How can I turn my straight friend bi?
Q. Im bi and I have a friend who is straight but gives me sum gayish hints of bi-curiousness and i want to turn him bi...or just want to have sex/play around with him im a new friend of his ive known him for about a month and a half now and we hang ...
A. 18 October 2010: He's straight and you have to accept that just like he accepts that you're bi. You can't change him and if you could, would you really want to change him just because that's what you want?... (read in full...)
Doubts about God and his laws regarding my relationships with partners
Q. Hi guys, I need some relationship advise concerned with Christianity. I am a protestant Christian, but i'm having trouble getting a relationship with god. Sometimes i'm afraid that he's not real and i am wasting my time and the whole bible thin...
A. 18 October 2010: I think you may be confusing faith in God with believing everything your denominations preaches sometime. My advise on that one is that you don't have to believe everything a specific faith teaches. Don't let the church tell you what to believe. ... (read in full...)
I'm attracted to other guys but I don't want a relationship with one
Q. So, I'm now 16, and I realize I am attracted to other guys. But, I don't want to have a relationship with one. As for girls, I now am starting to get less turned on by them, and yet, I still do like girls too want a relationship with girls. Am I ...
A. 16 October 2010: I can't be entirely sure if you are gay or bicurious. Only time will tell, but I can tell you this. I am gay and the first couple of years that I knew that I was gay I wasn't interested in any relationship with men either. I wanted a relationship ... (read in full...)
I'm ready for a baby but he's not! What should we do?
Q. Hi i need your help , me and my boyfriend have been together for a long time now and for a couple of months wev been talking about having a kid, my Heart has been set on having a child for years now and im soo certain that im ready for the ...
A. 12 October 2010: If you want to have a child because of what your father said then you want a child for the wrong reasons. Your having a child not out of love, but out of spite. You are not ready for this yet. You really do need to wait.... (read in full...)
I'm ready for a baby but he's not! What should we do?
Q. Hi i need your help , me and my boyfriend have been together for a long time now and for a couple of months wev been talking about having a kid, my Heart has been set on having a child for years now and im soo certain that im ready for the ...
A. 11 October 2010: I think your boyfriend has the right idea on this one. You may think that you're ready, but at your age people are rarely ready to have kids. In a couple of years you will be in college and that is what you will need to focus on then. You really do ... (read in full...)
I told him I love him, but he's making plans he won't commit to, with me.
Q. I'm 19 years old and gay. A little over a year ago I fell in love with one of my best friends. I told him how I felt about him in November and I know he avoided me for a long time. Whenever I would ask if we could get together he would tell me that ...
A. 10 October 2010: The thing that I hate the most about all of this is the person I've become because of it. Before I told him I was sort of happy go lucky, always smiling. I typically looked on the bright side of everything. I saw the good in other people. I was ... (read in full...)
(User's title) Should I tell my best friend I love him?
Q. Ok so this might be a little long so i apologies. I have had feelings for my best guy friend for about 3 years. I found out that he was bi one year ago. I told him that i was bi about 6 months ago but I have been hinting at it since he told me....
A. 10 October 2010: Ok. From what you said about his current relationship it doesn't sound like it's going to last very long. I would wait until that one falls apart and then tell him. I wouldn't tell him immediately afterward. I'd wait a couple of weeks. I just need ... (read in full...)
What can I do to be better in this relationship?
Q. This is probably going to be very long, but I need to explain the whole scenario for you to see where I am coming from. I have been in loving and slightly dramatic relationship with my bf for a year and a half. by dramatic I mean everythi...
A. 3 October 2010: You are not a bad person. He is over reacting to things that he shouldn't be angery about in the first place. You deserve his respect and it sounds like you are getting very little respect to me. You did nothing wrong. I agree with Dorothy Dix in ... (read in full...)
I told him I love him, but he's making plans he won't commit to, with me.
Q. I'm 19 years old and gay. A little over a year ago I fell in love with one of my best friends. I told him how I felt about him in November and I know he avoided me for a long time. Whenever I would ask if we could get together he would tell me that ...
A. 30 September 2010: It just bothers me so much because I thought I knew him better than this before I told him. He was the only person that I trusted for a long time and it turns out that I should have never trusted him. I know that my family will disown me when they ... (read in full...)
I told him I love him, but he's making plans he won't commit to, with me.
Q. I'm 19 years old and gay. A little over a year ago I fell in love with one of my best friends. I told him how I felt about him in November and I know he avoided me for a long time. Whenever I would ask if we could get together he would tell me that ...
A. 30 September 2010: Ok. I think so of you misunderstood my intentions. I know he's not interested in me in that way. I know that he's straight. I'm not chasing after him in that way. All I'm trying to do is be friends with him because I know that's all it could ever ... (read in full...)
