did something so stupid I'll never be able to forgive myself every again. I met this 20 year old guy on a website and we really hit it off. We started "dating" the day we met. We ...

A.   24 February 2008: I know you must be so scared, and it is okay to feel that way. Many people have advised you to tell your mother, and they make a good point, but I understand too that sometimes it is not an option (they would disown you or something like that). If ... (read in full...)

My parents want me to emigrate and my boyfriend wants me to marry him. Which do I choose?

Q.   I am 21 and have a bf who wants to marry me but my parents wants me to migrate far from him.Who will i choose my parents or marry him an dont go anywhere.We r so i love. ...

A.   24 February 2008: Can he come with you? Maybe after a year or so he can invest and make enough to move close to you or at least closer. True love will wait. Hope this helps! Amanda Roberts (read in full...)

I've fallen for him, but I am 12 and he is turning 18! Help!!

Q.   i have fallen head over heels for this boy and 89% of the time i think about him. the only thing is i am 12 and he turns 18 this month. i need help!!...

A.   24 February 2008: As a person who was in a relationship with a similar (but not quite as large) age gap, I understand your pain in this situation. Since you are 12, I am guessing you have never (or have been in few) relationships. You need to understand that someone ... (read in full...)

How long can someone last without food?

Q.   heyx I am 15 years old, and just out of curiosity, how long would you say i can last without any food? And dnt tel me about how its bad for me, i already know that. Im just curious how long a girl like me, about 5 ft 3 weighing in about 9 and a ha...

A.   23 February 2008: It all depends on your situation. Prisoners have lasted 100 days before, but they have little activity to engage in and still intake walk and some source of salt or sugar (tea, salt water, etc). The benchmark some doctors put up is 60 days, but it ... (read in full...)

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