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No replies yet... 7 August 2013: I've been the agony aunt among the people I've known for a while. Those much older than me come to me. What would I know right? Thing is, I've always learned from the mistakes of others and gather What-Not-To-Do from that. Ever heard "A fo...
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He wants lust, I want love.
Q. I'm a 17 year old girl, when I was 16 I met this guy. He was 19. I met him on a social networking site called "tagged" we talked for a bit and really got to know each other, he use to live in the town that I lived in and I use to live in the town ...
A. 6 October 2013: He is plain down using you. He isn't even trying to hide it because he knows he doesn't have to hide it as you'll end up in his bed again eventually. He knows that you're gullible, naive and emotionally attached so he'll get what he wants. You're ... (read in full...)
Did Karma use me for sex because I tried to use her for sex?
Q. Is Karma with merit? I ask this because what I did to another person seems to be happening to me now. I'm bisexual and I was trying to use a nice woman for sex but it never panned out. She found out what I was really about as far as only wanting to ...
A. 30 September 2013: I find you to be abit too quick to point your finger at this guy as you were prepared to do the exact same thing to someone else.
You really shouldn't feel you have the right to label anyone a (and i quote you on this) "grimey low life creep" when... (read in full...)
Why do girls go out with swag kids who wear skinny jeans??
Q. Dear Cupid, too make a long story short, i am currently a senior in high school, and i have alot of pride in myself and high standards for myself, i stick out more then alot of other students at my high school, every guy wheres skinny jeans and ...
A. 25 September 2013: Well, i leave it to what's hot right now. That kind of dress is what's in, although, i must say, i hate the swag type of guys who wear skinny jeans. I'm 17 so i know it's hell finding people who don't dress like that these days. Skinny's on a guy in ... (read in full...)
Why do some people not have stretch marks?
Q. I have a question about stretch marks... How come some people don't have them? i've never seen the women in a porno have them, i know the pics are airbrushed but not the videos. Does anyone here not have them? I have them and it makes me feel li...
A. 25 September 2013: Not only people with kids have them.
I have plenty across my upper thighs and bum. I'm very petite but i have a big bum which is what i've always had but the stretchmarks there have always been a thing for me. I've tried some stuff that didn't work... (read in full...)
Even after a nasty break-up thoughts about my ex are interfering with my new relationship
Q. Hi I am 27 femaleand I have a dilemma... I was in a relationship with Andrew until last June we were together 3 years and had some great times. But... I got into financial difficulties and lost my farm and went through some quite bad depression a...
A. 25 September 2013: This November guy is more like your rebound. You don't feel for him but want to. You shouldn't have started a new relationship knowing you love someone else. My advice: 1. Since Andrew bailed in the tough time you went through, why would you w... (read in full...)
My 14 year old daughter gets attention from older guys
Q. Hi, I have a 14 year old daughter and if you looked at her (the way she dresses her makeup and how she acts) you would think she's at least 16. This doesn't worry me, she's very mature and beautiful and most people can't believe she's just 14. She's ...
A. 13 August 2013: Your child will get attention from older teens of the opposite sex because as you've said she looks beyond her years. She will attract attention. It will continue to happen. WiseOwl, i don't really agree with you. The girl isn't immature jus... (read in full...)
My married ex called me to say he still has feelings for me. I feel the same but what should I do?
Q. I'm 21 years old my whole life I have only had 3 serious relationships. I have a 2 year old with my ex. We broke up march 15th of last year and it was so hard i was devastated i thought i'd never get over it. I always knew that he was the one but ...
A. 13 August 2013: "I feel the same, what should i do?" Nothing is what you should do. The guy is married. Regardless of how he says he feels. Slow down and think abit. You're very young. You haven't really lived yet. You say (and i quote) "i have only had 3 serio... (read in full...)
I can't afford sleepless nights because my flat mate won't get help for his problems!
Q. I have a flatmate (or roommate) who is essentially slowly but surely loosing the plot. I've been living in my flat for around 5 months? I'd been flat hunting for around a month at this time it got offered to me and it seemed cool (piano, record ...