I am tempted to cheat on my boyfriend!
Q. First of all this is a gay relationship, I have been with my boyfriend for almost 9 months, and we are living with eachother, I am currently going to college and he is working. I love him with all my heart! We make eachother laugh about anything...
A. 30 September 2010: I think you need to tell your boyfriend how you are feeling and that I really do want to bottom sometimes during sex because you don't feel like your sexually needs are being met. I find that most of the problems people have in relationships stems ... (read in full...)
Obsessed with my best friend - need some help
Q. Hi there, I'm new to the forum so not sure whether this is the right place. Hope so! I'm currently a student and feeling pretty low at the moment. I'm a 19yr guy and bisexual. Even though I feel "safe" behind a computer screen it feels hard to ev...
A. 29 September 2010: Ok. I am a gay man, and I recently went through something similar to what you did. I fell for one of my friends. I ended up telling him and he avoided me for the longest time. As a matter of fact he is still avoiding me, but I think that he avoided ... (read in full...)
Gay teacher in love with a student.
Q. I'm a 27 year old male teacher. I work in a Catholic school. I have been looking for love for quite some time. The problem is that I always end up with the wrong person. The people I choose are either straight, deep into the closet, or simply way ...
A. 28 September 2010: Ok. You need to tell him that you two need to put things on hold until he graduates. You could lose your job. You have crossed a line here. This is not an appropriate relationship between a student and a teacher. Once he graduates then you can start ... (read in full...)
I'm heartbroken! I found naked pics of him and a guy he was texting to on his phone!
Q. My phone got damaged on holiday and my bf gave me his spare phone to use temporarly so I put my card in his phone. Needless to say I was browsing the phone to see if anything from my phone's memory card was saved, and I came across a few mes...
A. 28 September 2010: I think it's best that you confront him and dump him. If he's done this once already he'll do it again. I know you're hurt right now, but by leaving him you'll be saving yourself a world of hurt later. You don't deserve to be treated like this. You ... (read in full...)
I think my boyfriend is gay!
Q. About two months ago I discovered on my boyfriends laptop that he had pictures of himself. I thought this was a bit strange and went on to his email and went through his sent items. I then discovered he was sending pictures of himself to other men ...
A. 26 September 2010: Well did you ask him about the gay dating sites? If not ask him about that. If you have just ask him on of the questions youwish gave. Ask him why he didn't talk to some of his femal friends about his confidence issues.... (read in full...)
How do I make out with him? I'm scared
Q. I guys, I'm a 16 year old male and have just entered my first gay relationship, well "relationship" for that matter. First time I've ever been in one, and I'm excited and scared at the same time. Me and my boyfriend have going out for two weeks and ...
A. 26 September 2010: Well your first kiss is probably going to be awkward. If things are awkward do you really think that he would leave you or something like that. However, I suppose being nervous before your first kiss is only natural. You'll do just fine. I agree ... (read in full...)
Could he have meant it when he said "I love you"?
Q. Ok so I'm with this gorgeous, intelligent, and delicious latino man and everything's been good for eight months. We have 14yrs between us but we get along well (if he doesn't play 80s music and I don't try to show him the loveliness of Il Divo ...
A. 26 September 2010: Well if he's known you for this long it wouldn't be a suprise if he loves you. If he is doing things like calling you little sister "our baby girl" then I would say that he does have feeling for you. Your best bet of finding out would be to just ask ... (read in full...)
Would you be upset with this?
Q. Would you be upset if your boyfriend had a pirture of him and a girl togather even though there just friends and she gave it to him?...
A. 26 September 2010: Just leave it alone. No offense, but asking him to throw it away wasn't the smartest move. I'd just leave it alone. After all, has he really done anything wrong? It would have been a better move if you just said that you felt uncomfortable with him ... (read in full...)
How should I tell my guy best friend I love him?
Q. I'm bi-curios and I'm in love with my guy best friend. We treat each other as brothers. I'm 2 years older that him. The 2 of us get really close to each other, we even wrestle and tickle each other almost all the time. we like holding each others ...
A. 25 September 2010: I would find at time that you two are alone and just sit him down and tell him how you feel about him. That's what I've done with every guy friend that I've been interested in. Granted they all turned out to be straight so far, but they were always ... (read in full...)
Would you be upset with this?
Q. Would you be upset if your boyfriend had a pirture of him and a girl togather even though there just friends and she gave it to him?...
A. 25 September 2010: I wouldn't think anything of it. I wouldn't think of her as a girl. Just think of her as a friend of his and nothing more. ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's ashamed of me!
