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female
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anonymous
writes:I have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for 3 1/2 years. It has had it's challenges as he has not always been truthful. Whenever I confronted him he would always pin the blame on me. The relationship had escalated to verbal abuse in the past however this has subsided. More recently my boyfriend had decided he is relocating to another country and has excluded me from all his plans. Whenever I asked about his move he would tell me he does not want to talk to me about it and becomes verbally abusive towards me. Over the past few months he has put distance between us and always makes excuses not to see me.When I have confronted him on whether he wants to end the relationship he has a hissy fit and starts shouting and screaming. He does not want to talk about our relationship. What should I do? Reply to this Question |
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reader, happy24birthday  + ♥, writes (10 February 2009):
 Your question is what should you do - let him leave and hope you never see him again. Easy for me to say, I know, but that's the simple answer to your question.
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reader, icelordess + ♥, writes (10 February 2009):
 I'm sure that you see all the red flags being thrown about. There's obviously something going on, and he won't let you in on it. The fact that he's moving to another country and won't even talk to you about it?? I don't think you can get much more distant that that! Sadly, it sure looks like he no longer thinks you are important enough to share things with. Its hard to talk to someone who won't talk to you. Verbal abuse is also only a step away from physical abuse, so I'd be careful with him. I'd say your best bet would be to try one last time to talk to him, and if he refuses, you should end things, because it sounds like that's what he is trying to do, or force you to do anyways.
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