A. 13 August 2013: Your friend needs professional help that you cannot give him. The only solution i see for you is to move out and find elsewhere to stay. Whereas Eric will need to seek help from a professional or have it sought for him which i doubt he'll appreciate ... (read in full...)
How can I make myself happy and blind to the way that I look?
Q. hey, so i have some major problems when it comes to my body i hate every inch of it from my vainy feet , past my chucky cellulite thighs to my dry hair, i have good days were i am happy and can stand to look in the mirror , but then i have bad days...
A. 13 August 2013: I had a friend who felt just like you. She was my best friend at the time. She asked me for my honest opinion on whether she was fat. I told her the honest truth, that she was chubby. She said to me (and this is something i quote her on) "Dionee', ... (read in full...)
Should I have confronted a married man in a restaurant who kept staring at my pretty daughter?
Q. My 19 year old daughter is very pretty. She along with my wife and I went to a popular restaurant for dinner last week. As we were being seated I see this middle aged guy sitting with his wife and kids staring at my daughter, he didn't take his eyes ...
A. 11 August 2013: I think you'd done enough. Causing a scene would have been embarrassing and not to mention unnecessary.
You daughter is growing up and is basically an adult now so ofcourse some guys (married or not) will be looking at her. You will just have to ... (read in full...)
The boyfriend, his ex and their child are going to the movies!
Q. Hey. This site always gives me great advice and I was wondering if you lovely people could give me your opinion. Dating boyfriend 1.5 years. He has a 6 year old daughter with an ex. Bit if history/ Seen as myself and my other half knew ...
A. 11 August 2013: I don't think that there's anything between them. However, you guys have been together for a reasonable amount if time so i'm sure you can notify him of your concern. Take note of what i said, i didn't say accuse him, i said shed some light on your ... (read in full...)
I slept with my boss who has a girlfriend. Now what?
Q. Ive had a major crush on my boss at work for a while. A few weeks back when he was drunk he started texting me and said he would like to take me out one time. I didnt agree as wasnt sure whether dating my boss would be a good move. Anyway last nig...
A. 11 August 2013: You are infact the side chick. I'm not trying to add fuel to a naked flame but you should feel bad. First of all he is your boss. Second, if he really wanted you, like genuinely wanted you then he would have left his gf to be with you. Third ... (read in full...)
While visiting my LDR boyfriend he talked on the phone to a girl friend and left me in a store alone. Do I have a right to be upset?
Q. I am in long distance relationship with my boyfriend.. This time when we were at a store picking things up for the house,he got a call even before we entered the store from a friend who is a girl who happens to be in the same place and she wanted t...
A. 11 August 2013: I don't get what it was that he was buying time for. Anyway i say talk to him and tell him exactly how it made you feel and explain to him that since you guys don't get to spend time together as often as you should, you would appreciate it if... (read in full...)
I'm falling in love with my second cousin but our families are forbidding it!
Q. One day I was on FB and this girl had the same last name as me so I added her. We started talking and found out that we cousins but I didn't want to believe so I ignorant the fact that we was . So I starting talking about my brother and she said she...
A. 11 August 2013: Its quite clear that regardless of what we say you're going to do as you please so go ahead, just know that as llifton has already said, it sure as hell won't sit right with your family. However if you don't mind all the drama dating your cousin ... (read in full...)
I'm falling in love with my second cousin but our families are forbidding it!
Q. One day I was on FB and this girl had the same last name as me so I added her. We started talking and found out that we cousins but I didn't want to believe so I ignorant the fact that we was . So I starting talking about my brother and she said she...
A. 10 August 2013: He's you cousin. Family is off limits. I say let it go as there are plenty boys out there to date besides a cousin... (read in full...)
I overheard someone make a rather unpleasant remark about my appearance and now my confidence is at an all time low!
Q. Hello there. I just need a bit of help guess. The other day I was walking on the train and I walked past this boy with his girlfriend and I heard him make a rather unpleasant remark about my appearance. Now I know I’m not anything special, but I’ve ...
A. 10 August 2013: Don't worry about what that guy said. I can guarantee you that the very person he said it to has days just as bad if not worse. We all have those days as women. That's just how it is. Don't let some idiot guy on a train affect how you feel abo... (read in full...)