Q. I am a gay guy and have been going out with my boyfriend for 7 months ago. I am out to friends and family, and my boyfriend isn't. I am really falling for this guy and he has met my friends and family, but I am finding it really hard because he is ...
A. 22 September 2010: Just let him come out in his own time. When someone comes out is an important event and he needs to do that only when he is ready. He obviously isn't ready yet. Just be patient with him and I personaly wouldn't bring it up around him. If he wants to ... (read in full...)
He played me now I work with him!
Q. I'm a gay 19 year old guy, I usually go down to the bar in city for a few drinks (its the only gay bar in the city I live). I got chatting to a bar staff that night and we hit it off instantly. About a month later we were both on a night out and ...
A. 18 September 2010: I know it sucks right now, but it'll all blow over. This guy isn't worth your worries.... (read in full...)
My friend thinks he is gay! how can I help?
Q. My friend (14) is afraid he's gay, when he's just bicurious i am a little and want to help how can i(15)?...
A. 17 September 2010: I wouldn't do anything sexual or anything with him. He's confused right now and he needs to figure a few things out on his own. You can't help him with that. Just show/tell him that you will support him whether he is gay, straight, or bisexual. Be ... (read in full...)
How do I help raise her daughter knowing she isn't my child?
Q. So, my girlfriend and I broke up when she moved away to go to college. While she was there, Her then boyfriend got her pregnant and turned out to be a deadbeat. She came back, and we're together again and engaged. Recently, she decided she didn't ...
A. 17 September 2010: Her daughter will never be yours biologically. You will never be this girls father. However, you don't have to be her father to be her dad. Just be there for her like you would be if you were her father. It doesn't matter if you are the father. It ... (read in full...)
My boyfriends looking at other guys!
Q. Hi, My boyfriend and I have been together for 3 months and we have a pretty good relationship and I love him very much. He does a lot of nice things for me and with me and I do the same for him too. We are in a same sex relationship. ...
A. 16 September 2010: I wouldn't worry about him checking other guys out. That doesn't mean that he isn't loyal to you. They don't mean anything to him, you do. He's just being a typical guy.... (read in full...)
12 year old boy caught "in the act"
Q. hi, im a single father and i have a question is it ok is my 12 year old son jacks off. I caught him in"the act" yesterday.i need help please help me....
A. 16 September 2010: He didn't do anything wrong. Like what several people said before it's perfectly normal. I'd wait a couple of weeks to have "the talk" with him so it might be less embarassing for him if he doesn't think that you are having the talk because you ... (read in full...)
Is it possible to combine being gay with being a catholic?
Q. I've been raised in a catholic family and have always believed in god, but lately I have become more agnostic. I'm gay and feel like a bit of an outcast in the church. I'm not out, and don't think my family will accept it. As far I know, bein...
A. 15 September 2010: I just wanted to start by telling you that I am also catholic and gay. It is true that the catholic church thinks that gays are going to hell. However, do you honestly think that a god that is so good and compasionate would be so petty. God doesn't ... (read in full...)
Best friends... with no strings attached!!!
Q. Hi Everyone I am hoping some of you out there can answer this for me. Can you be best friends with someone and also have a sexual relationship with them but neither of you are in love with each other and no comittments. Neither of us have any...
A. 14 September 2010: I don't think that this is a very good idea. I didn't develop feelings for a friend until I intentionally started to think of him in a sexual way and that just ruined the relationship. If you do this there is a good chance that feelings with begin ... (read in full...)
Does he actually like me or he is just doing this to be funny?
Q. grrrr ok... well its my last year with "tom" been best friends for a very long time now and there has always been atraction and flirting from me and him. we sit together in quite corners and not buisy places in the school, i reaaallly like him and ...
A. 14 September 2010: I think he likes you, but he doesn't want to risk your friendship. Ask him why he does these things and don't accept "I don't know" for an answer.... (read in full...)
I'm in a gay relationship but I would love to see what it feels like having sex with a woman.
Q. I'll start from the top then. (This needs some explaining) I'm a 26 year old guy and I've been in a stable, loving relationship with another guy for 8 years now. We live together and we've been in a Civil Partnership for three years. We enj...
A. 14 September 2010: I think that you are just bicurious right now. I wouldn't tell your partner about this. You have what sounds like a wonderful relationship with this man and telling him might risk that relationship in some ways. Even if this desire doesn't pass, why ... (read in full...)
His ex wants him back and he is confused!
Q. I started talking with a guy that I met online in May of this year. Things progressed. We met, were very attracted to one another, but live about an hour away from each other. Things continued to progress. He was very romantic and is a writer. ...
A. 13 September 2010: He has no idea what to do himself. All you can do is wait and see what his decision is. I know it suck, but I don't think that there is really anything that you can do. It's all in his hands.... (read in full...)
