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Is she overweight, and how do I handle this?

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Question - (1 December 2009) 5 Answers - (Newest, 2 December 2009)
A female United States age 41-50, *sklily101 writes:

Okay, well my niece is 12 years old and keeps asking me if she is overweight. I tell her that it is going to be alright and she isn't. She is about 120 lbs and hasn't had her period yet. Is she overweight? I don't know because when I was 12 I already had my period and was at about 100 lbs. Please Help!

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A female reader, HonningKanin Norway +, writes (2 December 2009):

HonningKanin agony auntBMI doesn't take into account muscle mass or bone density, it works solely on body weight and height which can be wrong. A body builder will be considered overweight even though there isn't an ounce of fat on them.

What you want to do is measure her height by her waist size and also take into consideration her age.

I got my period when I was 12 years old, but some girls are late bloomers. Also if she was overweight she would have gotten her period earlier as the body requires a fat to body ratio that need to be high.

Ultimately you can just take her to a pediatrician for a check up and the doctor to one side and ask them as they would be trained to recognise childhood obesity.

HonningKanin

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A female reader, KANDIWRPR United States +, writes (2 December 2009):

KANDIWRPR agony auntas she grows maayb she will lose it

its probably just "baby fat"

but tell her to be careful of what she eats

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A female reader, asklily101 United States +, writes (2 December 2009):

asklily101 is verified as being by the original poster of the question

she is about 5ft

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A female reader, pinktopaz United States +, writes (1 December 2009):

We have no idea if she's overweight because you didn't give us her height. Just because she hasn't started her period yet doesn't mean anything is wrong with her. There are many girls that don't start their's until they're a few years older.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (1 December 2009):

BMI percentile matters more than weight, since weight alone doesn't take height into account. With children, the BMI percentile is calculated and plotted on an age-appropriate growth chart to determine whether the child is overweight.

Please see this link for more information and ask her pediatrician to calculate and plot her percentile.

http://www.cdc.gov/healthyweight/assessing/bmi/childrens_bmi/about_childrens_bmi.html

Also, not having a period at 12 years of age is perfectly normal. I didn't get mine until I was 16. If she is concerned, her doctor is really the best resource as every girl is different.

I hope that helps!

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