I love my brother's best friend but apparently he has "too much respect" for my brother to date me.
Q. I've been in love with my older brothers best friend for quite some time now. He will be a senior and i will be a sophmore. He's been a little flirty lately but not enough to say that he feels the same way I do about him. My brother won't give me a ...
A. 7 August 2013: Well, think of it like this:
he dates you something goes wrong you guys have a terrible break up you hate eachothers guts your brother is nolonger his friend because of your relationship they don't talk anymore STRANGERS.
I'm not saying that ... (read in full...)
Cheated on my boyfriend last night and feel so guilty! Should I tell him?
Q. I went out last night and got really drunk. A guy grabbed me and started kissing me and feeling me up and without thinking I started kissing him back. Then he said he would help to get me home safely but he got out the taxi too and we ended up ...
A. 7 August 2013: You should tell your bf. He seems like a nice enough guy.
keeping your cheating a secret will eat away at you. It will drive you INSANE with guilt and you might end up having your guilt ultimately ruin your relationship.
If you say you love him... (read in full...)
Should I take my best friends virginity?
Q. I was hanging out with a childhood guy that i used to date way back in elementary school yesterday. We have been close friends after the break up long ago and he asked me over for a movie night last night. Which i thought nothing of, but when i got ...
A. 7 August 2013: The friendship will change once you guys have sex. I know neither of you but know that the two of you might not know how to behave or where to look afterwards. If these kinds of situations don't end up well for adults who have a higher level of ... (read in full...)
How do you get over your first love?
Q. How do you get over your first love? My friends tell me i should be over him by now but he was my first everything and it is hard to let go. He still tries talking to me once in awhile and i always have a weakness for him and end up talking to him ...
A. 5 August 2013: Cut contact with him. Being around him won't give you the chance to get over him. The only way to show him that you won't be there waiting is to let go completely. Then and only then can you start getting over him. Sure your fingers will itch to ... (read in full...)
He didn't tell me at first that he had kids even though I specified I didn't want to date someone with kids. Now what?
Q. Well I met my boyfriend online over a month ago. I specifically said I don't want someone with kids. I was seeing him for about 2 weeks when we decided to make it official then he told me he has 2 kids. I let it go because at the time I thought I ...
A. 4 August 2013: @cindycares all I'm trying to say is some people don't share that stuff first off. Maybe it's not such a bad thing that he didn't want to be immediately counted out because of having 2 kids. OP can ultimately do as she feels however, I'm saying that ... (read in full...)
I feel like if my ex and I become FWB he might want to get back together with me like he did in the past
Q. I've been dating this guy for over two years. In that time we had broke up and became friends with benefits for about 3 months after which he asked me back out and we dated for over a year and a half. He recently broke up with me, and would want to ...
A. 4 August 2013: Why would you even want him to want to be with you for the wrong reasons? He is suppose to want to be with YOU not because you are convenient for him. Cumon! You're practically allowing yourself to be used. You sound really desperate when you say ... (read in full...)
I'm talking to my ex, but where do we go from here?
Q. I know this is stupid, but I feel conflicted and need some advice. I broke up with my boyfriend as he was starting fights with me too often over pointless things. It was making me very unhappy. I hindsight, we both had a lot of outside stress in the ...
A. 4 August 2013: Just move on. It might be easier said than done but for your own sake just move on. Don't try to be a close friend and don't bring it up. Moving on is the only rational option you have right now. You guys didn't work out and are clearly ... (read in full...)
I need to get over my insecurities.
Q. Im not sure where to start. I only had one serious girlfriend before my wife. Sure we had sex, but I was only 19, lived with my parents and she lived with hers. Our sexual activities were mostly in the backseat of my truck, with a few nights in a ...
A. 4 August 2013: You should try to forget about it. Whether she did or didn't shouldn't matter at this point, SHE'S YOUR WIFE.
You should accept her regardless as it's the past. She might or might not have done certain stuff before you came along. She had her sex ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend wants me to move in with him but he can't see a marriage or family for another 10 years!
Q. Hi everyone, ok so my problem is probably quite common but I still have no idea what to do so I would really appreciate your advice. Basically, I'm 28 and have been with my boyfriend for almost 4 years. He recently asked me to move in with him...