The sex is great but that's not all I want
Q. hi again i have a question about bondage sex the thing is my boyfriend loves to tie me up and stuff and i love it as well but sometimes i am scared that this is what he wants from me and nothing else hes loveing kind and since moveing out here as ...
A. 12 September 2010: If he doesn't trust you there is no way that this will last. He doesn't treat you all that well. I think it would be best to end this relationship. If he's already cheated on you I wouldn't put it past him to do it again.... (read in full...)
Fell for straight friend who said "hell no"..how do I keep his friendship?
Q. i am 25 and in the closet. i have fallen for a straight guy who had become a good friend. i told him that i wanted to mess around. his answer was hell no. he has agreed to sit down and talk this out. what do i say to him so as not to lose him as a ...
A. 12 September 2010: Tell him that yes you are interested, but you are content with jsut being friends and that you won't persue this any further.... (read in full...)
We hung out but think he got freaked out when he found out I was gay, now he has a girlfriend?
Q. i'm gay. i'm in uni first yr. i have very few friends. but then i met this guy who was a really gud friend. and i had a crush on him. we hanged out a couple of time. but i think i ruined everything now. i didnt tell him i was gay before but since he ...
A. 11 September 2010: Next time you talk to him just tell him that you understand that he's not gay and that you won't persue anything with him. Tell him that you are perfectly content with just being friends. It really work with one of my friends that I liked. But here ... (read in full...)
I told a guy I'm interested in that I like him, but he never responded! What do I do?
Q. Im a sophmore in high school. Alright, I'll just get to the point. I Like this boy very very very very much. He definetely is attracted to me because of the way he acts around me. i sent him a message (like a retard) telling him i liked him. he ...
A. 11 September 2010: Just take him aside and talk to him about it when there isn't anyone else around if that is possible. If you send something like that in a message people aren't sure what to say and they can't tell how sincere you are.... (read in full...)
Why did it take so long to figure out my sexuality?
Q. I often wondered why my m/f love life was not working. Then I had an affair with another man and gave my self completely to him, it was wonderful. My only question is why it took so long? Could I have known any sooner or what might have been a tip ...
A. 11 September 2010: Well judging by your age if you had been gay as a child you would have be tormented. You might have just been in a state of denial without even knowing it.... (read in full...)
I might be gay but I'm scared to tell my family! What do I do?
Q. I think i might be gay but im terrified about what my family mainly my mother would say because she has guessed it but I told her i wasent because she gets a look of disappointment and disgust until I assure her im not. Whats nearly as bad is that ...
A. 11 September 2010: Well I'd say you need to wait until you know for sure and after that you need to wait until you feel like you are ready to tell people. As for your friend, just continue to be friends with them and just see what happens. Each situation is different.... (read in full...)
I might be gay but I'm scared to tell my family! What do I do?
Q. I think i might be gay but im terrified about what my family mainly my mother would say because she has guessed it but I told her i wasent because she gets a look of disappointment and disgust until I assure her im not. Whats nearly as bad is that ...
A. 11 September 2010: Well I'd say you need to wait until you know for sure and after that you need to wait until you feel like you are ready to tell people. As for your friend, just continue to be friends with them and just see what happens. Each situation is different.... (read in full...)
How do I come across as being more gay?
Q. Ok this is going to sound weird. I'm gay. Unfortunately I just learned that i don't come across as such at all. One kid had to finally ask me. So my question is, how do I come across "gayer" I know it sounds insane, but I'd rather not hide i...
A. 7 September 2010: You shouldn't have to act gay. Just be yourself. I'm gay and most people who know me wouldn't guess it usless I told them. But don't equate continuing to act the way you do now with being ashamed of being gay. If someone asks you if you're gay I ... (read in full...)
Is he playing me? should I trust my gut feeling and avoid him?
Q. Sorry for the long post, I am trying to figure out my friend. I am 29 and my male friend is 23. I had a secret crush on him. We were best friends for a long long time. He became friends with another guy and he started treating me badly. I have gu...
A. 7 September 2010: I think he might like you if he is gay. If he does, don't avoid him. You have no idea how much it hurts when someone won't come anywhere near you because you like them or love them. If he gets angry when you bring up gay topics then don't try to ... (read in full...)
This all just seems too good to be true!
Q. Hey, My question might not be too clear because, truly, i'm really worried and I just want advice on what to do next. So, I'm a guy, i'm fourteen and I just started year 10 today. For a few years now I have known that i'm gay but I am still in the c...
A. 4 September 2010: If you really do like him then go for it. At straight guy wouldn't kiss you to find out if you were gay. It just makes no sense. He sounds like a really sweet guy. When he said that you have nice shoes he was just trying to start a conversation with ... (read in full...)
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