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writes:Would a 60 year old guy who thinks he's a high roller play games with me just to get his you-know-what sucked if he has a steady girlfriend? (Yeah, I'm stupid - denounce me if you want to get your rocks off that way, but I really just need a shoulder to cry on)He invited me over for sex. He was my one and only f-buddy for awhile (there's no other way to put it) and he was very good at it, so I went. Hadn't seen him in a long time (3 months) and so, I was pretty turned on. Well, things seemed pretty routine...a few beers and I was doing what I love (oral on him) and I asked him to make it taste better. That's when he ran upstairs to get a condom. I looked at him and said, "Do you think I'm a whore?" He said, "Well, I don't know where you've been." What the hell is up with that? By the way, he has had a steady girlfriend throughout our affair which didn't bother me - she doesn't know about what he does with me.He tried to hold me, kiss me and offered to do oral on me. By now, I was so hurt, I sobbed and left. But, before leaving, I told him my last intimate relationship was 3 months ago and it was with him (true). I then told him I'd always cared more for him than he did for me. I asked if he had anything to say. He said,"I have nothing to say." I left.I don't want another f-buddy. It hurts too much. Today he called and said he'd call me later - well, he didn't. Is he playing games? Or, is it as I suspect - he really doesn't care about me. Or, is it possible that he enjoys hurting me (not beyond the realm of this guy - a while ago, one fella took me aside and said, "He really treats his women badly.") Lastly, I sense that he is out pursuing someone new. I'd really like to dump him for good, but he keeps popping up like gas in a bathtub. Help me get out of this endless loop of demoralizing crap - a few days of merciless pursuit from him (for which I am starved) is followed by a week or two of neglect leaving me feeling like hell.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 July 2009): WOW! If I didn't know better I'd think we were with the same damn man!
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reader, happy24birthday  + ♥, writes (6 February 2009):
 Please contact me privately. We have a lot in common, but I don't feel like getting blasted on this website again. You're not alone and my shoulder holds teasrs well.
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reader, Ginalolabridga  + ♥, writes (6 February 2009):
 You said yourself you dont want another F-Buddy! so stay away from him and men that will just use you for this purpose of course it hurts because it is just like with a whore what they do no emotion, no love, nothing just a quick ....!
He also has a g/f and one fella has even said to you he treats his women badly!
Do yourself a favour he is disrespectful of you and his g/f and to be fair you should not be with him at all whilst he is with another two wrongs dont make a right here!
I would forget him let him meet other people if that is all he is after is a quick f... then dont play into his harem!!
You deserve to be with someone who will treat you with more respect you are a person in your own right here and dont allow this one man to put you off older men because most of them are pretty decent men and very respectful of what a lady wants so dump him for good this time and look for someone who will give you all the things you want cause he cant! he is too busy thinking of himself to concentrate on anyone else!
Be good to yourself look for other people to be with take yourself out this scenario you have yourself in because you deserve much better and you can get it you have just got stuck in his clutches time to break free now and be your own person love will find you your not giving it a chance because your stuck in a rut, get out there and meet other people join some clubs for your age group and i am sure you will meet far nicer people to date keep in touch with your friends and go out with them anything to lift your spirits find yourself again and do not ever let him use you ever again take care.
Gina
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