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writes:i want to have sex with someone but i have had genital warts before. its advised that i should wear a condom all the time, but what if she says 'im on the pill its fine you dont have to wear one?' i dont want to tell her ive had the warts before. also, is it safe to recieve blow jobs if youve had warts before? dont want someone getting a wart in the mouth lol.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 December 2009): HPV is the leading cause of cervical cancer. Females definitely have more associated risks than men do. It's important that you disclose this information to her.
http://www.cancer.gov/cancertopics/factsheet/Risk/HPV
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 December 2009): I think you should tell her, but don't disclose to early. If you like her, give her a chance to develop feeling for you first or it is too easy to say 'see ya'. HPV is extremely common among sexually active adults, I've seen figures as high as 70% of the population being infected! She might have it as well, so go ahead and tell her.Did you get any treatment? Do you have active warts present? I'm not sure what they do for men, but in women, they cut or caterize or freeze the warts off...at least that way, you don't have the virus on your skin and that lessons the chance of passing them on. And yes, you can give her oral herpes through blow jobs :(
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reader, HonningKanin  +, writes (23 December 2009):
 Firstly, Yes you can pass the virus to her orally which can inturn be passed onto you if you kiss her. Herpies of the mouth is otherwise known as a cold sore.
Secondly, You can always tell her "its better to be safe than sorry." She may take it as you refering to pregnancy which finally leads me to...
Thirdly! You should NOT be sleeping with someone who does NOT know you have an STD. That is beyond low. She should be told so that she has the option of taking it further with you or not. If she doesn't sleep with you.. Ah well, its her right and her health. If she does.. ding ding ding, you are onto a keeper.
Granted you may think "this is just herpies its not like I have aids." Sorry. Herpies are permenant not to mention they can affect a womans ability to conceive if its a particularly bad strain of the virus.
Dont be a fool. Tell her before you do anything.
HonningKanin
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reader, Tisha-1  +, writes (23 December 2009):
 I'm going to link to this question the next time someone posts a question about having sex without a condom. Here we have a poster who KNOWS he has had genital warts, yet he is not disclosing to his potential sex partner.
Poster, how did YOU get genital warts? Did someone have sex with you and not tell you that she had them? Is this a cycle you want to perpetuate?
I did a little more research (which YOU should be doing) and found that oral sex is NOT a good idea if you have had genital warts. Sorry, but you could be the cause of oral cancer in her. http://www.webmd.com/sexual-conditions/hpv-genital-warts/news/20090729/oral-sex-cause-throat-cancer-rise
http://www.plannedparenthood.org/health-topics/stds-hiv-safer-sex/genital-warts-4268.htm
And getting back to the idea of no condoms just because she's on the pill, who's to say she isn't HIV positive and just doesn't know it yet? Her last partner could have had HIV contracted through IV drug use or heterosexual or homosexual sex. She may have any of a number of bacterial or viral infections.
Do the right thing.
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reader, tjazzy  +, writes (23 December 2009):
Even a condom won't protect her against warts because the virus also lies dormant in the skin of the scrotum and thighs. If you actually care for her health, you'd better tell her. If you're lucky and she has also had it before, then you're in luck. But the truth is once you've had HPV, you have it forever and can spread it. It only moves from dormant to active based on your immunity level.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (23 December 2009):
I'm sorry, but you have to tell her about the genital warts. You have to give her the chance to decide if she wants to take that chance with you, even if you wear a condom. To not tell her is to potentially expose her to HPV. You may be the reason she would get cervical cancer when she's older. I think that would be reprehensible, and that only a selfish person would do such a thing.
Be honest. Tell her what the doctor told you. If you've had them, and they've been treated and you don't have an active case, and you wear a condom for both intercourse and oral sex, I think it's a low likelihood of transmitting it.
Look at this way, if a girl had genital warts, knew about it but never told you, would YOU be okay with this? I don't think so.
Do the right thing, even if it makes things more complicated. Give HER the chance to protect her own health.
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (23 December 2009):
 Emily said it all.
WEAR a condom. No if's or but's about it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 December 2009): How would you feel if you had unprotected sex with someone then later she tells you she has STD?
I know there are some lies that are good to stay as lies but when issues of health is concerned, always be honest about it so your partner will have a choice to go on or not and if anything happens, atleast you have told her. Just in case she ever gets infected, she won't go crazy wondering how she got it and realized you lied to her. That would be so selfish for you to hide.
If she agrees with a condom, you can keep your secret. But if she doesn't, just be polite to tell her the truth.
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reader, Boredatwork +, writes (23 December 2009):
 turn it around the other way... would you want a girl not to tell you?
Also ALWAYS wear a condom... the girl being on the pill wront protect you from STI/D's
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (23 December 2009):
If you've had them and been to the doc and been given the all clear then oral sex should be fairly safe. But it would be polite to warn your girlfriend about it so she knows what she's getting into.
As for casual sex, "I'm on the pill," means "I may have chlamydia."
ALWAYS ALWAYS use a condom.
No girl who is after a bit of fun is going to stop you from wearing a condom unless she also wants some CSA money off you every month.
Unless you want to be a dad, wear a condom.
If you get a girlfriend then come clean about it early on in the relationship so it's all out in the open.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (23 December 2009):
I think first of all, whatever happens wear a condom. And I think if you want to have sex with someone, you have to be honest with them. They might not be able to take it, but you have to be honest.
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