A. 4 August 2013: I will start off by saying why are you with him if you guys want completely different things?
You ultimately cant get mad with him if not settling down right now isnt in the cards for him right now. Whereas this is something you're thinking... (read in full...)
How do people cope with being plain looking?
Q. Has anyone else ever had this? At 21 I was really good looking, then at 23 I noticed my face changing, not aging like wrinkles just started to look like another family member (one I didn't want to look like) I was still fairly good looking the...
A. 28 July 2013: You have to learn to deal with it sooner or later, i say sooner rather than later. "Plain" doesn't =ugly. Looks only matter to shallow people. Regardless of how you look the right people will love you just the way you are so stop worrying. Accept ... (read in full...)
He didn't tell me at first that he had kids even though I specified I didn't want to date someone with kids. Now what?
Q. Well I met my boyfriend online over a month ago. I specifically said I don't want someone with kids. I was seeing him for about 2 weeks when we decided to make it official then he told me he has 2 kids. I let it go because at the time I thought I ...
A. 27 July 2013: I think alot of you aunts are not spot on and missing the whole point.
First of all, i don't believe that this guy LIED. Lying would have been if he said "i don't have kids" then later said "i have kids" but from what OP wrote however it doesn't ... (read in full...)
He has nothing about us on any of his social media sites, he hinted today on a post then took it down. I quietly took down anything associated with him and now he's upset. Am I wrong? What would you do?
Q. Long story short I have talked to my boyfriend about how uncomfortable it makes me feel that he does not have anything on any social media websites that say he has a girlfriend. No pictures, no statuses, his relationship status on FB is blank. He ...
A. 14 July 2013: If his family and friends know you are his girl then what do the social media sites matter?
Not everyone likes indicating stuff like this on media sites (myself included) because speaking from experience it attracts unwanted attention (jealous... (read in full...)
Boyfriend pushing me away. Please help!!
Q. Hey everyone. My boyfriend and I have been together for 3 years. He's 35 and I'm 31. I'm very much in love with him but over the last several months our relationship has fallen apart. We've been through a lot together and I hate to think that after ...
A. 14 July 2013: If you haven't been loving over the passed few months then why are you so clingy, it doesn't add up.
Do you want to be with him so nobody else can have him or do you genuinely love him?
You are practically begging for attention and yo... (read in full...)
I had everything planned out, then love got in the way
Q. Hi everyone, I need a bit of advice. Basically for the past year I have been dreaming of spending my life (or at least the rest of my 20's) travelling. So I worked hard to create my own online business that I can take around the world with me. ...
A. 14 July 2013: Either travel together, travel first or stay with him and give up traveling.
So what i suggest is you guys travel together. Changes in scenery may aid the development of the relationship.
Don't be angry that love came along. Things often don... (read in full...)
We've been together a week and now he wants to have sex! I don't know what to do!
Q. i have been with my boyfriend for a week now, he is asking me for sex ,we are both 14, i dont know what to do can you help me? x ...
A. 9 July 2013: First of all you are both underage. Second of all you guys haven't been together long. Third of all its clear you aren't ready.
Tell him that you don't want to sleep with him. If he pushes you further then dump him.
I can see that you probabl... (read in full...)
Should I ask my best friend to be my first kiss? How can I do this without sounding odd?
Q. I don't know how to go about this so I'll just ask it straight forward; how can I ask my best friend to be my first kiss without it being weird? Here is some background to help you answer, we are both bi and now out and accept each others sexualli...
A. 7 July 2013: It wouldn't be wise to kiss this close friend of yours.
As you've said, you've had a crush on him for a while. If you kiss him, you will probably develop stronger feelings and as you've said yourself, he doesn't really seem to care that you like... (read in full...)
I'm a teacher, but I'm not HER teacher. Is she still off limits?
Q. This may sound like a typical college teacher-student case, but it's somewhat different, since I'm attracted to this girl who isn't and has never been my student. We met because some months ago she started working as staff so we see every day as our ...
