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writes:im in 13 and in high school and im dating this guy hes 18,but he has a 1 month old baby.people tell me to break up with him....i dont know what to do Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 February 2008): I am not sure what state you are from but in Pennsylvania if you and he were to have sexual contact he would be guilty and arrested for statutory rape - STAY clear of this man - He is 18 with a baby? What kind of responsibility does that show you about the kind of person he is if he is dating at all and especially someone so young? Good Luck You gotta be way above that or you will be the next gal of his with a one month old baby writing here on how he did you wrong!
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reader, leonard j. Douglas  +, writes (24 February 2008):
You got some great advice, and much better than I could of put it. But your much too young to take on the responsibilities within a relationship, much less the care of his child,or your own should something happen. Don't rush life just let it flow in the pleasures of youth.
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reader, leonard j. Douglas +, writes (24 February 2008):
You got some great advice, and much better than I could of put it. But your much too young to take on the responsibilities within a relationship, much less the care of his child,or your own should something happen. Don't rush life just let it flow in the pleasures of youth.
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reader, Raining Tears +, writes (24 February 2008):
 Hey I got the same thing goin on me and this 18 year old guy are datin and im 13 too.......and he hasnt pushed me for sex or anything like that.......
I would have to say as long as he dont push u for sex i say go for it......i mean i am.......
If u really like him then stay with him.......heres a tip dont let ur mom or dad find out trust me.....it will be the end of ur days!!!!
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reader, Jargenhunter +, writes (24 February 2008):
Let me start with the good, at least he is stepping up and taking care of his child.
Now for the bad, this man has a role that he needs to fill and I don't think you could really fit that bill. He needs a girlfriend as a companion, a mother for the baby, and a wife to help being in a second income for the child. You are only 13, and while you could (theoretically) fill these roles, it would put undo stress on you, most likely end up with your parents relocating you, and making that poor baby more confused. If you really like this guys personality, be his friend. Keep your parents involved and let them know he is a good guy. There is nothing that says you can't be friends with him and the baby if you follow the correct protocol (keep your parents in the loop, keep it known that romance doesn't cut it for you two) and maybe when you are older (18+) you can have this relationship you so desire. If it doesn't seem worth it to go through all that and wait so long before you can do anything, then obviously he is not worth it.
Best of Luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 February 2008): Hi, yes, you should break up with him, in most states of the union, he could be arrested for having sex with you as you are a child...(not saying that you are having sex, but trust me that is his agenda with you) and he at 18 is an adult....he is a loser.....he made one mistake having a child at 18 out of wedlock, where is the mother of the child by the way?? And he is about to make another one trying it on with a 13 year old baby....he has very poor judgement, this is not someone you need to involve yourself with he will ruin absolutely ruin your life honey....talk to your parents and ask them to help you ask him to leave you alone......they need to know about this and are there to help you.....keep us posted and take care.
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reader, duskyrowe  +, writes (23 February 2008):
 I agree with all the aunts on this one, he already has a baby to bring up. What the hell is he doing dating a 13 year old girl. Please do not have sex with him either, or you could end up pregnant yourself while he is out gallivanting with all and sundry leaving you to hold the baby like he is with this other poor young lady.
Concentrate on your studies, and date boys your own age.
Take care, Dusky xxx.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 February 2008): You are not going to like what i have to say, but what is a guy of 18 with a child doing with a 13 year old in the first place? He is way too old for you and you should be enjoying your youth and not worrying about dating until you are a bit older. Walk away, he isnt in your league.
take care
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (23 February 2008):
 At 13, you're in the 8th grade, you should be spending time worrying about your grades....
Do you trust the people telling you to break up with him? Do they have your best interests at heart?
Then listen to them!
You are too young to pin all your hopes on any one boyfriend, anyway, especially one who has a baby to worry about...
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reader, hlskitten +, writes (23 February 2008):
 Hi
Havent got much to go on have we, but he doesnt sound like a great guy for a 13 yr old in my opinion!
I bet your rents are worried sick sweetheart.
C xxxxx
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