A. 7 July 2013: It almost sounds as though you are trying to justify the way you feel by saying you're a teacher but not her teacher (seriously?). Yes the age gap matters, yes the fact that she is a student matters and YES SHE IS OFF LIMITS. Its just wrong to be... (read in full...)
How do I deal with a woman with a low self esteem who keeps telling me to leave her alone?
Q. I need some help.. 8 days ago this woman pushed me away. Saying I wanna be alone I hv no feelings for you. Something I do not buy based on all her feedback our intimacy dates n her body language. I told her I love her. She says move on im not inte...
A. 7 July 2013: I agree with the other aunts that this woman should be left alone because she sounds like trouble. Whether you carry out what we're telling you or not is entirely up to you (because from what I've picked up it looks like leaving her alone is the... (read in full...)
Do women expect the man to chase, to be sure he is interested?
Q. Is it the male that should do the chasing? e.g. cheeky message if they haven't messaged back, always giving them compliments,and taking the lead basically? The way I have read things is, girls will always have lads after them so they have choice...
A. 6 July 2013: I think many of us prefer the guy to show interest so that we know for sure you know? There are quite a number of us who wouldn't make the first move however, if a guy does then that just makes us feel better than if we had made the first move. ... (read in full...)
Our son is confused about his sexuality. How can we help him?
Q. We live in Stockport, in Greater Manchester, and have a 20 year old son. He told us last night he was confused about himself sexually. Not professionally. He's enjoying his university studies in business systems and marketing - wants to go into PR ...
A. 5 July 2013: Counseling wouldn't be the right way to go i think.
Just be there for your son and support him. Counseling would suggest to him that there is something terribly wrong with him. That would not be the right message to send as a parent. You sound ve... (read in full...)
My beloved uncle has passed away and I don't know how to carry on with life now
Q. My uncle was diagnosed with cancer five weeks ago, and he died two days ago. I have been having nightmares about when I saw him in hospital with the oxygen mask on. I wanted to see him in hospital, but it was very difficult. It was heart breaking ...
A. 5 July 2013: This must be a sad and difficult time for you. BUT Don't focus on what if's because its not healthy. You should be focusing on bettering yourself so that you can make your uncle proud by being the best person ... (read in full...)
Why do people think that women are more emotional in relationships, more clingy, needy and attached after sex?
Q. Why do people think that women are more emotional in relationships, more clingy, needy and attached after sex? Why do women have this stereotype when so often I see men becoming engrossed with their female partners after a sexual relationship has ...
A. 5 July 2013: I believe that not everyone is the same. There are some men who become attached and clingy just like some woman do. Not EVERYONE, but not ALL.
Like I've said that everyone is different. It sure isn't fair how some people make women sound Needy an... (read in full...)
My crush talked to me today and I'm so happy - how do I initiate another conversation?
Q. Hi aunts and uncles Something really great happened to me today! The guy I've had a crush on for months Talked to me! He talked to me because my friend introduced me to him, what he said was not much but I am so happy! He said my name and looked m...
A. 5 July 2013: The first thing to do is start by saying hi. This helps your crush become familiar with you. Even if you don't talk right away but just greet when you see him around it would be a great start because i know how nervous he must make you.
Engag... (read in full...)
Demanding Sister Wants Gift for her Kid
Q. Last year my niece turned three years olf. She had an amazing birthday party with lots of family and gifts. My sister just confessed that she was upset with the fact I did not get her than 3 year old a gift. My niece is turning four soon and my ...
A. 4 July 2013: Buy the kid a gift within your budget.
Its unreasonable for your sister to demand you buy her kid an expensive gift when the child is 4 years old and will probably not want it by the time she is 5 anyway (that's assuming she doesn't misplace... (read in full...)
Will I be judged for my not perfect body in a bikini?
Q. I'm looking for opinions here. What do men think when they see a woman wearing a bikini who is not that skinny, and does not have big boobs? Do you look at her and think "gross", or do you respect her for still having the confidence to we...
A. 4 July 2013: I say go for it! Some people with talk but that's all they can do right? As long as you feel good in your bikini, nothing else should matter. Bikini's are made for all shapes and sizes, why? TO BE WORN BY ALL SHAPES AND SIZES.
Put on that bikini a... (read in full...)
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